[sebbie]

As any guy in his teens probably knows, in your late teens it is entirely possible to get an erection leading into a full scale orgasm without any physical touching or rubbing happening. Furthermore, it is easy for this to happen in an unexpected or difficult-to-explain situation, say a situation that does not involve fantasizing, say, about having sex with a female partner. Every guy knows and probably has had dreams involving a sexual situation that leads to an erection during the night and probably an orgasm.

Dreams are very strange, oftentimes. What a guy thinks about during the day is constrained within conscious thought, but in dreams, all the “rules” suddenly come apart. For example, a guy who thinks he is “perfectly straight” during the day, at least, may very well end up being involved sexually with another guy within a dream. Dreams simply do not follow the rules that apply when a guy is awake.

The fact that dreams can go anywhere and do not abide by the daytime “rules” makes many guys very uncomfortable. They start to think that what happens in dreams, out-of-control or not, communicates the “truth”, for example, about sexual orientation. A guy who “acts” straight when awake may be focused on other guys partly or exclusively during a nighttime dream, and worse, whatever same-sex interest may very well end with the guy suddenly awake and having a powerful orgasm.

Do these dreams mean the guy whereby this happens is actually gay not straight, and is actually fooling himself as well as others when he claims to be perfectly straight? That is a most interesting question, I think, and one that I have never been able to satisfactorily answer. The only thing I can conclude is that dreams are sometimes, perhaps often, built around story lines that represent what a guy would like to try to do sexually but for whatever reason cannot.

Dreams with a sex-related storyline are commonplace for nearly every guy. Nearly every guy worries if dreams turn out to follow an unanticipated story line and in particular a story line that others (peers, siblings) might not approve. But these others aren’t going to know anything if a guy keeps his mouth shut about what just happened.

Then there is the issue of story lines that are erotic, leading to an erection and a “nocturnal emission” (I love that term, as it sounds so clinical), but the story line has nothing to do with engaging in sex with a partner, male or female. What is with these dreams, anyway?
One example would be a guy who in a dream decides to go out to a store and purchase a skimpy little swim brief for his first time. The dreamer finds a rack of swim briefs in a sporting goods store and starts to sort through the sizes, colors and sizes. As the dream proceeds, the dreamer sees a particular swim brief that is particularly skimpy and colorful. He decides that before he purchases the brief, which the price tag says $28, he had better at least try it on. So he locates and goes into the store changing room, and removes his clothing in a tiny space lined with mirrors. At this point he is not only feeling way horny, the size of his penis says that he is near an orgasm, and he hasn’t even gotten the brief on. He is already worried about how to get in and out of the brief without creating a total mess, but it is way too late. He pulls the brief on, takes one look at himself and how his penis looks and there is no stopping a powerful orgasm spilling semen all over the new swim brief. Suddenly the dreamer wakes and, still in bed, he bursts into a most powerful orgasm. The dreamer has the emotions of unbridled sexual fun, pure enjoyment, accompanied by total terror.

What does this dream mean, anyway? Worse, what if this is one of those dreams that happens frequently, say, every week or so? Should the guy be somehow concerned that the dream doesn’t contain a “proper” storyline involving having sex with a female partner? Is this dream the basics of something the guy would like to try doing in real life? What gives, anyway?

Or, what about the locker room athletic supporter “jock strap” dream. In this dream, the dreamer is just starting to participate in a contact sport that requires a strap and cup (Coaches orders). The plot line thickens, because in the dream the first time the guy is going to get a chance to be in the strap and cup will be in the guy’s locker room at the next practice. The school is actually buying the straps and cups for the players and coach will be passing them out for wear at the next practice. The complicating thing about this dream is that all the guys, the dreamer’s peers, will be in the locker room basically doing the same thing—that is, trying on a little jock strap with a cup in the clear view of all the other guys in the locker room. A lot of guys who are having difficulty with this situation realize that their peers might also be facing the same “problem”. The problem, of course is how can the dreamer keep from getting erect in this novel situation, and what happens to me once the cup is (firmly) in place? Dare the dreamer take furtive glances at the groins of the other guys in an effort to see what is happening to them under similar circumstance and what difficulties they might be facing? If the dreamer finds himself doing this, taking furtive glances at his peers and their respective groin areas, does that mean he is actually gay not straight?

As might be expected, a teen guy with a full-scale erection forcing himself into a seemingly undersized strap and cup is not going to be able to hold back a powerful orgasm for very long. The dreamer suddenly awakens and discovers that he is just at the start of a powerful “spontaneous” orgasm (nocturnal emission), an orgasm that was not spontaneous at all but a direct consequence of the story line with what turns into a path that is quite erotic. What does this all mean for the dreamer, anyway?
This brings the story back to the four college freshmen, Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh. Maybe the four of them are getting their first real opportunities to act out events that occurred on a recurring basis in their dreams, dreams that may have started at puberty, or even before. Maybe the items that they purchased or ordered online are very similar to items that played a recurring role in dreams with plots similar to those outlined above. None of this involves partner sex, at least not directly, but that is part of what makes it all so interesting.

Are dreams and fantasies like these commonplace among guys, or relatively rare? If a guys interested in seeing how my male peers might respond to wearing a swim brief or a jock strap with a cup and exactly what happens to their bodies, does that mean the guy deep down is gay not straight, or is this interest commonplace for the vast majority of guys who find it interesting to see how other guys cope with the situation at hand.

These are big questions, and questions that are difficult to answer with any degree of certainty.

To be continued…