[sebbie]

Part LVII

As many of my readers know, I am interested in all aspects of being a guy and all aspects of male sexuality. But if I have any particular interest, it is in helping guys of any age who for whatever reason, find themselves alone as in without a sexual partner. This situation might be by choice or in coping with what once was or a partner situation but now is not. I’ve observed that a lot of guys who live as singles without a sexual partner behave as if they are truly miserable, as if somehow their own bodies are no longer fun to be in. To me, that some guys even think this way is sad. I am here to tell you that being alone is not the end of the world from the standpoint of sexual enjoyment. In fact the situation you are in can be a lot of fun. So, here is what I experienced, alone, last night.

A few of you might have read my “Spending the night in a cup” paper that is still on the Internet. In it, I explain in detail a solo-sex experience I had that I thought was really quite profoundly wonderful in a host of different ways. But, I somehow hadn’t “messed” with the techniques in exactly the way I described in that paper in several years. And I got to thinking to myself maybe what I did there maybe was not that great an experience any more.

So, I think back as to the methods I employed way back, and checked to see if I still had the necessary bits and pieces of equipment close to what I used back then. Turns out, I did even though the exact items may be more difficult to find today. More about this later.,

To fully understand what I have been doing, you need to learn a bit about male sexual biology if you have not learned about this already. Every male has a special spot called the perineum, which is a place on the male body that is directly behind the scrotum between your scrotum and anus. This is sometimes referred to as the male “G” spot, as it is a place that a bunch of sensitive nerve endings terminate—nerve endings that are interconnected with “feeling horny”. Not only that, the perineum is located directly beneath the male prostate, so if a guy puts pressure on the spot, he indirectly stimulates the prostate gland, which also feels really good. It is if there is a hard wire running directly from the perineum to the sexual pleasure center in your brain. This might be a spot a lot of guys, single or in a relationship, may not know even exists.

In the US, thong underwear for men really only showed up in stores as a serious option in the late 1980s, and, oddly enough, few chain retailers carry it any more. But it is still readily available on line. Thongs—actually merely getting into a thong, is an interesting process that has a not-to-be-missed sexual awareness component to it.

Any thong has a pouch designed to contain your penis and balls attached to a cord. Generally, the pouch made of a stretchy cloth is just big enough to contain a guy’s balls and his flaccid penis. And at the base of the pouch there is likely a sewn connector that connects the pouch to a cord or perhaps narrow band of elastic running to the rear of the waistband. The cord or elastic band is meant to run in the butt crack between the glutes. This means that the cord will be brushing against the anal area as well, which is also a more sexually-active body part than many guys fully appreciate.

The really fun part, of course, is to give the elastic cord a firm tug, cinching it tightly between the glutes. This does two things. The cord gets drawn past the anal area, which can be sexy fun. But the more important part is that the snugger the cord fits the more upward pressure there will be on the perineum—the area on a guys body that is really sexually active.

Meanwhile the penis and balls are contained in the snug pouch. Merely getting into the right (perhaps some would say “wrong”) thong probably will give a guy at least a bit of a hard-on. The thong is pushing all the best male body parts upward and forward. But even more interestingly, even a slight erection invariably puts still more upward pressure on the perineum. Tugging on the cord at the rear magnifies the sensations.

Why some guys like to wear thong underwear is that they have figured out what I have just told you. Why some guys refuse to wear thong underwear is that they realize they could easily get themselves into a situation where things start to happen that they cannot consciously control, and what could happen could easily lead to an embarrassing situation (if seeing a peer in a locker room wearing a thong is not already embarrassing enough).

So guys who have figured out more or less what happens end up with something of a “love-hate” relationship with male thong underwear. They love the sensations but worry that what they are doing to themselves might lead to a situation they would rather not have to face.

That is why if you want to mess around it is handy to be living alone and not be dealing with a sexual partner at the same time.

What to do? Find a nice thong and make plans to wear it at bedtime, though an entire night, and see how your body copes with the interesting things that are happening. In colder weather, one could wear a favorite thong under a pair of loose-fitting sleep pants. The idea is to keep feeling horny all night long but not to jerk off.

Of course, there is more to this. I have found a favorite old thong, one made by Jockey many years ago. It looks innocent enough, just white cotton with a simple pouch and a narrow band of elastic made to fit snugly between the glutes. But this simple thong I already know packs a wallop of fun sensations. Somehow it really makes my perineum feel good. It pushes my penis and balls up and forward into an interesting place. And every time I give the cord a little tug it feels oh so good as my anal area is brushed and the perineum gets punched just a bit more one more time. Sensation overload!

So the idea is to crawl into this thong and spend the night sleeping in it feeling horny but not jerking off, I want to keep control of my body for as much of the night as possible without going into involuntary contractions of an orgasm if I can while all of this is going on. But there is more to this. A lot more. A still bigger challenge awaits.

To be continued….