Nice story. Sorry about the loss. Welcome to the forum
I used to wear speedos but they were wearing out and at $30+ a pop I decided to stick with bikini undies (really skimpy bikini undies).
It is funny how just a little garment can make me feel confident, sexy, and in charge of who I am.
The topic reminds me of a creative mens underwear ad I saw a few years ago online and cannot remember who made it for the life of me. It is a guy who goes into the restroom to do his business and he looks at himself in his unique undies as he is leaving a guy appearing to be an exe goes into a stall and when he drops his pants besind the stall you can see the same brand of underwear around his ankles.