[sebbie]

I desperately need to ejaculate! I desperately need to ejaculate! I would do ANYTHING if I could ejaculate! As you are watching this video, it naturally occurs to you that you would like to determine for yourself exactly how difficult it is to do what our Japanese Speedo guy is doing. In other words, faced with a bunch of different psychological and purely physical pressures to ejaculate, and a full-blown erection, can a normal guy somehow maintain his composure, his erection and still not ejaculate. Fortunately, you can run your own experiment relatively easily on your own. Now this will not be exactly the same as the situation faced by the guy in the video, as you will not have two other people working you over. I told you I was going to add my own notes to this, and that involves running my own experiments.

I have a plug-in vibrator that runs on AC current. These are usually a good deal more powerful than the battery-operated units.. The head on it is somewhat different from the head on the vibrator shown in the video. I have a blue suit, too. Watching the opening parts of the video is a good way to get a nice erection going. Meanwhile, I am taking notes on exactly the places the vibrator is going to in the video. All around on the chest, particularly the inner part of the thighs, then just touching the balls, circling around the penis, occasionally hitting a glancing blow along the shaft, and the even more occasional grazing of the tip of the penis under the suit.

So I try a series of these, attempting to duplicate the moves myself. Several observations:

1. The guy's ejaculatory control is even more amazing to watch in the video after having tried these experiments.

2. If you spend too much time hitting the shaft of your penis with the vibrator, you will get to the point whereby you will be in real danger of going off without even being fully erect. In short, unless you are careful you will go into an involuntary ejaculatory-spasm mode with only a semi-erect penis. These semi-hard ejaculations are interesting, if you have never done one before, but ultimately not very satisfying.

3. So, the trick in doing this is that you really need to be able to “read” your brain and body so that you don't push yourself using the vibrator past the point-of-no-return, in which you completely lose it. But this is basic for any guy trying to learn the more subtle points of ejaculatory control.

4. The trickiest part for our Japanese Speedo guy is that with the two other guys “doing” him, he has no control whatsoever over where the vibrator head goes next. Doing this myself, I can simply move the vibrator to another position on my body if I start feeling that ejaculation is on the edge of being imminent.

5. The science and chemistry on this is very interesting, and I've done some more detailed writing on that in the new understanding male sexuality book on Amazon. The short version is that as ejaculation becomes imminent, the brain sends signals to flood the muscles that spasm in ejaculation with nitric oxide. It is the flood of nitric oxide that causes the muscles that result in ejaculation to go into an involuntary ejaculatory spasm. Once the nitric oxide flood occurs, ejaculation cannot be stopped and is only moments away. A guy can learn to slow this process, but some point, the guy can no longer stave off the impending flood of nitric oxide any more, and ejaculation happens.

6. Some guys do not realize that the process that leads to an erection and engorgement of the penis biologically is very different from the process that results in the involuntary muscle spasms of ejaculation. The two processes are ultimately interrelated but quite separate.

7. I first learned about all of this playing around with the jets of a hot tub. Get the underside of the shaft of your penis close enough to the pulsating jet, and you will ejaculate almost immediately, erection or not. The sensation is something like the sensation of having semen vacuumed out of your penis.

8. It is possible to do much the same thing with a hand-held vibrator, even if your penis is contained within a swimsuit. And as your erection builds, you need to be more and more careful so as to not go into immediate and uncontrollable ejaculatory mode. The trick, of course, is moving the vibrator back and forth close to and momentarily on the penis and then quickly to other parts of the body, while you “cool down” a bit. Also, as you get erect, the underside of the head of the penis will be especially sensitive, and at some point just one touch of the vibrator head on the underside of the penis head could send you into an immediate and uncontrollable ejaculation.

9. So, somehow our Japanese Speedo guy has learned how to stave off the flood of nitric oxide, despite the enormous physical and psychological pressures of the moment. You can see that he is literally writhing and groaning in a delicious agony during his efforts to stave off ejaculation, and that is really what makes the video so much fun to watch. His brain is being flooded with naturally-occurring endomorphisms, and psychologically he is having great fun dealing with it all. A lot of the fun of gay sex is getting to see the partner struggle with this up close, and no guy, straight or gay, is going to be able to watch this without himself getting aroused to a cerain degree.

10. There are drugs that have the side effects of delaying ejaculation, generally those of the class of the so-called Seratonin Re-uptake Inhibitors, examples being the drugs commonly used to treat anxiety, depression, panic-attacks and in smoking cessation treatments (trade names such as Prozac and Paxil). As I understand the chemistry here, the Seratonin Re-uptake inhibitors is that they slow or perhaps stop the series of events that have to occur of the nitric oxide that triggers ejaculation to occur.

11. Straight guys taking these drugs sometimes complain that they can engage in penis-vagina sex with their female partners literally for an hour or more without ejaculating, and delayed ejaculation can become a medical problem. (If your erection lasts for more than 4 hours you need to get to the emergency room!)

12. So, given the difficulty I personally have staving off ejaculation with a vibrator I control circulating around and then on my penis, I am not saying this at all for certain, but the Japanese Speedo guy could be taking a Seratonin Re-uptake inhibitor which is to a degree partially shutting down the body chemistry that leads to an uncontrolled ejaculatory spasm, he may be getting a bit of “help” from one of the drugs.

13. YOU can run your own experiments if you want, and post your results here.