[sebbie]

As any guy has probably quickly learned, exciting sexual tension involves a combination of the psychological (thoughts) and the physical (touching). Furthermore, guys quickly learn that the psychological frequently involves not only what will happen, sexually, but even what could possibly happen.

The human brain, male and female, seems to be equipped with an early warning system that springs into action very quickly, in the case of a guy, often long before any even partial erection takes place. A lot of guys seem mystified with respect to how male bodies work in this regard, but still confront this on a regular basis, perhaps as frequently as several times a day. Guys frequently have difficulty dealing with this if it involves thoughts relating to a potential female partner. Coming of age movies generally are built around plots that deal with exactly this.

For gay males, this becomes even more difficult in part because the guy may not want to admit to himself that he has these male-centered erotic thoughts, let alone come out and explain what is going on to others, perhaps the most terrifying being how non-gay male peers might react. It doesn’t help that many males are terrified of the possibility of a sexual encounter with another male (perhaps because they have a gay streak, themselves) and outcomes in this regard are quite unpredictable. This is why gay males have to be very careful when other males of unknown sexual orientation are nearby.

Complicating all of this still further is the widely held belief by some (claimed as macho) males that any guy who engages in solo sex, if not gay, is certainly a social outcast who will never find a female sexual partner. This leads to ”I saw you masturbating and told all my friends what I saw you doing “teasing and bullying. This to me is one of the saddest aspects of male sexuality as it exists in most societies.

I know that some of my readers are wondering what is with Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe, anyway? Are these four guys who will never be with a female partner, or, horror of horrors, enjoying their own bodies along with their swim briefs, thongs, straps, cups, wrestling singlets and compression gear more than they ever would than having a sexual encounter with a partner. What gives with these four guys anyway? From a writer’s perspective, keeping this possibility going is part of the fun of setting up the reader.

A central theme of this entire story has been the idea that guys can have a lot of fun sexually and psychologically without having to deal with the additional complications that partner sex brings on, and this is true irrespective of whether you think you are straight, gay or of a sexual orientation in which you are uncertain.

If you stop and think about it what I have just said is quite profound. I think I just said that sexual pleasure is something that every guy can tap into and enjoy irrespective of whether or not the guy has a partner.

But all of this goes even deeper than that. By the time a guy reaches the age of a young college student such as the four of them in the story, he has probably experienced a number of instances, perhaps many, whereby sexual arousal (to orgasm or not), occurred in the absence of any thoughts about being with a partner. Again, many guys are reluctant to admit that their personal sexual wiring works that way. In the case of the “straight” male there is this (macho) view that the only acceptable psychosexual thought are those that relate directly to being with a female partner, and any thoughts that lead elsewhere need to be banished. Many gay males seem to operate with a variation of this, in the belief that real sex involves a direct physical encounter with another male.

But, if this were true for both straight and gay males, what of four college students who go shopping at a big-box sporting goods store for items that they know are going to be tough to wear without getting aroused in and soon after a hard on? Are these guys somehow deviant from a sexual perspective? Or what of four college guys who start ordering items on line that they are pretty sure are going to be difficult to wear without getting aroused? And then, what happens, once the items arrive to the dorm rooms? Is getting into these items a solo activity or can your male roommate be present? Will the male roommate be put off by this if he watches, or will he perhaps secretly think that he would love to be able to do exactly the same thing? What if a guy enjoys playing with himself in this way “too much”, and never progresses to a physical relationship with a partner? Is this a real problem or issue?

And what of all this talk about the notion that it is important for a guy who is sexually aroused be able to restrain himself from going into full-scale orgasm mode? A general truth is that the longer a guy can remain aroused without blowing, the more enjoyable the entire situation is going to be, and the more exciting, powerful and enjoyable the orgasm will be when it finally does happen.
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The problem, of course, is that guys grow up learning how to go into full-scale orgasm mode quickly, so as to minimize the probability that the guy will be discovered and end up in a potentially embarrassing situation. Many guys quickly become experts in rapid covert masturbation. But the four college guys appear to be at least be past that idea.
Then there is the problem of sex in relationships, whereby slower steaminess is almost invariably better sex than anything that happens in a hurry. But guys up until that point were focused on speedy solo sex. All of that has to be somehow unlearned, and quickly, for the sake of the relationship lasting, be it straight or gay.

One way of visualizing what the four college guys have been doing is that they are unlearning a lot of what they learned masturbating in a hurry when they were younger. Unless the four guys are completely brain dead, there is no way the four guys are not each going to be somewhat aroused given what they are wearing, but even for a guy to admit that can be somewhat unnerving.

Still, the male body is brilliantly set up with an early warning system programmed to provide the necessary information even if the guy is nowhere near being erect and hard. That is all the precumming and Cowper’s gland stuff. If precum is forming a damp spot on the tip of a guy’s erect penis, something important sexually is happening. This could possibly quickly lead to an erection and maybe an orgasm, or the entire situation could just sit and “simmer” for many minutes, perhaps hours. Just simmering there oozing viscous clear drops of precum is a very enjoyable sexual experience, not one to be denied. Where each of them takes this after they get back from the gym to the dorm rooms is unclear, except to say that the urge to ejaculate has been slowly but steadily building even as the guys engage in their respective exercise programs as arousal is helped along in happening by wearing the various garments.

And, assuming that each of the four is going to want to engage in partner sex, this “simmering” experience is going to work to undo the damage done as younger guys learned how to get this over quickly to minimize the possibility of being discovered masturbating. So what is happening here is important from a future partner sex perspective even if what has been going on does not now involve sex with a partner.

Female partners do not normally complain to their guy that he needs to get to the orgasm part more quickly. Indeed, quite the opposite. For gay males, the challenges in this regard cannot be different. Would a gay male prefer a partner who gets off quickly, or one who can tolerate a lot of stimulation while still holding back an orgasm? So, straight or gay, this works for both in partner sex.

To be continued….