A lot of guys shortly after puberty sets in discover that their penises don’t always behave like a guy might expect. Generally penises like to become tense, hard and erect when a guy thinks about or encounters something he regards as sexually exciting. Not long after, guys learn that there are situations that other guys think are OK to get hard-on. Generally, these involve an encounter with a female regarded as sexy pretty. But other instances where a penis gets hard and erect are not considered socially acceptable.
Still, a guy soon determines that male sexually is not anywhere near this simple. For starters, sometimes guys have “reactions” just thinking about stuff. While sometimes these daydreams (or night dreams) may involve a female, sometimes this stuff may go off in many other directions, the scariest direction being a situation that involves no female at all. Young gay guys may daydream or night dream about an encounter with another guy, and these dreams may parallel to a large degree those that straight guys have, except for the gender, of course. My objective today is not to go down that trail, but instead head down a different trail.
Nearly every guy at some point in his life has gotten into a situation where he has gotten an erection at a time and in a situation that he deems inappropriate, or at least his male peers would think is inappropriate. A lot of these happen in instances where there is no partner present at all. A lot of guys are really embarrassed by all of this, and think that there is something wrong simply because the guy’s head is saying one thing and the guy’s body is clearly saying something different. It’s this old problem of getting aroused in a situation where the guy thinks he isn’t supposed to be aroused.
No better example of this problem that a guy who gets aroused whenever he wears snug-fitting clothing, or even thinks about wearing snug-fitting clothing. Now there is nothing unsafe or illegal about wearing snug-fitting clothing. The only real problem is that if the other guys discover that I like to do this, I will likely get teased or bullied, unless, of course, there are other guys out there who also think its fun to get aroused wearing snug-fitting clothing.
So, what is the problem with all of this, then? Erections are fun. Really fun. Now the sad part is that there are lots of issues and dangers associated with having an erection in partner sex, whether the partner is male or female. The girl could get pregnant. An STD may get transmitted, Gonorrhea or Herpes, or even HIV. I can think of a dozen reasons why a guy might not want to have full-scale sex with a partner. Yet, erections keep happening, and something has to give, and probably on a regular basis.
I’ve talked a lot about male masturbation here. This has been a nearly constant theme. Now, I would be the first to admit that there is nothing at all wrong if a guy simply wants to rub or stroke himself to orgasm in the privacy of his own bedroom or bathroom. Oftentimes his must be done in a hurry, so as to not tip off to others what the guy is up to.
But what if a guy discovers that masturbation is a whole lot more fun by wearing (being contained in) certain clothing items? If a guy enjoys masturbating more if he wears something that fits snuggly around his penis, and feels smooth to the touch, does that somehow make a guy weird, a freak of sorts? Well, only if he admits to doing that to his peers
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Every guy who discovers this thinks he must be the only guy who does this, lest some of his peers would have mentioned this at some point. Yet, this has got to be one of the deepest, darkest secrets a guy normally keeps to himself.
Except for Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe, of course, college freshman who have gotten pretty casual about all of this, first with themselves, and then, at least to a degree, with each other.
What kinds of clothing items do guys particularly like for this purpose? For the most part, the entire list is fairly short.
Brief-style swimwear perhaps tops the list of clothing items leading to male arousal in this respect. I’m convinced that a lot of the fear guys have of wearing swim briefs is linked directly to the fear that they will get an erection just putting a swim brief on, and one thing will lead to another. There is no greater fear a guy has than being seen in public not only with a an erection, but scarier still, a cum-stain on the front of the brief.
Jock straps are probably only slightly less scary in this regard than swim briefs.
Men’s thong underwear are right up there too in this regard, though most guys worry less about this as they believe that if they are wearing thong underwear they will be covered by something else, say a pair of shorts or jeans, so the danger of being seen erect but uncovered is less.
Then there is the whole category of compression gear, the tees but particularly the shorts, which will do a good job of revealing a guy if he is at all erect. Swimming jammers are actually an offshoot of compression shorts. Some guys wear these instead of a swim brief in the mistaken belief that if they get erect it will be less noticeable that they are in this condition. But that is largely a myth.
Wrestling singlets are made like swimming jammers but with a twist. Since the singlet is but one piece, there is a top with shoulder straps that like to tug at a guy’s groin area as he moves. Depending on your outlook, this can either be a feature or a potential problem.
A related increasingly popular item is snug fitting full tights designed for outdoor running.
The last item on this list has to include skinny jeans, once again hugely popular for guys. With the multi-stretch Spandex denim, some of these are becoming nearly as snug-fitting as a jammer or running tight. Good luck getting in and out of these without getting an erection.
It used to be, guys would occasionally get their nerve up for going to the shopping mall to find one or more of these items. But now, with on-line shopping, it is sometimes advantageous to make on line purchases. The selection and options will be greater, too.
How will a guy know if he has found an item that interests him at an on line retailer? Well, the male body is set up to do just that. That is where the cowpers gland and the precum sets in. If a guy starts precumming, just thinking about buying a certain item of interest, this is probably something he should try ordering. Beats getting yourself into a potentially embarrassing situation at the local store, and avoid the potential embarrassment associated making the purchase with a real sales clerk. That’s what Bill, Joe and then Dylan found out.
To be continued….