What to wear?

[sebbie]

My body loves to send my brain signals, some physical, but some psychological. I have to admit, the ones I enjoy the most are the instances that combine the two into a wild mix. I have to admit, the whole issue of how my brain and sex organs interact with each other has always been a topic that has fascinated me endlessly.

Here is what fascinates me so much. Sometimes I am pretty certain that my brain is running the show, and giving directions to my body. That is fairly easy to understand. But sometimes it seems just the opposite. That is, my body is running the show and sending fun signals to my brain. That drives me silly, sometimes, but that situation can also be terrifically enjoyable. And my brain knows it when my body is enjoying itself. So, the two are hopelessly and inextricably intertwined. That there is still an element of strange mystery to all of this after all these years, only adds to the pleasure.

What does all of this have to do with brief swimsuits? It turns out, quite a bit. Do any of you recall the first time you ever got to shop for a swim brief? Or, got yourself in a situation where you were being “forced” to wear a swim brief for the first time, say, perhaps as a requirement for taking swim lessons or even being on a swim team?

My hunch is that in a situation like this you were having a lot of complicated feelings, some in your brain but also in your groin. You may have felt apprehensive, a little scared, but also excited, and somehow enthusiastic. At some level, you wanted to be someplace else, but at another level you were rather enjoying yourself. How could such conflicting feelings co-exist?
Oddly enough, the male body is set up for driving the male brain in strange ways. At one level, you are excited about the possibility of getting to experience the sensations from wearing a swim brief for the first time. At another level, you are scared, perhaps even scared “stiff”.

The male body does some wonderful things, but a lot of males tend to think that these things could be embarrassing not wonderful. The sensations are great, but what about the other stuff going on, stuff that seems weird.

One of the weirdest parts is the precum thing. Early on, most guys learn about the orgasm and ejaculation part, but the precum part just seems really odd. Guys are OK with the idea that semen is ejaculated during an orgasm, but the idea of dealing with a liquid, even in small amounts, that is definitely not urine and not semen, is less well understood.

Let me suppose that you are back at an age where you are shopping for your first swim brief. At that age, guys have pretty well taught themselves to believe that sexual arousal is supposed to be the consequence of observing a live person and the possibilities of that person as a sexual partner. But you are not looking at other people your age, you are shopping for an inanimate swim brief. That your body should respond to such a situation seems weird, and perhaps you are thinking “I must be abnormal for this to be happening” My brain is processing the idea that I am just looking at swim briefs in a store, but my body is starting to send signals that at some level that I am starting to get aroused.

What kind of signals? Well, precum! As a shopper, you aren’t aroused as such. Your penis is the same size as it normally is in a flaccid state, but, suddenly you can feel a damp spot forming on your underwear right at the tip of your penis. Strange! Really strange! The liquid is clear and quit viscous, unlike anything you have ever seen before

Usually, the precum is viscous enough to not work its way past your underwear to your next layer of clothing such as your jeans. The same is not true for semen. I know that from a terrifying and embarrassing experience I had when I was 16. That experience is still just too embarrassing to discuss here in detail.

It wasn’t long before I discovered that when I was feeling the damp precum at the tip of my penis, I was starting to feel good. Actually, really good. So merely shopping for a sut was psychologically interesting and fun, even if I didn’t actually try it on.

But, I was also aware of two odd facts. First, the precum that didn’t show on my jeans would certainly show at the tip of my penis if I were wearing a nylon swim brief, and second, those nylon briefs from the 1960s and 70s were made of a very thin material and basically left almost nothing to the imagination if I did get a real erection going. So there were twin terrors in wearing these. Either a damp precum spot at my penis tip others might very well notice, or an erection that others surely would notice. Twin terrors rolled into one. Do I really want to do this, even with these issues and problems? Well, yes, psychologically my body was making it really tough for me to not proceed.

This is a long enough story for today.
Sebbie

[sebbie]

Mannnnnn……that fits snug!!!!!!! I discovered that I particularly “enjoyed” wearing really snug fitting clothing at a very early age. I must have been no older than 5 or 6 years old. For a long time, I was not clear at all was going on with me, but I knew it was something….and I realized that whatever I felt when I got into something that fit snugly was something that I really liked.

Thus began a lifelong quest to find articles of clothing that fit me as tight as possible. As a child, my mom I don’t think my mom ever quite figured out what exactly was going on with me. I was constantly on the prowl for new ideas and items that would get me to where I wanted to be.

My mom, of course, had other ideas. She tended to favor loose-fitting clothing that I would be able to gradually grow into, clothing that would last me a long, long time. Oh, and she thought I should wear boxer briefs, not real cotton briefs like the other guys were wearing. As a result, I got “excited” even just thinking about the possibility of wearing real briefs, like the other guys wore. In retrospect, this was a conflict of sorts that I think in part shaped my interest in snug-fitting clothing in all its forms.

But I was growing up, becoming a young adult, and getting out on my own, away from home. I finally had the chance to start buying the clothing I wanted, not the clothing my mom really thought I should wear. My mom had pretty well figured out that I had this thing for swimming trunks, not Speedo briefs, mind you, just short regular trunks. Did I mention that almost all of the cotton trunks in those days had a coarse nylon liner in the form of a brief? It took me no time at all to learn that even these trunks with the snug fitting course-textured liner were fun to wear. Instant hard-on, well nearly instant hard-on. I looked down there and there seemed to be no place for my penis to go. Should I try to put my rapidly-hardening penis in a downward direction? It did not seem to fit. Should I try and lay it sideways? That did not seem to work very well either.

Mom found out I got turned on just by wearing these swim trunks in a most embarrassing way. I came indoors from the little pool we had, pulled down my trunks and revealed a very large penis that promptly went into a full-blown orgasm right in front of my mom! How embarrassing. I think that may have been the first real orgasm I had ever had. My mom, bless her, did not scold me. Instead, I think she said something like “Don’t be scared. That is quite normal.” Throughout my adult life I never got the courage to ask my mom what she really thought on that most interesting day. In retrospect, mom never scolded me, and to this day I do not know if she ever told my dad what had happened to me that day. At some level, I suspect that she was proud I was growing up.

By that time, I had concluded that my trunks, even though they were not briefs, were still a lot fun. Whenever my parents were gone for an hour or two I would dig out my trunks, and play around in them until I had an orgasm. This happened over and over even in months when it was way too cold to get into the pool. The liner collected the semen, which dried, and made each successive masturbation even more and more interesting. I think I was trying to set some sort of a record for the amount of dried semen I could collect. Eventually, holes developed in the liner where I had ejaculated so often.

Growing up a guy is fun! Really fun!

Sebbie

[sebbie]

WOW that feels good! I’m not quite sure what is happening to me. The sensation is both subtle and sensational. How can something so subtle being so enjoyable? All I want to think about is the sensations I can feel it coming from my groin area. I feel tense, but at the same time very relaxed.

Even the thought of having snug-fitting clothing pressing tightly against my penis is sending me off into what seems to me to be nearly another dimension. Its almost as if my body lives in two places, the first place being where I live my normal life, unfettered by any sexual feelings and sensations. But there is also this other place I can go and visit, a wonderful place that is at once both relaxing and exciting.

I am just starting to go to that place right now. The sensations I am starting to experience a subtle, but very real to me. I guess nearly universally, other guys can experience the same sensations I experience, and, almost universally as well, are perhaps annoyed, and I am off to the races, so to speak. or even terrorized by what is happening in their bodies. Guys love to be control over every aspect of their lives. It comes as a huge shock when guys discover that their sexual feelings and sensations are the one thing about their lives where they are not always in control. Stuff happens. Sometimes stuff that seems way out of place. Sometimes stuff that could turn out to be way embarrassing unless somehow brought under control.

A basic puzzle I have confronted all my life is the simple question “Does the brain tell the penis what to do, or does the penis tell the brain what to do?” Try as I might, I have not been able to come up with a definitive answer to this question. At some point, something happens, and I am not sure what. I start to think about my penis. My penis reacts almost immediately, and it starts to feel a bit tense particularly right near where my penis connects to the rest of my body. Just a little. Maybe a tiny drop of precum with start to form. When I start to sense even a bit of moisture I know for sure that something has happened. In my younger days, I wasn’t entirely certain what was going on. Over the years, I have learned to just be happy that all of this is happening to me, and just kick back and start to enjoy the sensations.

I suppose that some of you might say that what must have happened was that I either just saw or maybe even met someone who turned me on, sexually. After all, haven’t I just outlined what biologically must be the start of sexual attraction? Well, yes..and maybe no.

Over the years, I have also learned that sexual attraction to another person is but one of many ways of getting those sensational feelings going, and despite all of the electronic and social media out there, perhaps not the simplest way. I guess that unlike many other guys, I never have been much of a porn fan or watcher. For me, the most erotic thing is reading about how other guys struggle with the same feelings and sensations I have. If you are still reading this, you apparently are one of those too. If you are starting to think about the same things I like to think about, I congratulate you. You can just kick back and enjoy yourself too, just as I do. You do not need permission from me or anyone else to have some fun on your own.

Sebbie

[sebbie]

Shopping for clothes, and in particular clothes that you will want to try on in a changing room, always was a moment of terror but at the same time a great deal of fun as well. The terror occurred because I did not know exactly how my body was going to respond faced with a brand-new and novel situation.
The entire idea of going out and shopping for swim briefs is less popular now than it was 20 years ago. This is in part due to the fact that many guys are probably a little bit to a lot apprehensive about buying such a garment, and then taking it up to a sales clerk (often female) to pay. Trying on the brief in a in a store changing room presents a new and possibly more difficult set of challenges.

So, a lot of guys wear swim briefs, if not for swimming, perhaps serving as as undergarments under board shorts and even for daily wear under jeans. If guys aren’t buying these from bricks-and-mortar stores, what is the supply source? Why on line, of course! That is the easy way to deal with all of the difficulties and fears associated with going to a physical store, finding and then making a purchase. Many guys have always been fascinated with the whole issue of how they will look wearing a swim brief, whether they are skinny enough at the waist, fit enough, etc to pull off the look of the fit guys they see in Web photos, but a lot of guys do not want strangers to make the same judgments, so this can pose a major psychological dilemma. As an individual, you can err on the side of not being critical enough, or perhaps sometimes overly self-critical. Americans, in particular, seem to worry a lot about this, and have the belief that there are somehow rigid standards with respect to whether a guy if fit enough to appear in public in a swim brief. Many American women, in particular, seem to be way hung up on this. Swim brief photo posters probably are often sorting this out as to what others might think.

The old idea of taking swim briefs into a store changing room in various styles and sizes was always an interesting one, however, both psychologically and physically. In a previous post in this series, I have outlined a fun thing to try if you already own briefs in various styles and sizes, that is, lining them all up from biggest to smallest and then trying them on, one-at-a-time from largest and loosest-fitting to smallest and snuggest-fitting. I highly recommend this as an interesting thing to do if you have not tried it, and how your body responds with each change of garment will be, well, fascinating. You will be playing around in this loopy area where you might discover that your body has some ideas about what it is confronting a situation that will look and feel a little different, often snugger and more revealing in sequence. Your body could take over from your brain.In my teens, I might have worried that I was going to have an full orgasm right into the brief I was trying on. Once I got into my 20s, my main concern shifted toward leaving a large precum stain of the brief I would probably be carrying to the checkout counter!

This is the same dilemma faced by members of swim teams who are told that they will be required to wear briefs in a meet. For the young guy who has never seen himself in a swim brief, this can be a moment of real terror, especially if the guy will be trying on a swim brief for the first time in front of the other guys in the locker room. Will I get an erection? Holy terror, will I go into an orgasm on the spot? What about the other guys in the locker room? Are they struggling with the same issues I am sorting through? Are they experiencing the same psychological and physical issues I am confronting? Could this mean that deep down I am a homo? The whole situation whereby a bunch of fit young swim team guys are all changing into swim briefs seems to be a situation that is just a touch homoerotic.

Then there is the issue of downsizing for the meet. The swim coach requires that we wear exceptionally snug and tiny briefs for the meets, meets where the public will be watching me. Having successfully navigated putting on a normal-sized swim brief without too much embarrassment or obvious problems, what happens when I know now that the brief I will have to wear for the meet will be even skimpier, with a snugger and tighter fit?

One partial solution to this series of problems is to make certain that your first experience in dealing with these issues is not in the swim team locker room, but rather in private. Fortunately, that is where the on-line retailers such as swimoutlet.com can serve a useful purpose. Part of the complexity of dealing with the psychological and physical issues in coping with all of this relates to the fact that the briefs large and represent a new and different experience. I suppose the swim coach could pass out the meet briefs and instruct the team members not try them on now but to take them home and try them on for fit. Here is another option. An online outlet such as Swimoutlet sells what they call “grab bag” briefs often at a fraction of the price of other briefs. Swimoutlet usually has one of these for Tyr briefs and another for Speedo. Normally these are briefs that for whatever reason did not sell out at normal prices. The buyer has control of the size but not the style or color, which is part of the fun.

For example, suppose I ordinarily wear a size 32, but I am supposed to downsize for a swim meet. Part of the fun here is that you do not get any control over style or color. These are cheap, usually about 1/3 the regular retail price. Place an order for three briefs, with one each of size 32, 30 and 28, so you have a brief that is normal-sized and also one and two sizes down. You are going to experiment with fit, feel and body response when you are confronted with the novel situation of trying on swim briefs in various styles and sizes. You will have the opportunities to meet your fears and apprehensions directly, but in private not in the semi-public spaces of a locker room.

When you get the order, try the briefs on one at a time, from largest to smallest, in front of a mirror, in the privacy of your bedroom. If you are ok at home, you will at least be more comfortable doing the same in the locker-room situation. If the experiment elicits a strong physical response by your body, the best thing to do is to just let it all happen, and make another attempt the next day when you are calmer and can try again. Eventually, with sufficient practice, you should be able to work yourself through all of your fears. It may take you two attempts, or three, or even more. But with each attempt you will learn something more about your body and exactly how it responds to a novel situation.

Man those briefs feel good! Once the sheer terror subsides, you can just kick back and enjoy being a guy, with all that entails!

Sebbie

[sebbie]

Much of the complicated process of understanding human sexuality involves learning that every individual is unique and special in ways that are as unique as an individual fingerprint. No two people are the same in this regard, and I am often amazed at the whole idea that somehow people can pair up in sexually compatible relationships that somehow hang together from both a physical and an emotional perspective. For married couples, much of this becomes a discovery process that often gradually but continually takes place after, not before the marriage.

Many adult women grow up learning that somehow that they should be the sole source of sexual arousal and pleasure for men, and end up being surprised and unhappy that guys frequently do not sexually behave the way the woman was led to believe. For example, I have talked to women who are absolutely in bits and pieces when they accidentally discover their husband masturbating alone in the bathroom. I keep telling these women that things could be a whole lot worse, and that this is indeed very common and that the situation needs to be approached with understanding not anger. Indeed, the proper response by a woman when accidentally encountering her man masturbating should be “May I help you?”

Men learn the details of what they particularly enjoy at a very early age, and much of what they learn does not fit the stereotypes in the movies at all. Furthermore, a lot of particularly beloved the solo-sex activity sticks like glue throughout adulthood. It is not as if what a guy found to be fun sexually as a teenager will no longer be fun in adulthood. The tricky part is integrating all of this into an adult relationship that is interesting and enjoyable for both parties.

Gay guys in relationships tend to have one advantage over straight couples in that their teenage solo-sex experiences are frequently not that dissimilar. Any guy knows that solo sex can be quite enjoyable, but straight guys generally have a lot more difficulty sharing what it is they like about solo sex with a female partner than do male partners. Of course, the vast majority of straight guys would greatly fear discussing such topics at all with their straight male friends, for fear that they might be labeled as at least gay-interested if they did so.

So, what does all this have to do with swim briefs, or in particular, guys who manage to get turned on by wearing skimpy swim briefs (and further, why am I writing about this here)? I once received a letter from a guy who was in a relationship with a female partner, but he also got turned on by wearing skimpy swim briefs. He was wondering what he should do about this. He was somehow wonder if there was “a cure” that would help him break his “habit” of enjoying himself this way, and further, what would his female partner say if she found out that she was not necessarily always the center of his attention, sexually?

These are not easy questions to answer for sure. Revealing this to a female partner could end up going in any number of different directions. Some women may find the whole situation most uncomfortable and want to get out of the relationship ASAP, as this was going into territory her mother never told her about. Other women may be more open-minded about the whole situation and in particular a woman might be open minded if she herself enjoys seeing her guy wearing a swim brief. Some women are ok with their guy wearing a swim brief in private but not in public. These women may have a particular issue with other women seeing and ogling the outline of her guy’s male parts in a swim brief at a pool or beach. This goes back to the female idea that the guy is hers and hers alone. Strangely, a lot of men have quite the opposite reaction when other guys stare at her in a skimpy bikini, as in look how lucky I am.

All for now.

Sebbie

[swim suit eddie]

It was a good thread by Sebbie and I really enjoyed it. As what to wear, I'll wear my favorite snug denim playtime overalls with sexy bright colored leotard and tights underneath to the doctor's office during the cold winter months. They feel so warm, snug and soft. My doctor is a female and both her and the nurse like my snug winter attire. My visit is usually for a yearly physical examination. Of course I'll bring a change of clothes, loose fitting underwear and trousers for a quick change of clothes after the physical examination. She will always have me completely undress for these physical exams. I'll have to wait a while before being called in by the nurse and am very aroused from the warm, snug and secure feeling in my winter outfit, knowing, They will soon be all off, while being totally naked for the doctor. As what to wear, those warm snug overalls with leotard and tights are the best type clothes to wear for my upcoming medical plight. Once called into the exam room, the doctor goes over my medical records, while I'm still dressed, then when leaving the room, she tell the lovely nurse to have me all undressed and gowned for my physical exam. Those snug overalls and leotards are giving me quite an erection, when the nurse would close the large privacy curtain and asking how many layers I'm wearing under those cute snug overalls. I know what to wear to the doctors savoring the warm snug feeling while still in my winter outfit and helping to keep my medical anxieties and fears in check. The nurse then gives a nice smile, saying "it's time, everything has to come off now", then helps me strip it all off. It's a long slow, yet somewhat enjoyable process, helping me to undress, as she unfastens the overall snaps, then unzipping the side leg zippers, and slowly pulls them down and off my blue colored leotard and tights clad decent shaped body. Suddenly the lady doctor returns, seeing me still in leotard and tights that well outline my full erection. The doctor would say " don't feel embarrassed, having an erection, as we'll have all those tight sexy winter clothes off you". Soon, I was completely naked and very erect, when both the doctor and nurse began doing my physical exam, the whole works, blood tests, being weighed nude and then the dreaded DRE. Finally my physical exam was completed and receiving a good bill of health from the doctor. I missed putting my snug winter outfit back on, but was able to get dressed quickly in the baggy underwear and loose clothes, as they had to see one more patient for the day. Like I've said, wearing those snug warm denim kiddie overalls, long sleeve button up flannel shirt with leotard and tights underneath to the doctors and being helped taking them all off, keeps medical fears and anxiety in check during my physical examination.

[sebbie]

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