[sebbie]

It’s strange as to how the male anatomy works, but also very interesting. Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh are learning things about themselves that they have never explored before. Sexual arousal works in strange and wonderful ways, but especially sexual arousal in which another person is not specifically involved.

I suppose that some guys might argue that what I am talking about here is unimportant relative to the “real thing” of sex involving a partner. Yet, even here there is much to be discovered and savored. Sexual arousal is a lot of fun even in instances where a sexual partner is not involved. The many Internet videos showing guys engaging in solo sex attest to that. An interesting question is what is really going on inside the heads of guys who not only engage in solo sex, but who also are willing to put the experience up on an Internet video for all to see. But notice that in most of these videos, the face is discretely hidden. This probably goes back to the old idea that guys who admit to engaging in masturbation are at least to a degree embarrassed by that fact, as in masturbation is not to be confused with real, partner sex.

Any guy who admits to enjoying solo sex risks a very real possibility of being teased and bullied, or worse. An admission like this is even more dangerous if a young woman finds out. Young women are generally taught by their moms that the female is the sole source of pleasure for men, and that is the end of the subject. If a guy is caught engaging in solo sex then somehow the female is inadequate in playing her role.

But young males at a very early age develop masturbation habits that are frequently all but impossible to simply discard even in a relationship. Any guy in a relationship ends up dealing with these old habits in his own way, some more successfully than others.

The situation Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh find themselves in, wearing clothing that in various ways fits snug enough to almost certainly lead to arousal, is slightly different. I suppose a psychologist would argue that each of them to a degree has a sexual fetish for snug-fitting athletic clothing. By calling this interest a fetish allows psychologists to label what the four of them are doing right now as something of a psychosexual abnormality. Not a dangerous abnormality, but becoming of concern particularly if the interest in the clothing limits a guy’s interest and interaction with a potential sexual partner.

The same “experts” who up until they early 1970s labeled being gay as a psychological abnormality, now are content to label any sexual activity that doesn’t involve a partner as somehow abnormal or at minimum, clinging inappropriately to adolescence.

That seems really unfair to guys. Sometimes guys just want to enjoy themselves without getting into the complexities of a partner relationship of any sort. As a consequence, the activities are generally harmless fun, if on occasion a bit embarrassing when discovered.

That is what makes the situation Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh find themselves in today as they walk to the gym clad in their gear. Nothing is said, but it is quite clear to each of them what the others are doing and why they are doing it. This is a shared experience, an experience they would have never dared participate in only a few years ago.

So it goes.

To be continued…..