Almost an uncomfortable moment

[Bede735]

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. Can't imagine another context where that would happen.....

[SwimBikeRun949]

What's the thrill of wearing a speedo/bikini when nobody is there to see you?

Might as well be naked -- you wouldn't get arrested because there are no witnesses!

[Scotlandturbo]

Maybe they were the ones feeling akward since they were standing around at a pool in bathrobes. Besides I am sure they enjoyed the view.

[PSDave]

After some discussion with a friend on the board I have to say I still don't get it. Why is it so many guys want to and/or do wear speedos but seem to have a problem being seen in them? If you are on the beach or at a pool you are expected to be in a swim suit. It is human nature for people to glance at another person passing by or entering the area. It isn't a look of judgement, it is a look of idle curiosity. Unless it is someone with a striking appearance (good or bad) they don't remember them 30 seconds later. So why the concern about that 30 seconds from a total stranger you will never see again? While guys in speedos are far fewer than guys in board shorts, they still are nothing that are unusual by a pool or beach. I'v probably said it a million times but I repeat. It is a bathing suit, nothing more. Everyone by the pool/beach wears one and it isn't something to be ashamed or afraid of. Get over the insecurities in your head and wear it like you would board shorts or any other item of clothing. If you act embarrassed or insecure in your speedo it will definitely show and draw attention to you.

NOTE: I am referring to a normal conventional speedo cut swimsuit. If, however, you are out to expose yourself in a white, unlined nylon with a cock ring , a g-string or a skimpy thong you really should be ashamed to be seen in public. Those expose all garments are for private parties or gay bars only. If you have a need to expose yourself in public, especially in a family place, you should really seek professional help.

[tightjeans]

PS Dave. I agree with you. I have often wanted to make the same comments you did on this board but was concerned about treading on someone's toes/ego. I wear the suits at 2 to 3 inches on the side all the time and have never had an issue.

[Bede735]

Of course at that particular pool all of the other guys were wearing shorts, so I would say they have greater problems.

[Torchwatch]

Feeling uncomfortable around other people is not logical. We don't want to upset someone whose reactions we cannot predict so we try to avoid their personal space. Wearing speedos we may not mind being seen but do not want to ram them down someone's throat by entering their space.
We don't want to cause embarrassment, we don't want to be embarrassed by the embarrassment we case. We pause for a moment and finally decide that since we will never see these people again we may as well do what we planned to do in the first place but with conflicting emotions.

[Chris997]

Originally Posted by tightjeans

PS Dave. I agree with you. I have often wanted to make the same comments you did on this board but was concerned about treading on someone's toes/ego. I wear the suits at 2 to 3 inches on the side all the time and have never had an issue.

Somehow where I am our sides are less, like the norm seems to be 1,5" seems normal to everyone at the pool but the sides do seem to thin out naturally after a few uses, I find it odd that there are such wide waist swim briefs out there to buy.....

[jackk78]

Originally Posted by Bede735

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. Can't imagine another context where that would happen.....

I was at a spa in Portland a couple of years ago. The attendant gave me a tour of the place when I arrived. It was early, so no one else was there yet. She explained that it was a co-ed clothing optional facility, and that it was necessary to wear a swim suit or sit on a towel when using the sauna.

I decided to go nude, put my clothes away in the locker, and went out to the hot tub. I'd been soaking for a while when I heard voices. Three women all wearing swim suits joined me in the tub. One was wearing a fashion one piece and the other two were wearing conservative bikinis. They said hello and carried on quietly with their conversation.

I thought I might have misunderstood the rules the attendant had explained, that perhaps I was supposed to be wearing a swim suit. I wanted to use the rest of the facility, but was nervous about getting out of the tub. Another woman walked out wearing a robe. I almost sighed with relief when she took it off revealing that she was nude underneath. She joined us in the hot tub.

Confident that it was allowed, I climbed out of the tub and went over to the shower. I could see the clothed women taking quick glances at me. When I'd rinsed off, I went into the sauna. A few minutes later, the nude woman joined me. She made a joke about the other women wearing clothes and we both agreed that it was much more enjoyable nude.

A couple showed up later. The guy went nude and the girl went topless. It was a fun afternoon.

[7_of_Fine]

Originally Posted by Bede735

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. Can't imagine another context where that would happen.....

Try being a gogo dancer in a gay bar during wedding season; those bachelorette party gals are vicious!