[sebbie]

How much tension can a guy tolerate?

Once a guy reaches puberty, one of the first problems he faces is the possibility of getting an erection in a situation that seems unconnected to the idea of being in a sexual relationship of one sort or another. An event like this seems to come on at nearly random occasions and sometimes when a guy is trying to be thinking about something else. This is weird. Really weird. And, of course the worst-case scenario is for the erection to head straight into a full-blown ejaculation. And double or quadruple that if something like this happens when there are others around. This is supposed to be a private thing, happening in private and certainly without anyone else staring at what exactly is going on.

I suspect that nearly every guy as an adult has images of situations that did not go as planned in this regard when the guy was in school or even as a young adult. The male body is quite active in this regard and does not let any guy off the hook without having gotten into a few scary incidents of this sort—incidents that somehow get firmly burned into the guys head for the rest of his life. I realize that while a lot of guys tend to go over these incidents on a regular basis, this is not something most guys would ever be comfortable with talking about to any other person male or female, under any circumstances.

These incidents are part of the psyche of nearly every male but get buried deep in the mind of who a guy really is. Still, in a strange sort of way, reliving these episodes can be not only interesting but may even play a key element in making a guy once again “feel horny”. But then, guys who regularly engage in partner sex keep a virtual memory bank of things they got to do that were particularly enjoyable with a sexual partner as well. And many guys no doubt like to replay the videotape in their brains involving one or more partner-focused sexual encounters that were particularly interesting and arousing. Whether the psychological videotape involves a current sexual partner or some past encounter with a different person is only known to the guy. Still, reliving past experiences of this sort, whether alone or with a partner, is an important part of who a guy really is from a sexual perspective.

As for me, I really like feeling horny. It is a critical part of who I am as a person and as a human being. It is a part of life that may seem all but trivial even though it is very important to me. Maybe oddly from the perspective of some guys, I am so fond of feeling horny that this part frequently overwhelms the whole idea of proceeding to a full-blown orgasm. I love the simmering part, so to speak. I am so overwhelmed by this that I admit that I haven’t quite figured out the guys who seem to enjoy proceeding to a full-blown ejaculation as quickly as possible whether they are alone or with a partner. To me, ejaculation is a great release of tension that is incredible fun but only for a fleeting moment or two, followed by, well, nothing. Instead I want to spend an entire afternoon or a whole night feeling good down there about my body and who I am as a guy.

For most guys, a key part of growing up is getting confronted by clothing items that they have not worn before, and items that the guy thinks deep down fit in such a way as to be a sexual turn-on unrelated to being in a sexual situation with another person. Often this might involve an article of clothing that fits a little too snug or much too snug in the groin area. For a young teen, maybe a pair of jeans that somehow got pushed to the back of a closet and haven’t been worn for a couple years and now they fit really snug. Or a pair of brief underwear that got pushed back into a dresser drawer and has lain there for a couple years. What was merely snug before is really tight-fitting now.

I do not know how widespread this is, but if I did this then other guys probably did it too. Some guys (maybe many or even most guys) gradually develop a “collection” of clothing items that they use as an aid to masturbation. These are often items that fit properly two years ago but are way undersized now. The ultra-snug fit is where the fun is. And the guy can feel perfectly free to masturbate to ejaculation in each item because the item gets returned to a safe place in the back of the drawer or closet and only comes out when the guy is alone and wants to do it again. Of course, gradually the starchy semen stains build up over time, but the stains themselves easily become part of the subsequent-turn on.

Growing up I had this thing for undersized jeans and swimwear that fit me right but a few years earlier, stuff that would have been discarded had my parents known the items were still there. When my parents left me alone for any length of time, I would dig out one of the items and have a freewheeling masturbation session followed by a powerful ejaculation. By the time my parents returned the soggy item was back in a safe place again. Weird huh? Or maybe not so weird or uncommon!

Guys all but universally enjoy feeling horny. Take jeans, for example. Why are there jeans with a so-called regular fit but then skinny jeans, ultra skinny jeans and even super skinny jeans? Well guys may “prefer” a certain cut. But deep down the whole idea is probably rooted in the notion that while a new pair of skinny jeans with a snugger fit than what a guy had been “used” to wearing might make a guy feel horny, then the even snugger fits will work even better in this regard. How snug a fit depends on how far a guy wants tp press his luck so to speak in not getting a visible erection while wearing the jeans or get himself into a situation where an unwanted and embarrassing ejaculation occurs. But some guys are looking to press luck so to speak by wearing skinnier jeans that they think their male buds could tolerate.

There is a new Jockey underwear commercial out that is really interesting. In it the wife shows a guy a new pair of silver Lycra blend jammer style underwear and the guy says that is my new “go to” underwear.(Even “normal” guys like the “snug fit”) Then she shows him a male thong. And he says something to the effect that he would never wear underwear that skimpy and the fit must be like wearing dental floss. I gather that the ad is designed to get guys interested in owning both the Lycra-infosed jammers, AND for the daring, maybe even a thong to see whether or not the fit is like wearing dental floss or has something else interesting going for it. Clearly the woman wants to see him wearing the thong.

So, teenagers are often confronted with situation where participation in a sport requires them to wear a strap often with a cup, and many guys are wary about that as to what putting something like that on is going to result in an immediate and embarrassing hard-on. At some level they are scared, and maybe even scared stiff. But a critical part of this is learning how your male peers are “coping” when confronted with the same “problem”. A strap might be a fine thing to wear for masturbation in private, but can a guy be expected to participate in a sport while wearing one? Good question.

The same with the classic swim team swim brief. I suspect most guys would love to take a swim brief home, put it on in private, and watch in the mirror as to what happens to his body in it. Getting into and wearing one in the presence of peers, maybe at first the other male swimmers but at some point females as well, is a completely different matter entirely. The latter issue is the big problem.

A similar issue applies to other kinds of snug-fitting athletic wear. Even swim jammers but especially wrestling singlets, the latter being the bane of many student wrestlers for (what could easily be) obvious reasons.

Ahhh, the fun of being a guy….