[sebbie]

For those of you who have been reading all my chapters, you certainly realize that the information contained in them is directed toward ways that guys can find to enjoy being guys to the maximum extent possible without harming themselves or in any way harming or hurting another person—someone either male or female.

The news media are filled with stories of sexual encounters gone bad and doing harm. That bothers me a lot, because I am very aware of the possibilities for guys that are quite enjoyable and yet do not create the psychosexual messes that we keep reading and hearing about day after day. A sobering thought to think about is if a sexual relationship is such a wonderful, life altering thing, why are there so many divorces and why do men suddenly become so unenthusiastic about what was supposed to be a mind-and-body-focused relationship? I’ve looked for a basic answer to this question for decades but I keep coming away concluding that sometimes male-female relationships work for a variety of reasons, occasionally sexual but most often the partners simply enjoy each other’s company, and getting laid is not the centerpiece that holds the relationship together at all.

I am not certain that the gay world is all that different from the straight world either. In some ways a gay male relationship starts out on firmer ground in that because guys understand how their own body works, they can more easily understand what might make another guy happy sexually. Women are like suddenly landing in a foreign country where you speak none of the language. Eventually you might figure some of it out but only if you work at it real hard. So be it.

So, every time I start engaging in deep thought on how partner relationships—gay or straight—work or don’t work, I keep thinking about myself and my own body. All of you must know by now that I am truly fond of my sexual being, and I am always trying to come up with new ways for enjoying myself. Of course, I am saying that euphemistically but I’m sure by now you all know what I mean.

Now, this does not mean that what I write is somehow useless in a real partner-based relationship. It might very well be. Some of what I write about you might get the courage to share with a partner, although it is important to keep in mind that

1. Specific masturbation techniques are still regarded as among the most “taboo” topics in human sexuality, but this is particularly true for many if not most males. Guys typically don’t share this information with each other at all. Of course, gay males may handle this a little differently from guys who think of themselves as straight.

2. Masturbation techniques that involve articles of clothing in any way (swim briefs, compression gear, athletic supporters etc.) are considered several notches more taboo than plain ordinary stroking oneself to orgasm. Most guys might admit on occasion that they occasionally stroke themselves, but fessing up to the idea that they put on a swim brief to make the sensations more intense would be simply going “over the top” in terms of taboo topics.

3. Still, no one ever got pregnant or an STD while stroking oneself while wearing a swim brief. It’s a sexual outlet that is 100% safe assuming a guy does it in private and does not get charged for masturbating in public. That is saying something important for sure. There are readily available sexual releases for guys that do no harm to anyone. They are of course a little different than “real” exchange of bodily fluids partner sex. Maybe if guys weren’t all so wary and potentially embarrassed about accidentally getting “discovered” pleasuring themselves in this way, society as a whole would be better off as well.

I got to thinking about my own sexual being as a male and the extreme enjoyment my body has given me over the years. It has been, and continues to be a terrific “ride” so to speak. My penis is a wonderful organ, always sensitive to my touch, but also telling me that the underside is far more sensitive and capable of producing really exiting sensations even when I am only a little bit aroused and erect. I presume most other guys have figured this out as well, perhaps a long time ago. The only issue with this when masturbating is that if you focus entirely on the underside, you may end up getting off far faster than you really want to. The nerve endings on the underside are so sensitive that they may send you into a convulsive like orgasm much quicker than you wanted to go. Of course, the glans area is more sensitive still and it takes some research to determine exactly what you can and cannot do stimulating the underside of the penis without almost immediately going off.

A small vibrator can of course add to the fun. Those same nerve endings on the underside that are readily stimulated by just the fit and feel of the swim brief go into overtime with any sort of vibrating stimuli, even just a bit of it. A first attempt at doing this will likely have you blowing almost immediately, and you will need to study carefully the entire puzzle as to exactly when to stop and restart the vibrating stimulation so that you don’t blow almost immediately. Just the sound of the vibrator can be like a bell ringing for Pavlov’s dog in terms of getting you quickly to an orgasm.

Finally, think of the things Dylan and Josh have been doing in private in their little dorm room. Josh’s fondness for that little thong, Dylan’s love for skimpy swim briefs. Now think of a situation where both of them are enjoying themselves and their favorite item of clothing while watching each other jerk off as well. Now let’s think about introducing a vibrator into the situation whereby they are watching each other jerk off too. The vibrator is there so that each of them can use it on themselves or each other.

Dylan wants to feel the vibrations on the underside of his penis now pointed up in the swim brief. Josh’s penis is pushed forward in the thong pouch with upward pressure on the perineum. That perineum area is a wonderful place, just wonderful. Josh would like to better understand how he would feel if the little vibrator shifted alternately between stimulating his perineum area just behind his scrotum, and the underside of his pouch-contained penis. Should Josh try this maneuver with the vibrator himself? Dare he let Dylan apply the vibrator? Dylan is wondering exactly the same thing. Perfectly safe fun here,,,,of course! But both Dylan and Josh are really climbing the walls right now, so to speak.

To be continued….