[sebbie]

Part LXXX

Finding a properly-fitting garment almost always involves something of an “empirical experiment.” I never quite know what I am getting myself into until I actually am able to try the garment on and, especially, get to see how I look in the mirror.

This statement applies to a wide range of garments, swimming briefs and thongs, briefs and thongs designed to be worn as underwear not as swimwear, compression gear style underwear. Plus, what invariably enters the equation is the particular “mood” that I am in at the time I am making my decisions with respect to what I will be wearing that day.

I have been doing some reading from a collection of sources on my favorite subject, male sexuality, with a particular reference to what is going on around the clock with respect to the male sexual organs. Some “viable” males are in a sexual relationship with a partner, but there are also a lot of (us) “loners” out there, that is, guys who for a host of different reasons are not engaged in regular partner sex.

I have long-believed that guys who are not having partner sex on a regular basis should be denied the pleasures of still being a “sexually-active” male. Meanwhile I have been reading the literature on rehabilitation after prostate cancer surgery (that would be me, for example) and, oddly enough, I have been running into some interesting ideas that could be applied not only to recovering from prostate surgery but also for practically any “viable” male of any age. A of what I am reading seems to focus on guys who have a female sexual partner, and how she might be able to actively “participate” in the prostate surgery recovery process. The guy who lives alone, immensely enjoys masturbating, and just wants to get back to enjoying himself as he did pre-surgery apparently is not a significant concern for the medical profession, as every step in the recovery process is focused on rebuilding an an ability to get and maintain an erection sufficient to have intercourse.

Still, what I have been learning is rather interesting. Biologically, it is normal for males past puberty to have erections during the night that occur in multiple cycles of tumescence and flaccidity , perhaps as many as 6 or 8 cycles in a single night! (I thought the number was closer to 1 or 2). As any 14-year old, at least some of these erections end up being a wet dreams that conclude as the guy ejaculates during the night, though these full ejaculatory events taper off and become less frequent usually once a guy gets into his late teens and gets into a regular schedule of masturbating to ejaculation in the waking hours of the day. (This brings me back to the popularity of single rooms in college dorms.)

Still, these regular tumescence-flaccidity cycles of multiple erections are a normal part of the night life of healthy males whether that male has a sexual partner sleeping next to him or not. Furthermore, the cycles that occur during the night occur for a purpose and are vital in maintaining a guy’s sexual health. For guys not in a sexually-active relationship, a regular masturbation schedule (perhaps every day or two at least) can be thought of as a form of “exercise” not unlike me getting on my stationary bike or rowing machine on a daily basis (which is also important for sexual health because the continuing exercise makes the heart and blood flow better. The combination of the two forms of exercise is perfect!

So, what is a guy to do? In particular, what about the guy who for whatever reason does not have a sexual partner? One of the side effects of prostate surgery is that nerves are damaged and that results in a breakdown in these normal nighttime cycles of tumescence and flaccidity, and that this whole system needs to be rehabilitated.

But, most guys do not face this situation. My general conclusion is that it is at least as important for a guy living alone to be feeling horny as he crawls into bed as it is for a happily-married guy who has a partner beside him willing and ready for partner-sex with copulation. Maybe more important! Let me say that again. Maybe more important!

The only catch is in finding a unique path which assures that you will feel horny as you crawl into bed. Of course, there are lots of things a guy can do to help this along. Some of this involves mental activities such as watching a sexy movie or reading a story that is sexually arousing. What you want to try and do is create a situation whereby your penis will be certain to go through cycles of tumescence and flaccidity during the night, and if a porno video or sexually-arousing book does this for you, great!

But sexual sensations and feelings are always a goofy mix of the physical and the psychological. Guys would not have Web sites devoted to the wonders of wearing swim briefs if there was not something physical happening that was sexually arousing, for example. Nor would guys spend time energy and money finding potentially sexually-arousing gear (see list at the start of this chapter). The stuff a guy enjoys wearing for a masturbation episode is exactly what it is also needed to keep a guy horny enough so that his body goes through these multiple episodes of tumescence and flaccidity during the night and no guy should feel even a little bit guilty about doing this on a regular basis.

Ever since my prostate surgery over 5 years ago, I have been in this mode of being able to recover to the point where I enjoy my sexual being as much as I enjoyed being a guy prior to surgery. Only last night I learned that medical doctors believe that for guys who lack sexual partners, getting back to a regular masturbation schedule as quickly as possible after the surgery is complete is an important part of the rehab process post-surgery. (Fortunately, that is what I found myself trying to do anyway and I started working on this fairly soon after surgery, even though my erections were obviously not nearly as strong as they were before surgery.)

It turns out, the “stunts” I was doing bedtime-wise before surgery are equally important for what is called by MDs as “penis rehab”. That is, I want to try and make sure I am doing things that make me feel horny just before crawling into bed. Indeed, it is best to feel horny but NOT immediately take that to orgasm to increase the odds of getting back into a regular set of nighttime tumescence cycles. But this idea applies equally to guys who have NOT had prostate surgery and simply are interested in doing “exercises” to help ensure that the plumbing is all in first-class condition. If this is “treatment” is also fun to do, that is a “side” benefit.

So, think of a snug-fitting swim brief as the equivalent of a stationary bike or a rowing machine, but for helping maintain and improve the health of your male sexual organs. Wear one that you are particularly fond of to bed. It’s the combination of snug fit along with the slick, smooth cloth that will help your penis get erect and go through these critical cycles of tumescence and flaccidity. If, by doing this, at some time during the night you end up ejaculating, well, congratulations. You have taken the process one step farther. Make your resolution to be that you are never going to crawl into bed without making certain that your mind is telling you that you are feeling horny and that you like very much the physical and psychological sensations you are experiencing.

I can’t tell you what specific item you should wear to bed to make you feel good in this way, except to say that over the years I have accumulated a lot of different items that I thought in some manner would be fun to wear, and I keep changing off. Last night, it was a slick, smooth swim brief, and since the weather was cold I slipped a pair of loose-fitting sleep pants and a tee over. I did not have an orgasm during the night (at least I do not think I did) but I am still feeling quite horny while writing this, even though this morning I’m wearing a snug fitting pair of running tights along with a pair of sweat pants over plus a compression tee and a sweatshirt. All in the name of post-surgical penis rehab ROFL.

Enjoy yourselves as I always try to do.

To be continued…