The new Jockey ad Luke Bryan

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The new Jockey ad Luke Bryan

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=2670161433222958

Turning it On (and Off)
 

Turning it On (and Off)

To me, what makes male sexuality (and HUMAN sexuality, for that matter) so endlessly fascinating is that sexual sensations always come about via a quirky mix of the psychological and the physical. Perhaps even more interesting is the idea that this can happen in situations where the events SHOULD happen (say while with a sexual partner) but also in situations where the reasons might be very unclear, or at least unclear to anyone other than the guy experiencing the situation.

I suppose the “classic’ example of a guy facing the latter situation is the first encounter with putting on and wearing a swim brief. A lot of guys are, well, apprehensive, with respect to the physical aspects of this. The guy may be worried about such a basic questions as “how will my penis ‘react’ to being inside such a tiny, snug-fitting garment?” Or, even more interestingly, “Once in will I be able to control “urges” that could quickly get out of control. After all, getting a hard-on and even ejaculating is not exactly something a guy can turn on and off like a water faucet. At some point, parts of the arousal, erection and ejaculation can quickly cycle into what seems to be an involuntary mode, where the guy is sensing that his body is simply doing what it must under the circumstances it is in and the guy’s brain is simply riding along without being in control of the situation as it is unwinding before him.

Making a guy even more apprehensive is if he knows he is going to have to be with peers—male and even possibly female—when all of this is going to happen. The guys who regularly wear swim briefs are “used” to all of this, presumably, and these guys do not give the idea of getting into one a second thought…or for that matter get aroused either physically or psychologically. But maybe not!

Most guys, confronted with the situation that I have described for the first time would probably discover that their male bodies “react” to the situation in what appears to be an involuntary way. They start oozing precum even before they fully realize what psychologically is bothering them. Of course, oozing precum is fascinating. Some guys think that once that starts to occur, a full ejaculation cannot be far away. But that is not true, or at least not necessarily true. It bothers some guys I guess that the body is showing a visible sexually-charged “reaction” to the situation even though the guy does not have a significant erection. What is going on here, anyway?

I remember putting on my first pair of thong men’s underwear. Age-wise I think I was already in my early 30s. I had brought home three pair from a discount department store and the back of each of them was a thin round elastic cord that was less than a quarter inch in diameter. I knew where that would have to go, and I was not sure if I was going to be able to “tolerate” the situation very well at all. Then there was the rubbery elasticized pouch that seemed to be too small to contain both my penis and balls, but that was the only way.

Of course, as I contemplated all of this, I did what any “normal” male would do—I started to precum, big time, releasing quarter dollar sized stains of sticky goo right into my new thong underwear.

Suddenly it dawned on me that far from this involuntary “response” being an issue, the thong was great fun, and it was not long before I started wearing these at night as well as in the daytime. I was thoroughly hooked on precumming as a very enjoyable thing to do, and something that can be actively pursued and encourage without a sexual partner if a guy has none. Goofy? Maybe a little, but fun, way fun.

Guys of course normally work their way through their apprehension about getting into a swim brief to the point that it ‘bothers” them less from a psychosexual perspective. Well maybe. Or maybe not. What is the big deal if a guy were to admit to others that he actually enjoys himself this way. This is perfectly safe fun.

So today, in prepping for my daily rowing and stationary biking that I do every day, I decided it would be a good idea to go through my daily exercise wearing first an underwear thong—though a men’s thong designed for swimming would also work. Then I pulled on a strap--this time one without a cup—over that, and finally on top of that an undersized pair of blue swimming jammers. Compression tee on top. The combination felt great, and, judging by the size of the precum stain in the thong pouch, I was feeling great as well.

The really fun part about indoor rowing in a thong is that the thong has to tug and pull with each rowing stroke. This feels very good, even great, and the tension keeps increasing over the workout. And so long as I keep thinking about how good this feels it starts to feel even better. Whenever a guy is at all sexually excited, if he says to himself “this is starting to feel really great” the mind and body “responds” to the thought and everything you are doing to yourself feels even better still. That is the quirky part of the mix of the physical and the psychological in sexuality. Thinking that something feels arousing can make it feel even more arousing. Crazy, but enjoyable.

Riding a stationary bike while wearing a thong can be fun too, as the bike seat puts pressure on some interesting places, though if I would vote for my favorite exercise while wearing a thong it would still be the stationary rowing.

Now I need to get back into my afternoon rowing. Another half hour, and a few more drops of precum!
 

A Really Snug Fit
 

A really snug fit

As my regular readers know, I have always been very fond of a wide assortment of snug-fitting clothing, swim briefs, jammers, athletic supporters, running tights and a wide variety of underwear ranging from thongs, briefs and various snug-fitting kinds of underwear that are designed to fit and look like jammers.

I guess my fascination with all of this started well before puberty. Like many other males my age, I took notice of what the other guys were wearing as underwear, and since this was all happening in the late 1950s, most o the guys were wearing white cotton briefs. And, as I, the guys were all growing at a rapid pace, and sometimes the briefs they were wearing did not keep up with their rate of growth. It always seemed to me that my peers were wearing tighty whiteys that were, well, undersized. Not that this bothered me, indeed I always thought this was simply interesting. Somehow in the back of my mind I could not get out of my head that my peers actually found the super tighty whiteys “fun” to wear. True, at that age I did not know exactly what was going on, but somehow the whole idea of a guy still wearing underwear that a guy had outgrown to a degree was at some level, fun.

Of course, we were also at the stage where were were all just starting to develop our masturbation skills and techniques, and the thought must have occurred to me that the really snug-fitting tighty whiteys might be “helpful” in sorting this all out. In short, just being able to wear a pair of snug tighty whiteys was going to put a guy in a really interesting “place”, a place we did not completely understand, but was really fun anyway.

Somehow my mom had different ideas with respect to what the proper underwear for a male my age should be. She always bought me (through a mail order catalog, usually) pairs of boxer briefs. These were similar to tighty whitey briefs but had longer legs. Since we never shopped for underwear at a store, I had no say in the matter. But in the back of my mind I was always thinking that my peers surely had it better than I wearing their little tighty whitey briefs. At that point in time it was very difficult if not impossible to even find the white boxer briefs in stores. The boys and men’s underwear sections back them were almost exclusively white cotton briefs.

Once I went off to college, my male roommates were still all wearing white cotton briefs. I went out and bought some myself and tossed the boxer briefs. I never looked back. But in the process I retained my fascination with wearing tighty whiteys, and, on occasion, masturbating in them. In turn this led to getting to do a bunch of other things that I never was able to do when I was still living at home. I got my first real Speedo in college, and my first real jock strap. These were great fun as well. Here I was getting to wear some of the things I had always wondered about, and the effect on me was overwhelming.

Somehow, 50 plus years later this is still all with me. I still think the undersized tighty whiteys are great fun to wear and jack off in. But gradually I have found an array of things that fit even snugger and tighter, and a lot of these items get called into service as well. The thong underwear has been a particular revelation, but better still thing underwear with a jock strap on top, maybe a strap with a cup, and a pair of undersized running tights over that. This feels really really good down there. I am very fond of that combination.

And the maybe too-tight swim briefs—say a Youth Speedo in only size 26-inch waist.

I have a summer home that is 1,200 miles away from my winter place. That means I need to maintain a collection in both places. My collection here at the summer home is smaller but no less fun. I have a half dozen neat swim briefs here, one of my favorite black with three white stripes Adidas swim briefs. Another black 26” Tyr Brief with red panels (really, really tight and skimpy), and a snug Tyr brief in an interesting green floral pattern. And some really snug-fitting thong underwear. And the interesting straps that I have accumulated here over a 15 year period.

But the really interesting collection is my tighty whiteys that I have accumulated here. I did not want to have to drag underwear back and forth between the two places, so I simply bought some here, over about 15 years. I have a number of different packages of tighty whiteys. What I find most interesting is that if you look in any department store right now, the only white cotton briefs you find generally are what are known as full-cut, and the youth sizes in white have disappeared entirely. But here I have packages of white cotton briefs (tho Men’s Adult SM) are clearly NOT full sized. Any number of the ones I have here are what as a teenager I would have called “undersized”. The fit, even unwashed the first time, is, by my teen standards, a tight fit.

I cannot understand why these old-school tighty whiteys are no longer readily available in stores. The snug-fit ones are still just as much fun to wear as they were when I was a young man. Have guys suddenly gone “brain dead” in this respect? Still, the men’s underwear market contains lots of mid length briefs in a poly-spandex cloth. Have guys collectively given up on masturbating in cotton briefs and gone instead full steam into self pleasuring in the spandex-laced trunks? A good question! A very basic question is that if a guy is interested in jerking off nowadays, what is the undergarment of choice?

I am very pleased that I have the collections I have at both locations. My groin area is very pleased as well. Somehow I think I have come headlong into a topic a lot of guys engage in regularly but are reluctant to discuss with anyone, but clearly the subject of underwear designs and self-pleasuring techniques is important to many, if not most guys.

All strapped in
 

All strapped in

Guys routinely discover at a very early age that there are parts of the body that are particularly sensitive to touch, and in a most interesting way. Some of this may happen almost by accident, when a snug-fitting garment simply brushes against a guy's penis, for example.

These sensations are, well, interesting, though some might say erotic, but it is not long thereafter that at least some guys think in terms of reproducing these sensations, and if the particular snug-fitting garment caused something interesting to happen, some guys if not many, seek out the opportunity to do the same thing all over again using the same garment.

This results in an interesting mix of desire to redo the same thing along with apprehension about doing it. Then there is the problem of how a guy’s body responds to the situation at hand. As in “is this going to result in a hard-on?” If so, what iof I am in a situation where there are other people around—especially other guys? Am I going to get teased or bullied? How do I deal with this?

Still, being aroused for any reason is a very pleasant place to be. So guys think about how they can do these things in private, in part to explore the nuances of what is going on down there. And there is a lot to explore.

But, what if a situation arises in which a guy knows he is going to have to deal with wearing a snug-fitting garment that he has never worn before, and maybe even try on the garment for the very first time in the presence of male peers? A swim brief is the classic example of all of this, and a lot of swimmers seem to think that a garment with more coverage will be less of a potential issue in this regard. Early on at least swimmers opt for jammers rather than briefs because of this.

Never mind that a properly-fitting swimming jammer fits really snug and tight as well, and could be quite revealing in terms of the outline of the body.

The athletic supporter was once required gear for many kinds of sports in which the danger was a potential injury to the genitalia…in short, straps were designed to hole the scrotum and balls in place near the body, so they were not dangling loose if the guy was wearing only loose=fitting gear. The idea of wearing a plastic cup over the penis and balls was really there to deal with sports (such as baseball) where a guy could inadvertently get a forward blow from say, a fast-traveling baseball. So guys were expected to wear straps for a lot of sports but cups were required for only some of them.

What I refer to as an “old school” athletic supporter was a rather weird piece of gear, consisting of a 3-inch wide elastic waistband, and a coarse-textured pouch made of a rough, rubberized material, all held in place with two ¾ inch wide elastic leg straps, with the back consisting of nothing at all.

For budding athletes participating in a sport requiring a strap, in many respects these were scarier than even the swim briefs were. Except for the pouch, a guy in a strap was essentially nude, and there was no disguising the state of erection in any way wearing only a strap. This scared a lot of budding athletes, given that the older participants had somehow found a way to cope, and even seemed to “enjoy” parading around the locker room wearing only a strap,

For many decades, the old-school strap was synonymous with the key manufacturer, Bike, a company that had a large share of the market for straps. And the market was huge.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BIKE_Athletic_Company

This is long before the compression shorts became popular. But then, about in the 1980s, it seems to me that coaches started gradually losing their enthusiasm for straps as the only way a guy could successfully compete in a grueling sport, and other options for keeping a guy’s private parts near the body came---briefs that mimicked the functions of a strap, for example, then a full range of compression gear including compression shorts set up to even hold a cup.

I gather sales of traditional straps was once the major revenue source for Bike, but that over the long term sales of traditional straps were in decline, and other manufacturers were increasingly competing as well. Bike tried to market other Athletic gear under the Bike name, but the name Bike was so synonymous with jock strap that this other gear struggled in the market. Bike was finally sold and the Russell company that purchased Bike kept the name for awhile but soon gave that up too.

One of the competitors was the Duke strap. Duke got a contract with Walmart and for a long time every Walmart had a panel next to the athletic equipment that included various Duke-branded straps. These old school straps were really cheap, for a basic without a cup maybe $2 or even less. So for the guy who simply wanted a strap to mess around with in private and see exactly what happens, this was the place to go. Then Walmart shifted over to other brands such as Riddell or Franklin though these were more expensive and arguably not as much fun to play with in private as the little Duke straps were. I can still find NIB Duke straps on ebay but the ones that used to cost $2 at Walmart are now $7 minimum. I am not sure if these are old stock or whether Duke branded straps are still being manufactured somewhere,

So, can a guy have more fun in private wearing an old school strap or an old school swim brief? That is an interesting question. I am wearing a Duke strap as I write this and I am this well aware of the sensations it provides down there. I remain enthusiastic ut I like a properly-fitting swim brief as well for similar reasons.

A new online Bike store just reopened in 2021 kink https://www.bikeathletic.com/collections/jockstraps

Nostalgia
 

Nostalgia

Guys learn very quickly that getting an erection can be highly enjoyable, if, on occasion embarrassing, but that the really big payoff is a full-blown ejaculations which send the male body into ecstasy. Though the initial learning experience may come in the form of nocturnal emissions or wet dreams when the guy is either asleep or only awake in the final moments, a guy quickly learns that “helping things along a bit” while awake can be quite interesting and enjoyable. Who is to know if the ejaculation in bed occurred as a result of an “involuntary “wet dream” or perhaps had a bit of “assistance”?

Thankfully, most parents now realize that having ejaculations is a normal part of growing up for guys, and guys quickly learn some “rules” with regard to what needs to be kept private in this respect. Ejaculating or even getting a firm erection, in the presence of a male peer is out, obviously, but so is engaging in such activity in the presence of a female. Guys normally opt for things they can do in private either at night or during the day when they are certain no one will be around to result in a potentially embarrassing interruption. What is so much fun for now at least must be kept secret.

Still, practically every guy has, on occasion “voided semen” in times and places and on garments that he would just as soon not be a matter of others knowing…the others include not only others his age but also family members as well. It goes without saying that whatever a guy wears to bed will soon end up as stained but also things like bed sheets. Parents doing the laundry take this all in stride. That is what washing machines are for.

But some clothing items seem to lend themselves better to “semen voiding” as an activity than others—items such as swim briefs and athletic supporters. Lacking one or both of those, guys who grew up when I did made good use of their white cotton briefs for this purpose as well---readily available and no excuses needed to be made for the purchase of something that was not required for a non-athlete. And at laundry time most parents are not going to do a scientific study of what caused the stains on a pair of cotton briefs, so ejaculating in them was a real option.

I got to thinking about the new Bike Athletic site selling old school #10 jock straps for $25 and got to wondering who their target customer might be. When a guy ejaculates in a time or place that is unexpected, say in a locker room while getting into his first strap, this leaves an indelible imprint on his brain that lasts a lifetime. Even more so if this happened when others, say male peers happened to be present and noticed what was happening. Every guy gas his own “library” of events like this that he occasionally comes back to. A particular event might be embarrassing but also fascinating fun in a crazy sort of way.

So, who in the world might be willing to pay Bike $25 for an old fashioned #10 strap? Some guy who wore one of these in high school and wants to somehow “relive” the experience as an adult of any age, an adult whose early remembrance of being in a strap led to an unexpected voiding of semen? This is an interesting question. Is the market for old school straps really playing on a guy’s innermost life experiences, as in the time when I was embarrassed because what happened to me was,…well, you know.

Being in a strap for the first time might be way up there for the memories of a lot of guys…these Bike straps were “mean” to guys in all sorts of interesting and confounding ways, ways that looking back were actually great fun and perhaps not something to be embarrassed about. Part of this is a form of nostalgia for a simpler time when life was not as complicated as it is now…where guys could just kick back and enjoy themselves in a very special way without having to deal with a relationship. Will a brand new #10 accomplish that? That is an empirical test!
https://www.bikeathletic.com/collect...l-10-jockstrap

Then there are the Duke straps—the brand that was so readily available at Walmart for so many years. The Dukes are not nearly as big as the Bikes, but they follow the same general design with the wide elastic wasteband and rubbery rough-textured pouch. They are an excellent choice for the more casual wearer who sees them as a modestly-priced aid for semen voiding. They were cheap enough so that a guy could keep several on hand and if one was stained one could simply pull out another one. And some nice near old school cups are available as well. For a guy whose underwear wardrobe was mainly white cotton briefs, these provide a very different fit and feel. I am glad that these are still being made and are available even if Walmart is not stocking them anymore.

The little Duke strap has been my go-to strap for decades. I have found that the Youth Large size fits my 30-inch waist well. I really like the snug fit and like to wear one over a pair of tighty whiteys. I have enjoyed these straps for many years and they launder well though I usually air dry them instead of exposing them to the heat of the clothes dryer. Every guy needs several of these to be able to wear for sheer enjoyment. Exactly what happens is in your hands, so to speak.

https://www.dukeathletic-tactical.co...tic-supporters

Just fooling around by myself
 

Just fooling around by myself

I am very fond of the predicaments in which I am able to place my body. If the predicament includes some old school articles of clothing that is even better.

One “old school” underwear thong I am quite fond of is the 2x(ist) thong, a design that has been around for several decades. Fortunately 2x(ist) still makes this design.

There are a number of features of this particular design that sets them apart. First, they have what is called a Y-back. The design also uses a quite narrow elastic band as a back, which means that the thong cinches up between the glutes very snug. The combination of the Y-back and the narrow and snug –fit back feels really, really good. Not uncomfortable at all. Quite the opposite and if you are at all like me you will like the fit and feel too.

The design of the pouch is very good, snug enough but just the right size to contain both your penis and balls. The pouch is snug enough to allow you to position the penis in the “up” position and as any guy knows it’s the underside of the penis, that if positioned that way, is really sensitive and the sensations you get will make you smile (or more).

The third thing I like about the design is that interesting point where the pouch meets the elastic band in the back. In the 2x(ist) thong there is something of a Lump where the pouch and back are sewn together. This is right over that erotic “hot spot” known as the perineum. Indeed, the thong puts a constant gentle pressure on the perineum, and this pressure has a way of building in sensitivity over time.

So many of the thongs you can buy nowadays have rather wide backs, ¾ to an inch wide. I guess these are for the guys who are apprehensive about having a narrow elastic band between the glutes. But coping with that sensation of the snug back between your glutes is part of the fun of wearing a thong.

It is really the combination of the snug-fit penis “up” pouch, the narrow elastic Y-back, and that endlessly fascinating pressure on the perineum are where the pouch and back meet that makes this thong so much fun to wear.

I like to wear a strap on top of the thong such as the Duke jock as I described in the previous article. Somehow my penis likes to be in that up is thong with an old school Duke jock strap as described in the up position inside the jock. I am very fond of the right strap too.

And then, to top it off how about a pair of Tesla Compression shorts. At this point I am really sensitive down there and enjoying myself immensely. The combination of the thong, the strap and the compression shorts gets me to a place where I want to spend an entire afternoon, if not longer. The combination of sensations I get is terrific!

What to Wear? The simple guide
 

What to Wear? The simple guide

Sometimes I wake up in the morning and it suddenly occurs to me that today is going to be a “slow” day with little or nothing planned. Perhaps it is a weekend day, but things seem to be quiet and peaceful.

Often when this happens, I also feel quite horny. I always thought this was quite curious to say the least. Why do I suddenly feel like this in instances where my mind is not distracted with other issues and problems that I need to solve, but if I am deep into repairing something, or trying to solve a problem of one sort of another I almost never feel horny like I do when I am in a peaceful, relaxed mode.

Still, I like to think of this sensation as a rich blessing not a curse. Oddly enough I guess for some I do not need to be around another person and certainly not in a group of people male or female. It is just something that happens to me when I am alone and at peace with myself.

I believe that something similar to this happens to a lot of guys, and they cope with the sensations each in his own way. For some I suspect, the relationship with a partner is critical I guess. But for me it is all about simply kicking back and enjoying myself in all sorts of fascinating and wonderful ways,

Part of the feeling is the desire to touch myself in different ways and in specific places and ramp up the general horny sensations that I find so compelling. Indeed, I have spent my adult life studying all of this, and now realize that the male body is capable of providing a wide-ranging suite of “treats” that seem to have an almost never-ending array of possible sensations—sensations that will ebb and flow all day long. Even at my age I keep discovering things that are really interesting and fun to do.

I keep coming back to a favorite phrase of mine—what can I do by, with and to myself that will be simple but extremely enjoyable, and how can I Improve on my efforts as I gather more knowledge about all of this over a lifetime of enjoyment? And, why do I have to keep what I have learned to myself, especially if all of this is so enjoyable. If some of you see what I am doing is a crash course in solo sex, then so be it. I see it as much more than that, an exploration into the nuances of who you are as a male human being.

Males are born with a most fascinating set of body parts, though the full realization of that only comes later. By the time a guy reaches puberty, he has probably developed a realization of some of the basics with respect to what feels really good down there. But a better understanding of all of this comes only later in life, much later. Guys are often apprehensive about doing “too much” exploring down there for fear that they might “break” something that would in turn lead to the need for potentially embarrassing medical attention and result in the guy in having to explain exactly what he was doing down there.

Truth is, the odds of something breaking while engaging in male ‘self abuse” are minimal and the male body parts may look fragile but are indeed surprisingly sturdy (they have to be given their key role in sustaining human life). But guys only gradually work their way out of their apprehensive mode.

A related problem is that a guy is often deeply fearful of someone (anyone, parents, siblings, peers at school) discovering them in “the act” of playing with himself. Again, if a guy is a bit careful the odds of this happening is very low but there is nothing like a concern for this in taking the fun out of what you are wanting and trying to do.

Then there are the hang-ups involving snug fitting garments. I am convinced that there are many guys out there who really would like to wear a snug-fitting swim brief and greatly admire the guys who get to do so, but are also deeply apprehensive about this. The core worry of course is “what happens if I get an erection and my peers see that I am in that condition?” It is only much later in life that guys gradually learn to accept the fact that erections happen, and sometimes at less than opportune moments, and that an erection occurring at some inopportune time, place or circumstance is something that all guys need to deal with sooner or later.

No guy is comfortable admitting to others that he likes to masturbate alone—and this is true even for many guys in sexual partnerships. And if a guy thinks that wearing a swim brief might be fun from a solo sex perspective, the tricky part for guys not living independent lives away from home is how to obtain one without drawing attention to what a guy really wants it for if the guy is not a swimmer. These guys often look for substitutes, such as an underwear brief that is sold as underwear but looks surprisingly like a swim brief—the next best alternative, though--a pair of white cotton briefs--might also work as a substitute if a guy is really apprehensive about sending the “wrong” signals with respect to what he likes to do by himself to someone else. I have often thought the popularity of loose-fitting boxer shorts in gym locker rooms in recent years is because they send out a signal that the guy never has been known to touch his own private parts in an arousing way, and further, the guy doesn’t want any clothing to touch anything sensitive either.

The problem is that there is the snug-fitting clothing that is really useful in self-pleasuring. Guys who do not need to wear a jock strap for sport fantasize over how they fit and feel, and what they could do to guys who wear a strap as part of whatever sport they are in. Then there are the compression gear particularly the shorts but also the tights, and the gear that can double either as a compression short as an outer garment or as a pair of snug fitting long legged underwear that is worn under a looser-fitting garment. All of these have potential in self-pleasuring, and the sales of many of these items are high because of their potential in this respect.

Moving from being apprehensive over all of this to being able to just kick back and enjoy who you are as a male takes some time, and a lot of guys really struggle with this a lot more than is necessary. But mastering this gives you access to all sorts of sweet and wonderful sensations that you can create whenever you are so moved. Feeling horny is not a bad thing at all—in fact it is a very good thing. Even a super good thing! Today I am wearing a really tight pair of way undersized white cotton briefs, a neat little black jock strap over, and an almost too small pair of compression shorts I bought years ago, but still fit like a second skin. Feels great. I need to go get on my rowing machine for a workout. The exercise will stress the system in place some more in fascinating ways.

What to Wear: A Sleepwear guide
 

Yesterday was an interesting day. I got up feeling rather horny and that general feeling did not leave me all day long. How I respond to the situation when this happens varies a lot, but I usually manage to find things to do that make me feel even hornier.

I went through my usual rowing and stationary bike riding in the morning, and then around noon I decided my pubes really could use a trim. I love the feel of shaved pubes but I do not trim that frequently, and mine were starting to look like my backyard as in way overgrown. I have a nice little shaving unit that was sold for “body hair removal” which for some guys means shaving the chest, but probably the most frequent use is for shaving and trimming pubes. Of course, I cannot do a good job at this without “handling” the merchandise in various ways, but that only adds to the fun.

I have had two separate hernia repair surgeries both done in different years many years ago. At that point in time, I was not shaving down there and showed up for surgery with my brush intact. Both times the hospital sent in a male nurse to do the work. And, of course the male nurse can’t do a complete job without handling the merchandise either. I am wondering if, in these days of women can do anything men can, that they still would find a male nurse for this task for the men facing surgery or not, But nowadays, with the same surgery, I would do some preparation myself at home.

So I was doing a lot of edging yesterday but keeping myself below the point where I would go into the repeated contractions of an orgasm. The techniques for keeping your body in that mode for long periods of time are way fun, and the pressure keeps building. At some point all I want to think about is how much pure fun I am having down there, and hanging in there keeps getting tougher and tougher to do without going into uncontrollable muscular contractions, but many years of experience in building up the pressure at that level has been really helpful in sustaining the wonderful sensations.

So last night I was ready for bed but still was traveling along the very edge of orgasm. In that mode I keep getting hungrier and hungrier for something that fits really tight and holds my somewhat erect penis forward and then up as the blood flows in. And last night I found just the garment.

I realize that some of my readers are probably bored stiff with my frequent mention that I use way undersized tighty whiteys to keep my penis pointed forward and then up as an erection proceeds. Well, this garment was much more complicated than that. It is one I bought as a gift to myself but somehow had only tried on once or twice. It looks not like a swim brief so much as like a low-cut square cut, but the fabric is made to look like a lightweight black faux leather.

The fabric is interesting but it is the cut of the garment that is the fascinating part. From the front, it provides more than ample coverage (though really tight), but in the rear, the back leaves about 1/3 of my butt crack totally uncovered. The back appearance is like a Japanese swim brief, but think way way lower.

I have no idea of any circumstance where a guy would be able to comfortably wear this in even a semi public setting. I keep thinking that this was designed as a “gay boy” brief for clubbing in a semi private setting, but, never mind, because in the condition I am in, I am going to try wearing it as sleepwear and there is no reason to be concerned about the lack of butt coverage. What's important is that it feels great on my groin, and the leathery texture of the black cloth coupled with the tight fit as I try to bring the butt side to some semblance of coverage is exactly where I need to be given my generally clouded state of horniness.

So I hop into bed wearing this, position my penis up and forward and, given my horny and rather exhausted state from dealing with my horniness all day long, I quickly drop off to sleep.

Then at 4 AM I wake up, my penis suddenly screaming to me that it is in desperate need of attention and really wants to be rubbed and played with, I pick up with my edging about where I had left off yesterday evening. Wow this feels great. This garment has far more uses than gay boy clubbing. It’s great sleepwear as well. This morning I am still in the same rather horny state though I have gone back to my tighty whiteys and compression gear I like to wear during the day. I will see how the day goes.

I got to thinking, in the process of doing all of this to, with and by myself, I have some information for other guys who might want to do some similar self-pleasuring. The trick here was to find sleepwear that fits snug enough to keep your flaccid penis pointed forward and then upward as the blood gradually give you a semi-erection. You want to make certain that as this happens the underside of your penis presses firmly against the slick fabric of the tight-fitting garment. Touching and rubbing the underside of your penis gives some great erotic sensations, and if you avoid the glans or tip as all of this is happening you can keep the edging sensations active almost indefinitely as I was able to do early this morning.

A swim brief makes great basic sleepwear for exploring all of this. If you are in a close quarters setting such as in a dorm room or military setting, a good technique is to quickly slip on the brief when no one is looking, and then fit a loose pair of cotton boxer shorts on over. The appearance is that you are just wearing the cotton boxers as sleepwear but of course you are setting yourself up for a night of pleasure. Once in bed the boxers are simply slipped down to your ankles and the real masturbation fun begins.

Not every guy is going to have the control I have at my age. And the question always becomes “what happens if I lose control and end up with an ejaculatory mess and how do I hide that?”. Hopefully the swim brief fit snug enough to contain most of the ejaculate (If not, you need a still tighter pair.) But if you did the boxer shorts thing you still have a clean and dry pair of boxers underneath the covers and the trick is to remove the brief under the covers, and slip on the boxers. The brief gets carried in your hand to the shower, where you use the shower to wash the cum out of brief as you are showering.

But, if a guy has control, the stains on the brief will likely be easier-to-manage pre-cum not cum. My antics last night produced a great quarter-dollar-sized precum stain but only on the inside of the gay boy brief. It was invisible on the outside. Precum stains signal a great experience overall.

I am just wondering about all of this
 

I am just wondering about all of this

Suppose there is a well-built, athletic guy who is wearing only a swim brief. The swim brief grips the guy’s athletic body and is quite snug, though not that skimpy, more of a swimmer’s brief with 2 ½ inch sides. It could be a standard Speedo brief, in the familiar sapphire blue color. Or maybe something from one of the competing mainstream swimwear manufacturers, Tyr, Arena or perhaps even Adidas.

I suspect that the brief might purposely be one or even 2 inches undersized as in a 30-inch brief for a guy whose waist is 32. No matter, the fabric stretches a lot and the guy somehow looks very good wearing it. But it is clear that the only way he could get himself in was to position his penis upward, and even at that, the underside of his penis is pressing hard against the fabric in the tight pouch. From the outline it is clear that the guy already has something of an erection going on perhaps from just the struggle of getting into the brief. If one were to observe closely, it is possible to see both the outline of the shaft of the penis as well as the underside of the glans as well. Surely this guy is feeling quite good in the snug-fitting brief. How could it be otherwise? What he has is a bit of a predicament, but not an unpleasant one for him for sure.

Presumably this guy also is in public where other guys can see him. The attention the situation presents tends to attract a crowd of people although maybe not the kinds of people who would want to obviously show that they are fascinated by the guy and what might be happening to him. Guys tend to divide themselves into being either straight or gay. On the surface, I suppose most people think my swimsuit-clad guy would attract the attention of guys who are either openly gay, of maybe have some “hidden” gay “leanings”. But I have often wondered whether or not this is entirely the case,

In contrast, purportedly an utterly straight guy would find the situation our swimsuit guy is in as bland, boring or not of any psychological interest whatsoever. After all, in theory at least, the straight guys are not supposed to be aroused by any other guy regardless of his condition, only females, but what if, for some significant subset of the straight guys, simply looking at the swimsuit-clad guy and the interesting situation his penis is in causes a “reaction” even for a guy who claims to be “totally straight”. The straight guy, on looking at our swimwear guy, feels “something” in his groin, and that something is the initial signs of arousal, maybe releasing a drop or two of precum that the guy can feel dampening the underwear that he is wearing in the area around his own penis tip. I guess this totally involuntary “reaction” to the situation is not exactly what a straight guy would ever want to admit had happened, that a straight guy observing this situation involuntarily entered the initial stages of arousal.

Of course, our swimwear guy is not necessarily going to maintain his erect but nothing more situation forever. A real possibility is that in such an aroused state, he could start to ooze as well, and with his penis tip pressed firmly up against the pouch of the suit, the fact that he is “leaking” precum could quickly become obvious to others. Should this happen, might the other silent but observant men both purportedly straight and purportedly gay also go into arousal mode and start dripping precum inside their own underwear as well? Is oozing precum “catching” in this regard and if so is there any reason to believe that the straight guys are going to be able to deal with what they are observing any better than the guys who somehow believe they are gay?

Let me take this one step farther. If a guy is wearing a tight-fitting swim brief, penis up, the head of the penis is in a position that if the guy ejaculates, what just happened is going to be very obvious. The milky-white stain in varied patches on the pouch of the brief can be mistaken for nothing other than what it is. But suppose we have the same straight and gay group of male observers. Is the straight group going to find it easier to deal with what they just observed than the gay group? Exactly how “catching” is a full-scale ejaculation? Are some of the male observers able to cope with the situation better than others (staying relatively unaroused), or do all the guys quickly start to thinking that they would really like to have been in the predicament of the swimsuit guy as in being able to ejaculate with the tight fitting Speedo pressing on the underside of their penises.

I hold the view that being able to observe a guy with a full erection and even see evidence of precumming and ejaculating is a nearly universal desire among males despite claims that each one might make about sexual orientation or being turned on only by women, and the hypothetical aroused guy in the tight Speedo is an excellent way of researching this issue. I also believe that sexual arousal is to a degree catching, and that guys who think they are not aroused when with one or more other guys who clearly are, will soon get caught up themselves in finding themselves being aroused. There is lots here to think about with respect to male sexuality, sexual orientation, claims about claims guys make about being only perfectly straight or perfectly gay. Why other guys seem to find the situation the swim brief male so fascinating and personally arousing to the observer remains to me as something of a mystery.

Confessing....
 

Confessing…

I am a retired college professor who has had a 40-year career in academics, and I have written gobs of stuff that is being read used and cited by other academics—students and faculty around the world. All of this is under my real name. I have been retired for some time.

I also admit that at least for some, I have an odd “hobby” of writing on all sorts of topics related to better understanding male sexuality and filling in the gaps in the books typically written by psychiatrists or sex researchers. But, the potential problem I had is that if I wrote on those topics using my real name, someone would soon do a Web search on my name and end up with a list of my academic writings in my real career mixed together with my writings on male sexuality topics. That was intolerable, and I could not pursue my hobby writing without figuring out a way to keep the two worlds entirely separate.

I quickly landed on the idea that I was in need of a “pen” name that I could use for my hobby writings, and at the same time continue to do academic writing under my real name. This idea has actually worked quite well and periodically I do some searches to check whether or not those who do searches under my pen name could find their way into my academic writings or vice versa, I can think of a few ways that someone who wanted to link the two could possibly find out, but it would not be an easy search.

In the 1990s and for some time after, I had an active Web site with some of my pen name writing for ready access. The problem I had was that someone would crawl into the site and conclude that what they read was somehow unsuitable for the general public including teenagers, to have ready access as well, yet what I was doing in my writings was never meant to be porn but merely educational and useful on topics that were seldom openly discussed by males. Some of my writings on male sexuality were very popular and quoted on other sites dealing with complex questions related to sex, relationships and related topics. But that did not stop at least one server site from banning be on content the basis of uploading pornographic content.

I even published a book on Amazon under my pen name and all you need to do to find it is to Google my pen name and up it will pop. Meanwhile you could Google my real name and you will see tons of my academic writings including several books on Amazon. But there is no way for a casual surfer to link the two. Right now I have no personal Web site dealing with male sexuality. If you want to read my latest thinking, you can usually find a new effort here at this site.

If you Google my pen name “David Sebringsil” you will get a link to my Amazon book and to various papers who have quoted papers I wrote that were on the old Web site. And if you use the Internet wayback machine, you can see a version of my old sebringsil.com site that is no longer active, along with the papers as they appeared on that site when it was active.

The papers that appeared on the old site now have some age to them. They did have some interesting titles one being “The Thonging Primer” that discussed some ways that guys could have fun once introduced to a male underwear thong with me giving “how to do it” advice that some of the server sites was too raunchy for general access. What is or is not pornographic versus merely educational in the world of sex is always an interesting issue.

So I just got through finding an original copy of “The Thonging Primer” and I thought it would be fun to ask the question “Does the advice I gave readers 25 years ago on this topic still hold, and what has changed since then that would either say “I changed my mind on some of this” or perhaps what is readily available has changed?

Some of you have probably read my recent essays on Wrangler Butts on the “Off-topic: section of this site. The interesting part when I went back to the old Thonging essay, part of it mentioned the fun a guy could have wearing a thong as underwear UNDER a pair of tight-fitting Wrangler jeans. What you see here are recurring long-term themes of mine.

Next, what I want to try and do here is present an annotated version of the Thonging Primer along with what still applies and what needs to be updated or even rethought entirely. But also expect me to be stunningly consistent, and generally what I thought was fun to do 25 or more years ago I still relish doing 25 years later.

I have other early papers that deserve the same treatment, “Spending the Night in a Cup” being my “classic” essay on straps and eroticism. So stick with me—this could be fun. And if you get a little aroused reading what I write, well that is why some people thought I should be banned from having all searchers be able to get ready access!

And also always remember that a male does not need to have a sexual partner in order to enjoy who you are as a male, and the idea of being a happy male living alone is another recurring theme in all of this, but this is especially true if your collection of Speedos is large!

Wayback Sebringsil.com Internet link
 

If you would like to see the original papers on the Sebringsil.com site, they are available via the Internet Wayback machine.

Try this link for an index. Seems to work fine.

https://web.archive.org/web/20191028...ebringsil.com/

Sebbie, I have enjoyed your writings and ramblings and now you have posted links to read more. Thanks very much for doing that.

What Professional Wrestlers wore
 

What Professional Wrestlers wore

I grew up in the 1950s and early 1960s. We got our first black and white TV set in late 1955 and I would have been only about 8 years old. Interestingly, one of the first late night shows I saw in that period was what passed for the professional wrestling of the day. Even way back then we knew a lot of what we were seeing was basically staged, and despite the theatrics the last thing the two guys on the mat wanted to do was injure themselves in taking falls. But even on the old TV sets we could see that the mat was not at all like concrete but springy, almost like a trampoline, This made the throws and falls look more dramatic.

Me? I was not much interested in wrestling the sport, but what caught my eye at that early age was the costumes the guys wore. They were like a swim brief, fit tight, but were quite high-waisted—fitting to the wrestlers’ belly buttons. Think swim brief with maybe a 6-inch side but no leg like a mid cut would have. Even at age 8 or 9 I thought these briefs were way cool and I knew I would really enjoy wearing one. Here I was, well before puberty and I still wanted to wear something like that, something that clearly outlined the shape of my package.

Pro wrestling in those days seemed to attract a female audience, who though not admitting it were attracted to seeing the guys cavorting on the mat in the tight briefs. I suppose there was a male audience—some guys interested in seeing the actual wrestling for the theatrics labeled a sport, but there no doubt was a significant homo-erotic male audience as well, maybe what could be called a gay-curious component.

The idea of wearing just a brief as a professional wrestler continued for decades, but what did change is that the industry started to see that the briefs the guys wore was part of the reason there was an audience, and the briefs started getting a lower and lower rise and seemed to keep fitting snugger and snugger, all the better for attracting an audience.

By the 1980s things had gotten really snug and while not yet quite bodybuilder posing trunks, the sides had gone to 3 inches then maybe 2 inches. This did not seem to hurt either ticket sales or TV audiences, in fact, quite the opposite—so you had all these big, muscular guys cavorting on a mat in front of a big live and TV audience in a minimal brief, with each wrestler wearing a different color.

There is a Netflix series “The Toys that made us”. Season 3 episode 4 deals with toys based on professional wrestling figures. Toy dolls were big sellers for girls, but dolls of either sex did not sell well for boys, with very limited exceptions. Girls liked dolls but boys wanted “action figures” to play with. Action figures based on military themes have been around for a long time, culminating with GI Joe who was actually a male doll in military garb but marketed to boys as an action figure not as a doll. And the toy companies were always looking for other ideas to create action figures on other themes that would be in effect a way to make dolls that would appeal to boys. One idea? Professional wrestling action figures.

And all of this happened just when the wrestling briefs had gotten quite skimpy, and so the action figures had to be made similarly, the poseable figure unclothed save the tiny brief in the color whatever the wrestler was wearing. You soon had a bunch of different wresting action figures in blister packs wearing only a snug-fitting brief in a bright color. And boys were buying these as action figures not male dolls and simultaneously learning that it was more than OK to be wearing a snug-fitting colored brief—this in a period of time when a colored brief for swimming had become popular even for young males who were not on a swim team. Mere coincidence? Maybe not! At that point in time the idea that somehow only gay guys would be caught wearing a swim brief had not yet surfaced to any degree.

It was later, and then only gradually that some wrestlers adopted more elaborate costumes that typically covered more but more individualized designs still with lightweight compression gear. Some of these were a variation based on a college-style wrestling singlet. Other wrestlers wore tights that extended to the ankles, and the poseable action figures were made to mimic whatever the popular wrestler of the day was wearing in the ring.

Still, nearly all of the early wrestling action figures were clad only in a tight-fitting brief in a bright color and boys were buying this and playing with their action figures thus clad. This was not considered homoerotic in any way, just boys engaging in action-figure play with wrestling being popular way to engage two of the action figures.

If you have a Netflix subscription, the episode to watch is season 3 episode 4 that traces the development of these early, brief-garbed wrestling action figures aimed at a young male audience. This was really popular in the late 1980s extending into the 1990s—less so today.

How I remember watching "professional" wrestling. Never cared for the theatrics, or the violence, but the costumes always kept me watching.

On Feeling Good in the Morning
 

On Feeling Good in the Morning

It’s funny how male sexuality works. I can go for days—sometimes longer--without ever thinking about my body down there. Then on one morning, as today, it suddenly hits me. I start thinking about my penis and my penis complains that it is unhappy for my lack of attention. It wants my attention and lets me know that in no uncertain terms. My brain acts like it is being forced to deal with this and it must somehow cope with the situation. “I want to be touched and fondled” screams my penis. My brain responds “OK I will deal with that!”

What happens next for guys depends on a lot of things. If a guy has a female sexual partner, the guy is hoping that she is either feeling the same way and the two of them can get off together. If the guy has a male sexual partner, he hopes that the partner is interested in the situation as well, and not off in some phase of having other non-sexual things he is worrying about.

But what if the guy is single and living alone? Like me? What to do? I guess most guys who wake up feeling horny but alone deal with it in the conventional way—deal with it by quickly masturbating to ejaculation, then simply clean up and forget about the whole thing until he gets the “urge” to do it again. Heck, that’s the way probably the vast majority of teens and other young single males cope day by day.

Me, of course, I am different, and the methods I employed as a young person no longer seem satisfactory. I am not after an experience that lasts only 2 or 3 minutes total. I want to “bask” in my sexual feelings for hours, if possible. In short, I’m into long and slow mode not let me get this over quickly mode. There are a huge number of ways a guy can enjoy himself alone, and if you have read along with me you will realize that I want to explore as many of them as possible.

Why is it, whenever I wake up feeling horny like this I get a desperate urge to pull on something really snug and tight. This morning what I wanted to be in was a way undersized pair of tighty-whiteys that just barely fit around my waist. Why am I so fond of these, anyway? Mainly because they allow me to position my penis forward and up even if it it only a little bit hard. In my condition the underside of my penis feels sooo good even with the most gentle of touches, and for me exploring this is one of the great treats of being a male. So I get into my little white briefs and start playing with myself, focusing on the underside.

What would make this feel even better? Why an old-school strap with a pouch, of course! I have a decision to make. Cup or not? The problem with wearing a cup this morning is that if I crawl into the cup, my ability to mess around by touching the underside of my penis will be blocked. So the obvious choice is an old school pouch—no cup. What makes this jock good is that I can continue to point my penis forward and up—Generally the cups for a guy into a down position with the underside buried. But the jock without the pouch is perfect layered over the tight brief. I love the sensations I am getting why playing around with the pouch over the brief.

What next? I’m in the brief and the jock and feeling great. But I have some really nice-and-snug running tights as well. It is cool today. Pull those on over. Three layers now. Undersized brief, strap and tights. How does my penis feel about all of this? The underside still feels great as I gently touch and rub myself still focusing primarily on the underside. Today is slow and somewhat boring. But I have found a way to make my day, well, quite enjoyable, and the method did not involve getting off in a hurry or deal the the complexities of involving a sexual partner.

All in all a great day! Every guy is different. This scheme may not work for you, or you may have different choices. But this is a scheme that works very well for me and the sensations I am getting from my penis is a continuing but gentle reminder. This is great!


Have a great day!

As 2021 draws to a close
 

As 2021 draws to a close

First, I want to wish all my readers the best for the holiday season and into 2022. My fondest wish is that for each of my readers is to be able to find a path so that they are able to do things to, by and for themselves regardless of the specific situation they find themselves in.

This has been an incredible journey for me. I am now well into my 70s, and dare I admit that the things I enjoyed as a young teenager remain important and enjoyable to me now, and my enthusiasm for this particular part of life has not diminished. I can only hope that my readers find a path that works as well for them as this has worked for me. I could offer some specific suggestions on what to do based on my personal experiences but I have done that for you hundreds of times already.

I’m sure all of you know where I am going with this. Part of life is simply kicking back and having fun. And some of you may think that the only way you can have fun is to be with others (or perhaps Another), which is fine. But if for whatever reason that is not where life takes you, there is absolutely no reason to feel down or unhappy.

The human body is an amazing thing, capable on its own of taking you a whole series of strange and wonderful places. Tapping into all of this is just endlessly fascinating.

I am always awestruck by how wonderful the male penis is—but particularly the underside of the male penis. Even flaccid, feeling really great is just a light touch away—but especially if you have found the spot here to touch. One way of celebrating the holiday season is to simply kick back and explore all of this.

I know a lot of you like to mess around like this wearing a snug swim brief but that is just one option. Nothing quite like an upward-pointing penis with the underside pressed tightly against the slick snug cloth of the swim brief. Just a light touch to the underside positioned like this will send you to a wonderful place of celebration.

But, as as all of you know, I am also really fond of jock straps, running tights, and perhaps a oddly to you, really tight-fitting tighty whiteys. And today is a great day to experiment and fondle myself. First the tighty whiteys—penis still positioned forward and up, of course. Then the Duke strap. And on top of that, my Tesla running tights.

I have been wearing the same pair of running tights from Tesla for a long time, and, not surprisingly they are now wearing thin in spots. But what is interesting is that they seem to fit every bit as snug and tight as they did when I first took them out of the package over a year ago. I have been comparing the fit with pairs that have been worn only a few times and the fit remains the same.

All of this feels really great. The past few weeks I have been having some issues with a sore lower back, and have been off my usual rowing and exercising program for the past 3 weeks or so. But my situation has really improved over the past few days and I am back to my full rowing and biking schedule—but today wearing my favorite gym wear. I Feel great today and I am celebrating the day by getting myself back into my favorite gym wear.


This Afternoon

This afternoon I had another half hour of rowing to do and I wanted to mix it up a bit. I always enjoy wearing a thong when I row, as the thong rear cinches up between my glutes with every stroke. It is a great feeling. So I found a favorite underwear thong and got into it.

The other real treat is to put a strap with a cup over the top. The combination of the thong tugging away in a sensitive place with the cup pressing firmly down on me with every stroke is both interesting and great fun. A treat for every guy that is not to be missed.

I am wishing all of you the best and I am only hoping that you too can find a path that you really enjoy!

Sebbie

Reading
 

Great post Debbie enjoy your stories! Best wishes to everyone for a Merry Christmas and a Happy! Healthy 2022!!
I’ve got festive red briefs trunks patterns and a red solar speedo for rest of the month! Hoping Santa will bring some new jock straps. Cheers guys!

Sebbie
 

Sebbie! not Debbie !

Thanks for writing, Sebbie and Happy New Year!

Having fun by (with and for) myself version 48 (or is it 49)
 

Having fun by (with and for) myself version 48 (or is it 49)

There are countless ways for a guy to do things by, for, with and to himself. The only thing that is needed is a bit of free time and privacy, though the ideas could easily become part of a shared experience with another (similarly inclined) male.

Sometimes I think that maybe I have tried everything that there is to try, and have done everything to myself that there is to do, but then for some obscure reason I end up trying only a slight variation on an old chain of ideas and end up saying to myself “Wow, is that ever fun”.

As my regular readers already are well aware, I am a great fan of precumming and male precum. I am such a fan of doing this that it almost eclipses the experience of a full-ejaculation orgasm. Not that I do not enjoy a full-scale orgasm. I do! The repetitive uncontrolled muscle contractions are extraordinarily enjoyable, the best that life offers a guy. It is just when engaging in this alone, a guy usually ends up with a perhaps messy cleanup operation afterwards.

Precumming is much simpler in a variety of ways, but the big advantage to going into precum mode is that a guy can stay in that state not only for many minutes, but hours and even many hours. There is no urgency or even any requirement that things proceed onward to a full-scale orgasm. The latter can, of course happen too, but the technique of “edging” is all about maintaining a high state of arousal (oozing clear drops of precum) perhaps indefinitely. Not that this will not become tougher and tougher to do as the period becomes more extended, especially if a guy hasn’t ejaculated in many days, but part of the fun of edging is seeing just how long a guy can stay aroused without going into a full orgasmic ejaculation. Some guys are better than others at this and edging for long periods of time as in hours and hours is in fact a learned technique.

So far as a tool for learning the nuances of edging (as in precumming with no immediate urge to ejaculate), what better invention has ever been than an underwear thong designed for males? A lot of guys are apprehensive about wearing a thong as daily underwear, in part, I suspect that they worry that this could immediately result in a lot of drops of precum, not an issue perhaps if you are relaxing at home after work, but what about in a work (or school) situation? And guys worry that it might not only be precum that is creating wet drops on the thong pouch. What happens if the guy suddenly thinks about what is going on “down there” and the precumming evolves quickly into a full-blown erection? Home alone this is nothing to be concerned about, but at mid-day and at school or work? So guys who would like to try wearing a thong as daily underwear should first experiment in private to see exactly how their body will “react” to the situation at hand. (This is not unlike taking a swim brief home to “try on” as an experiment before weaing one at a team swim event.) If you can sleep overnight wearing the thong, that is a good sign that you should be able to control your ejaculation urges during the day as well.

So what am I doing today? For starters, crawling into a thong is always fun as the pouch wants to push my balls and penis upward and forward, tugging on the cord wedged between my glutes. The mere THOUGHT of this happening may send a guy into precum mode. Even if you only get a little hard getting yourself in and positioned, the overall effect is magnified. Once the apprehensive level calms down It feels great! (This is not unlike wearing a swim brief the first few times.)

I am always readying myself for my daily exercise. Why not a pair of snug-fitting running tights over the thong? A good choice for sure. The tighter the fit, the better. Part of this involves the discovery that a guy’s entire lower body is active with regard to sexual sensations. The thong is gripping but in only certain places. The running tights make all the lower body sensations more intense.

But there is more. How about a jock strap WITH a cup OVER the running tights? Super crazy, huh? The strap and cup is trying to do the opposite of what the thong is trying to do—as in press the penis and balls down and back. The conflict between what the thong is trying to do and the cupped strap is trying to do sets a guy up for a really enjoyable time. The penis senses the presence of the cup bearing down on it, and starts to grow, pressing harder and harder against the walls of the cup. It feels confined in a way, but also “likes” being in the situation it is in with limits on the room to expand.

I debated some today on what to wear OVER the running tights to hold the strap firmly in place against my penis, and came up with the idea of a pair of football pants I have. These bear down on the cup and keep it from moving around. Of course, my penis is saying it would “like” to get out from under the constant pressure of the cup bearing down, so occasionally I reach down to give it some momentary “breathing room.” My penis responds by growing just a touch given the momentary newfound “freedom, but then the cup presses down again. I end up feeling hornier than ever, and the precumming does not stop at all…in fact it is accumulating.

Next up, crawling on my stationary rowing machine for a 30 minute row while wearing all of this.

Edging is fun, way fun….

Understanding the fun of just being a guy
 

Understanding the fun of just being a guy

I realize that a lot of guys reading this think that wearing a swim brief aka Speedo ® sends them off into a place where they very much like to be. All of this is wired into how every guy is constructed in terms of enjoying sensations that turn him on sexually. Every guy experiences these sensations and feelings, often triggered by confronting certain situations that end up being a sexual turn on. There is this goofy mess of the physical, the psychological and the visual imagery that in matters of sex, all get intermingled in crazy and individualized ways.

A guy might say “ I am feeling horny”. Every other guy who hears this (females too, maybe) is going to know what the guy is trying to convey. What exactly got the guy into this condition (He COULD have said “I am really enjoying myself—at least that is what my body is telling me!” but exactly What is going on that led the guy to being in this “condition” may be obvious or not so obvious. And the other interesting issue is how the guy somehow “knows” that he is feeling horny. I always think that one of the main clues is the sensation of the existence of a drop or two of viscous precum that feels wet on the guy’s underwear at the very tip of the penis is the obvious one, and that the production of these viscous drops is the “clear” (LOL) external “evidence” that the guy is indeed in a horny state.

But what was the triggering mechanism that led to the guy finding himself to be in this condition? Seeing or even just visualizing in one’s imagination a sexy semi-nude female perhaps? That is where things become less clear, so to speak. The exact triggering mechanism for horniness may have nothing to do with the obvious sex or, for that matter, for guys who have a gay side, another person of the same sex. Horniness can happen under very different circumstances—circumstances that may not even involve another person, real or imagined, at all.

For most guys the realization that feeling horny is a fun place to be suddenly occurs at about age 12 and this realization follows a guy right into young adulthood. And while every guy has the same basic body parts, no two guys are going to be dealing with the exact same triggering mechanisms. BUT rather than that being a problem, all guys need to be aware of the fact that there are all sorts of ways to get to the point of feeling horny, that there are so many ways do do this is part of why it is so much fun to just be a guy and explore these in various ways.

Take the 12-year old in a situation where he will be wearing a Speedo ® in a first-time encounter. This situation has equal parts, apprehension, fear and total joy. And the combination drives the guy bonkers. All sorts of questions arise. What will happen? What if I get a hard-on and I am in a public space or even a semi-public place, such as a locker room with other males? Horror of horrors, what if I cannot control my urges and end up ejaculating all over the pouch of the Speedo? All of these thoughts are racing through the guy’s mind, surely moving him into a situation where he does get a firm erection.

But the other guys are doing this, as getting into their Speedos too, and seem to be not bothered by all of this at all. How do they manage to do so? Are they not wired like I am wired?

All these sensations and fears follow guys into adulthood. At some point a guy comes to the realization that sex might be about having intercourse with a partner, but it is a whole lot more. And feeling horny is not a bad thing but a good—even a great--thing, the only issue being that a guy gradually learns to have a degree of control as to when and under what circumstances the horniness presents itself. As an adult the guy can manage this to a large degree—with or without a sexual partner and gay or straight.

I guess a lot of guys are embarrassed to openly admit that merely wearing snug –fitting clothing can be a horny triggering mechanism, because that involves admitting to oneself that sexual feeling are not just about having sex with another person, and no guy wants to openly admit that he engages in snug clothing-inspired “self abuse”. Plain old masturbation as in fondling one’s own penis using the hands and fingers has arisen to being more socially accepted than snug clothing-induced masturbation. While no guy likes to admit to others that he masturbates, better to masturbate like the other must guys do it and not by some scheme that seems to have a tight clothing-fetish component to it.

The problem of course, is that guys like to feel horny, and if the snug clothing accomplishes that—Speedo ® thong, compression gear—shorts, shirt. Running tights--Jock strap--if it works and make a guy feel horny, there is no harm other than the possible psychological embarrassment should someone walk in when you are having fun with yourself in this manner.

The general rule is the snugger the fit of the garment, the faster it will get you into a “feeling horny” mode. So guys who do this regularly are constantly in search of garments that fit ever snugger and tighter—and not just the swim briefs. This applies to a range of garments but in particular the compression running shorts and tights. A guy is always thinking “these feel really good, but I wonder if I could feel even better downsizing one more size.” This applies to when a guy wants to use a swim brief for this purpose as well.


And now for other items. Somehow I had managed to go for about two weeks without having an orgasm. The short days and cold winter weather had made me feel less horny than I do in the summertime, almost forgetting that my penis still was there and wanted my attention. But last night I suddenly got back to a more normal mode. I put on some really snug tights I have along with a thong and a strap with a cup. My body responded in all the right ways and suddenly I was feeling really horny and my penis was loving all the attention from being inside the tight-fitting garments.

But oddly enough all I could think about was how much I wanted to be inside my penis pump that is my little $20 VED device I had bought on Amazon. So I lubed myself up using some Dial shower gel and crawled into the pump. My penis was loving all of the attention, and with each squeeze of the pump bulb it was saying to me “That felt really really good--Can you do that to and for me one more time? Slow, deliberate squeezes that increase the vacuum inside the tube just a little at a time are best, as I watch my penis not only grow but keep slowly turning a ruddier red. The strap, the thong and the tights really got me in the mood but the pump sent me off to another place and time. The most fun a guy can have for $20 other than buying a first Speedo (LOL)! This morning my penis seems really happy. All that blood forced into my penis with my trusty vacuum pump has great health benefits and thus the pump falls into the category of one of those thing no adult guy of any age should be afraid to try and maybe use on a regular basis. The pump and the gel soap were all “just right” last night.
 
All the best in your quest to feel horny!

Items I have enjoyed

In all my years, I have engaged in a lot of self-pleasuring. However, I have never put together a detailed list of these items. So, here is my basic list.

Swim Briefs Speedo, Tyr, Aqux, SeoBean etc

Swim Jammers from Speedo, Tyr and Others

Swim Thongs Speedo and others

Athletic Supporters from Bike, Duke and others, cupped and without cups

Underwear Thongs from a wide variety of manufacturers including Jockey, Joe Boxer, Verona, Pappi, 2(xist) etc

Tighty Whitey Underwear, way undersized (kids sizes) from Hanes and Fruit of the Loom

Compression Shorts of various lengths and sizes and Tees from Starter, Tesla etc

Compression tights from Tesla, Russell Athletic and others.

Wrestling/Rowing Singlets from asics, Russell and others

Non-clothing items

Faux “Magic Wand” vibrator

estim device using two AAA batteries

vacuum penis pumps of various styles

water-based gel lubricants

gel shower soap.

All of the above items can readily be employed in solo self-pleasuring that goes way beyond what a guy gets from a simple manual jerk-off, and they might also be useful if you have an interested and willing sexual partner interested in mutual pleasure, but especially so for both of you when with a male partner. Every guy should try the Magic Wand, the estim device and the vacuum pump if for no other reason, as an “educational” activity. The real focus here is finding ways to find safe ways to enjoy yourself in the absence of having a partner for sex, as in getting the most pleasure from engaging in masturbation

Living alone, my great “treat” in life has been to be able to regularly use all of this without any fear of being embarrassed by being discovered” and other single guys may not have it so easy in this regard. Still, I have greatly enjoyed my activities over the years and I always get a big kick out of sharing some of these ideas with others. Some of these ideas may not end up making you feel horny, but there are probably several items on this list that you will find that you like a lot specifically as aids to self-pleasuring. I tend to change off and vary my activities day-by-day and week-by-week, but there is always something on the list that feels really good and is worth the effort I make.

I would be happy to answer detailed questions about employing any of these for sexual pleasure either in a private message or here.

Having Fun in a Swim Brief
 

Having Fun in a Swim Brief

A properly-fitting swim brief can provide you with a lot of interesting and erotic fun, and, aside from what you are doing being “discovered” by anyone you do not want to know, there is not really a downside. First off, nearly every guy has been known to engage in self-enjoyment, and one way of looking at this is that this is simply another way of doing it, and a way of having sexual pleasure and does not create the various kinds of risky situations to yourself or others that engaging in partner sex in any of its forms might do. If you of the belief that the only real sexual pleasure comes from being with a partner so be it, but be assured that not every guy—straight or gay or something in between—feels the same way.

When you were growing up, you probably did a lot of interesting stuff by yourself, and there is nothing wrong with carrying a lot of what you learned about yourself and your body into adulthood, but especially so if you are now an adult not in a relationship with a partner. Of course, still one of the least-discussed topics for a lot of guys, even in adulthood, is any discussion relating to what they might do to their body while alone. And even for guys who have a partner, there are times when the guy still may find himself alone. Each guy deals with such a situation in a different way—the various ways I will not list in detail here, except to say that what I am about to outline is one way of dealing with a situation whereby a guy still wants to have some sexual pleasure regardless.

One way of “resolving” all of this is to purchase a swim brief. Me, for these purposes, I want to have a swim brief that fits quite snug, Fortunately modern swim briefs made of stretch fabrics, well, stretch a lot. Which means that in general, in choosing one you will want to downsize from what you normally think of as your normal waist size. For example, a guy who thinks his waist size is 32” in US sizes, might downsize to a 30-inch brief, or maybe, if he is really daring, a 28 incher. You will want the fit to be really snug for what you are about to do.

Part of the appeal of a swim brief is that the material is really slick and smooth-feeling, and the mere thought of having such material pressing firmly against a guy’s most sensitive body parts is a turn-on for a lot of guys regardless of whether the guy thinks of himself as straight, gay or something in between. The idea that you might feel aroused just getting into your new swim brief may have “bothered” you as a young person, but now you are an adult and are able to take full advantage of what you once may have feared.

Swim briefs are for much more than just swimming. I recommend a nice snug-fitting one as sleepwear. During the summer months That is all I wear when I am sleeping. In the colder months of fall and winter, I slip on a pair of shorts or sleep pants over the brief, but invariably I still have my swim brief on.

I find the best technique involves getting enough of a hard-on so that I can point my penis upward in the brief. The interesting part about this penis position in a snug-fitting brief is that the extra-sensitive penis underside is always pressing firmly against the slick cloth of the pouch of the brief. Did I mention that a really snug fit always works best and gives the best sensations?

Now is a great time for learning edging technique. In particular, exactly how hard can you get without ejaculating semen into your swim brief. I find that I can get really close to having a true orgasm, then suddenly just before that happens I fall asleep and then wake up at two AM still feeling horny as when I fell asleep, but still not having ejaculated. Were I younger, maybe MUCH younger, I might have awakened in such circumstances in the final stages of a wet dream. Somehow when a guy goes to sleep feeling aroused, a goofy “story line” to a dream often develops that, for me at least, at a very early age, I would wake up on the very edge of ejaculating. On awakening I could no longer keep from ejaculating. Great, goofy fun. Nothing to be ashamed of but you will want to rinse out your swim briefs when you arise the next morning...and some guys to not like the feel of wet semen for the rest of the night.

Once you ejaculate you discover that your “mood” has shifted and you no longer for a time want to have anything to do with the edging techniques you enjoyed so much just before you went into the orgasm. Sure, the orgasm was terrific , but it lasted less than a minute. If you can remain horny while edging in your swim brief, you can learn to go on indefinitely in this neat aroused state. And you swim brief was and is a great accessory in helping you learn exactly how to do this.

Above all, have fun. The right swim brief can be an important tool in improving your mood and overall outlook on life, and getting to do this every night is a great way of being able to see more clearly the idea that just being a guy is great fun, irrespective of who you are as a male.

Fun in the winter
 

I have often talked about how I enjoy having my penis in the “up” position inside a snug-fitting swim brief and that doing so makes me feel instantly horny. I associate feeling horny with dripping precum. And the “danger” in getting too carried away doing this is that enough precum will form to leave a wet stain on the brief, right at the tip of the upward-pointing penis. This is way fun, but could be embarrassing, and if this happens to a guy at a pool, he probably dives into the water quickly.

Jock straps are always fun as well, and my fondness for the old-school straps with the flat cups that create a confined space penis have always been favorites of mine. I am no fan of those big banana cups where a guy’s flaccid penis simply bounces around inside open space. They may be useful if a guy simply does not want to think about his penis pressing against the cup sides, but that to me seems to defeat a major purpose of being in a cupped strap—instant horniness.

Traditionally I thought that the only way a guy could wear one of the ond school cupped straps is in the penis down position. But I got to messing around, and that is not exactly true. Generally I like to wear a brief of some sort under the old-school cupped strap and then put the cup on over the strap.

In the old days, many guys wearing cupped straps as required for sport did not like the idea of being completely butt-naked otherwise. Obviously the gear for the sport they were playing would go over the strap. Tighty whiteys (brief cotton underwear) were all the rage back then so a guy would put the strap on over a pair of tighty whiteys.

What you will need is a pair of briefs (I used a pair of undersized tighty whiteys, but a swim brief will work too) that fits snug enough to allow you to position yourself in the vertical position, with the sensitive underside of your penis facing outward. Once you get yourself in that position Then slip your old school strap and cup over. The neat part about this is that the cup will press firmly against that sensitive underside of your penis and your penis will feel quite “constrained” by the sensation. Instant horniness!

The really neat part of this is that you will start to feel that you are dripping right into the top of the cup where the tip of your penis is positioned. You can’t directly touch your penis even though you are feeling aroused but that is part of the fun.
Instead, I pulled on a pair of Tesla running tights over, which secures the cup in place with additional pressure on the underside of my penis from the cup being further confined by the tights. By now I am feeling really good down there. Dripping and horny in combination.

It’s cold here now, and I am wearing sweat gear over everything. Navy blue sweat pants and a snug matching navy blue sweatshirt. Nice and warm for my winter workout. And my body is thoroughly enjoying the predicament I have put it in. Periodically I tap or press on the cup through the sweatpants. I can stay in this situation all day long, and I probably will!

Have fun! I always do.



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Understanding Old-School Straps and Cups
 

Understanding Old-School Straps and Cups

What feels great (from an arousal-horniness perspective I mean)? What feels mediocre? More importantly, why does something feel great and something else, maybe not so much?

There are all sorts of ways a guy can pleasure himself, whether alone or with a partner. Most of these methods can be described as involving some sort of motion, i.e. stroking, massaging, vibrating, squeezing or perhaps a combination of these.

For young guys, learning how to engage in highly enjoyable partner-sex starts with finding out the various ways and engaging in solo-sex. A lot of guys, consumed with the idea of finding a sexual partner, see solo-sex as simply a second-rate alternative what a partner is unavailable.

The idea of a guy pleasuring himself with steady, direct but gentle pressure on the walls of the penis may seem tame and perhaps more than a little old-fashioned, considering the other options commonly employed that involve more complicated stroking, massaging and employing tools that perhaps squeeze or vibrate.

A long time ago, it was mandatory for any guy engaging in a sport whereby the gonads could easily be injured (football, baseball, even basketball) to wear a mandatory cup and strap. The Bike Company was the inventor and dominant maker of these straps and cups. According to Wikipedia, the first straps were made for wear by Boston bicycle riders, hence the company name. The athletic supporter got renamed the Jock strap as something athletes (the jocks) would wear. Wikipedia also states that the Jockey Company marketed the first Y-front brief in 1935, claiming that it gave a similar support to a jock strap (hence the Jockey company name). The snug-fitting briefs were an immediate hit with men.

Guys were always wary of the whole idea of being in a jock, in part because the cup put pressure and enclosed the penis in, well, interesting, but (perhaps) arousing ways. Getting your first jock strap (with or without a cup) became something of a male “rite of passage” into adulthood.

The photo illustrates some old-school cups I have in my collection. The straps and cups came in various sizes depending on the size and age of the athlete. But the old school cups were all designed for the penis to be pointed firmly downward and held securely in place. The space for the penis would be smaller for the smaller cups. These cups are all from pouched straps sized Youth Large, a size similar in waist size to a Men’s size small with both for waist sizes 30-32 inches, although the cup is not as big for the Youth Large.
These cups are designed to have the penis in the pointing down position. But notice how narrow they are at the base. They all feature a cramped space on the bottom end barely big enough to contain a completely flaccid penis, with no room whatsoever should the guy (inadvertently, of course) get even a bit of a hard-on. With even a trivial hard-on, the walls of the cup bear down firmly on the guy’s penis. Depending on the guy, this might be either really fun or terrifying. At minimum, the guy is likely to precum when firmly strapped into the cup—perhaps a lot, so long as the sport he is engaged in is not occupying his full attention. Great fun or amazing problem? That is for the guy to decide.

I like to use these cups for “recreation” and while I am exercising, but one guy’s definition of recreation while wearing a cup and strap may be different from another guy’s idea.

These old-school cups were great in keeping a guy’s penis safe and secure but provided less protection to the testicles and scrotum. In the years that followed, the so-called Banana” cup was invented, a cup which was longer and provided more room for the penis to flop around inside the cup, as well providing more direct coverage of the balls. In sport activity, however, these bigger cups mean that a guy’s penis is flopping around inside the roomier cup, not simple held firmly in one place.

That the old-school cups used with the correct pouched strap holds the penis securely in place behind the hard plastic cup this works well for sports where the risk is a blow to the groin area from the front even if the issues guys have with having one’s penis in such a confined space. The old-school cups and straps nowadays can be hard to find, but from a recreational effort they are worth a search. I have accumulated the ones I have over many years, starting in the 1970s.

These cups can also be worn without a strap by simply slipping them inside a tight-fitting pair of compression shorts. Some compression shorts have a sewn-in pouch for holding a cup, and I suspect most college and professional athletes wear compression shorts under their other gear in part to be able to be in a cup. It is also possible—and rather interesting--to position the penis in the up not down position inside the cup. In that option, the underside of the penis gets direct firm pressure from underside of the front of the cup. You might find that you like that sensation as well.

Holiday fun
 

Holiday fun

Somehow, in the holiday season from the days leading up to Christmas through early January, my mind always wonders to having some fun by getting to do some things to, with and by myself. This has been true for countless years, when I was only a young teenager my mind would wander off in that direction as well.

Today I got up and started looking at some of the items I had. One of the items I found was an old cupped jock strap with the now-defunct brand name of Futuro. One of the things that has always fascinated me about the old-school straps—and this one surely falls into that category—was where they were sold. They were obviously not an Internet thing as there were no Internet vendors in those days. Generally they were sold in the mom-and-pop sporting goods stores that catered to young athletes—the same place you would find Speedos in little cardboard boxes—and, oddly enough, in drug stores. This was also before you found them on a wall rack in a Wal Mart or Kmart as well.

I guess the drug stores sold them as they were thought to be something of a medical device by giving protection to a guy’s personal parts. In small-town America, the town probably did not even have a sporting goods store so the coach would send the young athlete to the drug store to obtain the required equipment. Purchasing a strap at a drug store for some guys was only slightly less embarrassing than telling the clerk you needed a box of condoms. Not exactly the same thing but close. This was one of those teen rite-of-passage things, buying your first strap—perhaps not like shaving for the first time, but on that order as well. The guy has some stuff that needs protection, the rite-of-passage body parts stuff.

Most guys perhaps did not think about using a strap and cup as a tool for self pleasuring. They learned that as a (happy) accident, but that information made the whole idea of getting into one, well, more interesting for sure given the straps and cups of the day tended to have a very close fit, with even a flaccid penis rubbing against the walls of the hard cup. The guy hoped that whatever was happening in the sport would tend to take him away from thinking about down there, but probably not every guy was “successful” in that regard. But then the guy probably discovered that in private that wearing a strap was, well, both physically stimulating and psychologically interesting, so more than a few guys probably got off in private in their bedrooms wearing their recently-acquired straps.

I think I acquired my Futuro strap around the turn of the decade, year 2000. The local drug store where I was vacationing around the town I grew up in was on the verge of going out of business, or at least selling what was a collection of Futuro straps. By then I was well into adulthood, but I spotted the cupped strap and I knew I wanted it. I paid for it but I still did not want my family to know why I had purchased such a useless-and-stupid item. I put it in my carry-on travel bag and got it back to my home that way, wondering what I was going to say if the bag checker (pre-TSA) wondered about the item. But it went right through no problem.

In over 20 years the elastic on the leg straps stretched out so the cup no longer fit snug to my groin so one day I shortened them using a scissors to cut them shorter and sewing them back together on my sewing machine. You know me, if there was a way to makle the cup feel snugger by a bit of over-shortening of the straps I was going to do it.

So today I am wearing that wonderful cupped strap with the mods I made. It feels really great down there and I am enjoying myself immensely. Of course I have a favorite thong on underneath that pushes my penis up and forward firmly into the cup, while cinching up between my glutes. Then I pulled on a neat pair of very snug running tights over the strap, cup and thong that hold the cup firmly in place. Then over that a pair of old school white football pants with the “Bike” brand name sold when Russell had purchased Bike and was still using the brand. A long-sleeved compression shirt completes the look. Off to my rowing machine and exercise bike for an hour.

I feel great! Really horny, but I am amply constrained from doing anything to relieve myself. The day will pass quickly. I have discovered my little e-stim device works far better if I am already in the condition I am in with the thong, strap and cup. I follow this all up by crawling into my vacuum penis pump, which also works better with all these other steps first.

For me this is going to be an excellent holiday season while bringing back memories of what I did to myself as a young teenager, but now having the ability to simply kick back and thoroughly enjoy myself for the holidays.

All the best for the season for my readers as well, and I hope that each of you are able to find interesting and novel ways to enjoy yourself as well.

Sleeping in a swim brief

This should come as no surprise—I have always loved the fit and erotic feel of being in a swim brief. That is, a brief made of slick material that was stretchy and confining. I picked up on this at a very young age—I was only 12 or maybe even younger. Never mind that I did not swim or have a pool or nearby lake to swim in—I still loved the “swimwear”.

As a young adult, I bought an indoor spa. The idea behind this was to give myself an “excuse’ for being around the house clad in a swim brief. But then I discovered that a swim brief makes great bedtime wear. No more pajamas or similar. In the summer months with warm outdoor temperatures, an item chosen from my swim brief and thong collection is the ONLY thing I wear to bed, usually a selection from my swim brief collection with the occasional swim thong. In the wintertime I do the same thing, except that I pull on a pair of sleeping pants over the brief and, depending on the temperature, a short- or long-sleeved tee shirt.

I have found that the tension a snug-fitting brief puts on my penis, oddly enough, acts like a natural sleeping pill. I put my penis in the “up” position, semi-erect, and touch myself with my fingertips through the cloth on the underside of my penis. The sensations actually help me fall asleep quickly without going into the muscular contractions of a full orgasm. I realize a lot of guys love to masturbate in bed and reach an orgasm, but then drift off to sleep right after. But for me this works a little differently.

The odd thing about this is that I go sound asleep to about 3 AM. Last night I somehow was thinking about a Sapphire blue Solar Speedo I have. Nice suit but it is not that snug-fitting, waist 34 inches not the 30 or 28 inches I usually wear. Still, I put it on anyway, positioned my penis up as best I could and started touching myself anyway. I was feeling really good down there but before I knew it I was soundly asleep.

When I am aroused I tend to ooze a lot of precum. Normally, guys think of precum as a series of tiny stains and perhaps showing on the outside of a swim brief as a series of tiny damp spots. To the extent that the penis is in the up position and tight fitting, if a guy is precumming there will be only a single damp stain on the brief right at the penis tip stayed.

Think of a volcano over a hot spot as an analogy. The surface under the volcano keeps moving, which is what created the Hawaiian Islands as a series of hot spot volcanoes as the plates moved. Or think of that gigantic volcano on Mars called Olympus Mons. It is huge because the underlying plates did not move to form multiple but much smaller volcanoes.

Then there is the issue related to whether or not a guy continues to precum after he falls asleep. If the penis is pointed up in a snug-fitting brief and the tip does not move, there should be a single large precum stain rather than multiple smaller ones.

I am always fascinated with my discovery that if a guy goes to bed wearing a snug fitting swim brief or thong, he will likely continue to ooze pre-ejaculate while asleep. I find this to be most surprising. At least that is what happens to me.

As I frequently do, I awoke at 3 AM almost exactly. The first thing I need to check is whether or not I am still feeling horny (I am!) but also whether I produced any precum during the sleep (I did and all in one spot). Still, I wake up thinking this size-34 brief was just not snug enough for optimum effect. I pull out another swim brief in my collection, not a Speedo but one with alternating blue and white vertical stripes. Somehow, as erotic briefs go, this one has long been a favorite. A take off the Solar brief and get me into the one with the vertical stripes. The sizing and cut of this brief is made-to-order for the penis up position. Soon I am back in bed still touching my penis through the cloth in this considerably snugger and still more confining suit.

I am loving what is happening to me and I realize I am getting very close to having an orgasm, so close that if I don’t stop, I will get to an involuntary state, so I stop cold just before that happens and quit touching myself. I fall asleep again and wake again at 5:45 AM, still unrelieved and still feeling great down there. Ahhh the fun of a swim brief for sleeping!

I pop out of bed and decide that what I really want to do next is to get into a wrestling singlet. I have several of those, too, all of them snug-fitting and something of a task to get into and out. I pull out the navy blue asics, which is the easiest to get in and out of, but the fit is really tight. I got to thinking about getting into a penis up position in a singlet as I see the in the videos of the guys masturbating in singlets in that position.

In order to get in that position, you need to somehow get your penis in an up position before the singlet goes on. Not the easiest. But given that the singlet is one piece you cannot just reach down inside the waistband and position your penis as there is no waistband. Quite a dilemma. In short to get into that position you need to have a decent hard on before you pull the singlet on.
A super tight singlet still is a lot of fun. I don’t know exactly how to compare the singlet with the swim brief for erotic fun. I like both of them a lot. The issue with the singlet is that it has to come down entirely just to pee. That falls in the category of inconvenient to say the least. Still, I find the supertight fit to be super erotic and every male should have at least one singlet. As nighttime wear, however for a guy my age a one-piece singlet would be rather inconvenient. A two-piece singlet or even a swimming jammer along with a compression tee might prove more practical as daily sleepwear. Still, a really tight one-piece singlet has a lot of appeal.

Finally, I need to mention the idea of combining one of these garments—penis up swim brief or singlet—with a magic wand-style vibrator. The videos often show a guy wearing a snug-fitting swim brief, perhaps blindfolded and hands and legs tied to the bed frame. Suddenly the whirring sound of the vibrator can be heard and on some settings the business end of the vibrator can be made to run at varying speeds and even go into a mode of repetitively starting and stopping. Just the sounds from all of that are erotic.

Soon the guy holding the vibrator starts edging it toward the guy tied to the bed, moving it in repetitive motions nearer and nearer to the constrained guy’s private parts. The anticipation oif what is about to happen with the vibrator touching the guy’s private parts can quickly become overwhelming, and the constrained guy could go into an uncontrollable orgasm in 30 seconds or less. Still, the most erotic fun is to see if the guy can somehow tolerate the vibrations without cumming, something that takes both concentration and practice.

All of this is so erotically enjoyable that every guy should own a collection of swim briefs, singlets, jammers, and, of course, a magic wand. And I plan to go to sleep every night always feeling somewhat horny. Nothing better!

On Speedos and Male Sexuality
 

On Speedos and Male Sexuality

Understanding human sexuality has certainly gotten a lot more complicated in the past five years. Not that long ago, the only real question facing guys was the determination of being straight or gay. Before that, prior to about 1970, being gay was treated as an affliction—that gay guys had a treatable sickness, of sorts. The whole idea that being gay was just one possibility for a totally normal guy was considered new and novel. Then came the idea that some people were not easily put into one category or another but lived happily somewhere in between—an awareness that being bisexual is simply one variation of normal behavior.

I wrote a book in 2013 on male sexuality, but what I said then is hopelessly obsolete.
https://www.amazon.com/Understanding.../dp/1481222171


I have long been an advocate for the idea that every person is unique, and one’s sexual being is as personal as a fingerprint. And that people should not be put in sexual orientation boxes even if there are three not two of them However, I am having difficulty nowadays with people who think gender-affirming surgery can solve a problem--but particularly the guys who want to have their penises removed so that they can claim that while they were born a man and somehow by removing the offending male organs they can become a woman--which is what they really always wanted to be.

I guess I am just far too happy being exactly who I am and what I am. Besides, as you can tell by my writings, I am just way fond of my penis and like to treat it as my most worthwhile body part. My penis is not only useful, it provides me with a great deal of pleasure, even on the spur of the moment. That observation is worth pondering by every guy born with one.

As most of my readers also know, I am not much if at all interested in the complexities of partner sex. This may seem strange for a guy who is as penis-arousal focused as I seem to be, but hey, I just told you that every guy is unique with regard to their sexual being and just because mine is not the same as yours does not mean that I am miserable sexually and you are happy or vice versa.

Having said that, I get great pleasure out of just feeling horny, and I love to fall asleep at night wearing a snug, slick swim brief. I assume that not all guys out there have these same hangups, and perhaps would consider themselves odd if they did (let alone what their partners might think). How does my interest fit in with relationships and having sex with a partner? I have no clue! Nor do I really care.

Over the years, I have learned a lot of goofy stuff. I have learned that a lot of guys are fixated on having a quick but powerful orgasm, and somehow they believe that the quicker they can get off then clearly the more masculine a male they are. But I am all into this stuff called edging, which says that the real fun of being a guy is to get yourself horny and aroused, and then learn the subtle techniques of being nearly at the point of orgasm but not quite there, and the real talent is in learning how to maintain this dreamy and aroused state for long periods of time, perhaps hours on end. If a guy is really hung up on ejaculating powerfully, talents in edging are vital as there is a general rule that says the longer you edge the more powerful the ending orgasm. So there!

And what better way to hone your edging technique that to purchase a snug=fitting swim brief and then wear it as sleepwear to bed. If you bought the right brief—snug and slick, you might wake up at 3-AM feeling as aroused as all get out and your fingers will desperately want to fondle your penis. Go for it! But remember, you are still not seeking a quick and powerful orgasm. And the swim brief is the key to getting yourself in this marvelous, aroused condition while learning all about edging.

There are only a few male rites of passage that are both scary for a lot of guys but also incredible sexual fun. I would put getting your first swim brief as being right at the top of the list. This is scary for a lot of males because they think that wearing one is going to make them embarrassingly hard at some public venue. But if you are doing this in the privacy of your bedroom and under the covers, why should this be a concern? Your biggest problem is thinking up a reasonable creative argument about why you need to purchase aq swim brief if you are not a competitive swimmer. But given how much sheer fun what I describe is, you will undoubtedly come up with some excuse, however lame. After all, it is only a little piece of clothing.

The other male rite of passage is getting in a situation where a real jock strap is required equipment. I love straps almost as much as I love swim briefs. Not being an athlete, I didn’t get my first strap until I was away in college. But I made up for that as the years went by. And the cups! Ahh the cups! Those make me really horny. Especially the old-school cups with the limited space. I really like those. My penis sends signals that scream to my brain that “where I am is a really great place to be”.

Yesterday I wore a swim brief to as sleepwear and then in the morning I ended up in a thong, strap and cup. Went all day that way and felt horny the entire day. I could also say that a first underwear thong is yet another male rite of passage. But then I would have to add the compression tights and shorts, singlets, and compression tees as well.

From the perspective of a male who is focused on partner sex in a relationship, what I do with, to and by myself might seem really odd or abnormal in the larger world of male sexuality. But not nearly as crazy as most of the stuff out there being debated and discussed with a lot of anger. Wearing a swim brief or a strap does not somehow change my sexual orientation whatever it might be or anything else about me. The problems other guys face apparently being unhappy as a male are no concern of mine. I am happy just being who I am, and if describing in detail what I enjoy doing to and with myself helps other guys like me who are not in a sexual relationship with a partner, all the better!

Modern 21st Century Thonging

No garment containing Lycra (Spandex) lasts forever. Over the years I have purchased a large number of swimwear and underwear made of a stretchy fabric, and with elastic in various places, not only in waistbands but around leg openings, and almost invariably the elastic stretches then hardens and the fabrics lose their stretch. The garments typically are not only swim briefs and brief underwear, but also men’s thongs designed to be worn as swimwear or as underwear thongs.

As I keep making purchases many of the older items ended up in the back of the drawers I use for storage. It had gotten to the point where the old stretched out stuff was taking up far too much space to the point where there was no room for the newer stuff in good condition. I had also been noting that I was running out of serviceable thong underwear—the ones I like are skimpy but with lots of stretch and I was wanting to shop online for some new ones.

That led me to the idea that I needed to discard some of the old stuff that was no longer serving any useful :-) purpose, garments that had given me a lot of enjoyment over the years even though they were now well past their prime in terms of making me look and feel good. I made some tough decisions here, but decisions that needed to take place.

I have greatly enjoyed watching the Christopher Oceans videos, where young adult males are confronted with the prospect of for the first time wearing a swim brief, or for the even more daring, a swim thong. Watching these got me thinking a lot about my own situation and how I got to where I am today.

For example, why do I have such a fondness for wearing tighty whiteys? A lot of guys nowadays seem to think that white cotton briefs are something only old guys wear. In my case, when I was a young teen, it seemed that is the only kind of underwear that my peer male friends wore were cotton briefs. There were no loose-fitting boxer shorts worn as underwear. For some reason as yet unknown to me, my mom decided that I needed to wear underwear with longer leg openings than a brief—think white cotton underwear with a two-inch inseam, we would call them nowadays a short boxer brief. And, since we were living in a rural area, mom discovered that the only place they could be purchased was mail order. The local stores carried boys’ cotton underwear but the only style was a true cotton brief—so she ordered these mail order from Sears or Wards over and over. I was away at college before I dared buy my first package of true cotton briefs. Somehow this all got mixed together with what made me feel good down there as I was growing up. And I got this crazy idea that the other boys my age with their tight cotton briefs must be enjoying themselves a lot more than I was. The whole idea of wearing a brief and self-pleasuring got hopelessly intertwined for me. I soon was wearing cotton briefs as my favorite daily underwear. That started when I was in college and continues to this day. I still think of a pair of tighty whiteys to be far more erotic than a pair of boxer briefs.

A similar story applies to swimwear, but I will leave that for another day. Generally, the idea of a snug-fitting garment being used as a way to get more out of self-pleasing activities is extremely important to me, and this has been true for nearly my entire life.

So what about thong underwear? I encountered my first thong underwear I am thinking in 1988 and was immediately drawn to the idea that if basic briefs were useful, a thong might ramp up the whole experience by several notches over what I was getting from my passion for tighty whiteys and swim briefs. The first thongs I purchased were two pair sold under the HOM brand name, that, oddly, I found at an off-price clothing store—a TJ Maxx I think. The HOM thongs were very skimpy. In fact the back was simply a round elastic cord only about an eighth inch in diameter. The pouch was tiny too but made of a very stretchy fabric. And the sides were very narrow.

I was immediately hooked on wearing them. I loved the fit and feel of the snug pouch, of that narrow rubbery cord wedged between my glutes, and I discovered a new-to-me erotic hot spot behind my balls called the perineum. The correct thong puts upward tension on the perineum, roughly where the cord back connects to the pouch. The shorter the cord, the better, All of this going on at once was really fun, and I wore these as daily underwear under my skinny jeans. I had found thong heaven!

Next, I found that Jockey had entered the men’s thong market as well, under the Elance sub-brand. I first thought that the Jockey version could not be as much fun, as the back was a flat band of elastic about a quarter-inch wide. But I bought a few pair anyway. I soon discovered that the Jockey design pushed even more of my buttons down there than the HOM thongs did. I got hooked on sleeping in a Jockey thong and I liked to play games with myself by sleeping in one and seeing whether I would continue to drip all night long (I could and did!). You talk about an A Number one way of engaging in nighttime “self-abuse” this was it!

But then Jockey suddenly quit making these. As far as I was concerned, there was nothing quite like the design. I am not sure what happened except to say that Jockey still made a men’s thong, but for sheer nighttime erotic pleasure it was nothing like the original. Apparently, they were trying to design something that is better suited to daytime underwear uses not as erotic nightwear.

I ended up with purchases on Amazon, under two brands. These are relatively inexpensive as underwear pricing goes.

In the 20 or more years since then I have looked high-and-low in an effort to find a brand of thong that works as well as the old Jockey Elance brand did back then. I have found a few that I rated as quite good. But I have been in search of that old Jockey experience that I enjoyed so many times playing solo at night. I realize a lot of guys get antsy if they think a thong is going to be too snug and tight, but dealing with that fear is part of the fun especially if you are keen on playing with yourself at night. (Of course there are guys who claim that what I enjoy is reprehensible and that they would never do this, but they are all lying.)

So, onward and upward. In the process of cleaning out some of my old stretched-out swim briefs and thongs, I decided I needed to make some thong purchases in an effort to see exactly what is available and how they fit and whether there are any press my erotic buttons in the same way the Elance thongs did. Fortunately, I still have a few Elance Thongs in good enough shape to be able to make the comparisons.

In my search I ended up with two brands on Amazon. One is called Arjen Kroos at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09G2G1TBF
I bought a pack of 6, size Medium for $28 which makes the cost per thong about $4.67

The interesting thing about these thongs is that they are all tagged “Brave Person” which is a far better-known brand. I will have more to say about choosing a size in the next post.

I decided to also order another brand listed as IKINGSKY. The pack I ordered was size Small and included 9 not 6 thongs for $26, so these were less than $3 each. But these are also skimpier despite that they appear similar in the on-line photos.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TT24Z3X

All for now! To be continued….
Sebbie

Modern 21st Century Thonging Part 2
 

Modern 21st Century Thonging Part 2

There are three different situations under which men wear thong underwear. First, for some men, thong underwear is simply another style of underwear and is used as daily wear instead of other larger styles such as a brief or boxer shorts. Men’s underwear for daily use comes in all sorts of styles, from near knee-length loose-fitting boxers, through an array of briefs from full-cut to bikini style, to thongs and even some straps designed to be worn in daily wear like any of the other styles. What each guy chooses is very personal.

Second, thongs are becoming increasingly popular for recreational wear, typically chosen as the undergarment used as a base layer for workout wear such as tights and compression shorts where freedom of movement is critical while keeping everything in place. I suppose male dancers would be a good activity, but more generally this idea applies to any sort of gym-based workout, and I have long been an advocate for wearing a thong under compression shorts while engaging in physical activity such as stationary rowing and bike-riding.

The third example are men who wear thongs is for “recreational” wear with the word recreational in quotes. This refers to the wide variety of places where a guy might want to wear a thong while pleasuring himself, but also, increasingly while being with a sexual partner. Not that long ago, a lot of guys were really secretive about any interest in self-pleasuring once they had found a sexual partner. This was particularly true for male-female situations and was an offshoot of the idea that once in a male-female relationship, the female would get very angry if she somehow accidentally learned that the guy was still engaging in self-pleasuring.

An interesting thing to do is to read reviews of various men’s thong underwear brands written by the guys who purchased them. I used to never see any reference indicating the guy had a female partner, but in my recent reads there are many reviews that say things like “my wife really likes how I look in these!” or “These turn me on and make me hard, and my wife thinks that is great”. Another review suggested that a female should consider buying her guy some thongs as a gift and encourage him to wear them! This is something of a new way of looking at all of this, or if couples had done this before, they were too embarrassed to openly admit that. For males, is this thing simply another type of men’s underwear or an inexpensive sex toy? What happens if a woman gets aroused just seeing her guy wearing one? All sorts of interesting possibilities here!

An important matter is that of thong sizing. This is a throwback to the old days when guys had their first experiences participating in a sport where the players were required to wear an athletic supporter, fondly known as a jock strap. They faced a problem in determining the proper size, and not wanting to be seen as less than amply endowed, every guy, from smallest to biggest, said “large”.

Something interesting to note: Generally, penis sizes and waist sizes are all but uncorrelated for males past puberty. Once puberty is over there will be skinny guys with waist sizes under 30 inches but with huge erect penises, and big heavy guys with comparatively small penises. What a guy is endowed with so far as the erect (and even flaccid) penis size is almost totally unrelated to the waist size.

I read these reviews which say I ordered an XL because I needed the space in the pouch and it fits a little loose. The manufacturers know that the thong is going to be judged partly on the basis of whether or not the pouch can accommodate a guy’s penis and balls so all of the sizes from SM to XXL get approximately the same size (though maybe not an exactly identical) pouch.

Another issue is the width of the sides. The Arjen Kroos Thong has much wider sides than the Ikingsky thong—the former about ¾ to maybe a full inch and the latter more like 1/4 quarter of an inch.

One interesting spot on the male anatomy is the triangular shaped area that lies at the very top of the butt cleavage. On low-rise swim briefs, if the rise in the back is low enough, this spot can be exposed. Indeed, the Asian males and in particular the Japanese seem to delight in exposing this area, and a lot of the swim briefs coming out of Japan and other parts of east Asia are cut to do exactly that. Americans might see a cut like this that exposes any of the butt cleavage triangle as semi-nudity, but the Asians generally do not see this that way at all.

What does this have to do with thongs? Every thong has a triangular piece of cloth that is more- or-less there to hide the triangle at the top of the butt cleavage. Though the butt cheeks are there and the cleavage is obvious, this anatomical triangle is covered. The slang term for this part of the thong is “whale tail” as it is shaped like a whale tail. On thongs designed to be worn as an outdoor swim garment, the whale tail is often quite large, and wide enough to cover maybe the upper third of the butt cleavage as well. For thongs designed for recreational and “recreational” wear, the whale tail is typically much smaller and the width of the butt strap is much narrower as well, resulting in more minimal coverage of the butt.

The Arjen Kroos thong features not only wider sides but also a much larger whale tail, and the thong back is substantially wider than the back than the Ikingsky thong. In fact, the Arjen Kroos thong MIGHT be suitable to wear as a swimming garment at a public pool or beach. But this thong is unlined and I need to determine how transparent the fabric is when wet, so more tests are needed before I can recommend this. Still, the general design of the Arjen Kroos thong is not far from several of the thongs I see sold as swimwear (at much higher prices) in the Christopher Ocean videos.

Generally, however, I am coming to the conclusion that the Arjen Kroos thong is a great choice as a daily wear thong and as an alternative to brief or bikini-brief underwear. It will likely work well as an undergarment worn beneath compression shorts or tights at the gym. It would not be my top choice for nighttime “recreational” wear, however.

In contrast, the Ikingsky thong is an excellent garment for nigh time “recreational” wear of the kinds I enjoy doing so much. It is not a perfect replica of the old Jockey Elance thong but comes very close. For nigh-time wear I still prefer a really snug pouch and this one seems a bit too loose on me even in size Small. But keep in mind that, even in my prime, I was not a big guy at about 6 inches maximum so this might not be an issue for a lot of my readers.

I am happy to have purchased both brands as I will have ample uses for both. The Arjen Kroos thong should be great on my stationary rower. How snug you want that rear to cut between your glutes is a matter of personal preference. Some guys may not be as fond of a really snug fit there as I am. In the case of both thongs, I would order my normal waist size, and not size up thinking that somehow that will get a bigger pouch. You end up with a thong too loose a fit around the waist if you do that.

I will likely have more to say in future posts.

Sebbie

Modern Thonging in the 21st Century Part 3
 

Modern Thonging in the 21st Century Part 3

Of all of the earth’s animals, human beings are part of only a small list of animals easily capable of self-pleasuring. Generally, animals that walk on four legs either cannot masturbate at all, or can do so only with great difficulty. Animals that walk on two legs with the other appendages as arms and hands generally have significant advantage, The key members of this lists are human beings along with other non-human primates that walk on two feet and have arms and hands.

This observation is most interesting. I grew up on a farm with all sorts of farm animals and I got to watch their daily activities in great detail. My general observation is that for most, if not the vast majority of animals big and small, the key concern is about how sexual feelings can be used to ensure the short- and long-term continuation of the species. Four-legged animals usually have only limited breeding periods in which the female is receptive to the male. And each pf these periods may last only a few days in which the female accepts the male, and the male is able to have a sexual experience. For farm animals, having sex is so intertwined with procreation and continuation of the species as to be inseparable. No wonder male farm animals are invariably so mean and unruly when the females are in heat. For a farm animal, male or female, experiencing a sexual encounter occurs only for a short time during the year.

But of course, humans are different. Males and females can breed anytime they want to, and women do not have heat periods like farm animals. But perhaps even more importantly, both males and females can simply stimulate themselves to feel horny, and this could lead to a full-blown orgasm for either. In short, self-stimulation, or partner stimulation without penis-in- vagina sex is commonplace for humans, except of course, anything called masturbation aka solo sex is by definition unhealthy, abnormal and if it occurs at all should be done in secret and very privately ROFL.

Lots of discussion about sex education in schools nowadays and exactly what topics are permissible in school (if any) versus what parents should be teaching kids themselves. A basic problem with all of this is that parents typically use as guidelines exactly what and how much they learned from their parents, and a lot of this certainly does not include the topics of real concern to the kids. Generally, girls get some information from their parents when they get their first period, and the boys around the time of first ejaculation, but the information is often limited to items directly related to cautions about getting sexually involved with a girl or boy at a too-young age.

Generally, nothing is said about issues such as feeling horny and the urge to masturbate, nor on the whole range of fascinating topics related to items that might make a guy feel horny unrelated to having sex with a female such as what do I do if I get a hard-on when I put on a swim brief or jock strap, or is it OK to masturbate when I am lying in bed at night? Young teens invariably playing with their own bodies and experiencing being sexually turned on must keep this all very secret and surely not tell anyone, parents, siblings or classmates. Discussion of these very private topics in a school classroom creates all sorts of ongoing issues. The students are going to engage in these activities because they are fun, not because of what their parents or teachers might have said or not said. Pity the poor teen who has discovered that he likes to masturbate while wearing a swim brief or strap. Does he somehow have a mental illness problem? Is he gay? Or has he simply discovered a really enjoyable activity, the only downside being the embarrassment of being discovered while engaging in it. One key to successful male masturbation is to hide your tracks, so to speak!

Of course, the American Psychological Association itself gradually modernized its thinking, not only on issues such as “Is a gay guy mentally ill?” but also on other topics such as “Is penis-in vagina sex the only real path to sexual enjoyment?” For a long time, the books all said that self- pleasuring might not be physically harmful, but it was only a second-rate alternative to the real thing, and the idea that self-pleasuring was in assorted ways inferior to sex with a partner is still out there.

Some of my readers are wondering what in the world does all of this have to do with thonging anyway? Of course, I have long been an advocate of the idea that especially for guys who do not have a sexual partner for whatever reason, there are activities that still can provide a great deal of sexual pleasure two of them being wearing a thong as sleepwear at night, or as a garment under workout gear such as compression short. For a guy in this situation might worry that wearing such an item in those situations might make them feel horny, but that is the whole point. Furthermore, there is nothing at all wrong or even a little bit abnormal if a teen wants to engage is similar activities—it is all about learning about your own body feels good and what needs to happen to bring on those sensations.

In reading reviews written by purchasers of men’s thongs currently, I sense a great deal more openness related to the entire subject that in the past and the reviews are becoming more explicit about exactly what the guy is doing. I see phrases like “this thong pouch makes me feel real good when I am hard”, and “my wife loves seeing me wearing this (and she gets aroused even as I do) plus comments that can only be interpreted to mean that the guy uses the garment for self-pleasuring. Maybe some of the secrecy surrounding self pleasuring as being either an abnormal or inferior form of arousal is finally being broken down.

Me, I am off next to the home gym to do some rowing and stationary bike riding while wearing my compression tights over a (you guessed it!) thong!

Check out the reviews on the IKingsky thong at this Web address

https://www.amazon.com/iKingsky-Pouc...ws/B07TT24Z3X/

Modern Thonging in the 21st Century Part 4
 

Modern Thonging in the 21st Century Part 4

As my readers all surely know, I have had a great deal of pure physical enjoyment while wearing thong underwear. What I have learned in the process of getting horny in a thong is information that other guys—specifically some of my readers here—might benefit from what I have learned, and nothing more interesting that taking a guy who is a thonging newbie up to the next level by introducing him to some of these ideas.

As you all also know, I have been buying thongs on Amazon, in part because I want to determine if the readily-available designs are as much fun to wear as some of the older designs were. Maybe the new designs are even better in comparison.

I also sense that there are many guys out there who at some level think that wearing a thong might be erotic fun in a way—physically, psychologically or both. Then I read thong reviews where guys are saying that their wives like seeing them wearing a thong. Translated, I think they are suggesting that their wives also get turned on seeing them (perhaps in an aroused state) wearing a skimpy thong. For guys who somehow thought a thong was a garment only a gay guy would wear, this is quite a revelation. But this is just another version of the old belief that only gay guys and competitive swimmers should ever wear snug-fitting swim briefs, and neither case makes any logical sense. If wearing a thong results in a guy getting horny and hard, that is a good thing not a bad thing. There are, of course, instances where a guy would be embarrassed if he were hard in public, but these instances can be managed. Besides, what guy doesn’t ultimately enjoy being horny and hard?

I put together a review for Amazon of the Arjen Kroos aka Brave Person thongs I purchased, and decided to direct the review to a newbie who at some level was fascinated with the idea of wearing a thong, but also apprehensive about some things. It turns out that these particular thongs are a very good choice for guys who are new to thonging, somewhat apprehensive, but still able to move forward. Before I could write the review, I needed to do a series of tests using an actual thong.

I wrote the PG-rated version of the review for Amazon, but I will share the parts that might deserve an R rating with my readers here.

The first question a newbie might have is whether or not the pouch is big enough to contain my penis and balls. (In an Amazon thong review by another author, he referred to these parts as his “sofa and pair of end tables!”)

Thus, a basic question for a newbie is whether his penis and balls will fit comfortably in the available pouch space. Some thong pouches are comparatively flat but others are set up to create a quite obvious bulge. If a guy wants to be seen in public wearing a thong, the “safer” choice is the thong with the flatter pouch. The pouch on the Brave Person thong is fairly flat with a single partial seam. Flaccid, everything fits fine for me with plenty of fabric.

But (gasp!) What if the guy gets a full erection or even a nice semi? Will the sofa come out to bare all? An interesting question is how I was going to check this out. Vacuum penis pump and penis ring to the rescue! I installed the pump with a silicone ring at the base, and t proceeded to pump myself to what I knew was my maximum length, (about six inches) then slipped the ring from the pump base to the base of my penis which helped me say hard.

Then, of course, slip on the thong while fully erect and see if I had any difficulty getting my critical body parts in placed fully inside the pouch cloth. A convenient time also to evaluate how slick and smooth the cloth used to make the thong feels, a stretch Lycra/poly mix. Great! I am enjoying myself already! If this test gives other ideas on what to try in testing thongs, feel free to do so. This is all for science, of course.

Next up, the back. I sense that many newbies are fine with the front view of a thong but get concerned when turning to the back. The back of any thong connects to the waistband at the top, and the lower part of the pouch at the bottom. At the top, the connection is a triangular piece of fabric called the whale tail as it is shaped like the tail of a whale. A thong can have a large whale tail providing substantial coverage of the upper third of the butt cleavage, or a smaller one, providing less coverage. These Brave Person thongs have a big whale tail providing significant upper-butt coverage. Below the whale tail, what shows depends on the length and width of the back.

The Brave Person thong has a fairly wide and fairly long back, with the width being about ¾ inch. Some thongs have just a short narrow band of elastic as a back, which means that the only way the thong can be worn is with the back cinched within not over the butt crack, making the guy look nude in the rear, at least for the lower two-thirds of the back.

However, the Brave Person thong has a back wide and long enough so that when in position, it fully covers the entire cleavage. This should calm fears that the thong is simply revealing body parts that should not be showing. Interestingly, if a guy wants to show his lower butt cleavage, the back of these can simply be folded in half, lengthwise. Then, the lower back below the whale tail will descend beneath and disappear. This gives a guy options.

To further illustrate some possibilities, this thong could be used as a support garment worn under a swim brief, square cut or even a larger swimsuit. The trick would be to wear the thong under a bigger swimsuit, then remove the top layer just before diving into the water. Reverse the process coming out of the water.

In upper rear coverage, thongs look a lot like the swimwear thongs the Christopher Ocean videos show, as nearly all of them also feature a large whale tail as well, so the question becomes “can these thongs be worn in public as if they were swimwear not underwear?”

Perhaps an unlined underwear thong becomes nearly transparent when wet, making it risky to try this in public. More tests on a medium blue one in the tub. Once wet, does the thong become see through? The answer is, “No, at least not for the darker colors.” I have lighter colors, but I have yet to run this test on them.

Since hese thongs, being underwear, are unlined, does that mean that when wet they show too many male bumps in the groin area? But even lined swim briefs are not bump-free. I am confident that these thongs in that regard are little if any different from the thongs sold as swimwear.

There are the gym and shower issues. A lot of guys are getting increasingly wary about appearing completely naked in, say, an open gym shower. I envision a key use of these thongs is as undergarments worn under a favorite pair of gym shorts. Showering normally requires removal of the shorts, but the thong can stay in place.

Laundering the thong is easy, as you can do that while you are showering using shower gel and then air drying the thong. From the perspective of maintaining these, I would not recommend tossing them into the washer and dryer, but simply launder them in the shower or even in the lavatory (sink), using a shower gel for soap, and hanging the thong up to dry, as if it were an expensive swim brief.

I recommend sizing down this particular thong—if you normally wear a MED, size down to SM. The pouch size is similar, and the waistband tends to run big. A shorter waistband will tend to keep everything in its place better but especially if you want to use the thong as swimwear. If you are new to wearing a thong, spend some nights sleeping in one as a method to familiarize yourself and to get more comfortable with the sensations from wearing one.

Speedos, Jockeys, Men and their Bodies
 

Speedos, Jockeys, Men and their Bodies

These topics are interrelated. When I was a small child in the early 1950s, practically every guy my age wore cotton briefs but guys wearing brief-style swimwear was uncommon. I read some of the history of the company that became the Speedo that we know as Swim brief as well as the history of the company that invented the Y-Fly brief for men. What I uncovered is quite interesting.

The company that became Speedo started out as a knitting mill in Australia that specialized in making what we would now call full body swimsuits of a knit material for both men and women. Women obviously wore suits that covered their upper body, but so did men. Still, the snug-fitting knitted materials the company made conformed to the body with the idea of reducing drag.

The Cooper company which later became Jockey, made and sold its first Y-front Brief in 1935 at Marshall Fields in Chicago. The Y-front contained a hidden fly. But prior to that, men’s underwear was much larger and bulkier, perhaps a one-piece suit not that unlike what male swimmers of the time were wearing. The name Jockey was chosen because the new underwear design provided support like a jockstrap. The success of the Jockey brief was so great that the Cooper Company was soon renamed the Jockey Company.

I have been making an effort to determine exactly when the nylon Speedo swim brief first appeared. The date I keep coming back to is the 1956 Olympics held in Melbourne Australia, where the winning Australian swim team wore the Speedo nylon swim briefs for the very first time in a very high profile setting. The great success of the swimmers on that team got everyone thinking did those skimpy nylon suits have anything to do with their performance. And, of course the suits they were wearing were very different from those worn by men’s teams in past Olympic and other high-profile men’s swimming events. Soon, nearly every competitive swimmer was appearing for the event in a Speedo.

By 1956, a lot more companies were making cotton briefs for guys than Jockey. Nearly every men’s underwear manufacturer was making men’s cotton briefs for the mass market, and these were selling well. Boys paid attention to what their dads were wearing, and a wide variety of manufacturers had similar designs in boys' sizes, By the mid 1950s, the cotton brief was by far the most common underwear design for men and boys. Interestingly, Speedo became a distributor for Jockey brand underwear in Australia.

I am trying to remember the exact year my cousin visited from the west coast and showed up at the lake wearing a blue swim brief. He had been taking swimming lessons at his school, and, for some places, participating in swimming required wearing a swim brief. I am thinking that this would have likely been 1957 or perhaps 1958. He clearly loved the blue swim brief, and refused to take it off when he got out of the water. Indeed, when he put his jeans back on, he wore the brief as if it were a pair of colorful underwear. He even slept in it. I knew at the time he was on to something, but unfortunately, I did not have a swim brief nor any excuse to get one.

In reading the history of the Jockey company, I discovered that Jockey introduced the No-fly “Skantz” brief in 1958. These briefs not only lacked a fly, they were modeled after a woman’s bikini bottom—skimpy sides and minimal but stretchy (Lycra infused) fabric. Speedos as worn by the male swim team at the 1956 Melbourne Olympics has opened the door to the idea that a guy could be seen in a skimpier brief made of something other than white cotton and still be considered a real male. But they also tapped into what my cousin had discovered that many swim briefs also make excellent daily underwear.

The bikini-style briefs turned out to be a hit for Jockey—a design marketed as a type of underwear but based on the idea that the fabrics used in a swim brief could be made into underwear. Guys loved the fit and feel of the skimpy and body-conforming new briefs.

Choosing a Bright Blue Speedo (And other fun stuff to do with your body)
 

Choosing a Bright Blue Speedo (And other fun stuff to do with your body)

No better way to introduce yourself to the fun of enjoying your body than with a bright blue Speedo. The suit might not even be that skimpy (one with 2 1/2-3-inch sides will do nicely) but you should make certain that it fits snug on your body, and that means that you should downsize the waist one or two sizes. If you are a 32”, go with a 30”, or if you are a 30”, a 28” will do fine. You will want the size you pick to be snug enough to fit only in the penis-up position. With a correctly sized suit, if you are not already aroused and somewhat erect, you will be shortly.

This is essential for learning about the extra-sensitive penis underside, and that happens when the underside is pressed firmly (LOL) against the pouch of the suit. This is really enjoyable in an erotic way and is also the part that scares the first- timers to Speedos. But the only way to cope with this is to do it and the instructions I have given you are perfect.

The nice erection you will get doing this is just a first step in a series of other adventures you and your penis will appreciate, once you get the hang of it. I am going to walk you through the things I like to do. This is also an advanced course in edging techniques, specifically aimed at finding out whether you can delay going into full orgasm mode when confronted with a series of situations that are novel. If this first part with the blue Speedo is working properly, you should be dripping precum but not to the point where you are unable to keep from ejaculating. Some drops of precum staining the Speedo in tiny wet spots is excellent.

The is really advanced edging technique to see exactly how aroused you can get without ejaculating. The next step is to remove your Speedo and lube up your penis and balls with some of what is called a water-based “personal” lubricant. This makes a fine lubricant for plain ordinary manual masturbation. At this point you should be sustaining your erection but not in an uncontrollable state of needing to ejaculate right now. This takes practice to learn exactly what you can and can’t do to remain in this state as the next step will be harder.

This is the state you need to apply the estim device—You are already hard from the effects of the Speedo, lube and the manual stimulation. The estim device has two electrically conducive silicone rings, rings that you place one at the base of your penis and the other around the glans area. The estim provides a series of low-voltage electrical pulses that feel similar to how a vibrator would feel at the lowest levels but something more interesting as the control increases a bit.

The idea again is to see how much of this you can cope with without again breaking out into an uncontrollable orgasm, and it takes practice to learn exactly where this point is. Your penis will be sending your brain strong signals that it really likes the situation, but not too much or the fun is over. When you get to the point where you think you are on the verge of not being able to cope without ejaculating, then stop just before that happens, as greater challenges await.

Catch your breath and calm yourself down because the next thing is going to be even more fun and more challenging. Your penis, a penis that has been through so much already without relief, is going to soon be inside a manually operated penis pump—One of those sold both as a device for treating ED and as a sex toy—two devices in one. Penis pumps are a lot more fun and work better if you are already in a quite aroused situation when you put one on your penis. The combination of the Speedo, the lube and the estim device certainly got your mind and body in the proper place for next applying a penis pump. Penis pumps have a device for manually controlling the amount of vacuum you penis will sustain, and your penis enters through a flexible sheath with a hole in it that appears too small to fit your penis given your “condition” but is not. It is also traditional to snap a penis ring over the sheath then slip the penis ring down on to the base of the penis once you have pumped yourself to your fullest size. As you pump, you get to watch as your penis not only lengthens but increases in girth. I use a start-stop method. Give the pump a couple pumps, then stop and see exactly what happened to your penis, which will quickly be looking not only redder, but longer, and feel still harder. Guys have been known to get so psychologically and physically aroused by all of this that they ejaculate into the tube without touching the penis, but this is part of the edging technique. Keep doing this until you become convinced that this is the biggest and hardest you can be. Then snap the penis ring from the sheath to your penis base and remove the pump. You should be left with a really great looking and feeling penis.

But there is more. Penis rings are fun. Every guy should own a collection readily available from eBay and other online places. These come in various types and styles. Penis rings need to be suitable sized. I like to wear a larger size to fit at the base of my penis. The one I use is made of a quite thick blue or black material. Another common version is a clear gel-like material with a series of “beads” around the ring. Last night I put the blue one on the pump sheath and popped that off at the end of the pumping. Then I added two more of the clear beaded rings, a medium-sized one at mid-penis, and the smallest one at the tip over the glans.

So, I now still have my expanded penis feeling really good from the series of
“treatments” it has received plus the snug rings. I need some more lube if I am going to really get on with this. This time, shower gel as I am drawing a tub of water to follow this all up. Plus, more old school masturbation fun leading up to the warm water, but still avoiding getting to the point where I must immediately ejaculate. My erect penis feels really great with the gel and the rings, and I am enjoying my penis immensely.

I take the warm bath, get out and decide it's time to remove the penis rings and crawl into bed still in the edging mode. But still more stimulation of a remarkable penis. This time, my chosen sleepwear is a Thong—not just any old thing but one oof those I told you about that I purchased on Amazon. Things are fun for several reasons. First the slick material in the pouch feels great on an aroused penis. Second, the narrow back cutting between the glutes is a real treat, and third, under the right circumstances I can count on the base of the thong putting upward pressure on the perineum, that arousal hot spot just back of the balls, which has been ignored with the other techniques used earlier.

I crawl into the tiny thong, and quickly fall asleep. At 4AM however I awaken and start playing with my pouch-enclosed penis. The world looks different at 4AM than it did earlier, and I get a real urge to have a full-blown orgasm. Which is what happens at 4:10 AM!

Was all of this fun to do? For sure! Do I really want to try this all over again? I really do! Will I do all this again? I cannot wait! The “predicaments” I put myself into were at the heart of the fun I had. This is great! Really great!

Dealing with your “Demons”
 

Dealing with your “Demons”: The Human Male from Puberty to Adulthood”

Guys frequently reach puberty at age 12, which means that by age 12 guys not only can get aroused and erect but also can have a real orgasm complete with semen. While teen males can and do date females, this varies a lot depending on the age of the guys and other factors as well. Schools generally host proms involving a date for juniors and seniors, not freshmen and sophomores, which means that dating involving but one other person is much more of a 16-and-up thing and not for younger but still sexually mature guys.

Younger guys may go to parties and other events aimed at many students male and female, but one-on-one dating at a younger age is generally very limited if at all. Still, the guy is sexually mature, and the juices are flowing. This means that sexual self-pleasuring will likely become an important part of the teen male’s daily life.

Some basic facts are this:

Partner sex with another person—straight, gay or something else—involves risks of various sorts—getting an underage female pregnant is the most obvious concern, but guys having sex with a partner he has not married this can easily cause big problems for older guys too (see Hunter Biden). For any kind of body-fluid-exchanging sexual activity there are sexually transmitted diseases to be concerned about. Worse, a guy having sex with a female at a younger age could end up in an expensive lawsuit with the same-but-now-older woman who accuses him of sexual harassment a decade or more later. The bottom line on this is that guys of all ages need to be very concerned about engaging in sex with any person on a casual basis, for fear what might come back to haunt him at a later point in time (See Donald Trump).

In contrast, solo sex, aka solo male masturbation, is free of all of these issues. There are different issues here. First, a guy never wants to be seen in a public or semi-public setting engaging in masturbation. Soon after puberty, most guys work on finding ways to do it in private, as in at night, under the bed covers. They long to be in a setting whereby in the daytime they are alone, or if not that, in the shower, any scheme that ensures that the activity will not be seen by others, such as a peer or another family member.

Discussion of masturbation is brought down by the false belief that masturbation is a simply a “childish” thing to do, and a greatly inferior thing to do relative to partner sex in adulthood and in a host of different ways. Once in a serious relationship, guys are supposed to replace whatever they were doing solo with partner sex, and never look back. The problem is that the real world often does not work that way, and in the process of becoming an adult, a guy may have discovered some solo techniques he really enjoys and does not want to discard. This can cause strains in adult relationships, but especially with women who falsely sees herself as the sole source of sexual pleasure for the man.

Teen males would probably like to masturbate at least on a daily basis, but they are often stuck wanting to learn techniques from others who could provide the information. I guess this is the responsibility of parents, but interestingly, many parents are embarrassed to even broach the subject. Parents are not going to give a guy instruction on how to make yourself “feel good” down there. And with all the uproar about schools teaching any content related to sex and sexuality, you can bet that there is not going to be a school class titled “Learning How to Masturbate” being listed any time soon.

The next option might be classmate peer males, but this is the one topic a lot of males simply refuse to discuss even with their closest male friends, part out of sheer embarrassment (maybe your classmate knows even less than you do!) So most guys are simply left on their own in learning to navigate an experience that they really enjoy yet need to keep as secret as possible, while exploring new ideas for getting aroused and having an orgasm. Nearly every guy has to find a way to deal with the dilemma at an early stage in his life.

Had God intended for humans not to masturbate he would not have given humans hands and fingers that can so easily engage in the activity. God is fine with masturbation even if some humans are not fine with it. If masturbation were a bad thing to do. A lot of the videos on the porn sites are not about engaging in sex with a partner, but simply about demonstrating interesting solo masturbation efforts, sometimes not employing anything other than the hands, but sometimes using devices such as hand-held vibrators or other devices. Guys watch other guys doing these things not because they are necessarily interested in gay partner sex, but simply to fill in the blanks with new ideas for specific techniques they might have missed out on learning as a teenager that are both safe and also exactly what other guys are doing that is kept enjoyable. One of the great mysteries about growing up male is kept secret, and, as an adult, this is one way to fill in the blanks.

I got to thinking about the Christian Ocean videos in which guys get to try on a skimpy swim brief or thong for the first time typically as an adult over 18 years of age. The videos set up a situation whereby the guy could easily get a hard-on, and then not even fit into the pouch of the suit, but this never happens. The guys that appear in the video are secure enough so that they avoid that “problem”. Still, these videos are very popular, and a lot of guys watch them simply because a lot of guys are interested in how other guys “cope” with a super snug-fitting swimsuit.

Of course, a basic issue with putting on a swim brief is that once a guy gets it on, he may start inadvertently to “get it on” resulting in what could be a potentially embarrassing situation in an at least somewhat public situation. For the guy this is equal parts terror and sheer enjoyment. Many guys, me included, are fascinated with seeing how other guys cope in such a situation. And the swimwear manufacturers are great at designing swimwear that is relentless in showing off the outline of what is happening. Christian Ocean seems very good at finding just the suits that create that predicament for the guys trying them on, and viewers flock to the channel for that reason.

What I am wearing this Morning
 

What I am wearing this Morning

I confess, I can sometimes go for days or even a week or more without thinking about down there in an arousing way. But then, whatever it is “hits me” and I end up focusing on being alive in an arousing sort of way. Usually this occurs after I have completed a project around the house and am no longer focused on the intricacies of what I am doing. I need to be in a relaxed mode, and also not in a situation where my arousal thoughts will get disrupted.

I completed a project early this morning that I thought needed to be done for a long time, and that worked out well. Having accomplished that, and no other immediate task at hand, I start thinking about myself and that I haven’t felt really horny in a while.! I know! I want to put on one of my snuggest-fitting pairs of thong underwear. I know! The aquamarine colored UNICO I had gotten years ago. The one with the really tight fit Size SM.
This is a neat thong for a variety of reasons. It fits really tight. That is nice but it's the cord back that really makes this a good one. You seldom see ones like this sold any more. The cord is simply a heavy piece of elastic but only about 3/16th inches wide. With the thong fitting really tight over my penis and balls, there is absolutely no place for that cord to go except deep between my glutes. It feels great there. I am addicted to the sensations it produces even as I just move around the room. A great experience any guy would enjoy.

On top of that I put on a really snug fitting junior sized pair of Hanes tighty whiteys. When I am working out I like to have a little more butt coverage than just the thong.

On top of that goes a pair of black compression shorts. Not any compression shorts but a really snug-fitting Nike pair. Tensions and interesting sensations are now coming from all sorts of fascinating places. Nike certainly knows how to make a skin tight pair of compression shorts any guy will “enjoy” wearing. This looks and feels great and I have not even started my workout.

This is sending me off to a marvelous place this morning, a place that any guy should be able to find, if he owns the right “equipment”. Too bad some guys avoid buying this equipment out of sheer fear that whatever it is will make them hard at an inopportune time or place. No concern of mine for sure!

What to Wear! Part 1 The Basic Swim Brief
 

What to Wear! Part 1 The Basic Swim Brief

Nearly every guy masturbates irrespective of age, marital status etc. By the time guys turn 18, masturbation is a really big deal and especially so given the risks associated with partner sex at that age. But masturbation is not just limited to singles who lack a partner. It happens even for guys who do have regular sexual partners.

No guy wants to admit to anyone that he masturbates despite this being what could be a daily routine. Guys going off to college very often have male roommates, and if a guy found it difficult to find privacy when living at home, the same issue remains. What about my roommate? He no doubt masturbates too, but how and when? The exact same problem.

I learned at a very early age that the safest place to masturbate was in bed, in the dark, and under the covers, where no one could see what I was doing to myself. The only issue that came up was how to deal withy the ejaculate, and I learned that if I got off by midnight, the sticky goo would be dry by morning. Not perfect, but better than waking up with a big pool of wet ejaculate on the front of whatever I had worn to bed. I was getting my first lessons in edging—deriving sexual please by merely having a big hard-on but keeping from spilling my seed. These edging lessons have proven their worth over my entire life.

Today, however, I want to discuss how a correctly-sized swim brief can prove to be a valuable tool for engaging in masturbation and can also be helpful if you want to engage in nighttime masturbation under the covers. I think many guys’ objections to being seen in a swim brief at a pool or beach relates to the fear that they have that the brief fits so snug that will lead to an immediate hard-on in public. But if you use one as a masturbation garment and as nighttime wear, this fear turns into a feature. The idea of pulling on a swim brief as nighttime wear is an opportunity not a problem, if doing so makes you go immediately into an “I am already feeling way horny” mode.

But what swim brief? Perhaps some guys fantasize on the idea if ejaculating in a genuine Speedo. But ideally, any swim brief will work. You will want to pick something skimpy but not too skimpy. For me, the Sporti (Swimoutlet) brand has long been a fine choice for this purpose. I like the ones with the “Euro” cut that has 1 ½ to 2-inch sides. And for the best fit, I always like to undersize the brief a bit. I have lots of briefs with 30-inch waists, my “normal” size. But I really like the fit of a 28-incher, one size down. You don’t want to go too small—I have a few 26-inchers that I can barely get into, and besides, the rise in the rear for these still smaller briefs may leave your butt-crack partly exposed. But the 28- incher provides a suitably tight fit for what I will be doing to myself.

Lets say you are a male college student with a male roommate in a dorm room or fraternity house. Would you feel comfortable if your roommate saw you crawling into bed clad only in your 28-inch Euro swim brief? Maybe color matters, and you could draw less attention wearing a navy blue or blacl\k one than one in sapphire blue or bright red, but if this part still worries you, I have another option.

Instead, keep a pair of loose-fitting plaid boxer shorts on hand, put the suit on in private in the bathroom, and simply pull on the boxer shorts over. Then crawl into bed wearing both. What happens of course is that under the covers you simply pull down the boxer shorts and go about your business as originally planned. The boxer shorts will be under the covers and will come in handy if things get messy for sure, as they frequently do.

The basic idea is to wear a swim brief that fits snugly enough such that you can put your penis in the “up” position firmly planted in place, with the brief being tight enough so that your penis can only barely move sideways, let alone get entirely out of position. This is male anatomy 101. The UNDERSIDE of the male penis is much more sensitive to simple touch than the top side. This means that all it will take to make you feel really good is nothing more than gentle tapping of the underside of your penis through the slick swim brief to put you on a cloud of pleasure. A good time to work on your edging technique as well, to see exactly how much of this gentle tapping you can “tolerate” without immediately ejaculating. I always like to bring myself up to a point whereby I am close to ejaculating, bit then fall asleep, waking at 2 AM feeling hornier and more than aroused. Drops of precum forming on the front of the brief? That is the sure clue that you are doing this correctly. Over time you can improve your technique while delaying orgasm.

So, what happens if you fall off the wagon and spill your seed into the swim brief? The tight-fitting swim brief should catch most of it. But the boxer shorts come in handy because you can slip them on under the covers and not have to get up and with an obviously cum-stained swim brief. Head to the bathroom and there remove the boxer shorts pull off the swim brief and rinse it out, Now you have a wet swim brief that needs to be air dried.

What if your roommate figures out what you are doing and asks you about it? Does he think this is reprehensible, or is he somehow fascinated by the technique? A year of college lasts nine months and neither you or your roommate are the same person nine months later. Learning takes place at all sorts of levels. What if your roommate decides he wants to try the same thing? After all, he has been struggling with the same “problem”--that is, how to regularly masturbate without being obvious about it.

If you both decide to do this on the same evening, is that gay, and would this somehow become a form of gay sex, despite no physical contact? Or is this just two guys horsing around. Lots of guys (apparently) as teenagers have engaged in mutual masturbation, despite few willing to admit to doing so. Masturbation occurs practically every day for ever male from adolescence on. Yes, even for the married guys! Mutual masturbation with another male does not somehow turn you gay.

What to Wear! Part 2 Thonging Basics

It was about 1989, when I was well into adulthood, when I saw my first underwear thong in a local store. Prior to that, I had gone to Hawaii for a week, and some of the guys on Waikiki Beach were wearing Thong Swimsuits. I was amazed at that. It was OK to show your crack and butt cheeks on a public beach. But I will also admit I was a bit turned on by the whole idea of trying a thong for myself. So when I saw the Hom thong underwear in little boxes and realized how tiny the cord back was, I knew I had to have one (or two, or three).

On getting them home and trying on for the first time, I was immediately turned on. I knew I liked the fit and feel in a thong. The only question is the circumstances under which I would wear one. It was not long, however, before I discovered that a thong was the perfect undergarment for my skinniest pair of faded blue jeans. The jeans were something of a turn-on as well for me, and the combination of the two was a real treat for both the mind and body.

Manufacturers of thongs have a difficult time designing thongs, in part because they are never quite certain how their customers will be using them. Nowadays, some stretch things are advertised online as being either underwear or (for the daring), as swimwear. Generally, these thongs are quite to extremely brief, mainly consisting of a pouch and some narrow bands for the waist and the back.

A related problem is that thong buyers might be sensitive to the whole idea that the pouch of the thong be big enough to provide some room to grow without falling out, and, I guess thongs with larger waist sizes therefore have (maybe only slightly ) larger pouches. This concern seems to assume that guys with bigger waists have bigger penises, both flaccid and erect. But everyone knows that is not necessarily so! Skinny guys can have giant penises whether flaccid or erect, and guys with big waists can have small penises.

In my mind, a properly fitting pouch is one that is just barely big enough to contain your balls and flaccid penis. Too much cloth is sloppy and not as much fun. If the cloth stretches it will (probably) accommodate you anyway, and part of the fun is feel of the slick cloth pressing against the penis walls.

Then there is the perineum—ahh the perineum. Sometimes called the taint, this is a bundle of nerves located between the scrotum and the anus. These nerves are sexually active, in part because they are directly below the prostate, and the prostate has wiring to them. One simple indirect way of stimulating the prostate is to put direct, firm but gentle pressure on these nerves. Seemingly mild at first, the stimulation tends to get more exciting as it continues.

Every thong consists of three parts, a waistband, a pouch, and a narrow band that makes up the rear of the thong and connects the two. Most thongs designed as underwear are made to have the back cinch between the glutes and this hidden from view. A few swim thongs have wider backs designed to cover some or even all of the butt crack rather than disappear within.

The three parts need to be connected. The interesting part is how the thong back gets connected to the base of the pouch. In nearly every thong I have, the two are sewn together using a double or triple stitching. There is a wad of stitches right at that point. The interesting part for me is that this wad of stitching is in exactly the spot it needs to be to stimulate the perineum as it will tend to push upward at that very point. Getting into the thong pushes the penis upward and forward even as the wad of stitching presses upward on the taint. This is, well, fun. The snugger the fit of the thong, the better the feel at that point--as in the more stimulation of the nerve endings of the perineum. Obviously, for best effect a smaller, snugger thong is best. To heck with that notion of getting the larger waist size in an effort to find a bigger pouch. With a smaller pouch you will have more difficulty getting both your penis and balls contained, but the effort you expend doing this is also a key part of the fun.

Assuming you are not brain dead—you will notice something that makes you feel quite horny is going on. The immediate impact is that the Cowpers gland will go into overtime and start producing precum. You will say to yourself “I am feeling quite horny” and the reason is the perineum stimulation from the thong. When worn as nighttime wear, this dripping can occur all night long, and by the time you awaken you should have at least a spot of precum on the pouch the size of a quarter dollar.

Anyway, that is what happens to me. Last night I went to bed wearing a rather big sapphire blue Speedo. Interesting but at midnight I woke up and said to myself I wish I was into something tighter. I removed the Speedo and got into one of my “Brave Person” thongs sold as either underwear or as swimwear, color blue. I started to precum almost immediately. I was thinking about what I was going to write here and drifted in and out of sleep. I did not even get that aroused, physically, but mentally I was in the place I wanted to be, enjoying myself immensely. And by 6 AM I had created a nice quarter dollar-sized glob of glistening precum. Mission accomplished!

OK so suppose you are a male college student in a dorm of frat house with a male roommate, and you want to try what I just described, wearing a thong as sleepwear to bed. You could pull the same stunt I suggested for the swim brief, pulling on a loose-fitting pair of boxer shorts over, and then be in “perineum nirvana” all night long. What if your roommate sees you wearing only the thong and thinks it is weird. My response would be to not knock it until you have tried it. Buy thongs in packs of at least 3, then offer your roommate one to try for himself. He may get hooked as well.

Finding just the right thong to enjoy takes more effort than finding the right swim brief. There are more variations in designs and styles in part because manufacturers want to sell as many as possible but are unsure as to what the guy is going to be doing. Is this nighttime erotic wear, daytime wear as underwear under jeans, or perhaps, for the daring, swimwear? The manufacturer wants to sell in all three markets potentially. But the same thong might not be suited for all three. The thong I would pick for nighttime wear is probably going to be different from what I would chose as daytime wear under jeans. But why not have some of each?