swimwear obsession purchasing

[SwimTeamSpeedo]

I wonder how many guys purchase brief style (or less) swimwear for the purpose of getting to orgasm in them versus buying the suits because they like the look, the fit and the way it makes them feel (not just from a sexual perspective). I don't think it is a subtle difference. I personally have never really thought of my suits for the sole purpose of stimulating myself as as alternative to a relationship. However, I enjoy the feeling of being stimulated while in a brief cut suit, especially under the right circumstances. As to purchasing, I like the way the suits look on me, I like how they accent my body, and how awesome they feel on when swimming or lounging. Having said that, an inanimate object can not substitute for the best aspects of human interaction, which I think is well beyond the acts of sexual nature. No judgment on Sebbie's comment, it is just interesting to see and learn what motivates each of us in this area.

[sebbie]

Wow...you raise issues..a lot of them...just a "brief reply for now"

The first issue is "Do guys have stronger and more powerful orgasms in partner sex or in solo sex?" A. There is a body of research on this and B. The research is divided with many guy saying they have stronger and more satisfying orgasms in solo than in partner sex, but overall, the sexual experience is "more satisfying" than in solo sex whatever that means.

The second issue is "Should we somehow feel sorry for guys who for whatever reason never engage in or do not currently engage in partner sex?" The stereotype of the adult masturbator is of a child who never totally grew up psychologically to engage in "real" sex or a person who avoids social contacts in any form..the adult version of the nerdy loner who never grew up, sexually.

Interestingly, society accepts the notion of a female spinster who occasionally pleasures herself "down there" much more readily than the image of the adult man who engages in "self-abuse" rather than in partner sex. Further, it's generally accepted that single men will be having multiple sexual partners and that they will be tomcatting around, whereas this stereotype is not nearly so often applied to women.

Bottom line is that there are many men who by choice or by chance do not engage in partner sex. Somehow, divorced guys tend to like to hang out with me and ask for advice. Some of them seem to believe that they have lost their partners, the days of having a powerful, fun orgasm are over. Nothing is further from the truth, and maybe the spinsters could teach the single men a thing or two about enjoying and being at ease with their own bodies.

As to whether a Speedo is an inanimate object for the purpose of having sex, would you say the same thing about a guy getting turned on by his girl friend wearing sexy lingeree? I come from the "whatever floats your boat" school on this topic, and if you find something sexy that I would not find sexy at all, that doesn't make you right and me wrong, or vice versa. So long as its harmless to you or others, you enjoy it, and it works for your psyche, I say "go for it!"

I am getting my thoughts together on all of this as a prelude to write a book based on some of the ideas already posted on my web site Sebringsi.com, and one ofthe topics I intend to want to spend a significant part of thel book for is the subject of sex for guys who for whatever reason are not in an intimate realtionship with another person. You can see what I have already said about this topic there. Being single with no intimate relationship is not the end of the world...indeed this can be a great place to be. Many of these people may be having a more fun sexual adventure than the the ones in intimate relationships.

It's all good..

Sebbie

[SwimTeamSpeedo]

Originally Posted by sebbie

As to whether a Speedo is an inanimate object for the purpose of having sex, would you say the same thing about a guy getting turned on by his girl friend wearing sexy lingeree?

I think you misunderstood my point. I am not questioning the sex part. However, my point was that there are far more aspects to a good relationship than sex, attributes that can not come from an object like a swimsuit. In fact, the best of most relationships has nothing to do with sex, in my opinion. To be sure, lots of guys find certain things very arousing, such as lingerie, or whatever. Agree that if it "floats the boat" and is harmless to others, no problem.

I am not judging. I find the topic of what turns each of us on to be really interesting. We are each unique.

[PSDave]

I have a huge collection I have purchased over the years. I used to have a job that I traveled the world and I would always bring home some sort of swimsuit or bikini underwear as a souvenir. Unfortunately I was thinner then so many are too small or the elastic has dried up, but instead of a photo album, I have my own collection of memories of travel. With all the websites to purchase suits now I have a tough time keeping control. I have found that no matter what the suit, sooner or later you can find it on sale or a lower price if you have the time and patience to search it out.

[singletlover]

PSDave, I too have a very large collection of underwear and swimwear. Time has taken its tool on my waist size. Something that needs addressing, but not now. Very true my "good old" items are starting to fail me. Elastic giving up, and the lycra deterioration, I cannot stop.

My partner, knowing my love of a things Speedo type wear, has brought me many an item from his travels around the world.

BTW is th PS for Palm Springs?

[Byron]

Good question - PostScript does not somehow seem applicable.
great misspelling of toll there !

This thread sure is moving from Louis and NJH talking about a "must have"
obsession.

I don't understand all of Sebbie and have to ask whether the persons Chris and Kim are some sort of US celebrities in a divorce dispute ?

I go along with STS's simple post (#8)

[sebbie]

Goodness...the world's most famous (and expensive wedding for a) 72-day marriage. reality TV star Kim Kardashian and NBA basketball star Kris Humphries Google those names and you will quickly get TMI.

[Byron]

Thanks Sebbie but is this guy Chris or Kris ?

As the word "star" appears twice I think this is a case of the
usual mistaken US belief that they shine all over the world
(they don't but I understand now that he gives sparkling
performances in basketball).

[PSDave]

Originally Posted by singletlover

PSDave, I too have a very large collection of underwear and swimwear. Time has taken its tool on my waist size. Something that needs addressing, but not now. Very true my "good old" items are starting to fail me. Elastic giving up, and the lycra deterioration, I cannot stop.

My partner, knowing my love of a things Speedo type wear, has brought me many an item from his travels around the world.

BTW is th PS for Palm Springs?

It is like losing an old friend when the elastic gives out or the fabric breaks down. I recently had to toss out some too far gone to keep. Ordering on the internet is ok, but nothing like walking into a store that is filled with wonderful suits or underwear and being able to try on or even feel the fabrics. Kind of like a candy store for adult speedo guys!
Yes -- PS is Palm Springs.

[sebbie]

Just goes to show you, the wedding of Kim and Kris and the quick divorce that followed was a HUGE media event in the US. but the rest of the world paid almost no attention!