What to wear?

[sebbie]

I know a lot of readers have been very much focusing on the situation Dylan got himself into when he chose to wear that little Desmiit Thong to the classroom and the lecture this morning, and more generally, how the various items in the Amazon order were each playing a role in getting Dylan feeling horny. That is fine with me and I would not discourage either Dylan nor my readers from having some fun just thinking about all the various items, the little thong, the skimpy little swim brief, the Tesla compression tee and jammer-style shorts in that neon yellow-green color, the forest green wrestling singlet, and, of course, not to forget that wonderfully snug-fitting strap and cup. This collection of items makes a very good “shopping list” for any guy who gets turned on by being contained within snug-fitting clothing or is curious about that entire idea.

Now I fully realize that not every guy out there is going to experience the “reaction” to these items that Dylan appears to be experiencing. Maybe there are some guys out there who could wear any of these items without experiencing any physical (psychosexual) reaction at all to any of them. What makes all of this even more interesting is that each guy in terms of his response to all of this might be as unique as his own fingerprint. Some guys might find the whole idea of getting aroused simply by wearing various items of clothing to be silly or perhaps even distasteful.

Then too, some guys might find the whole idea of getting aroused just wearing a clothing item from this list as being something of a fetish, which would be just a variation on being a transvestite, which of course who are the males that get sexually aroused by wearing specific items of women’s clothing. To be sure, thong underwear is far more commonly worn by women than men, and this might be tied into some of the hesitation many males have toward the whole idea of wearing a thong designed for a male body. These guys might think that if they are going to wear something that skimpy, they might as well just “go commando.”

At least the items we are talking about are intended to be worn by males. Even the little thong is cut quite differently than a thong for females to accommodate the larger male anatomy. Whether or not the guy gets turned on when he wears them is a different issue, entirely. It used to be that the sexual psychologists claimed that any attraction a person had to an inanimate object such as an item of clothing was a fetish and any fetish was a form of abnormal sexual behavior that somehow needed to be stopped or corrected. Indeed, up until the early 1970s, the main body of psychologists claimed that the only non-abnormal way for a guy to get aroused had to be centered on having sex with a female partner. Being gay and any form of gay sex was certainly abnormal sexual behavior as was any sexual attraction to an inanimate object.

Heck, at least into the 1960s, psychologists and medical doctors even felt that any form of solo sex such as masturbation should be strongly discouraged. I reached puberty in the mid 1950s. I do not recall a lot of the details around something that happened to me shortly thereafter, but I do recall that at some point I was in a doctor’s office. I think I described to him in detail what I had done or been doing. If I recall correctly, the doctor’s response was “That’s OK and you are a normal boy your age, but I would certainly discourage you from doing that insofar as you can!”

OK, knowing me, I probably surprised the doctor at least a little by outlining in somewhat graphic detail what I had been doing. But I still recall walking out of the office thinking that the doctor’s response was really strange and unhelpful. If I wasn’t damaging my body, and I was completely normal boy my age, then exactly what was wrong with what I was doing and why should I stop? I am still wondering about the same thing.

But Dylan is not living in 1955 but in 2016. Sex with either a same-sex or an opposite-sex partner is now considered to be entirely normal. Oddly enough, masturbation, especially doing it too much, whatever that amount is, is still considered to be at least a little abnormal. The guys who masturbate a lot are, at minimum, social outcasts who lack the interpersonal skills necessary to have real partner sex, whether gay or straight. Then to, there is the purported link between a guy being discovered masturbating by a male peer who is then teased or bullied, called a jerk-off or a queer by his male peers (who are all also engaging in regular masturbation as well, but haven’t been caught by their peers, as of yet.)

All of this is suddenly really complicated. The only way the guy can survive with his peers on the subject of sex is to claim that he is only ever aroused by a female of about the same age. But bragging about this behavior creates a host of issues too not only for guys, but the females who are the objects of all the male attention.

For 19-year-old Dylan, the rules that applied in high school have broken down, if only a little. For starters, Bill and Joe seem comfortable admitting to each other that they can get turned on rather easily by wearing various snug-fitting clothing items. So too with the rowing team members Tony and Donovan, who seem to have something more complex going on than only being teammates on a college rowing team. Exactly what is going on with or between Tony and Donovan is not completely clear.

For Dylan, his biggest unanswered question is something about Bill and Joe. While it is completely clear to Dylan that both Bill and Joe are easily aroused just by wearing their snug-fitting clothing, and certainly Dylan is not the only guy out there who does this. The far more interesting question for Dylan is the question of whether Bill gets aroused just watching Joe getting into his own snug-fitting clothing, and the same for Joe’s response when he watches Bill do the exact same thing. Are all the guys who have such an arousal response somehow gay or bisexual, or would this be common for most guys whether they claim to be straight or gay?

If Dylan can find the answer to this question, he might also be able to better understand Josh’s reactions to what Dylan has been doing, and how much of this Dylan might dare to share with Josh. Dylan knows that Josh did not react at all like Dylan might have expected when Josh wandered in on Dylan trying on some of Dylan’s new gear. Dare Dylan take this all a step farther or not? Josh has already indicated that he might want to obtain some items of his own.

Oh, I was going to say something about Dylan’s funky jeans. All of my readers know that Dylan has liked snug-fitting clothing from even before puberty. The really snug-fitting jeans are interesting especially when worn in combination with some of the other items, they can create some interesting, even erotic sensations. Up until a few years back, men’s skinny jeans fit less snug that women’s jeans did. This was in large measure due to the fact that the Denim used in women’s jeans contained 2-percent stretchy Spandex, so the denim had a bit of stretch. At first, the jeans manufacturers did not know how men would react to denim containing Spandex. But one-by-one the manufacturers discovered that men like a bit of stretch in the denim, too, and started introducing Skinny jeans with a bet of stretch. This meant that men’s jeans could be as slim and as tight as the designers wanted to be, too. With that, the sloppy, oversized jeans were suddenly out of style, and the so-called Asian style, as in really skin-tight jeans, became increasingly popular for men. Nowadays men can even buy formal black suits with a Skinny, athletic look.

Dylan has surely figured all of this out. Dylan has one pair of jeans that fit him really skinny and tight. They are made of denim laced with Spandex ® fibers. That is the pair he wore to class today, over the little thong. And the jeans are part of the reason Dylan is feeling so horny. To be sure, Dylan pretty much knew all of this was going to happen and he went ahead anyway.

In Dylan’s mind, the ideal pair of skinny jeans
1. Fits really snug in the lower leg, with barely enough room to contain his calf muscles.
2. Fits like a second skin over Dylan’s thighs
3. Fits very snug in the butt and through the entire groin area
4. The waist of the Spandex ®-laced denim stretches, so Dylan can and does wear a 29-inch waist in his ultra-skinny jeans instead of his usual 31 without any undue problems
This describes well the jeans Dylan wore to class today.

So, the class is (finally) over. Dylan is still feeling horny as all get out, and his urge to ejaculate is getting more and more powerful. Dylan is headed back to his dorm room, fully knowing that the first thing he needs to do is deal with his now all but overwhelming need to get off. But what if Josh is there? What if Josh should wander in at a most inopportune moment? Dylan clearly can’t hold off for much longing. All morning has been a struggle, a struggle that Dylan knew he would ultimately “lose” (or perhaps win, depending on your perspective on all of this).

At the same time, Dylan has been enjoying himself immensely. His body is capable of making him feel great in ways he had never dreamed of before. I am not the least bit sorry for the situation he is in. At some level Dylan knows that as well. Dylan still has all the questions as outlined in this chapter, but that certainly is not the entire story. There is more, far more to the story than that!

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Dylan has managed to make it through class and is walking back to his dorm room. Class was a struggle to get through in an effort to not get to the point where ejaculation could not be delayed, but somehow Dylan has managed. Dylan, by his choice in underwear and jeans, set himself up for this both physically and psychologically. Dylan is now 19-years old, of course, and he has a bit more control over his body and groin area than he did when he was, say, 13 or 14 years of age. But getting even to this point has not been an easy or simple path.

Every guy who is growing up from puberty to being a college freshman faces much the same issues. On one hand, getting aroused and erect to the very edge of ejaculation feels terrific, and it doesn’t take a post-pubescent guy much time to figure this all out. The real issue becomes what does a guy do if he slips over the edge, (which is certainly easy enough to do if you aren’t really in control)? Still, the sensations that come from playing around this way at the very edge of having gone too far forward to delay ejaculation further are just too much fun to not pursue. But where, and when?

As I have already indicated, Dylan has brought a lot of this on himself by his choice of items to wear to class. Dylan knew that he would be pushing the arousal and ejaculation envelope, and he chose to go ahead anyway. The “game” that Dylan has been playing with his own mind and body is very different as a college freshman than what he did as a high school teenager. As a young teen, the objective was to learn how to masturbate as quickly as possible in the privacy of a bathroom so as to not be “caught” by a peer or family member, and then, once this was over and done with, just act nonchalant as if nothing had happened. The whole idea of having special clothing items that would increase the arousal level was a non-starter, of course.

As a young teen, night-time erections and ejaculations have their own problems, the main one being that the wet stains on your sleepwear or bed sheets would be “discovered” by a peer (say, at camp or in an overnight sleepover) or by family member, Mom’s raising young teen boys (apparently) adapt to what is happening fairly quickly and learn not to ask questions about starchy stains showing up on sheets or sleepwear, but peers and other family members might not be so kind or gentle in this regard for sure.

So here is Dylan, still desperate to get off, still containing what is now a near-full hard-on inside his thong and super skinny jeans. The thong is particularly odd-feeling, at this point. When Dylan initially put it on this morning, he thought to himself that wearing it to class was no big deal, psychologically or sexually, but as Dylan started to get more and more aroused, and harder and harder, his expanding penis started to feel more and more confined within the thong pouch. The snug fit of the jeans helped to keep his penis from pointing straight out as it grew, but there were other sensitivity issues. From the moment Dylan pulled the thong on, he could feel the upward pressure in the sensitive perineum area, even though the rear of the thong was more or less laying on top of his butt crack, not cutting between the butt cheeks. Any well-fitting thong pushes a guy’s scrotum and penis upward and forward. Some guys like this, but other guys think that this would more nearly be uncomfortable than sexually arousing.

As the penis gets bigger and bigger, the thong pouch still contains it, or at least makes a fervent attempt to do so. But the “problem” is that the bigger the penis gets, the more upward pressure the thong is going to be put on the perineum area, and as the penis occupies more and more of the pouch space, the back of the tong will increasingly seize up between the butt cheeks. Unless a guy is somehow brain-dead (unlikely), what is happening will continue to feed the whole system driving the erection in the first place. This might be uncomfortable, but more than likely in a horny state anyway, the sensations are way fun.

So Dylan is back to the dorm, desperate to ejaculate. He heads to his room. The room provides privacy UNLESS Josh happens to wander in on him. Remember, the men’s bathroom is way down the hall. Dylan enters the dorm room. Luckily, Josh is not there. Josh pulls down his jeans, and begins to “examine” himself in the mirror. He sees that he has really filled out the thong pouch, with damp quarter-sized pre cum spots on the pouch as well. Dylan thinks he looks quite sexy. Desperate to ejaculate, Dylan starts to run his fingers along the underside of his penis along its full length, enjoying the “moment” immensely. His penis, still inside the thong pouch, quickly responds by growing s little longer still. Dylan is about to go into full-scale ejaculation mode, and he knows it!

Suddenly, Dylan hears that familiar click of a key entering a door lock. Josh must be back from class. His class must have gotten over a little early today.

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Dylan thought he had the dorm room to himself, as it was more than 20 minutes until Josh would be back from his morning class. Dylan was really focused on his own sensations and feelings, and was desperate to get off, given how the morning had evolved. Dylan was standing there in the room, literally butt-naked, wearing only that little Desmiit ® thong and a tee shirt over the top. Dylan knew that the only other person with a key to the room was Josh, so it had to be Josh with the key in the lock.

As a teen-ager, Dylan had gotten quite good at figuring out when he was likely to have some privacy, and had found ways to take advantage of that knowledge for determining his schedule for engaging in “self abuse.” Teen boys gradually become more and more independent of the rest of the family in this regard, and Dylan had been part of a process that was considered by everyone to be “quite normal.” Dylan had gradually gotten to the point whereby his parents (and siblings) did not “need” to know what Dylan was up to at every moment during the day. This is all part of just growing up for a teen boy, but, conveniently, it is also part of a “learning process” related to identifying the best and “safest” ways for “pleasuring oneself”.

Some parents of teen boys probably understand this process of giving them some of their “own space” quite well, but maybe others not so much. Many parents worry about all of the stuff that might be going on inside the heads of guys that age. Dads are worried that their teen boys are dealing with psychosexual issues as complicated as they were for them. These are difficult navigational waters for sure. But what is going on is also a very necessary part of growing up for a teen male.

Even so, the “situation” Dylan now faces, with Josh about to open the door of the dorm room, with Dylan dressed and in the condition he is now in is unlike anything Dylan has encountered in his short life. There is nowhere for Dylan to run and hide. Dylan has only himself to blame for the “predicament” he is now in.

Dylan has been stroking his penis from the outside of the thong, and he has gotten as big and hard as Dylan ever recalls feeling. This feels great! Actually, a better term would be “fabulous.” Of course, the pressure that has been building on Dylan, sexual and psychological, all morning along, deserves much of the “blame”. As Josh enters the room, there is no way for Dylan to somehow hide what he has been doing and the condition he is in.

Josh enters the room, and is taken aback by what he has accidentally walked into. Actually, Josh is flabbergasted by what he is seeing close up. Of course, Josh knows that guys self-pleasure and in his teen years he has accidentally encountered situations whereby he was pretty certain that a peer had been only recently masturbating himself. But he has never before walked in on a guy quite in the obvious state of arousal that Dylan is currently in.

Dylan doesn’t quite know what to do or say either. Perhaps the best strategy is to just continue to stroke himself, and acting as if Josh is not even there. After all, the proverbial “cat is out of the bag” now, so to speak. It is quite clear to Josh that Dylan likes to pleasure himself while wearing a skimpy little thong. Besides, Dylan is all but certain that Josh will not tease or bully Dylan under the circumstances or that what Josh is seeing be shared with any of their friends. College students as a rule are smart enough not to do that. But still Dylan realizes that the entire situation is more than a little embarrassing even as the sensations are extra pleasant. What a dilemma of mixed thoughts and feelings!

It takes a moment for Josh to regain his composure given what he is observing. Josh struggles to say anything, even after regaining some of his composure. The only thing Josh can think of saying is “Don’t let me disturb you, Dylan!”

Strangely enough, Dylan is so desperate to ejaculate that he keeps right on stroking the underside of his penis from base to glans through the little Desmiit ® thong. All of a sudden, the seemingly crazy thought occurs to Dylan that having Josh in the room watching Dylan pleasure himself is a bit of a turn-on not a turn-off. The realization that having another guy in the room obviously watching him masturbate could be a psychosexual turn-on was an all new thought to Dylan. What does THAT imply, for goodness sakes?

Meanwhile, Josh is having some psychosexual issues to deal with as well. At a very basic level, Josh is starting to “admire” the situation Dylan is in and doing to himself. Josh has always had a deeply-buried “curiosity” with respect to wanting to know more about exactly what happens to other guys when they get aroused, erect, and in a situation of having a desperate desire to ejaculation. Depending on your view, Josh walked in on Dylan at just the right moment (or perhaps wrong moment, depending on your perspective on the events at hand) to observe all of this real life first-hand. Weirdly, Josh is starting to think that it would be most interesting to be in the place that Dylan is in right now. What a strange (but oddly wonderful) thought!

Josh wonders if the thoughts he is now having are common for guys his age or not.

How would other guys deal with the situation that currently confronts Josh? Are the thoughts that Josh is having suggestive of the possibility that Josh has a deep-seated gay streak? Given the situation at hand, would most guys Josh’s age who think of themselves as straight have quickly made an exit to allow Dylan to continue to jerk off in privacy, or would many guys be curious enough about the psychosexual behaviors of other males their own age to stick around?

Same with Dylan. Dylan could have made a quick attempt to stop the masturbation fun and get himself covered in a pair of baggy shorts as soon as he heard the key go into the door lock, but he somehow chose not to. Does that mean that Dylan must somehow have a gay streak too? And what of that thought that crossed Dylan’s mind that it was actually arousing to have Josh in the room watching Dylan jerk off. Dylan suddenly wonders what that thought might or might not have to do with Dylan’s sexuality deep down.

What concerns Josh the most is that Josh is suddenly feeling arousal rumblings in his own groin area as he observes Dylan stroking himself in the state he is in. What in the world is that all about anyway? Maybe it’s a clue that Josh would really like to have his own little thong to help him pleasure himself. Oddly, that is an easier and “safer” rationale than to go down the trail of concluding that watching Dylan stroke himself while in a very aroused state is in itself arousing for Josh.

Josh has long thought deep down that he wanted to see exactly how other guy’s bodies respond when they get very aroused and are traveling along near and perhaps over can’t stop now point of ejaculation. Now that he is in this situation, he is discovering that his own body responds as well in a situation like this.

This chapter has raised a lot of fascinating questions and provided only unclear answers, if at all. What would my readers have done if they found themselves in either Josh’s or Dylan shoes right now? (But Dylan is not even wearing shoes right now!)

To be continued…