Almost an uncomfortable moment

[Scotlandturbo]

Maybe they were the ones feeling akward since they were standing around at a pool in bathrobes. Besides I am sure they enjoyed the view.

[PSDave]

After some discussion with a friend on the board I have to say I still don't get it. Why is it so many guys want to and/or do wear speedos but seem to have a problem being seen in them? If you are on the beach or at a pool you are expected to be in a swim suit. It is human nature for people to glance at another person passing by or entering the area. It isn't a look of judgement, it is a look of idle curiosity. Unless it is someone with a striking appearance (good or bad) they don't remember them 30 seconds later. So why the concern about that 30 seconds from a total stranger you will never see again? While guys in speedos are far fewer than guys in board shorts, they still are nothing that are unusual by a pool or beach. I'v probably said it a million times but I repeat. It is a bathing suit, nothing more. Everyone by the pool/beach wears one and it isn't something to be ashamed or afraid of. Get over the insecurities in your head and wear it like you would board shorts or any other item of clothing. If you act embarrassed or insecure in your speedo it will definitely show and draw attention to you.

NOTE: I am referring to a normal conventional speedo cut swimsuit. If, however, you are out to expose yourself in a white, unlined nylon with a cock ring , a g-string or a skimpy thong you really should be ashamed to be seen in public. Those expose all garments are for private parties or gay bars only. If you have a need to expose yourself in public, especially in a family place, you should really seek professional help.

[tightjeans]

PS Dave. I agree with you. I have often wanted to make the same comments you did on this board but was concerned about treading on someone's toes/ego. I wear the suits at 2 to 3 inches on the side all the time and have never had an issue.

[Bede735]

Of course at that particular pool all of the other guys were wearing shorts, so I would say they have greater problems.

[Torchwatch]

Feeling uncomfortable around other people is not logical. We don't want to upset someone whose reactions we cannot predict so we try to avoid their personal space. Wearing speedos we may not mind being seen but do not want to ram them down someone's throat by entering their space.
We don't want to cause embarrassment, we don't want to be embarrassed by the embarrassment we case. We pause for a moment and finally decide that since we will never see these people again we may as well do what we planned to do in the first place but with conflicting emotions.

[PSDave]

Are you kidding? If someone is uncomfortable seeing a man in a conventional speedo they should not go near a poor or beach. You are not "ramming it down their throat", you are just another person out for a swim. The only time you should concern yourself about what others may think is if you choose to wear a white speedo (or any other style swimsuit) to a family beach.
Does that philosophy govern all that you wear? I personally do not like purple -- would you avoid a particular color or style shirt because you may make another person in the crowd uncomfortable?
As with anything in life -- if you don't like what you see -- Don't Look!!

[Captain.Jammer]

Originally Posted by PSDave

... I personally do not like purple ...

I am sorry to hear that PSDave.. Purple is my favorite color!

[Napoleon44]

As far as I’m concerned I quite enjoy feeling a bit uncomfortable . I know that sounds weird but wearing something small or bright or small and bright is thrilling . I agree it’s no fun with no one around . And I guess we all have a level where we feel comfortable / uncomfortable . So good for you bede.

[Bede735]

I posted that 3 years ago, but I've found as I get older I'm more and more comfortable with my body. That kind of situation doesn't bother me now.

[Chris997]

Originally Posted by tightjeans

PS Dave. I agree with you. I have often wanted to make the same comments you did on this board but was concerned about treading on someone's toes/ego. I wear the suits at 2 to 3 inches on the side all the time and have never had an issue.

Somehow where I am our sides are less, like the norm seems to be 1,5" seems normal to everyone at the pool but the sides do seem to thin out naturally after a few uses, I find it odd that there are such wide waist swim briefs out there to buy.....