[sebbie]

Once many guys reach young adulthood, they begin to believe that enjoying your own male body and being in a relationship with a “loving partner” are as inseparable as, say macaroni and cheese or even ham and eggs. That leads guys who are not so fortunate into bouts of psychological depression in thinking that there are other guys who, because they are in a loving relationship, are simply enjoying life (not to mention their own sexual bodies) to a far greater degree.

Of course relationships in human sexuality matter. Were that not the case, the human race would have gone extinct long ago. But if there is any recurring theme to these chapters, it is that there is a lot more to male sexuality and human sexuality than only that, and it is possible to find safe and enjoyable sexual outlets that involve no personal risks or the complexity of working things out on a steady basis with a steady-and-willing partner.

If you stop and think about what I said, it is quite profound. What I just said is that a guy can be happy and sexually fulfilled even without having sex regularly with a willing partner. Straight, gay or of undetermined sexual orientation, that matters not at all in the interpretation of this statement.

I have been known to study, porn sites, but always only for research purposes.:-) One of the things I have been looking at is the popularity of various kinds of pornography. The classic heterosexual porn site has a lot of videos showing a male and a female getting it on. The classic gay porno site shows either two guys getting it on, or two women commonly masturbating each other using their fingers, or, less commonly, a strap-on dildo. I have always been somewhat amazed by how popular the two-women masturbation porn seems to be with heterosexual male porn viewers. I conclude that a lot of otherwise straight males find that watching this to be quite arousing.

These classic porn videos are only the starting point for an array of other videos of all sorts. Another common one is the so-called two-on-one videos that most commonly involve two women working over one guy, another heterosexual male fantasy, apparently. The opposite--two guys with one woman, is far less common.

Solo sex, as in a guy bringing himself to orgasm without the help of a partner, exist in large numbers as well. Some of these videos involve guys doing this naked, but the more interesting videos more commonly have a guy doing this while wearing a skimpy swim brief or slick-looking pair of brief style underwear. There is an audience for this type of porn. An interesting question of course, is whether the audience for this consists largely of gay males, straight males, perhaps curious women, or some mix of the three groups.

I hope you can see where I am going with all of this. I think that there is almost a universal curiosity on the part of males with respect to how other males cope with sexual feelings, arousal, and the path to ejaculation. This is not a straight or gay issue as such. This curiosity begins at puberty, or even before, and it extends into adulthood, perhaps through adulthood. Guys figure out what feels good at a very early age, and are curious as to whether other guys have discovered something similar, and if so, how they cope. As I have indicated earlier, this sexual tension of sorts is the fodder for most coming-of-age movies where horny guys typically try to act on what they have learned. But oddly enough, a scene involving solo masturbation, even a scene in which the guy is wearing a swim brief as this is happening, is still considered too rough to be presented in an R-rated movie for a mass audience. Despite R-rated movies showing practically everything that goes on between couples sexually, male masturbation rarely occurs in non-porn movies, and if it does, everything is usually implied (say, showing the face but not the body of the masturbator) and not presented with any detail.

So, solo sex is treated as if it is raunchier than most forms of partner sex. There is something really bad, unacceptable or dirty about male masturbation that goes beyond the raunchiness or regular sexual intercourse.

The reality of being a guy is quite the opposite. Partner sex carries all the real risks associated with being a sexual human being: Solo sex generally is a perfectly safe and readily available alternative.

Even more complicated is the situation for the guy who has discovered that he greatly enjoys getting aroused by and then getting off while wearing, say ,a swim brief or a skimpy jock strap, with or without a cup. The sex researchers have already labeled this poor guy as a person who is on the abnormal side of sexual psychology, and stuck with a fetish, as in a sexual attraction to an inanimate object. Never mind that the garment helps him get to some of the best orgasms he has ever experienced. The sex researchers like to simply ignore that, as they are fixated on the idea that partner sex is the only true way to sexual happiness for a guy.

But keep in mind that for a long time, these same sex researchers thought penis and vagina was the only real sex, and that whatever gay males did either with or to each other was somehow abnormal too. The thinking on that subject has changed a lot, and gays are no longer treated as if they were part of the chapter on abnormal sexual psychology.

Will male masturbation ever be treated by sex researchers as more than only a substitute sexual release that is important to guys early in life and perhaps late in life, when a real partner for sex is no longer available, but an inferior sexual release used primarily by the socially-challenged and otherwise unfortunate at all other points during a lifetime.

An even more complicated question is whether or not the use of a garment as a way to drastically improve the quality of male masturbation such as a swim brief or jock strap will ever get a billing that no longer places this in the category of just another abnormal or oddball male fetish. I confess that I love to watch how other guys respond to a situation in which their body parts are contained in a garment that simply provides little if any room to expand should the need for more room manifest itself. This, I think is a natural curiosity on the part of most males extending from puberty onward, and not something only guys who believe themselves to be gay are interested in observing and doing.

When Dylan watches Josh masturbate himself in that tiny little Desmiit® thong, Dylan is drawn into not repulsed by what he is seeing. And for Josh, having Dylan there watching him adds a new psychosexual element to the total experience for Josh, something that he might have daydreamed about, but could never actually try earlier in life. This moves to yet another level as the four guys engage in various gym workout activities while being clad in various items of snug-fitting clothing. All of them should be now reentering their dorm rooms after the workout experience, really ready to blow in what turned out to be a sexually tense series of moments at the gym as has ever occurred in each of their young lives.

To be continued…