[sebbie]

I have thought a lot about guys and the relationship between mind and body. I fully realize that for a lot of guys, sexual feelings and partner relationships are intertwined to a degree where it is difficult if not impossible to separate the two. And I admit that many, perhaps most guys pass seamlessly from their first orgasm at puberty into at least thinking about the possibility of having “real sex” with a partner. In this regard, most guys are straight (turned on by females) but some are gay (turned on by males) but some seem to be living in a situation whereby the sex of the other is “fluid” so to speak, and these people may label themselves as bisexual, or not. They may claim to be only interested sexually in one sex or the other, whatever is “convenient” to claim to others.

But is this all there is? Does every guy travel seamlessly from puberty into a sexual relationship with a partner? What if a guy gets sidetracked, so to speak, playing sexually with himself? Of course, unlike sexual conquests involving a female partner, male self-abuse is not something guys routinely discuss with each other, except when guys go into a teasing and bullying mode, which is another story entirely.

Still, males not in a sexual relationship with a partner are not sexually brain-dead, or at least most of them are not. Moments of feeling horny leading to arousal occur regularly, relentlessly, and often seemingly spontaneously, in a relationship or not. Many guys struggle with this, whether they are in a relationship or not. A lot of guys do not have a well thought-out plan for dealing with this, yet coping with the situation can get to the point of being a burden, rather than a source of intense pleasure.

Enjoying sexual feelings by yourself, aka solo sex, or more commonly called masturbation, still has very bad press even in the 21st century. I admit some progress has been made. Young guys discovered masturbating are not going to go blind or lose their athletic skills. But the potential teasing and bullying if a guy is discovered masturbating by peers remains a very real problem. The weird part about this is that the guys doing the teasing and bullying probably masturbate as well, but as of yet have just not been caught by their peers, and the teasing and bullying of the guy who got caught is a way of coping with their own embarrassment and guilt with regard to what they have been doing to and with themselves.

So, in a way, Dylan and Josh are both enlightened in this regard. Each of them has come up with ways for enjoying their own bodies free of any of these concerns at least with respect to each other. This is quite a step. I suspect that most guys, straight, gay or someplace in between, would like to have a male friend that is close enough to be able to feel comfortable doing this.

So, Josh’s struggle wearing that little thong, and Dylan’s realization that Josh is struggling being in the thong, makes Dylan feel aroused. And, of course, Dylan “taught” Josh a lot about how much fun various kinds of snug-fitting clothing can be. Josh starts to get horny feeling just thinking about some of the stuff Dylan does to his own body. Does this mean that Dylan and Josh are both gay and simply have not admitted it, or would this happen to most any pair of guys placed in the same or a similar position? That is a great question!

The other interesting part of this is that for most guys, first encounters with especially snug-fitting clothing most often occurs in conjunction with participation in some sort of athletic pursuit, pursuits that normally start in the early teen years when a guy is still learning a lot about how his body behaves.

The classic example is the first encounter with a little, snug-fitting swim brief when a guy takes up swimming with a young team. But think about it. There are other classic examples. Say the young wrestler encountering for the first time a snug-fitting wrestling singlet. The first encounter of a young baseball player with a strap and a cup. Or the young football player who has to deal not only with a strap, but with those really snug-fitting football pants. And the young basketball players frequently wear compression gear under their team uniforms. Guys are both scared and what might happen yet want desperately to get into whatever the item is. A weird combination for sure!

Guys that age who do not participate in a sport are at least curious about how other guys cope with the situations that arise in relation to the specific sport. The complicating factor is that guys participating in each of these sports dress and undress in common locker rooms with other semi-clad or unclad guys wandering around. Erections are going to be obvious to other guys your age. This could lead to teasing and bullying as well.

A basic issue relates to the idea of whether or not only a small share of guys would be sexually aroused when placed in a situation like this whereby wearing certain stuff that fits snugly around the genitals is mandatory, or whether guys almost universal among guys. A more general issue is whether or not most guys would get aroused if being in this situation, or whether or not this happens to only a small percentage of guys.

We seem to be moving back to a situation where snug-fitting clothing of all sorts is becoming more and more popular with guys, right now especially snug-fitting jeans. Guys seem to be rediscovering how interesting all of this is for both mind and body.

I hold the view that these feelings are nearly universal for guys, regardless of claimed sexual orientation (or not). It’s just a matter of pressing the right (or some would say wrong) buttons so to speak. Guys almost universally enjoy wearing something that is snug-fitting around the genitals, and they (perhaps secretly) think it is fun seeing other guys doing the same. Dylan loves watching Josh struggle in that little thong. There is any number of items Dylan wears that gets Josh going as well, and always a surprise to see what Dylan does next in this regard. Should Dylan and Josh label themselves as gay not straight because of this, or are they simply dealing with something that is near universal for guys?

To be continued…