[sebbie]

Part of the fun of being a guy is not knowing quite how your body will react to a situation that it has not been in before. If you stop and think about it, the whole idea of dealing or coping with the unknown or unexpected is at the very core of getting a firm grasp on what makes sex with a partner in all its forms so compelling and interesting. Surely in a relationship there are new experiences to be savored or enjoyed every day, or at least that is the key driving force that brings human beings together. An interesting question to ponder is where humanity would be were it not for all of this.

In this regard, Dylan and Josh are barreling down a side road with respect to human sexuality. On this side road, there is still an assortment of activities that can be savored and enjoyed, yet the trail does not quite lead to the same place as the main road leads which involves direct sex with a partner. Of course, this in fact is the part that makes the situation so interesting for each of them, and the part that is not discussed in any textbook that includes chapters on male sexuality, or if the topic is addressed even in a cursory fashion, it is usually addressed in a derisive fashion.

This goes back to the old-school 1950s and earlier belief that masturbation in general is something of an inferior form of sex if it can be called a form of sex at all, which is a related debate, and that real sex must somehow always involve the interchange of bodily fluids between two people. Then some statement is normally made that one a guy “discovers” real sex, that is, two bodies connecting , that the guy will suddenly lose all interest in solo masturbation and move on with his life to more fulfilling partner sex.

Of course, we could get into a discussion here as to what various authors have said with regard to whether or not gay sex between two males however defined in terms of specifics is real sex or not either. The modern politically-correct view seems to be that any sex involving two individuals is now classified as real sex and that intercourse between a male and female partner is not some higher form of sex than, say sex between two males or between two females. But, if the world has largely come around to that enlightened view, and that it is responsible to think of sex from that frame of reference, then it might also be appropriate to start thinking about solo sex (aka masturbation) from an newly enlightened perspective as well.

It is not long after puberty that a guy begins to realize that there are any number of triggering methods that under the right or perhaps wrong circumstances can lead to sexual arousal, and that a lot of the triggering mechanisms that seem to work quite well. What is generally more disconcerting is that many of these triggering mechanisms may seem to have little if anything to do with partner sex as traditionally defined by the books on the subject and experienced.

Here we have walked through these a lot of these experiences dozens of times through the eyes and bodies of Dylan and Josh. For that matter, the same or very similar for Bill and Joe. Guys learn at an early age that their bodies might respond in interesting ways to various kinds of snug-fitting clothing, swim briefs, jock straps, thong underwear, wrestling singlets, compression gear of various sorts, even particularly snug-fitting jeans. For the most part, as high school students guys generally do not have the opportunity to act on what amounts to an understanding about themselves that for whatever reason they think they need to keep hidden.

But once in college, many of the rules seem to change. The four guys knew exactly why they were purchasing various items of clothing, and what the consequences for their minds and bodies might be, never better illustrated that the recent swim brief orders by Dylan and Josh. These purchases were made not with the idea that these items were going to be easily worn without any arousal at all—in fact, quite the opposite. The orders would have been meaningless had they NOT had these “impacts” and their minds and bodies.

And, what happened as a consequence for all four of them, happened. Indeed, it is all happening as I write this, with Dylan and Josh struggling to keep it together in the face of tremendous pressures and urges to ejaculate in the process of simply attending their college classes. The classes of course might be helpful in distracting each of them enough so that they are able to make it through the day without a potentially embarrassing situation developing in which things get out of control.

Still, the whole sequence of events, however potentially embarrassing, is really fun, interesting, not to be missed, and all that stuff. And then there is the realization on Dylan’s part that Josh must be really struggling to keep in control of the situation, and Josh’s realization that Dylan too must be undergoing being in a tough situation for certain—a fun place for sure but also a difficult place. Ahhh male sexual arousal is fun…great fun, blow me away fun. Are Dylan and Josh somehow connecting in what might be deemed a weird mind but not physical bonding embodying partner sex of some sort? Somehow the books on male sexuality missed that chapter entirely!

To be continued…