Wife bought me...

[snarkherder]

Originally Posted by need4speedo

...a pair of J.Crew swim shorts. Ugh. While they're short and expose plenty of thigh, her intentions are clear that she wants me to give up the speedos. She has never truly embraced my preference for wearing them, but has tolerated them up to a point. We'll be going to Aruba in September and I'm not sure if she was expecting me to wear these short shorts while we are there. It's Aruba, I'm not giving up my speedo freedom while I am there. If there's any place to wear them, it's there!

None of us knows the details of your situation but you may be reading too much into this. Maybe this is a suit she is comfortable with you wearing around her conservative family and friends. Why would she buy you a suit in July that she wants you to wear in September? I’d be open and just tell her you noticed that she got you a new pair of trunks and allow her to speak her mind.

[Bede735]

Ask her if it's all right to wear slightly more clothing in public than she does.

[California Dolphin]

A better question would be to ask "Why are women allowed to wear clothing that has less coverage than men?"

[Speedo_Dad]

My ex-wife would occasionally do this as well. If a vacation was approaching she'd buy me a set of shorts "in case I wanted to wear them", or sometimes when we were shopping together she'd point out shorts she thought I'd look good in. She did this despite the fact I always wore Speedos, and knew I enjoyed wearing them. She never suggested or bought new trunks I'd actually have considered wearing.

She didn't like me wearing Speedos and her argument was always that they were "embarrassing" or "too revealing" despite the fact she always wore 2 piece bikinis on vacation. The level of double standards! One of her lines that made me laugh the most was that "other women can check out your package" - yes, and other men can check out your cleavage? What's your point? I once told her that if she expected me to cover up in shorts then I expected her to wear a t-shirt or full body sarong. Of course, she never.

I will say though that these exchanges were non-existent in the 80's and 90's when we were together and Speedos were a little more popular, and both of us had been on our respective swim teams at college so she was more than used to seeing me in Speedos and was okay with it. It was only really post-2000 when fashions changed, and our relationship deteriorated that she started using Speedos as an issue to pick at.

[Mollyk]

She is probably just like all of us. She just might like some attention too! If we are at pool party, resort or beach with you guys we have spent a lot of time and maybe some $$ to look our best. We did our makeup, our nails and toes, we found a pretty bathing suit, a coverup, maybe a hat and our favorite heels. We maybe wearing sunglasses and we have done our hair just right. We probably did this also for you.
So let us get a little attention first.
Then you undo the board shorts, take off your top and reveal your speedo.

That's all we ask.

[beachg0y]

Molly, thank you for the reply. More than a wee bit of wisdom in there. You've given some food for thought.

[Bede735]

Women wear bikinis to pose in them, while men wear Speedos for swimming. Therefore, a man must spend no more than a few seconds in them before entering the water, where the said garment then becomes acceptable.

[Malcontent]

Originally Posted by Mollyk

She is probably just like all of us. She just might like some attention too! If we are at pool party, resort or beach with you guys we have spent a lot of time and maybe some $$ to look our best. We did our makeup, our nails and toes, we found a pretty bathing suit, a coverup, maybe a hat and our favorite heels. We maybe wearing sunglasses and we have done our hair just right. We probably did this also for you.
So let us get a little attention first.
Then you undo the board shorts, take off your top and reveal your speedo.

That's all we ask.

Yes...woman gets a bit miffed that their men upstaged them in the getting all the attention departments.

[Torchwatch]

Molly, if I woke up one morning and discovered I was married to you, then I received an invitation to a pool party I would go on my own as I be too embarrassed to be there with you.

[Malcontent]

Originally Posted by Speedo_Dad

My ex-wife would occasionally do this as well. .

Sometimes I wonder how stupid women are, if I were married to you I would NEVER EVER end up as your ex!