Thoughts on just being a guy

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Happy Birthday, Sebbie!
I’ve been reading your essays for years and continue to look forward to your next.

[Fairfax]

Reading your thoughts Sebbie made me realise why I first became interested in briefs.
I first new I liked wearing nothing but my underpants as a seven year old long before any sexual connection and when I got my first pair of proper lycra swim briefs at age 8 I was hooked.
I always thought it was the super hero feel or the comfort that got my attention but you made me realise it was the mildly pleasant feeling of presure on the crotch.
As soon as I hit puberty I discovered it was sexual in origin and the pleasure was instensified if I had an erection as well.
My swim briefs soon became an arousal aid and I found myself with a swimwear fetish.
What I found frustrating was the way you seem to think all males are the same yet it was obvious to me from about age 14 that most other guys weren't getting the pleasure I did.
I think only some guys are sensitive there and even most of them don't have the interest to explore it further.
Thanks again for your thoughts and opinions they did fill in some blanks for me.

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Originally Posted by Fairfax

What I found frustrating was the way you seem to think all males are the same yet it was obvious to me from about age 14 that most other guys weren't getting the pleasure I did.
I think only some guys are sensitive there and even most of them don't have the interest to explore it further.

I’ve thought a lot about that too, but put a different interpretation on that seeming lack of interest. All guys have the same plumbing and electrical systems, so the same stimulus should affect them the same. But I think learned social inhibition short-circuits their response.

In my school, jockstraps were required starting in 7th grade. I well remember the embarrassment suffered by boys who popped an erection while putting on or taking off theirs in the locker room, complete with jokes and harassment from everyone else. That quickly taught us to rechannel the nerve signals received about how our genitals felt in that confined pouch.

Similarly, Speedos, especially the old-style nylon ones, accurately reveal the state of tumescence of the wearer, so avoiding boners in public is a good idea. Sadly for the sport of swimming, many guys do that by avoiding Speedos entirely, instead turning wearing one into a joke. I’ve always liked the challenge of walking the length of the beach without the cool feeling I got wearing a Speedo becoming obvious to casual observers.

Rather than avoid the stimulation he gets from tight clothes, Sebbie simply acknowledges and celebrates it.

[sebbie]

I like a tight fit—a really really tight fit

A key part of the process of growing into an adult male is learning how to deal with sexual sensations of various sorts. Sexual pleasure is this complicated mixture of the physical and the psychological. A guy learns some of the details by himself but also by picking up on what his male peers are doing either by simply observing or by what other males may say about all of this.

It turns out that some males have no difficulty boasting about their conquests with sexual partners. For straight guys this is commonplace. There may be some parallels for gay guys too. But the topic that is usually kept secret relates to solo sex aka masturbation aka self-pleasuring.

The secrecy involves the idea that if males were open with their male peers about what they like to do on their own for pure pleasure, their peers would think the less of them as in this guy is so unappealing, he cannot find a date. Somehow this has evolved into the (wrong!) idea that guys whop masturbate on a regular basis must be gay and admitting that you are hooked on self-pleasuring means that you are also gay.

Still, I have enjoyed myself this way for probably 65 of my 75 years and my enthusiasm for the activity has not abated in the least. But I am also very curious about the whole subject of whether or not I have tried everything interesting and fun in this department, or whether there are still interesting things to do in that department that I have not tried.

One of the fascinating things about this blog is that a lot of guys here openly admit that they find that self-abuse in a swim brief is a really fun thing to do with essentially no down-side (unless a peer or friend/relative/parent accidentally discovers you in a Speedo bearing a full erection (or worse). That is good to know for sure, and it is nice to have this information even at this late date in my life. The worst part about this cleaning up the mess you may have created undetected.

The Internet is a great source of information that provides detailed video on self-pleasuring inaccessible not that many years ago, and there appears to be no shortage of guys enthusiastic about making the videos so long as faces and identities are not revealed. However, in a popular site like pornhub there is what they call a straight section and a gay section and somehow all the male self-pleasuring videos arbitrarily end up in the gay section as if gay guys approve of self-pleasuring but this is not something a straight guy would ever want to do.

A really fun thing to do in a swim brief is to get in a horny “mood” and then pull on the swim brief, making certain that you are just firm enough so that the only semi comfortable way for your penis to be is pointed upward, with the slick cloth of the brief pressing tightly against the ultrasensitive underside of your penis. This is male self-pleasuring nirvana for sure and every male needs a brief (or two, or three..) just to be able to do this on a regular basis.

This is what I call the classic “Christopher Atkins” method of self-pleasuring, made famous in a Dallas Episode where Atkins (as Peter Richards LOL) appears in a standard but very snug fitting Sapphire blue Speedo but with the underside of his penis pressing firmly against the brief material. A mere touch of the brief where this is going on would send him into Speedo brief self-pleasuring nirvana. This all occurs in season 7 episode 4 of the nighttime soap opera “Dallas” now streaming free. And photos of Atkins of this exact situation are also on the Internet.

A lot of readers of this blog are very fond of wearing as skimpy and low-cut swim brief as possible, briefs consisting maybe of a small pouch, string sides and a thong back. In self-pleasuring, to each his own, but this style of brief makes it impossible to engage in the kind of thing Christopher Atkins was up to—as in putting direct slick pressure on the entire underside of the semi-erect and growing penis that I also find so intensely enjoyable.

Go to the video sites such as pornhub, and there are any number of short videos showing a guy masturbating to ejaculation inside a snug-fitting (but not too tiny) swim brief. If you are looking to learn techniques used by other guys this is the place to be. Some guys use their hands—other guys, interestingly, not, and the simple pressure of the tight brief on the underside of the penis is enough for an actual “hands free ejaculation" in only a few minutes.

There are also wrestling singlet masturbation videos. A wrestling singlet is much larger than a swim brief but is made of a similar slick stretchy material. Again, some guys do a hands-on masturbation to ejaculation, with drops of precum creating small spots here and there at various places on the front of the singlet until ejaculation (cumming) occurs and the singlet has lots of “cream” on the front. Other guys do a hands-free version of getting entirely hard with only the pressure from the slick cloth and end up ejaculating anyway.

The fact that getting into and out of a singlet that is just a touch undersized can prove difficult adds to the pleasure, in part because the guy soon feels that he is in a situation where the urge to get harder and then ejaculate is governed in part by a situation that he does not fully control, just being driven in part by being stuck or constrained inside the singlet. For those that have never tried this using a singlet I would argue that this is a not-to-be-missed technique.

Finally, it is time to mention the wonders of the so-called magic wand vibrator with the head capable of multiple speeds and patterns. Let's say you are feeling horny and have your somewhat erect penis pressing hard against the cloth of the brief or singlet. Psychologically too you are already feeling quite good. But the trick is to power up the magic wand, find one of those great stop-start wand vibrator patterns that are so much fun, and then merely touch the vibrator repeatedly to a spot on the underside of your spandex cloth covered penis.

This scheme works so well that you can easily be ejaculating not instantly but maybe in 30 seconds or less. The trick of course is to develop a technique with the vibrator such that you don’t immediately feel those wonderful ejaculatory contractions. This means taking away the vibrating head almost but not quite there and use this as an edging method to build the sexual tension over and over. A penis with its underside pressing firmly against a Spandex-laced material and a magic wand vibrator in the self-pleasuring world is a match made in heaven, and I would be hard pressed to claim that there is anything in the partner sex world that quite matches it for overall sexual pleasure.

The methods I have discussed here take male self-pleasuring to an all-new level, are completely safe, do not result in the transmission of an STD nor a pregnancy, and can be pursued by any male who is in a situation where there is privacy.

[sebbie]

Thong underwear and the sapphire blue Speedo® Part 1

I think I got my first pair of thong underwear in early 1989. Three pairs came in a box each in a different color. The brand name was Hom®. As I recall, thong underwear designed for men had become increasingly popular in western Europe, and maybe in parts of Asia as well, but the design was considered too radical to be salable to the more conservative American males, who at the time were all still wearing cotton briefs or boxers.

From the moment I saw the thongs, I knew I had to have them. I liked to masturbate a lot, but my preferred technique was with the aid of a nylon and then poly/spandex blend swim brief, or by wearing finding the most undersized pair of tighty whiteys and then crawling into the most snug-fitting jeans in my closet. I did a lot of this starting with when I entered adulthood and was out on my own. Maybe too much, I thought, but then there never seemed to be any ill effects and I always enjoyed myself tremendously.

Still, from the moment I made my thong purchase, I knew the thongs were going to be something special. I was not aware of the fact that I was entering a phase that would be like a male master course in male self-pleasuring.

The Hom® thongs were built on what I call the European design—stretchy, poly/spandex-laced fabric, minimal pouch size made from this fabric, skimpy sides. And then there was the back—the wonderful back that consisted of simply an elastic cord only about 3/16 inch in diameter. This cord was so skimpy and stretchy that the only possible way it could fit was positioned not over the butt crack, but deep between the glutes from the top of my butt crack to just behind the male scrotum.

The thin elastic cord had to be connected to the front pouch and the two parts were sewn together, making a lump at the lower end of the pouch just behind the scrotum.

The first problem I faced after removing a thong from the box is what goes where and how to I get into something so stretchy and skimpy? Obviously my penis is supposed to fit inside the pouch. But the ease by which I could do that would be more difficult if I was anything other than fully flaccid, and merely ATTEMPTING to get my penis inside the pouch was making me grow and get hard. The dilemma was that the more I struggled the more difficult it was becoming to get my penis entirely into the pouch.

The other “problem” is what to do with my balls. After struggling and finally after some effort getting my penis inside the pouch, I though that my balls were supposed to be inside not outside the pouch too. Flaccid this could be possible...but already being somewhat erect and hard this would be a real struggle. Somehow I managed but by then I was oozing drops of precum on the brand-new thong pouch. But if I left my balls outside the cord of the back would act like a ball splitter, and I figured that was not the way the thong was intended to be worn at all. Penis and balls belonged inside the little stretchy pouch, together.

The really interesting part was that with both the penis and balls inside the pouch then that little knot that ties the rear cord to the pouch ends up just behind the scrotum. In 1989 I knew nothing about that male sexual hit spot of nerve endings located exactly where the thong knot is positioned, but somehow, I knew I had discovered a hot spot that was making me feel really horny—frankly, the sensation from that spot was blowing me away.

So, what I learned in those early days of attempting to wear the Hom thong that just putting one on was arousing fun. But once in place I should get used to the feel of the cord between my butt cheeks with every step I took. And further, each step stimulated the perineum area by tugging on the cord putting upward pressure on the perineum and tugging on the pouch, a pouch that contained my penis and balls and a situation where I seemed to be getting still harder and oozing precum in those wonderful small, glistening droplets. This stimulation was getting tougher to deal with but more fun minute-by-minute. I could tug at the cord back as well which not only would put neat upward pressure on the perineum as the cord shortened, but also provide more stimulation to my penis inside the snug pouch.

Still, perhaps the most wonderful part of all is the “conflict” that occurs should I (inadvertently LOL) get bugger and harder while in the pouch. The cord back “wants” to pull my penis and balls downward and this happens over and over as I walk and take each step. The sensations tend to make me harder and still more horny. But the pouch is tugging in the opposite direction upward and forward, tugging on the cord in the opposite direction, and as I get bigger and harder the cord shortens putting more upward pressure on my perineum. It goes without saying that this “conflict” is fabulous erotic pleasure.


Continues in subsequent post

[sebbie]

Thong underwear and a sapphire blue Speedo® Part2

Read previous post first!

Sadly, most of the male thongs sold nowadays have bigger pouches and bands at least a half inch wide designed to cover the length of the butt crack (for modesty?). As swim thongs became popular on at least some beaches, the unwritten rule was that it was OK to show butt cheeks uncovered, but an uncovered butt crack is nudity—illegal on many beaches. Unfortunately, most men’s thong underwear nowadays follows the swim thong design with the half-inch wide back designed to fit over the butt crack but not within, and for sheer erotic pleasure the design is not nearly as much fun or arousing.

In my collection I still have a few of the old school thongs with the backs consisting of either a 3/16-inch diameter cord or an elastic band of the same width. I used to wear these thongs as my only undergarment under my snug-fitting jeans and kick back and simply enjoy my body as I walked.

Recently I got to thinking what would it feel like to use one of these thongs as an under liner to a traditional sapphire “Christopher Atkins” style Speedo®? So I find one of my old-school thongs and get myself into it, then immediately pull a classic blue Speedo® on over it. Everything in position. The thong puts my penis forward and upward inside the speedo, but my penis and balls are locked in one position, and I am oozing precum. I crawl into bed, feeling great, but quickly fall asleep.

About 3 AM I wake up and somehow I want to do some checking to see if I am still aroused. Yup! Except that, oddly enough, I feel even closer to an uncontrollable desire to have a full orgasm. This REALLY feels great! Just passing my fingers over the spot where my penis is feels wonderful, and with each pass I come closer and closer to entering the erotic phase with strong, repetitive muscular contractions.

Suddenly this same guy you know who claims that he is able to edge himself for as long as he likes is going into a full-scale orgasm. WOW WOW WOW has this been fun. What made the orgasm so much fun in part was all the edging stimulation from the thong that led up to this situation. I went to bed and fell asleep with a happy smile wearing the snuggest thong and a classic blue swim brief.

Some five hours later I awaken, still feeling really great down there and end this all with the muscular contractions of what turned out to be one of the best full orgasms that I have had in a decade.

Just being a guy is marvelous...do NOT pass up on the opportunities to enjoy being who you are!

Sebbie

[sebbie]

Warmer Weather is here!

After what to me was like an excruciatingly long period for cold temperatures, the thermometer got up to 85 degrees F yesterday, and I got to thinking about how much fun it would be to sleep overnight in a swim brief. The house had gotten to 73 degrees too, so it was more than time to switch over to my summer sleepwear which is only a snug-fitting swim brief. The really interesting part about this is that while a swim brief feels really snug and slick, invariably I just drift off to sleep. Then, like clockwork, I wake up at 3 AM feeling horny as all get out and also invariably my hands and fingers find their way down to the spots that are making me feel horny and I start enjoying myself some more. The only risk here is that I am liking this so much that I will soon end up in full-orgasm mode when I really just want to edge and then fall back asleep, still horny as all get out. It was all I could do to keep from going into an orgasm but somehow, I managed. My male body parts are really enjoying the warmer weather for sure.

If you are new to the idea of wearing only a swim brief as sleepwear, I strongly recommend this. I do not know if your experience will be similar to mine but you can easily find out. The brief need not bee cut too skimpy. For this activity I find a brief with 2 or even 3-inch sides works fine. The whole idea is for the brief to fit snug enough and be made of thick enough but still slick-feeling material to put a steady and firm pressure on everything in your groin area.

[Speedo right now has a “One” Brief that buyers are complaining fits on the small side and you should up-size one or maybe two sizes. But as sleepwear, ordering your normal waist size would probably provide the perfect fit. You want your sleepwear brief to fit tight and snug and give you the psychological feeling that something very important is in a slick but very confined space. but not to the point the tension is so extreme that you have difficulty falling asleep! Finding this exact place takes some research but the research is fun.]

So, this morning I get up, still feeling quite horny from my 3 AM edging session, and I want to continue those sweet sensations all day long! It's been a while since I have felt this good—somehow my sexual activity goes into hibernation in cold weather when the days are short. Invariably, my thoughts turn to going with a thong rather than tighty whitey briefs for the day. You know, a thong where the pouch pushes my penis up and forward even as the back cuts between and then cinches up between my glutes. The back provides a great sensation as whenever I bend forward it cinches up tighter even as my penis is pulling the pouch forward. This competition between the two competing forces is endlessly fascinating and the typical bodily response is to drip.

Of course, I am not going to wander around during the day wearing only an underwear thong. A strap and cup is called for—my favorite old-school jock strap like they wore in the 70s, with a cup just barely big enough to press down on and contain my flaccid penis, a penis that knows the cup is limiting the space for expansion. My little Duke strap and cup is perfect—Wal Mart used to sell these. So, the straps on the strap are crossing my glutes even as the thong back cuts between them, and the cup is “firmly” in position.

But that is not quite enough pressure in my effort to “climb the walls” so to speak. Besides, I am still nearly naked. The solution of course is to put a pair of my favorite Tesla running tights over everything, a new pair I have worn only a few times. I like these because if sized right, they fit like a second skin over my entire lower body, putting more pressure on the cup and adding to the fun. My SM ones are the perfect size for me, 5’10, and 150 lbs.

Still not enough cup pressure? Why not pull a pair of Starter brand knee-length compression shorts over the running tights? That is going to make the pressure on the cup and the stuff underneath even more extreme, and just thinking about this I keep getting hornier and hornier. My penis is now in a place where I could not directly play with myself even if I wanted to. But never mind that, I feel really great down there, and I am happily enjoying myself anyway. Very Happy!

Can I make it through my usual rowing and cycling workout this way? I will see! I will see!

Update 11:30 AM local time. I got through my usual rowing and biking workout...takes about 75 minutes. I really enjoyed myself, especially how the thong back cinched up between my glutes with every stroke of the rower. The constant pressure of the cup bearing down on my penis felt great too and stimulated me to row harder and harder. I'm still feeling way horny, and I am thinking about things to do the rest of the day. The day is young yet. This all started with the stimulation from my night sleeping in the swim brief. The sensations are overwhelming!