[sebbie]

Guys generally see all of this with mixed reactions amazement coupled with a bit of uncertainty, fear and befuddlement. What I have been talking about is not found in college courses dealing with human sexuality nor in any of the commonly seem sex therapist manual. Even studies that claim to have exhaustively analyzed male sexuality in all its forms generally come up short.

Maybe things are simpler then I am making them out to be. Maybe guys past puberty have sexual encounters with females, and this supplies them with the sexual outlet that they need at that point in life. Maybe guys buy the time they reach college age are having sex so regularly with a favorite partner that anything else (commonly known as solo sex) simply gets pushed out of the entire picture, never to again return. Is it really like that?

Maybe guys never pleasure themselves in their cramped dorm rooms, or, if they do, this only happens when it is certain that the roommate has gone home for the weekend. Maybe these subjects never come up between male college students. But guys in their late teens and early 20s sometimes do things that they might not do either earlier in life or later. Is this not just one of the items on the list? Are the rules that apply in this regard the same ones that applied in high school, or are they now more flexible? These are all interesting questions to ponder.

Let’s see, where were we? Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh getting to wear various clothing items that fit really snug, and are surely bound to lead to arousal and erection assuming they have not completely lost the sensations coming from their groin area. Chances are, each of them has surreptitiously experimented with this long before they got into college. The tricky part about these experiments is in figuring out a way to run the experiments without being detected by a parent, sibling or, god-forbid, a peer class member.

What is the exact “problem” here, the universal problem all post-pubescent guys must face? Shortly after puberty, guys learn from various sources that the only time and place considered acceptable to be aroused is in a relationship with a partner, and from the standpoint of most, a partner of the opposite sex. Anything else that might happen with respect to this is considered to be in some manner unacceptable, unacceptable to the point of the guy being teased and bullied.

But every post pubescent guy is fully aware of the fact that “stuff happens”, and stuff happens in times, places and in situations that do not involve a female partner. Besides, what is a young teenager doing getting involved sexually with a partner as a young teen anyway? More problems and dilemmas to face.

It is surprising that most guys make it through puberty with as few psychosexual scars as they do. It does not take long for every guy to find out that sexual arousal, erection and then the big event, orgasm, are all fun, really fun, the kinds of events that make being a guy such an unbeatable experience. (Can young girls POSSIBLY be having this much fun with THEIR bodies at the same age?)

Then there is the matter of all the goofy fluids. Guys quickly figure out what an orgasm (creaming) is and exactly what the sensations are that lead to orgasm. Understanding this is necessary learning if a guy is ever going to have a degree of control over when and under what exact circumstances he ejaculates. Guys quickly learn that ejaculate is a creamy off-white fluid, not clear and to associate that with having an orgasm, getting a girl pregnant, and all of that.

But then there is the matter of precum, and what that all means and why it happens the way it does. Guys might notice that sometimes a clear, viscous fluid forms in drops at the very end of the penis, but particularly when a sexual thought crosses the mind. This seems really strange, as if a guy, perhaps sexually a bit tense but not erect at all, starts to drip viscous drops of clear fluid. Initially, guys associate this occurrence with the initial stages of an erection leading to orgasm (creaming). But guys soon learn that they can precum for a long period of time without going into erection or orgasm.

Precumming (aka juicing) just seems to happen without conscious control of any sort. Something triggers it, of course, and what that something is might be is the most interesting part. Guys fully dressed can usually tell in an instant whether or not they are precumming because the damp spot forming on whatever undergarment they are wearing will be a quite noticeable. Usually not enough precum forms to stain the fly of, say, a pair of jeans, though some guys worry about this possibility too.

This brings me back around to the guys wearing snug-fitting clothing of various kinds, especially for the first time. Obviously a snug fitting Lycra® (blend) item (Swim brief, Jammer, Wrestling singlet) is going to present more issues in this regard than, say an outer garment such as a pair of jeans. Any precum stain when a guy is wearing one of these items might immediately show up as a stain in exactly the “wrong” place. What if the guy is in public when this happens. It’s not as if the guy can shut down precumming at will, and this in itself poses a dilemma.
Even worse, perhaps, the guy has probably discovered that the sensations that happen when he is precumming are certainly sweet, if not quite as mind blowing as a full-scale orgasm, still certainly worthy of paying attention to and enjoying.

Then there is the problem that specific clothing items that seem to “stimulate” all of this, that is, getting into a mode whereby the guy is precumming, perhaps profusely. Lycra® blend swim briefs are certainly number one on this list, at least for most guys. I maintain that the fear of wearing swim briefs for a lot of guys is not so much out of the fear of immediately getting a firm and big erection leading right to orgasm (well, maybe for only the FIRST time), but the fear that the guy will start to precum leaving quarter-sized and larger damp stains right at where the tip of his penis resides in the brief. The sheer HORROR of this possibility drives guys away from wearing the garment.

The same goes for the fear of snug-fitting wrestling singlets and jammers. Guys think they have a degree of control over when they get hard and ejaculate, but the precumming ooze seems to be completely outside of conscious control. This scares guys.

WHICH clothing items “do” this to (or for) a guy? That is an interesting question, and one that probably varies from one guy to another. The other complicating factor is that precumming is a lot of fun, and if there are garments that help to keep the fun going, there will be at least some guys interested in finding and on occasion wearing these garments. If guys were truthful to themselves, they already know which specific clothing items “do it” for them. The mere thought of shopping for or ordering the garment should start the precum flowing, collecting in whatever undergarment the guy is wearing. The sheer fun of buying and then getting into a garment the guy pretty much knows is going to do this to him cannot be underestimated.

This brings us back to Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh, who have been messing around with this exactly, and, in a sense, playing with their own bodies and psychology in ways that they would have never dared or had the occasion to try when they were still in high school. Their willingness to push forward in this regard should be applauded, even as they discover new ways to enjoy themselves and the company of each other in ways they had not previously experienced.

All is well with the four of them.

To be continued….