[sebbie]

From early adolescence extending into adulthood, a guy must cope with a host of different feelings and sensations that are directly or indirectly related to sex. What is happening to my body and why? How is all of this mixed together with finding a sexual partner or not? How much of what I am doing, and perhaps enjoying immensely must I keep totally secret, and what if anything can I reveal to another person or persons? And who might the other person or persons be? A parent? A sibling? A close male friend, or, god forbid perhaps, a female friend?

And how do I handle all of this? Male masturbation has had a bad reputation almost from the dawn of humanity. Attitudes have shifted somewhat on the subject, but if you read things on the subject written in the 1950s and earlier it seemed that the advice being given was that it was certainly undesirable if not abnormal for guys to masturbate. Since practically every young guy was doing it, this became one of humanities deepest and darkest secrets, interspersed with scare stories about guys going blind and being uncompetitive in sports.

Parents more or less accepted the notion that boys past puberty were going to have wet dreams and this was not something under the boy’s direct control. These things just happened in the middle of the night when the guy was sleeping and that stains on sheets and pajamas were just a normal part of a boy’s life growing up.

Many guys were like me in this regard, given that uncontrolled wet dreams were considered normal happenings for an adolescent male, but masturbation was considered not normal and undesirable behavior. It is a lot more fun to ejaculate while awake than asleep, who is to be the wiser if a guy just takes advantage of this and secretly masturbates to ejaculation under the covers? Problem solved! Well, not quite, perhaps.

A famous book in the early 1970s was “Everything you always wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask”. By the 1970s you would have thought that attitudes about masturbation would have become more open minded, but not really. Here was an expert on sex and sexuality writing an entire chapter on masturbation. Generally the conclusion reached was that this was something that young people past puberty may temporarily do and that is OK then, but this activity will quickly be replaced as soon as a suitable partner was found! The notion that a guy might choose to continue to enjoy masturbating for his entire adult life even in a relationship was unthinkable!

Of course, the same book has a chapter devoted to the behavior of gays with the conclusion that nearly every gay who wants to turn straight can do so if only the right sexual psychiatrist expert in converting gay people can be found.

This brings me back to Dylan and Josh, who have found a bunch of really fun ways to masturbate most of which involve an article of snug-fitting clothing. A guess a lot of sex experts would regard what Dylan and Josh are doing to themselves in a fetish since it involves an inanimate object, a swim brief, a strap, compression gear, a wrestling singlet. But wait! Each of these items “do” something to them that physically makes what they are doing a lot more enjoyable that if each of them were simply stroking parts on their own nude bodies.

Think about this. I can go to a Walmart store and find all sorts of items designed to make male-female intercourse more enjoyable for both partners, and these are sold with detailed information about what each product is and why it is enjoyable. There are condoms with ribs designed to make a guy’s female partner quickly reach high arousal levels, various creams and lotions from making sure the body parts can fit together and move in relation to each other with ease, battery-powered vibrating rings designed to send guys to another level on the erection/hardness front, and this is just the stuff on the shelf at Walmart. On line shopping identifies a host of other products for the same purpose that Walmart deems somehow beyond what they want to sell from a store shelf. But you get the idea.

I think one of the most interesting things that Dylan and Josh did in this respect in an earlier chapter was to purchase for each other each series of three or four swim briefs starting with the size they normally would wear down to a ones that were seriously undersized. They both were fully aware of what they were going to do with the swim briefs. If you remember, the whole idea was to try on each swim brief and for each of them to get the penis and scrotum into the proper position, with the penis pointed up and the underside pressing against the smooth-and-slick fabric.

Then if the guy didn’t go into an uncontrollable ejaculation, the next step was to remove that brief and attempt go get into a brief that was a couple inches smaller in waist size and therefore snugger and tighter still. Maintaining ejaculatory control will keep getting more and more difficult as the briefs keep getting smaller and tighter.

As you remember, neither Dylan nor Josh was able to make it through the entire pile of larger to smaller briefs without ejaculating. That would have taken serious ejaculatory control, which neither of them has at this point in their lives.

So, do Dylan and Josh have a fetish given the involvement of the inanimate swim briefs, or are they engaging in activities similar to the male Walmart shopper seeking condoms with ridges that will get his partner excited, vibrating rings, or lotions designed to make the body parts of two different people rub against each other more easily? After all, these are inanimate objects as well.

The other complicated part of all of this with Dylan and Josh is that a guy might very well want to see how far he can press himself with the various swim briefs in complete privacy, but surely Dylan struggling with this was surely more fun for him while watching Josh struggle with his own attempt to do the exact same thing. And vice versa. Is this just two male friends jerking off together so to speak, or does this mean that Dylan and Josh both have a gay side to their person even if neither admits that to themselves or each other. Is what Dylan and Josh did a form of gay sex, or not? No bodily fluids were interchanged and neither touched the other, just observed what was happening to the other

To be continued….