What to wear?

[sebbie]

A recent news article reported that young people are on average waiting longer to form relationships that involve living together with a partner, presumably a partner that involves partner sex regardless of gender or whether or not marriage has taken place. The article noted that young adults often are just too busy with schooling and early careers to have the necessary time to get deeply involved with a partner as a partner relationship involves dealing with issues that take a lot of time and energy, emotional and physical.

What makes this all so interesting is that everyone knows that just because a young person is very busy starting out in life as a young adult (like Shawn and Randall, for example) that does not mean that the flow of sexual hormones (testosterone for both males and females, interestingly) suddenly comes to a halt. All of this still happens, and somehow must be dealt with.

In the case of Shawn and Randall, two young adult males, this means that off and on at least, they are both going to feel horny and start thinking about getting off. Both guys think of themselves as ordinary straight males who have a lot of things going on as young adults and are certainly not ready to form a successful bond with a female partner at this stage in either of their lives.

Still, something has to give. Probably most guys their age somehow manage to ejaculate no less frequently than two or three days, if that. How this happens for each of them is the interesting part. Consider for a moment that this predicament that Shawn and Randall both face at this point in their lives is going on in countless male freshman dorm rooms practically everywhere and each guy finds a unique personal way to solve the problem which is kept secret, or maybe not so secret at least in the case of Shawn and Randall.

This is not something guys would normally engage in talking about with other guys their age at all, and dormitories are not any different in that regard. The old “rule” learned at age 11 or 12 was that there was nothing inherently “wrong” with masturbating and that a guy would not injure himself in any way by doing it, but you must do it in private and never reveal what you are up to with anyone including your best friends male or female, and further, if word ever got out you would be teased or bullied by guys that you once thought of as even close friends who might claim you were gay. Then if females your age found out they would believe you to be weird or gay too.

These unwritten but well-known rules about solo sex still apply pretty much the same way all through high school and as students enter their freshman year of college living in a college dorm double there may be even less privacy than a guy had when he was living at home.

Still, as young adults, maybe these old rules about keeping secret anything that involves masturbation are not as rigid as they once were. It depends on the roommate I guess. If the roommate is one of these “raging heterosexuals” who has sex with a female 2 or 3 times a week, at least the dating hours will provide the other guy some privacy to, you know, jerk off.

But neither Randall nor Shawn is a raging heterosexual like the one I described. Neither of them has a steady girlfriend, and even casual dating takes time and energy away from studies.

So something really interesting has happened to these two young men. Randall has SHARED some of his “best” masturbation techniques with Shawn. Shawn has not only been learning, but he is now having fun as well. What is going on is, at least for now, a “secret” between Randall and Shawn and it may never be known by anyone else.

And boy are the two of them enjoying themselves right now. Shawn now is beginning to understand why Randall always keeps stocked with pairs of tighty whiteys, and the slick-feeling strap pulled over the top of them feels really, really good. Shawn is getting hard, and he knows it. So is Randall.

Shawn glances at himself in the dorm room mirror and he likes what he sees. The strap is starting to bulge outward in a most interesting way.

But then Randall says to Shawn. “This is only part of it. You know we bought that compression gear. The whole idea is to pull on your compression tee over your chest, and then put the compression shorts on over your tighty whiteys and your strap.”

Shawn and Randall dig out the compression shirts they both bought, Shawn's a short-sleeved in Navy blue, and Randall’s long-sleeved in silvery gray. These both involve a bit of struggle to get into, and the struggle momentarily distracts them from the sensations each of them had been feeling in the groin area. Once in, they both take another look at their bodies in the dorm room mirror. Shawn has never seen himself clad like this, and he likes what he sees.

Randall tells Shawn that the final step for now is to slide into the compression shorts he bought, also in Navy Blue. These will fit snug not only in Shawn’s groin area, already under intense pressure from the undies and the strap but also put pressure on his thighs and buttocks. Meanwhile Randall bought compression running tights that go all the way down to his calves. Shawn has never before worn compression shorts and certainly not with these other garments underneath. The running tights are something Randall has sometimes wondered about and perhaps longed to try wearing, but he has never had a pair to try on.

Both Shawn and Randall are now fully clad in their new gear, and both are coping as best they can with the situation.

Still, for two college freshman, both filled with male hormones, things cannot remain stable forever, and most certainly something will have to give.

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIX What happened next was…

I hope everyone can visualize the exact situation they are both in right now. Both Randall and Shawn are wearing pairs of significantly undersized tighty whiteys, the ones Shawn is wearing were supplied by Randall from a just-opened new package he had in his dorm-room dresser drawer. Shawn is just a bit concerned about the fit, which seems almost uncomfortably snug and tight and he is wondering how Randall manages to wear them on a daily basis.

Shawn and Randall have both pulled on the P-TEX straps they found at the big box sporting goods store at the mall.

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The straps represent a second “layer” over some of the most sensitive areas of the male body along with the wide elastic waistband and elastic leg straps. The first trick in doing this is getting each one’s male body parts all in the correct position.

The third element or layer so all of this is the compression gear—the long-sleeved compression tee Randall is wearing and the navy blue short-sleeved version Shawn bought. Shawn has a color-matched pair of compression shorts and Randall a longer pair of running tights that are long enough to entirely cover Randall’s calf muscles.

This is a third layer for both of them, and keep in mind that with each layer, the fit and feel only gets snugger and seemingly tighter.

Randall also has a pair of compression shorts that he had purchased earlier and he decides to put these on OVER The running tights, for a most interesting fourth layer.

So, here is what is happening to both of them, psychologically. At some point, the sensations from the tighty whiteys that Shawn thought at first were somewhat uncomfortable morphed into some sensations that Shawn’s brain suddenly and oddly sensed instead interesting. Once this happened Shawn almost immediately started feeling that unmistakable and interesting sensation of the tightening of his penis as it was beginning to fill with blood, and that was just from the tighty whiteys. From his own experiences, Randall pretty much knew this was likely to happen to Shawn, but Randall did not know exactly what the reaction might be. Randall really “enjoys” his role as the “teacher” for Shawn in this regard.

If a guy doing what Shawn and Randall are doing senses that interesting tension sensation as his penis begins to fill with blood, one interesting idea this is to pull everything down giving the penis a bit of a “break” so to speak. Or, at least that’s what guys usually believe will happen. But if a guy does this, the penis almost invariably responds to this new “freedom” by getting a little bigger still—the penis senses the newfound freedom as an “opportunity” for more growth.

Then, after two or three minutes of “freedom”, the guy decides he wants to get back into the various clothing items, but given that the guy has grown, this only becomes even more difficult to do. Randall knows this: Shawn is still trying to figure out if “taking a break” is a good idea or not, but Shawn eventually concludes that he “needs” a break by getting out of everything—if only for a moment or two.

Randall is thinking to himself that this might not be the wisest strategy, but that Shawn needs to learn and understand how this works for himself. So Shawn pulls everything down and takes a break.

Having been naked in the groin area for a couple minutes, Shawn now decides to get himself back in. Shawn had some difficulty getting himself into the tighty whiteys the first time, but now he is really struggling in his attempt to find a position for his now quite long-and-now quite hard penis that works. He ends up in sort of a sideways position.

However, jock straps basically don’t fit if a guy’s penis is when the penis is sideways, and Shawn is now trying to figure out how to fit a now oversized penis into what now seems to be a substantially undersized strap pouch. Clearly, strap pouches simply aren’t designed to accommodate a full male erection the size that Shawn suddenly has.

Randall has been watching Shawn cope with the dilemma he is in with some interest of his own, and what Randall is seeing is making a psychological impact on Randall. I suspect that what Randall is seeing would have a similar impact on most guys, though most guys would never want to admit that—seeing another guy make an attempt to deal with an obvious erection is psychologically interesting and leads to a “response” by the viewer, in this case, the viewer being Randall.

So Shawn finally gets back into the strap and tries to pull the compression shorts back on. What Shawn doesn’t realize that Randall in part by simply watching Shawn obviously struggle getting his oversized penis back into in his gear, himself is on the very edge of ejaculating as well.

Shawn pulls the compression gear to his waist and almost immediately begins to feel that strange but endlessly present pulsating every few seconds with in his groin area. He looks down, and sees that already the front of his compression shorts are covered with a creamy white semen, having somehow made its way through both the tighty whiteys and even the pouch of the new strap.

Randall sees what has happened to Shawn, and Randall immediately starts into a series of repetitive involuntary contractions as well, pushing lots semen out through FOUR layers of cover. Randall and Shawn somehow have had near simultaneous ejaculations.

For both Randall and Shawn, these ejaculatory “moments in time” are filled with wonderfully delicious sensations coming from all sorts of different places. The sensations are so great that both Shawn and Randall now can’t wait to recover and then try to do it all over again.

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Every guy probably already knows exactly what am about to describe, but I will push forward anyway. After a guy gets aroused and then ejaculates in powerful spasms of involuntary multiple muscle contractions, a complex array of different emotions suddenly takes over. This happens not only in partner sex, but also in sex that does not (in this case, directly) involve a partner, either orgasms that happen while exploring your body in private, or in the case of Randall and Shawn, in the presence of another person.

I’ve long thought that this sudden shift in how a guy feels is one of the most interesting parts about male sexuality. For guys who learned the subtle techniques of masturbation under the covers at night, guys generally feel sluggish and even sleepy after masturbating to orgasm, which in itself is interesting because guys doing this in a normal fashion under the covers generally are wide awake just before the orgasm happens.

When “sleeping” with a sexual partner, part of the “problem” is in figuring out a way so that where you are on this path is at least broadly consistent with that of the partner you are sleeping with. Working out the details of all of this with your partner is no small task and, though I am not a marriage counselor, I suspect that a lot of marriages have rather regularly fallen apart in instances where both partners are unable to work out a satisfactory solution to what amounts to a complicated problem involving the emotional ties along with the physical issues. At the core is the idea of both partners being “sexually compatible.”

Randall and Shawn are not sexual partners if being a sexual partner is defined as involving physical contact with each other (perhaps along with the classic “exchanging of bodily fluids”) but they certainly managed somehow to have near simultaneous orgasms via the interesting techniques outlined in the previous chapters. Both Randal and Shawn could have each been in their own beds a few feet apart late at night, both touching and fondling their own sexual orgasms to the point of orgasm, and both could have gone off at nearly the same time with both certainly understanding what had just happened to the other. This probably goes on regularly in most of the double rooms in the men’s dormitory. But as it turns out both Randal and Shawn were wide awake and not in bed when the nearly simultaneous orgasms occurred, with each of them seeing exactly what was happening to the other.

Do either of them have a psychosexual “problem” as a consequence of the fact that they “enjoyed” the moment? A clothing “fetish” of some sort? There must be something “wrong” with what they just did. Maybe they are both gay but they simply haven’t “admitted” it to themselves yet or to each other. These are big questions, complicated questions, tough questions.

Or, maybe they both just discovered something that is really fun but does not really mean anything whatsoever from a larger perspective.

So, Randall and Shawn are both at the post-ejaculation stage of feeling rather “sluggish” right now, and that is putting it mildly. This is where the really goofy part comes in. They both feel tired, as if they feel a nap coming on. But the other goofy part is that suddenly not only have they suddenly lost interest in touching their own sexual organs, they also feel like they need to discard all of the snug-fitting garments—the very stuff that they both thought was so much fun to be in only moments ago moments before the orgasm.

So, the snug tighty whitey are quickly discarded in each of their laundry bags, and out comes the loose- fitting cotton boxers and sweatpants. Somehow, all of a sudden NOT wearing anything snug and tight seems to be the perfect thing to do.

In male-female partner sex, guys go through a very similar stage post-ejaculation to what Randall and Shawn are now experiencing, while many women seem to wind down at a much slower pace. The guy post ejaculation rolls over in bed, not wanting anything even close to his sexual organs any more, and quickly falls asleep. Many women do not appreciate this mode of post orgasm sexuality in men and try desperately to get guys to change their behaviors in this regard. This is another one of those goofy but fascinating things that women do not understand about how men are wired sexually.

For Randall and Shawn, post ejaculation, neither will be interested in sexual feelings for awhile. This calm period in that regard could last for only a few hours, overnight, or even 2 or 3 days. That depends.

Are there other ideas for Randall and Shawn to pursue, once they both “recover” from all of this funky post-ejaculatory sluggishness? Maybe, just maybe!

To be continued…
 

[sebbie]

Speedo® is a brand name—a registered trademark for a company as used both in the US and internationally. It is easy to find documents explaining the history. The Speedo® (as in swim brief) was the result of efforts to develop swimwear for competitive male swimmers that would allow them to move faster through the water, perhaps about as fast as swimming naked, while still providing a cover for the male body parts. As I understand the story, Speedo® developed a brief made of materials suitable for swimming that followed the basic design idea that Jockey® had for simpler, briefer, men’s underwear. Jockey® claims to have invented the first brief-style underwear for men, though Jockey shorts (briefs) had been around for many years before Speedos® as swim briefs came out.

Some companies have a complicated relationship with their own trademarks. They dare not let their trademark fall into too common usage to describe similar products or they can lose their trademark. Instead of calling a box of soft paper handkerchiefs a box of “facial tissues”, instead it would be referred to as a box of Kleenex®. But Kleenex is just a single company’s brand name for facial tissues. If everyone else is making what people call Kleenex, the value of the brand name was lost.

And Xerox®. At one time not that long ago, making a photocopy of printed material was called Xeroxing a copy, regardless of the brand of machine being used. Xerox® even become a verb., as in “could you Xerox a copy of this for me”.

Even Kodak®. Some time ago Kodak-branded cameras and film were so popular that people referred to taking any camera as a Kodak, and picture taking was “Taking a Kodak”. That one never stuck around and the use was lost as other camera brands increased in popularity.

Meanwhile, as the popularity of swim briefs made by Speedo® increased, people started to refer to any brief style swimwear for men as a Speedo no matter who made it, and there soon became serious competitors in selling that style, as in briefs by Tyr®, Arena® Dolphin® and others that were all styled like a Speedo® but not made by Speedo® the company.

But, it is also well known that Speedo-style swimming briefs have gone in and out of fashion over the years, as has the fashion as made by companies other than Speedo®. So to survive the company had to develop a product line that included much more in the way of clothing with a sports theme than just the swimming brief—as in Speedo-branded shorts, board shorts, tee shirts and other Speedo-branded clothing for the upper body, etc. But no one would refer to a Speedo-branded pair of board shorts as a Speedo®. Generically used, a Speedo is a somewhat skimpy swimming brief regardless of who made it. Speedo® attempts to legally protect its trademark in part because if the term becomes too widely used to describe any brief-style swimwear for men, they could lose the trademark.

Every male teenager post-puberty has an interesting connection to the whole idea of wearing a swim brief, regardless of the specific brand. I suspect that this situation perhaps began way back when Speedo® introduced the first product. Granted, the brief did cover the male body parts that needed to be covered, but the whole idea of covering the male body parts with only a minimum amount of cloth, quite frankly, scared a lot of guys.

Any male knows that certain body parts, day or night, often do not remain the same size all the time, but go through very natural cycles getting larger and then smaller both day and night. And arousal can happen in unexpected places and times. The idea of wearing a garment that is brief enough to clearly show the size of a guy’s genitals in outline moment-by-moment scares a lot of guys to the point where they say “I would never wear one of those”.

Not only that, many females seem not only upset but also even angry about seeing even the outline of male body parts in such a garment. Besides, a guy wearing a swim brief could easily be teased and bullied. Further, there is the gay connection with all of this—that swim briefs are worn only by gay guys are interested in “showing off” what they have, at least in outline, to other gay guys.

While much of this is really scary for a bunch of different reasons, young males at the same time are drawn to swim briefs. I suppose that there are guys who learned to swim wearing a brief that see all of this as no big deal at all post puberty, but the more commonplace situation is the guy who has never worn a swim brief and discovers that this is a requirement if he is going to be on a high school swim team. What happens if I suddenly start to grow, even by a little.

There is also this little matter of fit and feel. The best briefs for competitive swimming fit, well, quite snug, and are made of fabric that is quite slick and smooth. By this time young guys are probably well aware of how sensitive their penises are not only to touch, but also to anything that fits snug, slick and smooth. And a guy starts to at least contemplate the idea that perhaps a snug and slick swimming brief might be an ideal garment for jerking off. If so, the guy starts to long for the possibility of owning at least a single swim brief if only for this purpose, in private.

Think now about Randall and Shawn. Randall obviously went through this part of growing up and into young adulthood much earlier than Shawn did. Bluntly put, Randall thought up a way to get a hold of a swimming brief shortly after puberty, and he used as an aid to jerking off from the time it arrived and he made first contact, so to speak. As a young adult, this has morphed into daily wear of swimming briefs as underwear under skinny jeans.

Obviously, Shawn had also been thinking about how he might look and feel in a swim brief from a very early age as well, though he never figured out how to get a hold of one to try until he met up with his dorm room mate, Randall, who was obviously wearing these a lot. Then the trip out to the Mall sporting goods store with Randall, where Shawn finally got to purchase a Speedo® as Randall picked out a new one for himself.

Once the guys got back to the dorm room, the end result was, well, predictable, and maybe similar to what would happen for any two male buddies who were in a similar situation. Given where the dorm showers are located, Shawn now had an “excuse” to own a swim brief, something he had longed for back to his early teen years. The rest of it, well you know! Even Speedo® has to know that some of its product line in briefs has uses other than for competitive swimming. After all, a sale of a product is a sale.

Finis

With this chapter, I conclude my story, at least until I dream up some more adventures. I realized I have raised a lot of questions and issues, while answering only a few of them. I hope that my readers had as much fun reading my story as I had in writing it, and I would be especially pleased if at least some of you felt compelled to try out some of the ideas I have suggested for yourself. You will not really know how you will react to a particular situation unless you try it for yourself. As I write this I am wearing just a simple old-school strap along with a slightly undersized black asics wrestling singlet. The weather has turned very warm for the first time this spring, and I am really enjoying myself in this combination. This might not be a long story writing break for me, but for now I need to take a little time off to kick back and enjoy myself. And as a final reminder, always enjoy your Speedos® no matter what the particular brand name of the ones you own!

Sebbie