Thoughts on just being a guy

[PSDave]

OMG, Sebbie, you need help. Get out and swim in the pool, go to the gym or whatever strikes your fantasy. Sitting at your computer authoring endless anthologies is not the best way to use your time. (maybe even talk to a therapist or counselor) Dont sit there analizing life -- live it!























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[sebbie]

I am delighted that the two story lines I developed (What to Wear, and Thoughts on Just Being a Guy) have gotten as many followers together summing to over 250,000 hits. I have made an effort to cover a variety of topics related to guys but in particular for guys who are not into a partnered relationship. In the process I would like to believe that I have written on a number of topics guys seldom if ever talk about.

This has been a long journey for me, and the first page of What to Wear was posted in April of 2015. A lot of things have happened since then. I always assumed that if anyone did not find what I was writing to be interesting and perhaps also useful, they would no longer go back to read my latest post, and maybe some guys have done that, but with every new post lots of readers still see what I have to say.

I realize I cannot continue to write on these topics indefinitely, and a few people have claimed that I keep discussing many of the same or similar topics over and over. I am starting to wind this all down. I will not say that this is my last post because I probably will dream up something new that I want to post. Lets just say that future posts will be less frequent.

All the best to all my readers who have been my devoted followers.

Sebbie

[dm106]

Thanks, Sebbie. I have enjoyed your rantings!

[sebbie]

Does That Fit Tight Enough For You?

Today, I reach a birthday milestone that somehow got me to thinking about my long-term relationship with snug-fitting clothing. I believe I developed a fondness for garments that fit snug in the groin area before I knew anything about sex or sexual feelings at all. What I did conclude at a very early age is that I was fond of any garment that fit me snug and tight down there, even though I had not rationalized why.

Of course, as I grew older things started happening down there—interesting things that I did not seem to have much if any control over. At one level, this was nothing short of terrifying. But at a completely different level, I was fascinated by what was happening to me. I noticed that my penis could get bigger and then smaller again without me overtly doing anything.

I soon discovered that the mere thought of going into anything in a brief style would make me horny and erect. I liked what happened to me at this mere thought even without the opportunity to actually pull on a brief. Somehow I also realized that the smooth texture of a nylon or spandex/poly brief would feel really great pressed against my penis, and doing this quickly became a goal. But it was not until I was older, in College, actually, that I got to actually purchase a couple Speedos and test out some of what I had thought about. I was not disappointed and in grad school I quickly learned that jerking of in my Speedos was a great relaxer in what was an otherwise near continuous high-pressure situation. I enjoyed myself a lot in those days and my Speedos paid a significant role in helping me survive my graduate program, despite the fact that I never swam in them, they were still quite “useful”.

My next “experiment” involved checking out the fit and feel of an athletic supporter. You see, I never participated in a team sport requiring on in either high school or college. However, I was still fascinated with “the look”. I always thought the cups were interesting as well, particularly the cups that fit so snug that there was no “room to grow” without pressing against the walls of the cups. The straps I bought did not disappoint either, and I quickly got hooked on the sensations coming from a hardening penis that was limited in how much it could grow because of the firm cup walls. Great fun for the price of the strap and cup!

My introduction to underwear thongs for men did not happen till much later, I think in 1988 when I first saw thong underwear for men in a store. when I first saw them I bought three. I was fascinated by having a stretchy cord between my glutes. And I realized that if my penis grew, even inadvertently, that would pull on and cinch up the thong back between my glutes. Most interesting.

Not long after that I decided to put a cupped strap over the thong. Compression shorts were just becoming popular as well, and I got to thinking that a tight-fitting compression short would not only feel great, but would hold the thong/strap cup combination firmly in place. True, my penis might “plead for “relief” from the predicament it was in on multiple fronts, but it was stuck with the situation it was in. I also discovered that if I did want to provide myself with momentary “relief” by pulling everything down, my penis would respond by getting a bit bigger and harder, and then when I got back into everything, the horny tension would actually increase not decrease.

Then I decided to try wearing this combination to bed, something as an experiment to see if I would go through traditional erect/flaccid cycles during sleep wearing this, and would I ejaculate while asleep inside the thong and cup. The experiment is most interesting for sure. Every guy should try it.

So, here I am, celebrating my 75th year and thinking about all the great things that I have done by, with and to myself over all these years. Not only has it all been great fun—its still great fun!

[Lap Counter]

Happy Birthday, Sebbie!
I’ve been reading your essays for years and continue to look forward to your next.

[Fairfax]

Reading your thoughts Sebbie made me realise why I first became interested in briefs.
I first new I liked wearing nothing but my underpants as a seven year old long before any sexual connection and when I got my first pair of proper lycra swim briefs at age 8 I was hooked.
I always thought it was the super hero feel or the comfort that got my attention but you made me realise it was the mildly pleasant feeling of presure on the crotch.
As soon as I hit puberty I discovered it was sexual in origin and the pleasure was instensified if I had an erection as well.
My swim briefs soon became an arousal aid and I found myself with a swimwear fetish.
What I found frustrating was the way you seem to think all males are the same yet it was obvious to me from about age 14 that most other guys weren't getting the pleasure I did.
I think only some guys are sensitive there and even most of them don't have the interest to explore it further.
Thanks again for your thoughts and opinions they did fill in some blanks for me.

[Lap Counter]

Originally Posted by Fairfax

What I found frustrating was the way you seem to think all males are the same yet it was obvious to me from about age 14 that most other guys weren't getting the pleasure I did.
I think only some guys are sensitive there and even most of them don't have the interest to explore it further.

I’ve thought a lot about that too, but put a different interpretation on that seeming lack of interest. All guys have the same plumbing and electrical systems, so the same stimulus should affect them the same. But I think learned social inhibition short-circuits their response.

In my school, jockstraps were required starting in 7th grade. I well remember the embarrassment suffered by boys who popped an erection while putting on or taking off theirs in the locker room, complete with jokes and harassment from everyone else. That quickly taught us to rechannel the nerve signals received about how our genitals felt in that confined pouch.

Similarly, Speedos, especially the old-style nylon ones, accurately reveal the state of tumescence of the wearer, so avoiding boners in public is a good idea. Sadly for the sport of swimming, many guys do that by avoiding Speedos entirely, instead turning wearing one into a joke. I’ve always liked the challenge of walking the length of the beach without the cool feeling I got wearing a Speedo becoming obvious to casual observers.

Rather than avoid the stimulation he gets from tight clothes, Sebbie simply acknowledges and celebrates it.