[sebbie]

It doesn’t take long after puberty for guys to learn how much sheer fun sexual arousal and then to an orgasm really is, but there are lots of issues with which to deal. But with this comes a series of issues or problems that every guy faces One of the things about this that a guy learns very early on is that the only socially acceptable time and place to get aroused and have an orgasm is in the context of a relationship with another person, usually a female, but guys are obviously doing stuff long before they are old enough to assume a relationship with another person let alone have partner sex.

All of this presents quite a dilemma for guys, with the basic problem being that they enjoy engaging in solo sex (masturbation) very much, but if anyone else should find out about this fondness for jerking off, they will be subject to teasing, bullying, being labeled as a social outcast or worse. So a guy quickly leans that whatever he does with or to himself in this regard must be done on the sly. How can something so enjoyable be treated in such a sloppy way for goodness sakes?

And every guy soon determines that he is not the only male peer struggling with this same complicated is, that is, of discovering a real enjoyment playing with himself, but it must be that the other guys his age are doing things by themselves and normally not engaged in doing the very things they are comfortable bragging about relating to sexual encounters with female partners. It would be a rare instance if at all, that a guy would talk about his solo-sex activities with even a close male friend, in part because such a discussion would perhaps incorrectly imply that the guy is interested in a sexual encounter with another male. So all of what guys actually do to themselves is the deepest, darkest secret there ever was. Guys are generally not willing to admit doing any of this.

All of these struggles dealing with solo sex gets carried into young adulthood and maybe into older adulthood as well. Guys in their teens (sex experts too) seem to think that as guys get into their twenties, whatever interest they had in playing with themselves will dissipate as “real sex” with a partner assumes a more and more important role.

Guys often assume that when they were living at home there were huge barriers to engaging in solo sex because of the living situation they are in. one would not want to have your parents realize what you are doing to yourself, let alone siblings or male friends for goodness sakes.

The problem of course is that the real world doesn’t work in this regard like the sex experts think it should, and generally most guys retain a lot more interest in solo sex activities as they move into young adulthood. Masturbation techniques that were fun at age 12 are probably still enjoyable at age 20, and without the complexities of having to deal with the host of issues relating to a partner for sex.

A lot of guys assume that once they get into college, life will be a lot simpler than it was when in high school, singe the guy is normally off on his own. In the case of roommates Bill and Joe and roommates Dylan and Josh, roommates who only met for the first time at the start of the school year, there are additional issues. Living together as two college guys in a cramped 200 sq. ft. dorm room is going to pose some special challenges if a guy wants to get off on his own, to say the least.

One approach for two college roommates in such a situation is to try to approach masturbation the same way they commonly did in high school. This probably means masturbating in bed at night under the covers and the darkness. Is my roommate going to quickly figure out I am doing this? Is my roommate trying to cope with the same issue while not revealing to me what he is up to? How is all of this going to work as the semester wears on and we get more familiar with each other? What issues are going to happen if my roommate discovers that I “do it” perhaps every night or two?

Guys learn a variety of techniques for masturbating in bed when they are still living at home. Oddly enough, if starchy and damp spots are “discovered”, the easiest way out of the box is probably for the guy to claim he had a wet dream, and the orgasm was not something he could control as he was asleep when it all happened. Providing that explanation to your parents ordinarily seems to work quite well.

But, of course, as any guy knows, most of the orgasms that happen in bed are anything but the consequence of an uncontrollable wet dream. If wet dreams are fun, encouraging an orgasm while still awake might be even more fun, depending on how horny the guy is. If wet dreams are really fun, why not simply help things along a little in the darkness and under the coves?

Then, of course, there are the clothing items that might even help the process along, in particular the ones that Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh have been experimenting with. Now, practically every young guy is going to have real issues in coming clean with the idea that certain clothing items can easily lead to sexual arousal, but perhaps most every guy by the time he reaches young adulthood, say the age of Dylan, has “discovered” a number of different clothing items that seem to do this. Usually the clothing items that do this are very slick and smooth (ie Lycra®) or fit very snuggly (such as an athletic supporter or maybe even a favorite pair of snug-fitting jeans.
As a teenager guys are old enough to be left at home alone for perhaps an afternoon, and a lot of guys see this as an excellent opportunity to run some “experiments”. The guy has often stashed the items that do this to (or for) him, and out they come as soon as everyone else leaves the house. Guys quickly get into a masturbation routine in which each of the times he is left alone turn into an opportunity to run some more sexually-focused“ experiments.”

Guys carry these experiments along with them into college. But things may actually be more not less difficult, as the guy waits for his roommate to “go home for the weekend” in order to have a clear path to some solo sex play without interruption.

Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe have more or less taken a step beyond that in that each of them has pretty well now determined what the other guys must be up to in the solo sex department. Watching your roommate masturbate while wearing a thong really puts a whole new view of all of this in place. Still there are the complicating issues that relate to the possibility that both Dylan and Josh have a gay side to their personalities in this regard. And what about Bill and Joe in this regard too?

I guess there are two possible consequences here. Either a guy is repulsed by seeing his male roommate masturbating, and will run and hide. In which case the guy who is repulsed by this must be straight, or at minimum sees the idea of being repulsed by this consistent with the idea of being straight.

The other possibility is that the guy doing the watching thinks its interesting (fun, and perhaps arousing) to see his roommate masturbate himself, especially using “helper” clothing items. This is a place most guys do not normally get to be let alone study in detail. But, does this then mean that the guy doing the watching (and likely the guy doing the masturbating) actually is gay but perhaps still hasn’t admitted this to himself let alone to others?

These are complicated questions that are not at all easy to answer.

To be continued….