Still trying to figure out what the problem is here, it has dawned on me that since I have been a speedo wearing swimmer most of my life and don't have any problem or hesitation to wear one, I just don't have the fears others do. I don't know what I'd do if I was afraid to wear a speedo. Maybe I would go to a place where it is common and acceptable. That place would be a swimming pool where actual swimmers go to actually swim. Once I got the hang of that I might not feel awkward being similarly undressed at a beach. Try that.
Now if the fear is about showing skin, maybe you need affirmation that your skin is not to be ashamed of. Unless it is to be ashamed of but I don't want to be a fat shamer.... I encourage people to take care of themselves by eating and exercising. Maybe it's too late but one can always reverse this, or try, with reasonable goals and adequate effort and education. Buddy up and help each other, come on, gimme twenty pushups and fifty situps.
