Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part IV: A basic puzzle to be solved
 

So, here is the puzzle. Randall realizes that he is going to be spending a college year of his life in rather close quarters. He has only met his roommate for the year, Shawn, and he certainly doesn’t know what he will learn over the coming year on a host of different issues. The two of them seem well matched, both academically inclined and both maybe a little on the nerdy side. Everyone knows that there are a lot of college guys who seem to be primarily using their personal charm with others, both male and female, as a means of avoiding doing serious academics. If you have a lot of personal charm, there is no reason to do that well academically, because your personal charm will always pull you through in a situation where having better academic skills might have worked.

But both Shawn and Randall seem quite serious about why they are there and what they plan to do in college. Generally double rooms often do not work very well if one of the guys is a serious academic and the other believes that personal charm is all that matters in a host of different ways. Interestingly enough, it is usually the serious guys who seem to get the most enjoyment out of masturbating frequently. The guys who run on personal charm make everything sexual about having a relationship with another person. But is one of these two approaches somehow superior to the other? That question is not easily answered.

Then there is the subject of tighty whiteys, a type of underwear that has been attacked on a number of fronts over the years. At some point, young teens purportedly moved away from wearing tighty whiteys and everyone purportedly moved to loose-fitting boxers. But that was the same point in time where really oversized and loose-fitting jeans were all the rage.

Then I guess as jeans started to get skinnier, the idea of stuffing a loose fitting boxer into a narrow-cut jean became more and more difficult. The first move was back to what are called boxer briefs, snugger fitting than boxer shorts and made of the same material as tighty whitey. But soon the thighs of the skinny jeans have gotten so form fitting that stuffing even a boxer brief in them became increasingly difficult, and somehow we are back around to a tighty whitey as a good choice to pair with some skinny jeans. They are cheap and readily available in a variety of sizes.

To, a lot of guys have glued in their heads very early experiences they had masturbating. For a lot of guys, maybe most of them, there was probably a most interesting experience ejaculating into a pair of tighty whiteys. If a guy has only a few options, you go with what is readily available! The exact circumstances under which this happens varies a lot from one guy to another, of course.

Two points: First, tighty whiteys can be a useful masturbation aid, and second, a pair of tighty whiteys can be useful in solving a nagging “problem” Randall faces living in the dorm room.

Ejaculating is a lot of fun. But if done under the covers in the dark of night, a powerful orgasm can also create a very messy situation not to mention having to deal with the stained sheets for the laundry people to deal with.

When I was much younger than I am now, I used to masturbate to ejaculation under the covers at night. This in turn would create horrendous looking wet spots, which if I were lucky enough to have sufficient time to dry, the ejaculate always left randomly-shaped starchy stains on my pajama bottoms. And I always assumed that if I was wandering around others would immediately notice the wet spots on my pajamas or the starchy stains, and immediately realize what I had been doing by, with and to myself.

I presume nowadays pajamas are out and most guys wear loose fitting boxers for sleeping in warmer weather transitioning to a sleep pants as the weather turns colder. A basic problem facing both Randall and Shawn is the problem that has haunted them since just past puberty. The problem is how do you pull off masturbating to ejaculation in the dark under the covers without tipping off to your roommate as to what you have been doing to and with yourself. If you get up in the morning wearing cum-stained boxers or sleep pants you are going to face much the same issues I faced as a young lad, plus the additional problem of cum-stained sheets that might not get swapped out for a week!

That is where the pairs of tighty whitey come in. Conveniently, the cotton in the tighty whitey should be quite absorbent, and cum, being quite viscous, the tighty whitey should catch most of it. Shawn is going to see Randall putting on boxer shorts OVER a pair of tighty whiteys before going to bed, and he may wonder a bit about this. Now if Randall practices a bit, he can probably learn how to remove the boxer shorts after he ejaculates while still under the covers and in the dark, tossing the cum-stained tighty whiteys into a convenient location next to the bed. Randall awakens wearing only the boxer shorts he was wearing when he went to bed, and the cum-stained tighty whiteys are quickly tossed into Randall’s pillowcase laundry bag.

Then too, I have been discussing the possibility of having ready access to tighty whiteys available in a number of sizes, from a guy’s “normal” waist size to seriously undersized versions from the boy’s department. This has a way of playing with a guy the same way undersizing a swim brief can. The waist bands and the cloth stretches a lot, and the only recommendation is not to undersize to the point where the stretched waist band is not sufficiently large to be able to get in at all. But other than that, an undersized tighty whitey will fit much like a skimpier brief in your correct size would fit. Of course, as you undersize, the pouch will keep getting smaller and tighter. The solution here is the same as for an undersized swim brief, that is, the solution is to point yourself up not down, and with the snug fit that will be much easier to do with the undersized brief. The cotton will be coarser textured than the Lycra-blend swim brief, but many guys might actually like that.

What you are doing is setting yourself up for some great fun in the darkness under the covers, and right there a few feet away from your roommate. And this is accomplished without creating an impossible mess to attempt to deal with the next morning. I can’t assure you that the boxer shorts or sleeping pants will be completely free of damp spots or stains, or that the sheets will be completely stain free, but this should go a long way toward minimizing the problem.

For now, Shawn the roommate is none the wiser. But what if Shawn should ask you why you wear tighty whiteys under your boxer shots or sleep pants? You could just toss the question off and say “I’ve always done that!” Will Shawn eventually catch on to the scheme and want to try it himself?

Good Question!

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part V: The Swim brief
 

Some of my readers are probably wondering specifically why I had Randall bring along a couple of swim briefs to his college dorm room. Remember, I suggested two conservative-looking briefs made of a poly and Lycra® blend, both with at least 2-inch, perhaps 3-inch sides. What I was thinking about with this idea is how the dorm rooms were set up relative to the restroom and shower facilities way down the hall.

I’m not sure whether Randall and Shawn are guys who like to shower in the morning versus shower at night. Either has its advantages in a situation like this. By showering at night, your entire body is cleaner when you are in bed at night, and this can prove to be an advantage depending on what you are wearing for sleep. The snugger the fit, the more important this becomes.

Still, if you realize that on some nights you are going to be jerking off, this is good reason to shower in the morning as another way to clean up the semi-dry post-ejaculation cum, perhaps not entirely collected in the tighty whitey you were wearing when the event occurred.

Remember the restroom/shower setup in the dorm, where the guys end up walking a long distance down a hallway to get there. I also indicated that a soft-pile towel-like bathrobe was also essential for making these journeys morning or night that involve using a shower.

Let’s say Randall wants to shower in the morning. He gets up out of bed an quickly removes the sleeping pants or cotton boxers he was wearing and then discards the cum-stained tighty whiteys into his pillow case laundry bag. At the same time he pulls one of the swim briefs out of the dresser drawer in the closet, and slips that on. The cotton pile bathrobe goes on over. For his feet, he slips on a pair of cheap, easily removable vinyl flip flops that can get wet in the shower.

Randall heads out into the hallway clad in the navy swim brief with the pile bathrobe over. This attracts zero attention as he moves down the hall. Old-style military-like showers offer minimal if any privacy. Just a row of showerheads with guys completely nude under them, usually. Randall has hung the bathrobe up on a hook nearby, so he is now clad only in the navy swim brief. He now has the opportunity to determine what the other guys who may or may not be there on any specific day.

The neat thing about this is that at least for now, Randal’s penis and ‘nads are not just out there waving in the breeze, but by shower standards, by wearing the navy brief, he is actually the “conservative” one. One viable option is to complete the shower still wearing the navy brief. An interesting puzzle is whether a guy would prefer to shower completely nude or wearing the navy brief given that there are other guys showering who will see him. But what exactly occurs can vary from one day to the next.

Or, Randall could decide at some point to discard the brief instead. He doesn’t really have to make that decision until he gets into the shower. If he chooses to take it off and shower in the nude, he can put it back on again before he exits the shower, and then put the bathrobe back over as he exits.

By the time Randall gets through shaving, washing his face and brushing his teeth, the navy swim brief underneath is again all but dry, with the towel-like bathrobe having absorbed most of the excess water from the shower.

Randall wanders out through the hallway and back to the room, where Shawn is still just in the process of getting up. Randall hangs the bathrobe back up on a convenient hook on the closet, where it will dry, and he is now standing there in the room clad only in the damp navy swim brief.

Shawn greets the returning Randall, who is clad only in the swim brief. Shawn has never even owned a swim brief, and particularly note that Shawn tries to look disinterested and like everything is just quite normal. Still, at some level he thinks Randall looks neat wearing only that navy brief, and he still is trying to determine exactly what Randall has been doing. But for now, Shawn is just a casual “observer”.

Randall needs to get ready for class. Randall quickly pulls of the navy brief, and replaces it with a looser fitting pair of tighty whiteys (Men’s SM), and pulls his pair of medium wash skinny jeans over, along with his white sneakers. On top he is wearing a compression tee with a navy blue polo pullover.

Randall is all set for class. And, life has not treated him too badly. He had a neat jerk-off under the covers wearing the really snug tighty whiteys, yet managed to pull this off without drawing any undue attention to or even embarrassing himself in front of his new roommate. And the shower in the swim brief seemed to just add something additional to the entire morning as well. This all went down pretty slick, so to speak.

Still, there is something that is starting to nag away at Shawn. Shawn suddenly suspects that Randall may have his life in a close-quarters double dorm room with the shower down the hall figured out better than Shawn has. Shawn has fervently tried as best he can to avoid thinking about his penis and jerking off, but as the semester continues (drags on), staying in a total-abstinence mode becomes tougher and tougher to do. Any guy knows that. If you really focus yourself, at that age a guy might be able to delay ejaculation for maybe at most a week or so. Still, it keeps getting tougher and tougher to do and if a college-age guy attempts this for too long there is a real chance that a guy might ejaculate in a completely unacceptable place or situation. So by attempting to do without, this only keeps getting more and more difficult to control.

However he is doing it, Randall seems to have successfully already found a workable strategy for coping with the situation. At some level Shawn is envious and he doesn’t know what he should do about it. He would like to but is scared to have a frank conversation with Randall on the entire topic, maybe first just hinting at what he would like to know. But keep in mind that Shawn, just by keeping his eyes open, realizes that Randall likes to wear snug-fitting, maybe even undersized, tighty whiteys and a navy blue swim brief. And Randall’s jeans of choice are cut snugger and narrower than the ones Shawn brought along to wear.

To be continued….
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part VI: Fun with Compression gear
 

Back when I was in college, no one had invented compression gear, or, if there were early versions, it was certainly not commonly worn by guys, and especially not by guys that liked to think of themselves as key “stud” athletes in sports like football and basketball. It seems to me this trend really didn’t get going till the 1990s, starting first with the major college and pro basketball teams, where compression shorts suddenly started peeking out below the usual shorter basketball shorts. Younger guys seeking to “be” like their athlete-heroes everywhere started doing the same thing. And then along came the snug-fitting tees as well.

The Underarmour company started with and initially catered to guys who wanted to buy compression gear. Early on it was not a shoe company nor a more general athletic apparel company, but a company that specialized in convincing guys that they needed to wear the gear the big college and pro teams were wearing, and that this would help in their own “athletic performance”.

For me, that is the interesting part. A lot of guys, perhaps most, have always had what I would describe as a “love-hate” affair with snug-fitting clothing of various sorts, and as applied to compression gear of all kinds in much the same way as many guys seem to have something of a “love-hate” affair with being able to wear a swim brief. Part of the mind and body is telling the guy it would be fascinating fun to do this while another part is concerned about doing so for an assortment of reasons. My min was always fixated on anything that fit snug and was made from a smooth material. Early on, I concluded that compression gear might be a lot of fun to jerk off in, given the smooth and snug fit around “sensitive” body parts and that this was something I surely didn’t want to miss out for running these “experiments” with my body.

For an amateur athlete however, the mere thought contemplating wearing compression gear and getting into it in the guy’s locker room might lead to, well, at minimum the start of a good erection and potentially an embarrassing situation in the locker room with the other guys wandering around. Still, this was a “safer” situation than the swim brief situation, as compression shorts are normally covered with another garment, perhaps another looser fitting pair of shorts that could easily “disguise” any “issues” a guy might be having “down” there. Unlike the swim brief “problem” the erection would not be obvious to everyone else, at least not or very long.

Where compression shorts and a tee fit in a guy’s ranking within an overall collection of “clothing items that might be fun to try getting aroused and jerking off in” is an interesting question. I’ve often thought that the Underarmour company ® business seemed to “grow” a lot faster than the early years than what would be expected if they were selling only to guys who thought compression gear might improve their performance in some serious competitive sport. Perhaps the rapid “rise” in business and sales was at least part attributable to this semi-hidden “other market” by guys looking at the gear as being a helpful aid in jerking off. What makes this all work of course is the smooth, stretchy material with a very snug fit coming in contact with the most sensitive external body part a guy has, the underside of a guy’s penis, and that it wouldn’t take a lot of coaxing advertising wise for many if not most guys to see the “opportunities and possibilities” that might be available here.

Randall has already had his moments of “personal discovery” in this regard about all of this. Shawn is at the “in the process of learning some weird stuff” point in time which is taking place by Shawn just nonchalantly watching what Randall is doing while attempting to take mental notes. There is stuff that Shawn can easily see and stuff Shawn is starting to conjecture could be happening but Shawn is not at all certain about.

To be continued…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part VII: Getting All Strapped In
 

In many respects, Randall’s teenage years were all but ideal. His parent’s house was large enough that he was able to have his own private bedroom as he worked his way toward becoming a young adult. With this privacy, of course, emerged opportunities to try some things that he might not have been able to do if he were constantly with a sibling who was occupying the same room. This has its advantages.

Randall quickly learned that there were specific clothing items that could perhaps make him feel good “down there”. The only problem was how to obtain these items with his parents watching over what he was doing constantly. Still, situations did come up that led to opportunities, and Randall quickly became very good at convincing his parents that he “needed” a particular item for a school-related activity.

Not that Randall was an outstanding athlete at that point in his life, which would have potentially made the stories he made up easier to believe, nor even a mediocre athlete. But you can see the “product” of Randall’s “work” in this regard in the dresser drawer of that little college dorm room. Let’s see, a package or two of tighty whiteys that seem, well, maybe right now maybe a bit undersized (OK then, a lot undersized) for Randall, a couple pair of loose-fitting boxer shorts, A couple pair of sweat pants, a compression tee and a pair of compression shorts, two swimming briefs, one in black and one in navy blue, and, perhaps most surprisingly, an old-school athletic supporter (aka “jock strap”) with the 3-inch elastic waistband, rough-textured pouch, and an open rear with elastic leg straps that keep the pouch in place.

These are the exact same items Randall had in his room when he was living at home, items that he had accumulated and enjoyed wearing without raising a red flag with his parents as to what exactly he was doing with them. That could have been embarrassing if he had gotten himself into a situation where he would need to explain what he was doing with some of this stuff to his parents.

But still, off to college and living on his on more or less (but with a roommate) Randall was not about to head off without taking along the items that were so important to who he was and is. The tricky part was going to be figuring out a way to still enjoy himself without his roommate wondering about him and who he was, sexually and emotionally.

There is a story behind how Randall somehow managed to accumulate each of these items without causing his parents to ask uncomfortable questions as to why he “needed” each one. Of the items, the undersized tighty whiteys were the easiest to make the case for owning. Randall had worn tighty whiteys as just normal underwear since long before puberty. It was after puberty that it occurred to Randall that undersized tighty whiteys were still quite wearable as the waistband stretched quite a bit but that he often “felt better (down there) if they fit a little “too snug”. The only trick was to convince his mom to keep buying him now “the same size as he was wearing a year or two ago.”

Gradually, Randall accumulated unopened 6-pack packages of tighty whiteys that somehow just got stuck in the back of his dresser drawer in his bedroom at the house. Of course, Randall was “using” some of these too, and these ended up stretched out in the wash. It turns out that when Randall went off to college some of these unopened packages “just happened” to end up in the pile of clothes he brought long.

Randall made the case of the black and navy swim briefs because he also had unlined athletic style shorts the other guys his age were using for running and maybe even for going in the water. “These would make an excellent liner for my shorts” was the plea Randall made when he saw these in one of those big-box sporting goods stores. Of course, Randall also picked up a couple pair of unlined loose-fitting shorts at the same time and dreamed up on the spot the story about how he would always be wearing the swim briefs simply as an undergarment with the loose fitting, unlined shorts. Somehow, his parents bought the creative story line and let him do this.

The compression gear was a little trickier to justify, but the loose-fitting shorts played a role in that too. One strategy is to tell your parents that you need this because “that’s what my male buddies are wearing”. Parents like to keep current on what guys their son’s age are doing and not have son’s somehow look different from their peers. So it wasn’t long before Randall had nabbed a silver grey compression tee and a pair of compression shorts in the same color that fit nearly to his knees, and thus were quite visible when he slipped those loose-fitting shorts over the top. With this combination, Randall looked like any other student athlete even though he was not that at all.

Getting the final item, that interesting and coarse-textured old-school strap with the 3-inch waistband was trickier, and the only item Randall managed to buy on his own without having to think up a storyline to feed his parents first. Fortunately, a basic strap (the ones without a cup) only costs $3 or so. The really difficult part was finding one in a store and being on his own so he could make the purchase without his parents even being aware of what he was doing. But as Randall got older his parents would often let him wander off on his own at the shopping mall. What better to do than check out the strap aisle at the big box sporting goods store. And there it was! Exactly what Randall coveted in size Youth (Large). Randall pulled it off the rack and quickly took it to the checkout—a checkout where there is always a female waiting to take his $3.48. Randall wondered what she might be thinking about this given that this was his one purchase, but he paid for the item and quickly exited the store.

Randall then had the problem of getting it to his room without his parent’s knowledge, but fortunately the package is small. While the item might be fun to “try on” and “observe” how his body reacts to the “new situation” but he realized that it could be quite embarrassing should his parents wander in on him at an “inopportune time”. So the strap had mostly stayed in its little clear plastic box in the back of his dresser drawer but somehow got tossed in with the other items Randall was taking with him to college. (Oh yah, he did try it on once on a day when everyone else was out of the house, but that was it.)

Randall has been having a bit of fun wearing the undersized tighty whiteys under boxer shorts as sleepwear, and Shawn might be starting to figure out a few things. Randall got to thinking that maybe he should try a combination that might prove still more difficult to cope with and maybe mess a bit with his roommate Shawn as well. Why not first crawl into the tighty whiteys as a first layer, as Shawn had gotten “used” to seeing him do at bedtime, but then slip on the little strap over, and then on top of that, why not put on the compression shorts instead of the loose-fitting boxers? Sleep in that gear and see if he can make it through the night without “voiding semen”. An interesting “challenge” for mind and body and one Randall has not ever tried before. Plus, just seeing Randall wearing this combination to bed could “affect” Shawn in ways Shawn did not realize were possible until now.

To be continued…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part VIII: Coping with the urge to ejaculate
 

For many if not nearly all guys, the urge to ejaculate can sometimes be overwhelming. Of course, part of what makes this so fascinating is that what triggers things to begin happening varies all over the place. A lot of guys would like to believe that the only thing that gets them aroused is the site of a scantily clad or unclad attractive female body, but, like everything else in human sexuality this may be only a small part of it.

And this idea in itself can cause guys a lot of angst in that they don’t want to admit even to themselves let alone their male peers that they might not be exactly what they think is “normal” for other guys their age. Of course the myth is the mistaken belief that other guys are somehow not struggling with the same sensations and feelings down there that do not involve a female sexual partner at all. Of course, other guys are experiencing much the same thing, but that is a closely guarded “secret”. Many guys go to extraordinary efforts to try and leave the impression that being with a female is the only way they their orgasms ever happen, but this is definitely not the case.

There are some basic issues grounded in biology. If males were not attracted to females in this way at all, the human species would quickly disappear, and biology always has a part that is laser-focused on the continuation of the species.

Still, nearly every guy also realizes that arousal frequently occurs in the absence of a female. Aside from the idea that there are gay guys aroused by another guy, there are all sorts of other situations. If a guy like Randall or Shawn decide chose to do so, either can probably manage to go without masturbating to orgasm for perhaps 48 to 72 hours. After that, it quickly gets tougher and tougher as a guy’s brain somehow starts to focus more and more on a never-ending daydream about ejaculating and the pleasure it brings. Then, if this little “problem” doesn’t somehow get “resolved” in daylight hours, the guy’s body more or less “takes control” with a wet dream concluding in a powerful orgasm probably during the night. Cleanup on aisle 4!

Wet dreams can be fun even during sleep, but a guy often quickly discovers that he can “program” himself to awaken from the erotic dream just a minute or so before the orgasm starts and thus enjoy the experience while groggily awake. Furthermore, if getting the orgasm underway still could use a little “help” the guy can also do that as well. The tricky part is not the act of doing this, but rather pulling it off unobtrusively with your roommate only a few feet away from you in the dorm room. Tricky stuff and few male dorm roommates have the courage to in any way explain to the other what is going on. The roommate is left to figure this all out simply by watching the non-verbal clues.

Of course, getting aroused but somehow managing to hold off on the ejaculation part has its own rewards. As a guy gets erect, the fascinating part is that the sensitive nerve endings throughout the groin area but concentrated on the underside of the penis somehow keep getting more and more touch-sensitive. It’s important for guys to learn how to deal with these changes in sensitivity which interestingly seem to vary moment by moment. Whatever is touching a guy’s penis when an arousal is building gets brought into the equation, and a particular piece of clothing, say a snug-and-slick swim brief, something that would not cause any “problems” almost all at once feels very arousing.

Guys know that and that is part of the “love-hate” relationships many guys have with swim briefs, but guys also like to be in control. Getting yourself into a situation where you could lose control of your urges at any moment tends to scare a lot of guys, but especially so if the situation develops in the presence of other guys. Therefore, the idea that just crawling into a swim brief could start a chain of events that the guy could not bring under conscious control bothers a lot of guys a lot. They love the feel but the circumstances under which something could happen that would be embarrassing is quite another matter.

So, dare Randall admit to Shawn that he is having this shower of thoughts and urges? Probably not! Still, Randall is wondering how Shawn is dealing with all of these core male problems and issues as well. And don’t think for a moment that Shawn is not attempting to cope with some very similar issues while attempting to not signal this to Randall. Except, of course, Shawn has been quietly watching Randall in this respect ever since the semester started and the two of them became roommates. Shawn has been taking mental notes as he watches Randall doing stuff to himself at bedtime. Stuff that Shawn might think is, well, most interesting.

To be continued…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part IX: Wet Dreams in the Dorm Room
 

Shortly after puberty, most guys probably experience their first wet dream. A wet dream is a unique occurrence in which a guy has a ream that in some manner involves a sexually arousing situation, and the dream concludes with the guy “voiding semen”. Sometimes when this happens, the guy doesn’t wake up at all, but merely discovers on waking in the morning that what he wore to bed that night has starchy stained patches of semen on it.

Typically, the guy goes through a phase in which he thinks he has somehow reverted to a situation whereby he was somehow wetting the bed (very embarrassing !) but then it soon dawns on him that the stains are not urine but semen. The next phase usually involves a worry that his parents are somehow going to discipline him for what has happened. Should he say anything at all or just keep quiet and hope no one notices.

If it becomes apparent that his parents do know something, unremarkably, unconcerned, as if it doesn’t bother them at all. At this point the guy, if a bit enlightened, may conclude that what happened is as normal as sunshine, or perhaps a male version of his sister having her first period, which seems much more complicated and potentially embarrassing.

If the guy does even a little research, he discovers that the term “wet dream” is slang for something called “nocturnal emissions”, a term that seems to be anything but something to do with having an unexpected and perhaps unwelcome orgasm that voids semen.

Still, as uncertain and scared a guy is about these events, there is something really interesting going on here as well. Complicated stuff. More of this stuff where a guy starts to wonder if he is unique or whether or not his male friends his age are going through the same “turmoil”.

Soon thereafter, a guy discovers that having an orgasm is both scary but in all sorts of ways extraordinarily fun, and starts to think about how to “program” his sleep such that he awakens from a dream fully erect and ready to cum, but is wide awake to begin to enjoy the moment of orgasm. Further, if he does that, he will probably also remember the key elements of a wild and crazy dream that lead to the strong erection. This, like so much of male sexuality, can be at once interesting but scary.

In short, guys think that there are basically two kinds of dreams leading to nighttime arousal and erections, those that have storylines with a sex-related theme that are regarded as “politically correct” and those with storylines that are sexually arousing but go off in a host of other directions, politically incorrect or at minimum embarrassing and perhaps uncomfortable to ponder in the daytime. Guys keep wondering what a dream that falls into the latter category means and how specific aspects of the dream should be interpreted.

So, the politically correct wet dreams typically involve some encounter with an attractive female, maybe some girl the guy knows but often a completely imaginary woman. If the wet dream is to be politically correct, the two should only be engaging in politically correct sex such as no bondage or other sexual activity either the guy or the female in the dream would consider to be abnormal for an ordinary heterosexual couple to do.

Still, dreams have a way of wandering off in directions that a guy might not go if he were awake, and there is no conscious way of plot development to make certain this never happens. Stuff goes on in dreams, say a bondage scene between the two, that the guy believe would at minimum be considered politically incorrect. And a lot of guys worry about what this all means if the activities fall outside the politically correct norms for a wet dream. Or what about a wet dream where a guy merely masturbates to orgasm with a female observing? Is that a politically correct dream or not? These are great questions without simple or easy answers.

Now, most guys realize at an early age that their peer males are having wet dreams too, whenever they say something like “I just saw a wet dream” in reference to seeing an attractive female for the first time. But this other stuff is more complicated, in that wet dreams that have a story line involving having penis-vagina sex with an attractive woman leading to a nocturnal emission is somehow normal and OK but these other story lines are not OK and at minimum should never be revealed to anyone else.

I’m guessing that a lot of gay men grow up having dreams involving sexual encounters with other guys rather than attractive females, and that somehow becomes the politically correct version of a wet dream for a gay male. The complicated part is if a teen guy believes himself to be straight but then starts having dreams involving sexual encounters of some sort with other males, and whether the storylines of these wet dreams are telling him something about his real sexuality that he does not fully realize or dare to admit when he is awake. This is potentially scary stuff for a young male.

And what about the guy who has wet dreams that do not seem to follow any particular pattern gay or straight, perhaps in a single or multiple dreams there can be sexual encounters that could involve males or females depending on how a storyline develops on any given night. Is his guy bisexual or merely having weird dreams? What to make of it all, anyway?

But the, isn’t sex in any form partly real sensation and feelings down there in the groin area and partly pure fantasy? Guys sometimes get themselves into medical appointments where they need to “donate semen” for a variety of situations. Why do these places offer a guy a “porn magazine” as a possible “aid” in moving the sperm donor process along, if an orgasm was not rooted in fantasy? Strange questions, but surely questions that should be asked.

So, guys like Randall and Shawn entering adulthood end up probably having a number of very personal questions that relate to what they have been going through as teenagers but have not yet resolved, and many of these questions are far more complicated that figuring out how to get up in the morning after a nocturnal emission has occurred creating messy ejaculate on what each was wearing that night.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part X: Now for the Really Complicated Stuff
 

So far, in the world of wet dreams and nocturnal emissions, I have discussed the possible themes that are relatively straightforward and at least somewhat easy for a guy to understand. Generally, I have been assuming that the dream involves a sexual encounter with another person, usually female but perhaps male, and perhaps with a few “bells and whistles” involving activities perhaps better played out as fantasy in a dream than as a real sexual activity between two people. This may be items that fall loosely within each guy’s personal comfort zone.

But staying within a guys psychosexual daytime comfort zone is not something that wet dreams always do. In fact, quite the opposite. A dream that falls outside a guy’s comfort zone is certainly possible, perhaps even commonplace.

Consider for a moment the terror many guys feel with respect to wearing something as simple as putting on an ordinary swim brief. Double the terror if the guy has gotten into a situation where he will be trying on a swim brief for the first time in the presence of other males near his own age. The source of the terror really relates primarily to the idea that “if I start to get erect, even a little, in this situation surely the other guys will see that I have a “problem” and perhaps start to tease me. But at the same time I am also most curious if my friends also run into the same problem and end up in various stages of arousal. I would feel a little better knowing that I was not the only one facing this situation.

But then, what does this all mean with respect to a guy’s sexuality. Here are guys, at least me, getting aroused in the presence of other guys who are also potentially getting aroused as well. Does that mean I am gay? Or the other guys getting aroused are gay? What exactly is going on here, anyway? This is interesting but it is also scaring the s@#t out of me.

But maybe the same guy daydreams about getting himself into exactly this situation, and gets erect just thinking about it all happening while wide awake. Then a guy crawls into bed and this situation which hasn’t actually happened, at least not yet, gets woven into a wet dream with a plotline involving me and a bunch of other guys all crawling into snug-and slinky swim briefs in a guy’s locker room for the very first time, and the storyline reveals that a number of guys as well as me are in the process of getting a hard-on. I waken from the dream with a vivid memory of what happened in the dream but also at the very edge of voiding semen all over whatever I wore to bed that night. This is all at once scary but the orgasm that happens was delightfully powerful, and created a total mess for me to try and deal with post ejaculation and with my roommate in a half-awake groggy state.

Or the jockstrap-themed wet dream. If this one, the coach is telling the team that whatever they are going to be doing will require that each team member wear a strap and the straps being passed out to the team do not look “roomy” at all. Plus, there are those confounded hard cups that do not look big enough to contain me unless I can somehow manage to remain completely flaccid throughout it all. What a wet dream that storyline will make.

Or the shopping experience wet dream. In this on, I am shopping for a clothing item that I know has the potential at least to make me hard. Maybe a swim brief, some compression shorts, or even a pair of ultra snug fitting skinny jeans. Somehow I decide I need to try the item on before I purchase it, and end up in a small changing booth with a tall mirror. What happens? I try the item on and somehow almost immediately go into a full-blown orgasm, the worst possible scenario. Now the trick is to get the damaged item purchased without the sales clerk realizing that I stained it, or somehow manage to just get out of the store.

All these of these scenarios make great fodder for a wet dream, yet none involve direct sexual encounter with another person. All three of these are goofy fun, but probably not stuff that you would discuss with your dorm roommate in the bed just a few feet away from you.

Still, if a guy like Randall finds wet dreams with these kinds of scenarios to be interesting, why not set up a situation whereby these examples are what you are thinking about right before you crawl into bed. Dreams often weave themes that involve some of the last things that happened to you before you fell asleep. What better way of kickstarting a wet dream than, say, putting on a swim brief or strap on under whatever you normally wear to bed?

Then too, guys normally go through multiple erection cycles during the night some accompanied by vivid dreams but others not. The swim brief or strap that barely contained you fit snug as you crawled into bed, but that situation might quickly shift to something more far more interesting if you start to get hard in it while asleep. You might wake up in the middle of the night with the brief or strap still containing you but in a now psychologically desperate urge to ejaculate. Why not have some fun with your own body? Your roommate is (supposedly) fast asleep even as you are “suffering” only a few feet away from him. Thus, no one will know in the morning what was going on in your mind and body.

Or will your roommate figure it all out on his own?

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XI: Randall’s Recurring Wet Dream
 

Randall has several wet dreams where the same or nearly the same plots keep getting repeated over and over again. For Randall, the most interesting and difficult to understand part of this is that the plots generally do not involve events leading up to having real sex with a female. For that matter, the only important actor in the dream is Randall, with other guys showing up only occasionally if at all. The dreams seem to almost always have masturbation rather than partner sex themes. Randall finds this, well, interesting, but he has never quite known what to make of it all.

The plot of the dream that seems to happen most frequently in these recurring dreams seems to go something like this. In it, Randall is initially feeling only a bit horny. He is aware of his penis, and that it is just on the precipice (brink) of becoming touch-sensitive. This I an interesting moment for most guys, including Randall, because from this point things could easily go either way. This can be a fleeting moment, in which everything quickly goes back to normal, or not. Randall is not yet hard at all.

Still, the situation he confronts is going to be more than fascinating. How Randall got himself to this point is that he is thinking about purchasing a new swim brief, a bright royal blue one, and making the purchase from the local big box store. Randall drives over to the sporting goods store and enters. He wanders through the store hoping to be able to find the area where the swim-related gear is. He finds the area and spots a couple of racks of swim-related clothing. He spots a rack of what appears to be jammers, but then notices a smaller area right at the end of the rack. Sure enough, there must be a dozen and a half of swim briefs. Even more incredibly there are several in a slick looking bright royal blue color.

These come in several different sizes. There is a SM, two MED, a L, and even an XL.

At this point, a sales clerk notices that he appears to be looking at the swimsuits. Randall notices the sales clerk. Dark hair, about 5’9”, deep brown eyes, an athletic build. Randall thinks that this guy has all the physical characteristics of someone who probably swam in high school and maybe even swam or dived in college. He looks to be about Randall’s age.

Randall says to the clerk “I’m thinking about buying one of these suits, but I’m not quite sure of the size”

Smiling, the clerk says “Why not try them on?” We have a changing booth along the back wall where those doors are.”

Randall thinks that would be a good idea, and smiling back at the clerk, he says “Thank you! I think I will do that.” And he pulls down two of the royal blue suits, one in SM and one in MED.

Now we know the condition that Randall was in when he came into the store, feeling a bit horny, but not yet hard. But his situation has been pushed further along by simply pawing through the rack of suits and thinking about getting into one of the royal blue ones. The smiling and cooperative male clerk seemed to add something to the situation though Randall is not exactly sure what that something is.

We all know what happens to guys who face situations like this. This quickly becomes a situation where a guy starts to ooze a little precum. And Randall knows that too. He can already feel drops of ooze forming in his underwear at his penis tip. Randall knows that the tricky part now will be how to successfully try on the suits without staining them with drops of precum.

There are other challenges. As Randall contemplates the task ahead he is starting to get hard. The interesting part about that from the perspective of Randall’s current situation is that once an erection gets underway, precum production abruptly stops,

So, Randall gets into the changing booth that (thankfully) has a full-length mirror inside. So Randall can see how the royal blue brief will fit without having to step outside the booth and be in public view. Randall removes his skinny jeans and (slightly cum-stained) underwear, and pulls on the first brief, the larger MED.

At this point, Randall is already pretty hard, and his penis can only be described as fully touch sensitive. He thinks to himself that this may be a “blessing” because at least he is no longer oozing viscous precum. The tricky part about being in this stage is that his penis is now nearly fully touch sensitive, made worse by the fact that he now must somehow find a position for it within the pouch of the brief, and he cannot do that without touching it. There is not much room in there at all, and as he repositions his penis the underside rubs against the slick fabric.

Somehow Randall manages his way through all of this without ejaculating, but further challenges still lie ahead. He pulls the MED brief off and decides it’s now time to try on the SM, which, not surprisingly is more of a struggle just to get in. He tries positioning his penis “up” which is the only feasible way in that size of brief, which of course means that the slick lining is going to be rubbing against the underside of his now super-touch-sensitive penis.

Randall takes one look at himself in the mirror and his penis as it is positioned inside the brief and ejaculates almost immediately with a powerful outburst of semen all over the front of the brief.

Randall never finds out if and how he maneuvers out of this predicament. Does he somehow end up purchasing the SM brief he stained, returning the MED to the rack? If so, how does he cope? What happens, of course, is that Randall awakens from the dream in the throes of ejaculating semen all over what he happened to be wearing for sleeping that night. A similar mess but at a different time and location. Maybe what Randall chooses to wear for sleeping tends to bring on these wild dreams.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XII: Feeling a little horny
 

Guys frequently have this really complicated relationship going on with their own bodies. And Randall is no different than any other guy his age. Roommate Shawn too, but more about that later. Guys realize at a very early age that whether or not a guy is feeling horny or not feeling horny depends on a weird mixture of the psychological and the physical, and for there to be something physical, there ordinarily at least needs to be some sort of psychological “triggering mechanism”.

I suppose that the most generally recognized psychological triggering mechanism involves the potential for some sort of direct physical contact with a sexual partner, traditionally a female about the same age as the guy experiencing the phenomenon. But having said this, the reality is a whole lot more complex and intriguing. Historically, guys bought magazines with photos of unclad female bodies with the underlying idea that in simply looking at such pictures they were make guys feel horny. Nowadays the common thing to do is to pull up a porno video on the internet and watch that while jerking oneself off. Doing this is simply accepted as common behavior for ordinary guys such as Shawn and Randall as college freshmen. Indeed, something might be wrong if each of them did NOT do this to and with themselves perhaps fairly regularly. OK there are some really “serious" guys out there who like to keep this part of their psyche deeply hidden, if it exists at all.

Yet few guys are comfortable revealing to their male friends the extent of their behaviors in this regard. No guy wants to be known as simply a guy who enjoys jerking off watching porn to the exclusion of everything else such as sexual activity that directly involves another person. Yet jerking ff while watching porn has its advantages as well, in that there are not all those messy relationship-related issues to contend with. And we live in a time in which a guy who thought he was having a consensual sexual relationship with a female is informed 15 years later that the same female now thinks that whatever happened was not consensual but forced sex.

This quickly gets to be messy stuff, in which a guy’s entire career and life is deeply affected by events that may or may not have happened a long time ago. If this is the world we live in what is to stop any sexual partner from potentially turning on the guy at whatever point in time this might serve some political end? That on top of all the other issues floating around that haunt partner sex between unmarried couples in all its forms, including the pregnancy risk, transmission of serious sexually transmitted diseases and so on. Given all of this, it’s a wonder that sexual partnerships ever happen at all.

And indeed, a lot of guys are probably trying to seek a pathway that avoids as much of this complicated and messy stuff, at least until they get out of college.

I realize that many male college students manage to somehow navigate their college years having one or more sexual partners on a more or less continuing basis without getting themselves too deeply involved in the various downsides of trying to do this even as they pursue a college degree. I also realize that a lot of college students see the social aspects of where they are as being extremely important perhaps more important than the academic parts of their life. I also realize that lots of college students struggle in meeting minimum academic requirements and some of these eventually don’t make the cut academically , so to speak.

Still, there are also plenty of college students whose lives don’t revolve around having partner sex two or three times a week. Students like Randall and Shawn perhaps. But Randall and Shawn both occasionally (ahem!) feel horny. What to do? There are a variety of solutions to this puzzle of course, and some of these solutions might prove to be a bit embarrassing but ultimately not be a significant problem.

For example, suppose that Shawn comes home early because a class got dismissed early and find Randall sitting in his underwear watching porn in a video on his smart phone, and Randall obviously has a raging hard on. What does Shawn say to Randall? Is there a phrase that represents proper etiquette in such a “situation”. When someone dies, a proper phrase is “I am sorry for your loss” Or to a veteran coming home from serving in the military “thank you for your service!”, but is there an appropriate way to acknowledge that your roommate is really enjoying himself without being too silly or up front about what is obviously going on? I don’t know that any books have been written on the subject. “May I join you” seems just a little bit too front and forward it would seem.

Randall must always realize by now that enjoying himself is a lot more fun if at the same time he is wearing an article of clothing that fits particularly snug and tight, and exactly what he is wearing should Shawn drop in the room unexpectedly might affect how things proceed from that point. But still, Randall is not having to deal with any of the messy issues that would occur should he be having partner sex. And, of course, college roommates have been known to wander in unexpectedly when that is going on too. What is the proper way for the guys to deal with that situation? Say nothing and act like absolutely nothing is going on? And what happens if the two people engaging in partner sex are both guys, and the male roommate is the third male in the dorm room?

These are complicated questions, all of them.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XIII Randall gets ready for class
 

At a very early age, Randall discovered that his body was capable of providing a lot of interesting sensations, sensations that were not only quite pleasant, but frequently varied moment by moment. A lot of guys grow up being focused on the powerful sensations that occur just prior to and in the moments of ejaculation, but early on Randall somehow discovered that there was a lot more to sexual feelings and sensations than that and found ways of tapping into these sensations.

As you might imagine, all of this was often accomplished at night, under the cover of darkness. And while his often is extremely pleasant, the most interesting part is often when a guy tries to extend these pleasant feelings into the daylight hours.

Of course, there are, well, issues with all of this. Guys often are very aware of what is going on in this regard during the day, and perhaps describe themselves as feeling horny when this happens, but generally, guys are probably not going to be able to “take a break” so to speak, to jerk off to a full-scale orgasm during the day unless they somehow find themselves alone and are in a spot where they can do this without interruption. For male roommates like Shawn and Randall, that’s where the whole issue of whether your college roommate is away for the weekend or not comes into play.

So, as a practical matter, on most days at least, Randall might like to feel horny in a “still functional” sort of way. By this I mean that he is feeling good with respect to his own body but is still functional enough so that he can continue with his regular activities like attending classes and so on. If Randall were employed not a student these same ideas might apply.

Randall has had experiences in doing exactly this from his high school years, that is, maintaining a place for both mind and body where he is on something of sexual “high” for extended periods of time, but just not enough of a high that his mind is compelling him to get off ASAP. For a lot of guys, learning how to maintain this level involves some learning and experimentation. For example, it’s OK to be a little hard—to sense that there is more blood going to your penis than is outflowing, but not so hard that the erection itself is apparent given what you are wearing and what you are doing (in this case, to class). And a guy can’t get so carried away with the sensations you enjoy as you get a hard on that you can’t stop before it is too late on a variety of fronts. So this takes a degree of control to be accomplished via a learning experience.

(These are all good lessons for a guy to undertake for developing skills necessary in partner sex as well, but for now I just want to deal with the situation Randall is in.)

As it turns out, Randall is not as backward or as inexperienced about core elements of male sexual feelings and sensations as he sometimes thinks he is. For starters, even during high school, he was already thinking about all of this, and had uncovered some interesting stuff.

So, Randall is getting dressed and ready for class. The typical clothing Randall wears for class is a navy blue pullover shirt along with his beloved skinny jeans that are low rise and fit really snug though his thigh and calf area. But, what to wear underneath? Pretty simple, really. Start with a pair of Randall’s favorite tighty whiteys that seem to be made to order in combination with the skinny jeans. But Randall is feeling a little horny today. Why not mix it up a little. What about that “old school” jock strap Randall has in his dresser drawer? You know, the one that has a completely open butt, the gritty elastic pouch, the 3-inch elastic waist band, the ¾ inch elastic leg straps that holds the pouch in place.

Now Randall could wear the strap INSTEAD of the tighty whiteys under the jeans, and go to class “semi-commando” with a bare butt underneath. But Randall instead chooses to wear the mean little strap OVER The tighty whiteys. What Randall has discovered in his experiments is that the two in combination will put just enough pressure at various places in his groin area to maintain just the level of horniness he wants to maintain without being overwhelming enough so that he is unable to attend class, take notes and deal with all of the other stuff he needs to do. All day long he should be on a bit of a sexual high, so to speak, but not high enough so that it messes up the rest of the stuff he needs to do.

Oh, and this morning Randall also slips on a silver gray compression tee under the navy polo shirt.

Shawn is just in the process of getting out of bed. His first class is an hour later than the class Randall is taking. He has casually watched Randall as he dressed for class in much the same way—the skinny jeans, the polo shirt, the tighty whiteys. But this is the first time Shan has seen Randall put the strap on over the tighty whiteys, and the silver gray compression tee under the polo shirt is new to Shawn as well. Shawn thinks Randall looks great in the items...the silvery cool compression tee along with that way interesting strap!

Shawn is taking mental notes as this progresses and he is wondering what is up, but he doesn’t quite dare ask Randall about what he is doing, and certainly not why. Meanwhile, Randall feels particularly good this morning, especially down there, but is still quite functional for the day ahead. The combination of the tighty whiteys, the strap and the skinny jeans is neat in all sorts of ways, to be sure.

To be continued….
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XIV Randall’s day continues
 

I know many of my readers have been thinking that the various items Randall is wearing to class today appear to be pretty tame stuff overall, and not anything that would pose any particular difficulties for Randall to need to deal with during the day. This appears to be just the items that a perfectly “normal” nineteen-year-old pursuing an undergraduate degree would wear to classes. Why is this any different? (Well, I guess, most guys do not wear jock straps under their jeans,…but other than that…)

Still, it might not be the individual items Randall is wearing except maybe in combination. To illustrate, what guy has not at some point gotten himself into a pair of tighty whiteys that fit a little “too snug”. That surely can be a bit uncomfortable but not necessarily erotic. Some of the same “position issues” that pose a concern wearing swim briefs apply also to undersized tighty whiteys, and the solution to potential discomfort ends up pointing yourself upward or at least outward.

Guys sometimes “react” to wearing straps not unlike how they react to the prospect of wearing a swim brief. There are all sorts of sensations associated with an old school strap, starting with the ultra-wide 3-inch waist band, the elastic leg straps that tug relentlessly on the pouch from below, not to mention that “gritty” elastic pouch itself. Further, if a guy has pointed himself outward and then slaps the strap over, the strap pouch is going to get tugged downward by the leg straps.

Then to top this all off Randall has put his stretch skinny jeans right over all of this. This represents a third level of sensations in the groin area. The combination that results with the three layers may provide a bit of discomfort at first, but somewhere along the line Randall starts to realize that what he is feeling is not discomfort at all, but a tension that is at once “brutal” but also somehow strangely but extremely pleasant.

Randall obviously would like to focus on the pleasant sensations that are emanating from his groin area, but he knows that if he gets too carried away with enjoying himself he is not going to be able to focus as he should on his class work. This is an interesting dilemma to say the least.

Randall is also keenly aware of the fact that in an earlier time in his life, setting himself up like this clothing-wise posed the real possibility of an ejaculation happening in an inappropriate place or time—true terror for most guys. Still, his groin area cinched up this way does feel pretty good, and, from Randall’s perspective, the day is moving right along.

So, let me suppose that Randall somehow is managing to make it through the day dressed like this, getting to and taking the various classes, but still somehow thinking all day long off and on about his penis, where it is, and the great variety of sensations that keep hitting him over and over moment by moment.

Classes are over for the day and Randall is now heading back to the dorm room. Shawn has a class that normally doesn’t let out till 5:30 pm and it is about 4:45 pm now.

Something weird happens to nearly any guy who has spent the day thinking back and forth about the sensations coming from his penis, as Randall has had a lot of fun doing today. Once Randall nears the dormitory, he now keeps thinking more and more about how much he would like to ejaculate. The urge to ejaculate has been quietly building all day long, even though Randall was not always aware that this was happening to him.

Once Randall reaches the dorm room, his mind is suddenly focused on how desperate he is to rip himself out of the clothes he wore all day long and just get off with a powerful orgasm.

The dorm room is empty. Shawn is not back from class yet. Randall knows that if he is going to get himself off before Shawn returns, he doesn’t have a lot of time.

But at this stage, Randall doesn’t even need a lot of time. He strips off the skinny jeans, then the strap, and then those really snug tighty whiteys. By now, he has a full scale erection going on, and the nerve endings in his penis are suddenly ultra-sensitive. Merely touching his penis sends Randall into some other wonderful place and time. His mind and his body are both equally focused on having a super powerful ejaculation, something that he has been building toward all day long. Randall wonders how can something so weird be so much fun?

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XVI Randall was (very) fortunate
 

“Wow! Was I lucky!” thought Randall. Randall had managed to pull up his gray sweat pants over his otherwise unclothed body just as Shawn had gotten the dorm room door open. Randall quickly convinced himself that Shawn had not actually seen a thing unexpectedly, and Randall was now in the process of pulling a somber black tee shirt over his chest and still had to move that pair of soggy cum-filled white briefs to a “safer” place for now.

Still, Randall was not completely off the hook. Of course there was the problem of how to transfer that pair of soggy wet tighty whiteys Randall had quickly dropped to the side of the bed to his laundry bag. And goodness they were a soggy mess. Randall was well aware of the fact that if this wasn’t his biggest ejaculated semen load ever it still fell into the category of being in the “top ten” of those that Randall had ever experienced.

By the time guys are old enough to get into college, most of them probably realize that some ejaculations that occur as a result of masturbation can be a lot more powerful than others. What a guy is able to do in this regard a lot depends on the specific events in the minutes and hours that led up to the ejaculation event. This can be complicated stuff to understand and then appreciate, but it is also very important for guys to learn.

Let’s say a guy is feeling somewhat horny (maybe with an occasional drop of cool and wet precum forming) and wants to get off surreptitiously. But also assume that he is in the company of other people. One tactic often used is to simply make an excuse and then go to the bathroom. If the guy is in a private home, he will be the only one in there.

But the tricky part is now one of figuring out a method for getting as hard as possible and as fast as possible so as to not be gone from the group for very long, lest someone else goes looking for him ostensibly to “see if he is OK”. Plus, the items a guy has at his disposal to aid in jerking off are going to be very limited in an ordinary residential bathroom. Still, this all needs to come to a conclusion, but then the guy must be careful to not get any ejaculate anywhere that he can’t clean up easily once the main event is over.

Guys over time gradually learn techniques for coping with all of this and then being able to come back out of the bathroom acting as if nothing odd or weird had happened to them at all. Even if a guy is able to pull this all off without any “incidents”, chances are the orgasm that was possible under these circumstances will be only just OK but nothing especially powerful or compelling.

But now think about Randall and the powerful orgasm he just had, as well as the events that led to the orgasm. This orgasm had been quietly brewing and fermenting all day long, for the moment Randall got up in the morning and started choosing items to wear to class that day.

It is difficult sometimes to determine cause and effect in this respect. This was obviously not the first time Randall had pulled off something like this. He had lots of knowledge with respect to exactly which clothing items would be most likely to make him keep feeling horny over the entire day. Taken individually, each item might seem rather tame and innocuous in this regard. But it was the collective impact of the combination of items that had the very real and building impact over the long day.

Randall also knew that in setting himself up this way there was not going to be a convenient moment during the day where he could simply ejaculate and quickly eliminate the pressures that were gradually building and then building some more as the day wore on. No, he would have to wait until classes were over and he got back to the privacy of the little dorm room.

The items he was wearing seemed simple enough, the tighty whiteys seemed to be not unlike what he wore every day even though on this particular day he had chosen a particularly undersized and snug-fitting pair. Putting the strap on over the tighty whiteys seemed “safe” enough. What “harm” would that do?

And the skinny jeans. Randall had also picked out the skinniest pair from his wardrobe. These were the kind that were laced with Lycra® in the denim fabric so the undersized waist could stretch to be buttoned. Almost skin tight in the calves and thighs, they also had a low rise. Randall thought that these were ideal when paired with the strap and those undersized tighty whiteys. And Randall knew that all of this could help sustain his horniness throughout the day, somehow also he was going to have to cope with situation whereby he couldn’t let himself get too horny at least not until the day was over and he got back to the dorm room.

Male “self abuse” when conducted employing the methods Randall was using, can result in significantly more powerful orgasms than a masturbation quickie done on short impulse in the privacy of a residential bathroom. Randall had figured this out some time ago. The really powerful orgasms happen only if the events leading up to the orgasms are interesting from a psychosexual perspective as well. Randall often wondered whether what he knew about all of this might prove useful somehow in having great partner sex as well. Maybe there was more to learning advanced techniques in self-gratification than just the self-gratification of the moment! This is interesting stuff to ponder. Way interesting!

Randall gathered up those soggy tighty whiteys so that Shawn did not see that they were filled with cum, and gently placed them in his pillowcase laundry bag.

Randall figured he had gotten off without Shawn knowing anything about what had all just happened, but, quite frankly, Randall wasn’t exactly 100 % certain of that either. Maybe Shawn did have some suspicions however careful Randall had tried to be.

Meanwhile, Shawn now seemed in a particularly talkative mood and was raising subjects Shawn had never brought up before.

“That navy blue brief you have been wearing under your pile bathrobe seems to work very well to wear into the showers down the hall. “Where did you get that at?”

Randall replied “I got that at that sporting goods store that is on the spot where the mall is. I found a rack of those in various sizes and colors there.”

Shawn replied “I think I would like to get one of those to wear for showering like you have been doing.”

Randall says “We will have to go shopping this weekend and I can show you exactly where they are in the store. I need some things too”

To be continued…

Rats, I missed uploading a chapter
 

I am uploading XV and XVI in the correct order No wonder the story line seemed messed up

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XV And then (of course)…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XV And then (of course)…

The day had started out quite calm and quiet for Randall. As you are aware, Randall woke up in the morning feeling quite horny, but he had a full day of classes ahead of him and he had overslept a bit and was running late and had to hurry to get ready for class. No time to jerk off before class this time anyhow. Besides, Shawn was still getting himself ready for class as well.

He knew that despite what he was experiencing, jerking off was something he was going to have to delay, at least until classes were finished for the day. This is a tricky place for a guy to be in both psychologically and sexually. Randall’s body seemed to be operating more or less on its own, sending interesting “signals” to his brain that Randall enjoyed very much. Yes, there were things that needed to be done all day long, which meant that Randall couldn’t get himself in a situation whereby he was paying too much attention to the signals.

This is one of those instances where a guy commonly will start to drip a little precum, but that is as far as it goes pretty much. Randall feels the drops of ooze collecting in his tighty whiteys at the very tip of his penis, but not enough to stain his skinny jeans and potentially create something of an embarrassing “problem.”

It would not be accurate to say that Randall’s mind was entirely on his classes and what was going on in the lectures this day either. Randall suspected that the predicament he found himself in was probably something that other male class members sometimes experienced as well, but like so many other features of male sexuality this is not exactly a conversation that a guy can comfortably have with most male friends. So much of what goes on here was something of a mystery to Randall.

When the last chapter ended, Randall had made it through his classes without accidentally ejaculating (which is good to know) but now that classes were over and Randall might have the dorm room to himself for a little time, the psychological (and physical) pressures of the day had taken their toll.

As Randall stripped off his skinny jeans and pulled off the strap, he noticed that the two precum stains on his tighty whiteys were quite large, one quarter dollar-sized but the other the size of the fifty-cent piece. Randall had been oozing small amounts of precum for nearly the entire day.

Not only that once the strap came off Randall realized he was about as hard as he had ever seen himself and the nerve endings on the underside of his penis were just super touch-sensitive. Randall was reaching the point of no return, and getting there very rapidly. Both his mind and body were focusing on the idea that the most important thing to do right now was to get off.

Of course, Randall knew that it can be also agonizingly fun to and somehow keep delaying orgasm for as long as possible. Randall had been tapping on the underside of his penis through the cloth of the tighty whiteys. And he had grown some since the strap came off. One of the interesting tricks Randall had learned was to try and get into that old school strap again that he had just removed only moments ago, albeit when he was still a bit smaller and a bit less sexually excited.

And that is what did it for Randall, of course, the pressure of that snug-fitting strap cinched up over the tighty whiteys. Randall went into extremely powerful uncontrollable spasms of orgasm almost immediately, most of which, thankfully, was collected into the little pouch of the tighty whiteys. As great solo orgasms go, Randall immediately concluded that this one, if not the best ever orgasm, was most certainly in the top five ever.

Randall often liked to “rank” orgasmic experiences. Randall realized that this one was immensely enjoyable in part because of the sexual tension he had somehow managed to endure for the entire day, but also because of the specific items he had chosen to wear to class that kept the tension on and hitting on him steadily as the day progressed.

“I wonder if other guys know anything about this strategy” thought Randall. By now, Randall had pulled off the strap (again) and was in the process of putting the tighty whiteys into his pillow case laundry bag that had served him so well all day long when he heard the distinct sound of a key slipping into the door lock. That had to be Shawn coming back from class. Randall managed to quickly find his sweat pants, and was pulling them to his waist as Shawn now entered the room.


To be continued…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XVI Randall was (very) fortunate
 

“Wow! Was I lucky!” thought Randall. Randall had managed to pull up his gray sweat pants over his otherwise unclothed body just as Shawn had gotten the dorm room door open. Randall quickly convinced himself that Shawn had not actually seen a thing unexpectedly, and Randall was now in the process of pulling a somber black tee shirt over his chest and still had to move that pair of soggy cum-filled white briefs to a “safer” place for now.

Still, Randall was not completely off the hook. Of course there was the problem of how to transfer that pair of soggy wet tighty whiteys Randall had quickly dropped to the side of the bed to his laundry bag. And goodness they were a soggy mess. Randall was well aware of the fact that if this wasn’t his biggest ejaculated semen load ever it still fell into the category of being in the “top ten” of those that Randall had ever experienced.

By the time guys are old enough to get into college, most of them probably realize that some ejaculations that occur as a result of masturbation can be a lot more powerful than others. What a guy is able to do in this regard a lot depends on the specific events in the minutes and hours that led up to the ejaculation event. This can be complicated stuff to understand and then appreciate, but it is also very important for guys to learn.

Let’s say a guy is feeling somewhat horny (maybe with an occasional drop of cool and wet precum forming) and wants to get off surreptitiously. But also assume that he is in the company of other people. One tactic often used is to simply make an excuse and then go to the bathroom. If the guy is in a private home, he will be the only one in there.

But the tricky part is now one of figuring out a method for getting as hard as possible and as fast as possible so as to not be gone from the group for very long, lest someone else goes looking for him ostensibly to “see if he is OK”. Plus, the items a guy has at his disposal to aid in jerking off are going to be very limited in an ordinary residential bathroom. Still, this all needs to come to a conclusion, but then the guy must be careful to not get any ejaculate anywhere that he can’t clean up easily once the main event is over.

Guys over time gradually learn techniques for coping with all of this and then being able to come back out of the bathroom acting as if nothing odd or weird had happened to them at all. Even if a guy is able to pull this all off without any “incidents”, chances are the orgasm that was possible under these circumstances will be only just OK but nothing especially powerful or compelling.

But now think about Randall and the powerful orgasm he just had, as well as the events that led to the orgasm. This orgasm had been quietly brewing and fermenting all day long, from the moment Randall got up in the morning and started choosing items to wear to class that day.

It is difficult sometimes to determine cause and effect in this respect. This was obviously not the first time Randall had pulled off something like this. He had lots of knowledge with respect to exactly which clothing items would be most likely to make him keep feeling horny over the entire day. Taken individually, each item might seem rather tame and innocuous in this regard. But it was the collective impact of the combination of items that had the very real and building impact over the long day.

Randall also knew that in setting himself up this way there was not going to be a convenient moment during the day where he could simply ejaculate and quickly eliminate the pressures that were gradually building and then building some more as the day wore on. No, he would have to wait until classes were over and he got back to the privacy of the little dorm room.

The items he was wearing seemed simple enough, the tighty whiteys seemed to be not unlike what he wore every day even though on this particular day he had chosen a particularly undersized and snug-fitting pair. Putting the strap on over the tighty whiteys seemed “safe” enough. What “harm” would that do?

And the skinny jeans. Randall had also picked out the skinniest pair from his wardrobe. These were the kind that were laced with Lycra® in the denim fabric so the undersized waist could stretch to be buttoned. Almost skin tight in the calves and thighs, they also had a low rise. Randall thought that these were ideal when paired with the strap and those undersized tighty whiteys. And Randall knew that all of this could help sustain his horniness throughout the day, somehow also he was going to have to cope with situation whereby he couldn’t let himself get too horny at least not until the day was over and he got back to the dorm room.

Male “self abuse” when conducted employing the methods Randall was using, can result in significantly more powerful orgasms than a masturbation quickie done on short impulse in the privacy of a residential bathroom. Randall had figured this out some time ago. The really powerful orgasms happen only if the events leading up to the orgasms are interesting from a psychosexual perspective as well. Randall often wondered whether what he knew about all of this might prove useful somehow in having great partner sex as well. Maybe there was more to learning advanced techniques in self-gratification than just the self-gratification of the moment! This is interesting stuff to ponder. Way interesting!

Randall gathered up those soggy tighty whiteys and so that Shawn did not see that they were filled with cum, and gently placed them in his pillowcase laundry bag.

Randall figured he had gotten off without Shawn knowing anything about what had all just happened, but, quite frankly, Randall wasn’t exactly 100 % certain of that either. Maybe Shawn did have some suspicions however careful Randall had tried to be.

Meanwhile, Shawn now seemed in a particularly talkative mood and was raising subjects Shawn had never brought up before.

“That navy blue brief you have been wearing under your pile bathrobe seems to work very well to wear into the showers down the hall. “Where did you get that at?”

Randall replied “I got that at that sporting goods store that is on the spot where the mall is. I found a rack of those in various sizes and colors there.”

Shawn replied “I think I would like to get one of those to wear for showering like you have been doing.”

Randall says “We will have to go shopping this weekend and I can show you exactly where they are in the store. I need some things too”

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XVII It’s Saturday!!!
 

It is Saturday. Randall and Shawn are planning on hitting the shopping mall and some of the stores on the shopping mall pad, including the big-box sporting goods store. They are going to be searching out a number of different items that they will be able to use in various ways. Shawn has already indicated that he wants to shop for a swim brief like Randall has. Shawn intends to use the brief in the same way that has worked for Randall the past several weeks.

There are two ways guys in the men’s dorm head to the showers down the hall. Some of them have a towel-like pile bathrobe that does a good job not only for covering up in the hallway but also drying off your back right after the shower. The other common option is to just wrap a large towel around your lower body and wander down the hall wearing only flip flops and the towel. Actually, more guys wander around the dorm that way than wear the pile bathrobes.

Shawn has both a pile bathrobe and a couple big off-white towels. Occasionally he has worn a towel and then put a bathrobe over that, but that seems maybe a bit too much cover up under the circumstances. After all, this is a men’s dorm and these are all guys.

Shawn likes Randall’s strategy better. The swim brief seems like a bit more of a cover up than just wearing nothing under the bathrobe, but still not the overkill of the towel plus bathrobe scheme.

Having said that, Shawn has never had an occasion to actually wear a swim brief like Randall has been wearing. And therein (ahem) lies a bit of a problem for Shawn. Shawn is suffering from something that could best be called apprehension about getting himself into a swim brief. This problem is commonplace for guys who have not had the experience of doing so at all during their short lives.

The fact that the brief is, well, brief, is one issue. It doesn’t cover much, but still manages to cover all the male body parts that “need” to be covered for “modesty” purposes. Except, of course, a swim brief is not only brief in size, but also quite snug fitting. Shawn realizes that his male body parts are not always the same size. The apprehension centers on “What will happen if I get something of a hard-on going while I am inside the brief?” and “will others be able to see what my situation is?”

The shopping mall is a few miles from the campus and the two of them will be taking Randall’s vehicle. Shawn has a number of questions for Randall about what happens when a guy gets into a snug-fitting swim brief, and Shawn is hoping he can come up with a way of phrasing each of the questions in a manner that gets to the center of his concerns without being too blunt.

How should such questions be phrased, anyway? If Shawn words the questions to generally (“Randall, what’s it like to wear a swim brief, anyway?”) he may not find out what he really wants to know. On the other hand, if he asks each question too bluntly (“Randall, do you tend to get a big hard-on every time you get into a swim brief?”) maybe that will be too forward and perhaps make Randall uncomfortable.

How about an intermediate approach (“Randall, does getting in and out of a swim brief ever give you any problems that could be embarrassing to you?”) maybe Randall will take the hint about what is actually concerning Shawn without having to be too blunt and Shawn might get an answer to his question that way.

Shawn considers each of these options and decides that the third option is the best one to try.

So as the two of them are driving toward the mall Shawn says “Randall, does getting in and out of a swim brief ever give you any problems that could be potentially embarrassing to you?”

Randall replies “Oh, you mean like getting an unexpected hard-on?” Randall has a silly grin on his face now too.

Shawn replies “Yah, that was one of the things that concerns me about doing this”

Randall responds “That happens pretty regularly to me. You ought to have seen me the first time I tried on a swim brief. I was 14 then, I think. The whole idea was just instant hard-on. Nowadays, I am ‘used’ to wearing them, but that doesn’t mean that wearing one doesn’t still ‘get’ to me sometimes. But the prospect doesn’t scare me quite like it did when I was 14. Still, I can see why you might be more than a little apprehensive about the entire idea."

Shawn replies “ That is what has been kinda bothering me. At one level I think wearing a swim brief into the showers is an interesting way to deal with the situation we are in, you know, the showers down the hall with very little privacy. Still, you can understand why I might be a little up tight about the whole idea. You seem to be so ‘together’ on all of this."

Randall says “I’ve learned to just accept what my body wants to do to me and work my way around the situations that are potentially uncomfortable or embarrassing. I find that the more I fixate on the issues and problems, the more difficult they are to deal with.”

Randall continues “It’s more than that. Sometimes my body tells me stuff it likes and I wish it would not. I’ve never found a way to turn this off and on with my own mind. I’ve learned that a key is learning how to deal comfortably with respect to what is happening, and particularly not feeling sorry for yourself if things seem to not be completely under my own control.”

Shawn replies “That’s quite an answer. I’m not sure I completely understand what you are trying to tell me.”

Randall replies with a stupid grin on his face. “Maybe you will understand what I am saying better once you get into your own swim brief.”

Randall says. “Here we are, at the big box sporting goods store!”

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XVIII Shopping at the Mall area stores
 

The main reason Shawn and Randall are at the mall this morning is to find a swim brief for Shawn like Randall wears under his pile bathrobe. Not that many years ago, the Mall stores that carry sports clothing would have a big rack devoted to swim briefs for men in a host of different styles, sizes and colors. But this trade has largely moved on-line and now the big sporting goods stores carry only a limited selection of basic styles, brands and colors.

Sure enough, Randall and Shawn fairly quickly find a rack of swim briefs, but they are all the basic design, Speedo® brand, 3-inch sides. By far, the vast majority of them are in either navy blue or solid black, but there does appear to be a couple of Royal blue ones here and there.

Still, that is more or less what Shawn was looking for, a conservative black or navy. Shawn wonders a little bit about the sizing as well. Randall tells Shawn that he just wears whatever waist size he wears in jeans, in Randall’s case, a 32” waist. Randall explains that at first the swim brief will probably feel a bit snug, but as a guy wears it over and over and perhaps showers in it too, the brief will quickly conform to Shawn’s body, much like shoes or boots that feel a bit uncomfortable at first usually are fine.

Still, Shawn has never before been in a swim brief, and as conservative as the navy Speedo® seems to be in this respect, Shawn is still wondering if and how his penis might “react” to the situation. At some level Randall knows that Shawn is more than a bit apprehensive about this but he reassures Shawn that the 32’ waist should be a fine choice. Shawn thinks it looks “a little small” for him, but with Randall’s advice and encouragement he goes ahead. The price at $28 seems a little high to Shawn for such a small clothing item, but he goes ahead anyway. Meanwhile Randall picks out a similar suit but in black. No wait! There is a lone one in 32 in royal blue. Randall picks that one out, instead.

While the two of them are in the store, Randall also wants to see what is available in athletic supporters (jock straps). Randall has enjoyed wearing a strap under his skinny jeans along with his undersized tighty whiteys, but straps often don’t last very long especially if Randall wants to do this on a regular basis. In the back of his mind, Randall is also thinking about how powerful that orgasm was after wearing that strap to classes under his skinny jeans all day long, but, of course, Randall doesn’t dare mention that to Shawn.

Still, Randall and Shawn now have wandered into the athletic supporter section of the store. A basic problem once again is that most big sporting goods stores no longer carry a large selection of old-school straps and this part of the business too has largely moved online. Guys just seem to be much more comfortable buying straps on line in privacy than buying them from a rack in a sporting goods or discount store.

Still, there are a couple of them on the strap rack that interest Randall. The design looks to be “semi” old school with the old-style “rough” elastic pouch but with a fancier 2 ½ inch wide elastic waistband with the brand logo written on it. Randall debates between the SM and the MED size and eventually decides on the MED. Randall says to Shawn “Maybe you would like to get one of these, too”

Shawn responds, “Well I don’t really know if I would wear it anywhere, but maybe OK.

Then, it’s off to see what is available in compression gear. Shawn really likes how Randall looks in that silver gray compression shirt and how useful it seems to be as an undergarment to a polo shirt. Meanwhile, Randall is interested in seeing if he can find a long-sleeved version of the silver gray one he already has. These items are easy to find and Shawn chooses a short-sleeved MED in a shiny navy blue color. Shawn also picks out a pair of sleek compression shorts in the same navy blue color.

The final item Randall wants to look for is a pair of running tights, ideally in the same silver gray color of his old short-sleeved tee and the new long-sleeved version he is buying. Sure enough, the store has the running tights in the same brand and silvery gray color. Shawn admittedly is tempted by running tights in navy blue but for now they are a bit over his budget.

So the two guys each got a new swim brief and an athletic supporter. Shawn got a compression tee with short sleeves in navy blue and matching compression shorts, while Randall got a silver-gray long-sleeved version along with running tights that just matched the shirt.

Enough of shopping for one day and time to head back to the dorm.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XIX Shawn tries on his new swim brief
 

It may have not been that obvious from what Shawn said, but Shawn was more than a little up tight when he went along with Randall to the big sporting goods store. Shawn and Randall had discussed the items they were going to be searching for. But Shawn was very much like a lot of young guys are when they first think about the whole idea of getting into a garment that is going to fit quite snug around a guy’s private parts.

Some of this, of course, might be just an unfounded apprehension about the whole idea of wearing a snug-fitting swim brief, an athletic strap or supporter, or even a close-fitting compression gear item.

Shawn tried not to think about this, rationalizing to himself in his mind that countless other guys wear these items and it doesn’t seem to “bother” them in the least. So, why should Shawn be any different? Shawn tried to rationalize the entire sequence of events by arguing to himself that he couldn’t be that much different from any other guy.

Still, there was stuff that was bothering Shawn to a degree. Shawn had seen Randall in only his swim brief. In fact he had seen Randall completely naked many times. Shawn thought that Randall slipped in and out of his swim brief with the ease of a master swimmer, even though Randall was not much of a swimmer, if at all.

Still, Randall was more than a little curious about some of the items Randall chose to wear to class and why he chose to wear them. Randall’s skinny jeans to Shawn at least seemed to be skinnier and fit tighter to Randall’s thighs, butt and calves than the fit that most of the other guys wore. But Randall seemed to delight in wearing his tight-fitting jeans.

The tighty whiteys Randall wore also seemed to be more than a little out of place for 2019. The guys Shawn was aware of mostly wore looser fitting undergarments, but then most of them were not squeezing themselves into jeans with as snug a fit as Randall wore, either. And then there was that idea Randall had of wearing a strap over the tighty whiteys. What was that all about , anyway?

Still, there was something that was pressing Shawn forward, too. At some level Shawn had concluded that there was maybe a bit more to what Randall wore than it might at first appear. Shawn was thinking that once he and Randall got back to the dorm room, the first thing he wanted to do was to get some of his fears out of the way by trying on that new navy blue swim brief for the very first time. At one level, Shawn just wanted to get the whole experience over. But at another level, he was starting to feel horny about the prospect of finally getting to wear a swim brief like the one he had just bought.

Shawn’s body was already starting to react to the situation. Randall said “The first thing we need to do is to try on our new clothing items.” Shawn was not surprised by this, but the swim brief they had just purchased still had tags on it. The tags are easily removed using a simple fingernail clipper, but in doing so Shawn got a better feel for the smoothness of the slick material the brief was made from. And he also got a better look at how small the 32-inch waist Speedo® really was.

Actually, Shawn had been precumming a little ever since the trip to the mall started. That was something Shawn could deal with, but now something more significant had started to occur. Shawn was starting to get hard at the mere thought of being inside the little brief. Shawn could readily sense that there was significantly more blood flowing into his penis than out. The sensation itself is an interesting one because a guy not only starts to feel the exciting physical sense of becoming hard, but the events quickly lead to a degree of mental involvement as well. Whether or not a guy finds this pleasant more or less depends on who he is with and where.

Randall wants also to try on his new swim brief, the royal blue Speedo® he bought. Maybe that will help Shawn better deal with a situation that Randall somehow knew was likely causing Shawn some concern.

So Shawn removes his clothes including his underwear and is now standing naked in the room with Randall right there doing exactly the same thing. But, Guess what? Shawn suddenly can’t hide the fact that now he has a quite significant hard-on. Randall acts as if he is trying hard not to notice the condition Shawn is in, but something else strange is happening too.

Amazingly, on seeing Shawn is such a situation, Randall can feel sensations that tell him he is about to get his own hard-on too. It’s almost as if there is some unsaid communication between the two of them. If a guy sees another guy obviously in such a state, the observer may start to have the same “problem”. Randall reassures himself that this is not an indication that he is gay or even that he has a gay side, indeed that this would likely happen to any guy under such circumstances. But, he actually is not certain about what all seems to be happening either.

So Shawn struggles to get into the new Speedo that is obviously not any too big for him. It feels quite snug, and Shawn is having a major issue in trying to figure out how to position his now significantly oversized penis within the confines of the little brief. Randall tells him about the three options, down, sideways and up. But Shawn is too swollen for the first two options to even be a possibility. The only real option is up.

The “problem" with the up position is that it puts the smooth-and-slick fabric of the brief in direct contact with the sensitive underside of Shawn’s penis. Besides, Shawn’s penis is now so oversized that the glans is on the verge of coming out over the top of the waistband!

This has been a significant learning opportunity for Shawn. He never realized before that the underside of his penis could possibly be that sensitive to the smooth, slick fabric of the brief.

Randall has been watching Shawn try and deal with all of this while pulling on his own new royal blue Speedo®. Watching Shawn, Randall is quickly heading down a path leading to a point of no return too.

“Oh sh$#@t”, Shawn shouts! “I’m cumming!” just as Shawn says that a powerful set of involuntary spasms engulfs Shawn’s body, and Shawn’s upward pointing penis is shooting powerful jets of semen out over the top of the elastic waistband of the swim brief. Randall thinks Shawn must be having a great time, and that quickly edges Randall past that same point.

Soon, it is all over. Randall says to Shawn “Now you might better understand why I thought you might like to have possession of a swim brief.”

Shawn replies “OK Randall, I think you have clearly made your point. Maybe we need to leave the straps and compression gear for another day.”

Now to get all the semen in various places around the room cleaned up.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XX Shawn’s dilemma
 

Shawn is in an interesting dilemma. On one hand, he was embarrassed by what happened when he got into the swim brief, that almost instantly he was out of control and could delay a powerful ejaculation no longer. Did this mean Shawn had a “problem” of some sort? Since no female was involved in the orgasm, did that mean that he might be gay or even bisexual? These questions were bothering Shawn.

Still, the orgasm while wearing the Speedo® was really powerful and fun. Shawn had no idea that something would happen quite like this. Shawn’s penis quickly got ultra sensitive to the feel of the brief in all sorts of interesting places, places Shawn was only vaguely aware of before this all happened.

Randall too was doing some deep thinking as well. Randall couldn’t help remember how his on body had responded to getting into a Speedo® just over two years ago, when Randall was still 16 years old. Now Randall was 18 going on 19, and Randall thought that by now he would have developing a degree of ejaculatory control. After all, he had gotten in and out of a swim brief almost routinely.

But Randall realized that being able to watch Shawn struggle with his erection while wearing the new Speedo® had added a erotically new element into the mix. It was if Shawn were somehow communicating with Randall even though the two of them were several feet apart when all of this happened. What gives, anyway?

Maybe human sexuality and how a guy’s own body responds in a situation like this is a lot more complicated than either Shawn or Randall had realized before. To be sure, by suggesting that he and Shawn go shopping for clothing items that routinely “got” to Randall, Randall was either setting Shawn up for this or at minimum for Randall to find out if other guys had a similar problem when confronted with wearing snug-fitting clothing. Randall quickly found out that Shawn was not that different from Randall in that regard. However, extending this to the idea that nearly any guy when stuck in a situation like this would end in approximately the same outcome was impossible to do.

Still, at one level, Randall and Shawn both enjoyed their nearly simultaneous orgasms while wearing new Speedos® immensely, and since neither of them had steady girlfriends, there is something to be said for a strategy that allows a guy to deal with his urges without any real downside.

And in this particular case, both Shawn and Randall had quickly gotten off employing only the first item they had bought at the mall sporting goods store. But they had also purchased other items on the shopping trip--straps, compression gear—that they had not even gotten to attempting to wear. Would these items prove to be as arousing as the Speedos® turned out to be? That is a good question.

Both Randall and Shawn need to recover from this episode and maybe wait two or three days before they run any more of these experiments.

From Randall’s perspective, Shawn seems to be happy not down in the dumps. Randall thinks that maybe Shawn was hoping to find a way to get off without the risks involved in getting into some sort of partner relationship at their age. Shawn now realizes that Randall’s behaviors especially when he is getting dressed for class are indeed quite logical.

So, there are no problems that need to be addressed right now. Randall and Shawn still think of themselves as heterosexual males rooming together in a cramped men’s dorm room who on occasion particularly enjoy the company of each other while still pursuing their respective academic majors and college classes. Shawn has learned some stuff both about himself and his roommate and so has Randall.

Everything is good, but especially the Speedos®. But Shawn now wants a pair of those skinny jeans like Randall has, and a package of those tighty whiteys like Randall wears too.

To be continued...there is more!

 

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Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXI First time in a Speedo®
 

Shawn’s response to and experiences in being in a Speedo® for the very first time are not at all uncommon. Nor was Randall’s response to seeing Shawn struggle in that situation for the first time uncommon either. In fact, what both Shawn and Randall have just gone through might indeed be much the same for any other guys confronted with the same situation. It is apparent that this is not a gay or straight thing, that this would somehow happen only to guys who surely either knew they were gay or at least had “leanings” or a side that might be.

It is interesting to think about all of this in the context of what goes on with respect to clothing designs for men over long periods of time, even periods lasting several decades. Think about what you see in this respect relative to your own knowledge of the fact that there are things that do not involve females or any other brand of partner sex that generate feelings deep inside that you associate with a state of feeling horny.

Sex between any two human beings almost invariably involves sensations emanating from the sensitive sexual organs, for guys mainly the penis, and there are specific parts of the penis that are more sensitive than others, a fact that becomes ever more apparent as arousal and erections proceed. For guys at least, these wonderful sensations keep building and building until the logical outcome is a wonderful, ejaculation involving involuntary spasms that for a brief moment in time takes over the entire body in an excitingly powerful release of semen accompanied by marvelously pleasant sensations.

This is wildly interesting stuff, and stuff that forms the reason why guys are driven to find a partner for sex. However, just because a guy doesn’t have a convenient sexual partner does not mean that a guy suddenly loses all interest in all of this. Quite the contrary!

Still, a lot of guys are apprehensive about getting into a situation where they are likely to get aroused in the absence of a partner for a bunch of different reasons. And things are never 100% smooth even when a guy does have a sexual partner—otherwise the divorce rate for married couples would not be as high as it is!If partner sex is the ultimate, why do guys so often seem to want to get out of a situation whereby they can and do have partner sex? This is a fascinating question.

Think about the things that have gone on in the men’s fashion industry. A basic idea is that given the sensitivity of sexual organs to anything that touches them, clothing, fingertips, you name it, snug-fitting clothing is going to more likely come in contact with and rub against sexually sensitive body parts. A lot of guys worry about getting sexually aroused when in the presence of other guys and what the consequences of that could be. So the solution was to find loose fitting clothing, baggy boxer shorts covered by even baggier jeans, and loose fitting tee shirts etc etc. Surely by doing this an erection would never occur or at least would be unlikely to occur at a time or in a place that would be embarrassing.

But about a decade ago men’s clothing began a trek that eventually went off into the other directions. Never mind the issues related to erections happening in unwanted places or times. I think this started with the sudden popularity of compression gear among athletes and the UnderArmour® company had a lot to do with that. College and NBA players were starting to wear compression tees under their sleeveless jerseys, and compression shorts were peeking out from under their league shorts. It was only natural for fans to want to try wearing something similar, and with it, a discovery of how neat snug-fitting compression gear felt on the body including the most touch sensitive organs.

In swimming, of course, the swimmers had moved from the really tiny briefs they wore in the 1980s to larger jammers, and then to full body suits eventually mostly ruled illegally in competition, then back to still legal partial body suits, jammers and then back to the briefs worn in lots of swimming events by the young high school and college athletes.

The jeans too went on a remarkable transformation from really baggy to really snug and tight in about a decade. Women had been wearing close-cut jeans for a long time using stretch denim, and at some point it became impossible for the manufacturers to come up with jeans for men that did not use the same types of stretch denim. Initially the manufacturers worried that men would reject these super skinny designs as being too “girlie” but that is not at all what actually happened. These designs first became popular with male entertainers (an “Asian” influence here?) and then with much of the public.

Of course, skinny jeans and loose-fitting boxer shorts are not a good mix, and the guy needs either a snug-fitting brief or maybe underwear in which the fit that is similar to a shorter legged jammer or compression short.

Somehow the problem that a guy might have an erection wearing this stuff at an embarrassing time or place got pushed aside. A guy wouldn’t want to be wearing baggy jeans when all his male buds were wearing the skinny kind and somehow dealing with any "issues" that might arise. More interestingly perhaps, the females the guys his age somehow seemed attracted to the guys who were showing off their bodies by wearing compression tees and skinny jeans. Whatever works, works!

And, of course, Randall was ahead of Shawn in the stuff he was doing, fashion wise. Shawn knew that, but he was starting to catch up. Randall, of course, was very interested in seeing how Shawn’s mind and body would react to Shawn’s first encounter with a Speedo® and if he could handle the snug fit or not. At some level, Shawn was both curious and apprehensive about all of this too.

So, it’s not surprising that Shawn blew shortly after he got himself in the brief, even a relatively innocuous Speedo® with three-inch sides. This might be what normally happens for most guys on first encounter like this though no one has taken a poll of guys on that.

What was more than a little surprising, however, was that Randall’s mind got wrapped into seeing what was happening to Shawn facing this situation, and this led to Randall quickly ejaculating into his own new royal blue Speedo® almost like a chain effect somehow linking the two of them. Randall thought too that he was experienced enough that he could handle the situation without this happening. Turns out, he couldn’t! Once inside the royal blue Speedo®, Randall took one look at himself in the little mirror on the dorm room wall. He liked what he saw, and suddenly he also was off! Ahhh, the fun of being a guy...

To be continued…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXII College is all about learning—about
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXII College is all about learning—about yourself!

A lot of complicated but interesting things are going on here. Let me begin at the beginning, and more or less work forward from some very basic information. Every species of animal (plants too, and even stuff the biologists claim doesn’t fit neatly into one category or another) is here today because of some form of reproduction. At some level, every living thing now present got here because of some form of reproduction. Some of this is rather banal biology, at the one-celled microorganism level, by the cell simply dividing.

Not being a one-celled species, I cannot tell you for sure or not whether dividing yourself into two cells is somehow “fun” for the microorganism. But, for complex multi-cellular animals, animals more nearly like us, an element of fun associated with the first stage of reproduction is frequently present.

I like to watch all the science shows, especially those that show animals reproducing. I am fascinated by the fish. Many male and female fish never come in direct contact with each other through their body parts. Some form of intercourse like that would be tough to pull off. So the female fish merely sprays her eggs into the water in large numbers and the male of the species responds by spraying his semen all over the area where the eggs were sprayed. Is this somehow sexually fun for either fish?

This seems like a poor way of having sexual fun in the context that we humans and a lot of other land-based mammals are really fond of the whole idea of getting a penis inside of a vagina. Surely it must be that these mammals are dealing with sensations that mimic our own with a response to the enjoyment they get from doing this. It can’t be that different for them than us, or can it?

I grew up on a farm where I raised sheep. Female sheep, the ewes, like a lot of mammals (but not us) have only certain periods of time in which they are receptive to the whole idea of intercourse with a ram. Female sheep are interesting in that there are few if any outward signs that they are in heat, which happens during the breeding season every 13 to 19 days for a ewe. The male rams, however, know exactly when the female is ready to breed. A typical ram will service about 40 ewes in a 45-day period, averaging maybe one a day but sometimes more.

Breeding in sheep involves the ram mounting the sheep with his front legs over the ewes mid back, so that his rather long penis (by human standards) can shoot ejaculated semen deep into the ewe’s vagina. Some 143 days later, if all went well, a lamb or two, rarely three, pops out.

Rams are enthusiastic breeders, they seem to thoroughly enjoy the entire sequence of events. I presume that the sensations are tickling the pleasure zones of the ram’s brain, in much the same way this happens in humans.

Having said that, I have yet to see a ewe that seemed nearly as enthusiastic about the entire sequence of intercourse events as the rams seem to be. Indeed, sometimes they seem quite unhappy about the situation. Other times they are willing to let the ram proceed, but act as if what they are doing is more of an obligation than a highly pleasant moment in their own lives as a ewe. It is almost as if they would rather be out grazing in the pasture than “messing around” this way with the ram. Still, sex between ewes and rams happens, sheep reproduce and produce lambs. Life goes on in the sheep world too.

Now you don’t see rams with hard-ons trying to lick their own penises for pleasure in part because that would be impossible to do given how rams are built. But you do see young uncastrated adolescent males playing out the strategy of getting a hard-on and mounting other sheep their age mimicking the manner that a breeding ram would do. That the sheep they are mounting if female are not in heat doesn’t matter, nor do the young males seem to pay any attention to the sex of the sheep their own age they are mounting. Learning how to get a hard-on and then mount another sheep seems to just be part of the fun things adolescent male sheep do growing up.

Licking your own penis for pleasure after getting a hard- on is something non-neutered male dogs often do, also apparently for the sheer fun of doing it. Male dogs like to masturbate this way, and their anatomy allows this. The behavior is often disturbing to dog owners who discipline the dog in an (usually unsuccessful) attempt to get the dog to quit doing that.

What does all of this have to do with the behaviors of Randall and Shawn? First, there is the topic of why there are human males and females and why sexual intercourse hits our pleasure centers the way it frequently does. After all, human beings need to continue on over the generations and making intercourse very pleasant is part of the scheme nature employs for accomplishing that.

Still, if human sex were all about the need for reproduction and nothing else, bluntly put, why are sexual behaviors that do not involve intercourse at all so immensely enjoyable too? The sequence of events that Randall and Shawn just went through ended up being hugely pleasurable and mind-blowing fun. Is it SUPPOSED to be like that? What gives, anyway?

In watching adolescent rams mounting other adolescent sheep irrespective of the sex of the sheep being mounted, at one time I thought the rams doing the mounting of other male sheep (castrated or not) would end up as adult gay rams with zero interest in breeding a ewe. The problem was that I have zero evidence to support the latter. These same rams grew up to be adult rams that seemed to very much be into and enjoy breeding the ewes, even if the ewes frequently did not appear to be so enthusiastic.

As an undergraduate, I watched as a suite mate masturbated himself and then he and his roommate masturbated each other in front of several other males their age including me. I have followed one of the guys involved in this (who cheerfully seemed to know he was “grossing out” the others who were watching the entire sequence of events) after that, and he got married and raised a family. Clearly, if his behavior was consistent with a guy being gay or even having a gay side as that is not at all what happened. The male masturbation behavior seems to be not unlike the behavior of those adolescent rams mounting other adolescent males.

Which leads us back to the question of what exactly is going on right now in the brains of Shawn and Randall. Are they both actually gay but haven’t admitted that to themselves, or maybe each simply has a gay side? Or, maybe not! If sexual sensations are all about the continuation of the human species, why are certain kinds of masturbation such mind-blowing fun? Are guys who like to masturbate in a Speedo® going to be willing to quit doing so if they get married to a woman? Or, nowadays, get married to a guy, for that matter.

Lots of interesting questions here, for sure.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIII Shawn attempts to get it together
 

 
Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIII Shawn attempts to get it together

At some level, Shawn greatly enjoyed the powerful orgasm he had shortly after getting into his brand new navy blue Speedo®. But at another level, he was more than a little bit embarrassed about what had happened to him. One of the curious “features” of male sexuality is that guys firmly like to believe that they can control with their minds whether or not they have an orgasm or even merely a hard-on, or even a semi, as easily as they are able to control where and when they pee. To be sure, sometimes guys have issues in that department too, and having a “bashful kidney” is a fairly common problem at least for guys Shawn’s age.

Actually, there is a bit of basic biology that every guy should know. First, urine is deadly to semen. What this means is that if semen got mixed with urine, generally, the idea of reproducing would be out. The valves that turn stuff on and off in guys are located at or right by a guy’s prostate. If a guy is the least bit aroused as in having a semi, the prostate is going to cut off the flow of urine from the bladder completely. But this little stunt sometimes even happens when a guy does not even fully realize what has happened, and a guy gets to the urinal and lo and behold, he can’t pee no matter how much he tries. The “bashful kidney” problem, explained.

This seems often to be much more of a problem for young guys, in their teen years or just beyond. As a guy gets older, the issue seems to recede.

But Shawn’s “problem” was that the swimwear taught him something about himself that he did not fully realize before. Sometimes guys get into situations, even inadvertently, that lead to hard –on and even to the orgasm stage without seemingly being able to turn it all off and on. Shawn at first did not realize that this was even going to be an issue for him as he thought he was adult enough to be able to control exactly what was happening down there using his mind. But aaah his penis thought that Speedo® was sweet…the slick cloth, the snug fit. His mind seemed to have no control whatsoever once the underside of his penis came into contact with the slick feel of the snug-fitting swimwear cloth.

Still, Shawn knew that he was not going to be able to resolve the problem by simply avoiding wearing the Speedo. It’s early morning, and time for Shawn to take a shower and get ready for class. The suit he ejaculated into last night was now dry, except of course for those starchy little stains on the pouch that every guy associates with dry semen. An interesting stunt would be for Shawn to get into the Speedo® this morning with the idea of wrapping his lower body in a towel and head down the hall to the open showers. He could then remove the towel and shower while still wearing the Speedo® and at the same time, wash the crusty cum stains out of the suit. After all, swimwear is meant to get wet!

So Shawn quickly pulls on the suit and wraps his lower body in one of his big towels. He decides maybe the safest idea is to not even glance at himself wearing the suit in the little dorm room mirror lest that set off a sequence of events and he would lose control of the situation again. So, Shawn follows this plan, and heads off down the hall to the men’s bathroom ostensibly to take his morning shower but also to wash the accumulated cum stains from yesterday out of his new Speedo®!

Meanwhile Randall is struggling with some interesting issues this morning as well. In terms of understanding how snug-fitting clothing of various sorts affects his mind and body in various ways, Randall psychologically is much farther along than where Shawn is, obviously. But Randall has been messing around with this sort of stuff for a long time, almost from when he went through puberty and even before. Randall has tried a lot of different clothing items that make him feel a little to a lot horny. Randall has dealt with all of this to the point that he thought he understood how far he could go, say in working through a normal day of college classes, where he could keep a lot of those neat feelings going but without getting to the point where he “had” to immediately ejaculate. Randall thought he had played around with himself enough to know exactly how horny he could be without getting into an “I need to ejaculate immediately” situation. Randall thought he had resolved the so-called “time and place” problem, sometimes called “ejaculatory control”.

What happened yesterday was fascinating not only from Shawn’s perspective but from what happened to Randall as well. The new royal blue Speedo® Randall had purchased was not that different from the ones he had bought in the past. With three-inch sides it actually fuller coverage than Randall had gotten “used” to wearing.

But, the whole idea of Shawn and Randall both getting into their new briefs at the same time somehow “got” to Randall in a place that Randall had not realized was there. True, the snug new brief did feel pretty slick when rubbed against the underside of Randall’s penis. But somehow, deep down, Randall also realized that the sweet sensations from the Speedo® along with being in a position able to watch Shawn struggle inside his own suit was somehow deeply erotic way down in “there” somewhere. Randall didn’t quite know how or why he was so affected by this. Then when Shawn got to the point where he could stand it no longer and had to blow, Randall discovered that he was essentially at the same point as well.

What does this all mean, anyway? Is Randall somehow gay? Is Shawn? Or would this happen basically to any guy in a situation like this irrespective of sexual orientation known or unknown? Why did Randall think it was so much fun to take Shawn shopping? Why was Shawn so willing to go along with this? What exactly is going on here, anyway?


These are important questions, all of them.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIV Shawn enters the showers
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIV Shawn enters the showers

Shawn, once again in his now cum-stained navy blue Speedos®, has entered the showers down the hall. Shawn is OK, and this time getting into the suit was not nearly as “traumatic” an event as it was the last time. Still, Shawn is at least a bit aroused, enough to show a little if anyone were to look closely.

The showers are fairly quiet, but it is currently very early, only 5:45 AM. Actually there is one other guy in the showers, the showers consisting of 6 separate heads all in a long row. There are tile walls in the long room in an innocuous color that is not a tan color, but not a gray color either. Each showerhead area has a wall hook, meant to hang whatever the guy was wearing into the shower area, bathrobe, towel or maybe a pair of shorts.

The other guy in the showers Shawn did not know well, but Shawn had seen him in the dorm a few times. That guy was completely naked, and warm water was spraying over his body. It appears that this guy—Shawn thought this guy’s name was Josh but he wasn’t 100 percent certain, obviously had worn a pile bathrobe to the shower as that was hanging on the hook across from that showerhead. The two guys exchanged glances, and Shawn quickly realized that Josh had taken a very quick and furtive glance and noticed the Speedo®. Shawn hoped that he hadn’t noticed those starchy stains ON Shawn’s Speedo® but Shawn wasn’t entirely certain about that.

Shawn decided to keep the Speedo® on for the entire shower, partly because it was easier to wash the Speedo® on his body than off. Secretly, Shawn also wanted to see exactly how his body felt when the suit was water-soaked rather than dry. Mentally, Josh was “taking notes” on what Shawn was doing.

Suddenly, Josh started engaging Shawn in a conversation.

“I like your idea of wearing a brief swimsuit in the shower rather than just being naked” Josh said.

“This is the first time I have tried that” responded Shawn. But this seems to work fine.

Josh then asked Shawn whether or not he was a swimmer. Shawn responded by saying “Not really. I only got the suit because I thought I might be more comfortable wearing something when I showered rather than being completely naked.”

“My roommate Dylan was the one who introduced me to swim briefs. He often wears a swim brief under his jeans as underwear” confided Josh.

Shawn could hardly believe what Josh was telling him.

“Oddly enough, I have a roommate who likes to do that as well.” Responded Shawn. “He likes to wear a swim brief under his skinny jeans and claims this works well”

All the while the shower water was pouring over Shawn’s neck, chest and lower body, and Shawn could easily see that his Speedo® was now clean and free of dastardly cum-stains as well. Time to finish up the shower and dry off, wrapping a now somewhat damp towel around his lower body and head back off to the room. But, before he left he said, “I think your name is Josh. Is that right?”

“Yes”

“Good to see you again.”

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXV Shawn returns to the dorm room
 

It is still quite early, and as Shawn returns from his shower wearing the towel over his now wet swim brief, Randall has just managed to crawl out of bed. Randall’s first class this morning is a 9 AM class, an hour later than Shawn’s 8 AM class, so Randall is in no particular hurry to get moving this morning.

“How did the shower go?” Asks Randall.

“Very well!” said Shawn. “My body is clean and so is my Speedo.” Shawn said with a sly grin on his face.

Randall couldn’t help but see that Shawn looks way cool in that wet navy Speedo. And Shawn seems to be getting “used” to wearing it as well. Shawn’s bulge, while apparent, was not outsized as it would have been had Shawn had a significant hard-on.

Shawn explains “There was another guy in the shower, a guy named Josh. Anyhow he was telling me about his roommate Dylan. Josh said Dylan likes to wear swim briefs as underwear on a daily basis, under his jeans. I mentioned that I have a roommate who claims that swim briefs make neat underwear, especially when worn under skinny jeans!”

Now remember that Josh and Dylan are a year older than Randall and Shawn are, and are now sophomores. At most colleges, freshmen all take a lot of the same courses, and get to know each other that way. But once a student is a sophomore, they are enrolled in more “major-specific” courses and there is less interaction with students in other majors.

“I think I have met both Josh and Dylan” Randall Replies, “But I certainly did not know there were other guys who wear swimming briefs as underwear like I might do.”

At this point, think about what you know about Shawn and Randall and about Josh and Dylan from last year. Those who have watched the story develop realize that the roommates Josh and Dylan learned about each other’s masturbation needs and habits early in the freshman year of college. Then there was that great moment in time when Josh and Dylan each picked out a series of swim briefs from swimoutlet.com, which in turn ended in that wonderful day when each of them tried on briefs from larger to smaller, which all ended in wonderful orgasms for both as things went from merely snug to really really tight.

Shawn and Randall are relative neophytes in this regard in comparison with Josh and Dylan. The first couple of months of school, they both were committed to attempting to keep their own masturbation techniques hidden from the other. Randall, of course was a lot farther along than Shawn was in this regard, and Shawn early on sensed that there was more than he realized about Randall than he had appreciated just by watching what Randall put on as he dressed for class.

Shawn fell into the category of finding Randall’s behavior as a bit curious in this regard but, well, somehow interesting. What Shawn was unwilling to admit was that Randall’s approach to dressing for class was interesting to Shawn from a psychosexual perspective.

Then there was the trip to the shopping mall and buying the briefs and the other stuff at the big sporting goods store. Though neither dared say this at the time, they were both knew that they picking out stuff that could help get and keep them horny.

Then, of course, all of the secrecy collapsed when the two of them decided to both try on their new Speedo® briefs. Remembering his own experience the first time he had gotten into a Speedo®, Randall suspected that Shawn might quickly get himself into some “trouble” but Randall did nmot know exactly how this was going to play out.

Not surprisingly, first time out Shawn quickly had a major hard-on. Randall thought that if he tried on his new royal blue Speedo® at the same time, that might distract Shawn and help Shawn calm down a bit.

Of course, that is not what happened at all. AS Randall saw Shawn struggle in his new suit, Randall started to feel really horny himself in his own new suit, and Randall quickly got to and drifted over the point of no return as well. So both of them ended up ejaculating in powerful Speedo®-induced spasms, and only a minute or two apart!

So much for the idea that Randall and Shawn were going to keep their masturbation desires, events and methods secret from each other for the remainder of the school year!

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXVI Think about this
 

Being a guy can be fun! Tapping into what it means to be a guy and get the most out of all of it is often not that intuitive or easy to understand. Sure, the sheer pleasure of first getting an erection and then enjoying a powerful orgasm involving wonderfully involuntary muscle contractions that at the same time push the buttons on all the wonderful pleasure centers of the brain is something that guys all learn at puberty and shortly thereafter.

But at some point, guys may come to realize that sexual pleasure and getting the best out of one’s own body is much more complicated and interesting than that, even if an orgasm is powerful, intense and mind-blowing fun.

Part of the complexity of all of this is how relationships with another person that somehow involve sexual feelings might enter in or not. One could think about this as creating a situation whereby another person is affected or impacted by what is going on with you.

A dorm room situation like the one Shawn and Randall are in is actually a very complicated situation. But so was the one that Josh and Dylan have been in. In both instances, all of them considered themselves to be perfectly ordinary straight males, and perfectly ordinary straight males are only supposed to find sexual pleasure after falling in love with an appropriate female partner. Or, at least that is how the vast majority of young males are conditioned to believe is true.

For gay males the story is little different, the only difference being that a gay male is expected to first find (no small task) and then fall in love with another gay male and then find sexual pleasure via that route.

All of this stereotyping of proper sexual behavior is interesting but unfortunately not accurate, at least not accurate for many if not most guys. Another part of growing up for “normal guys” is the realization that all of the stuff (well, nearly all at least) that makes sex with a partner so appealing can be realized without even having a partner for sex. But guys are not “supposed” to admit this to themselves let alone confess this to anyone else lest whoever is told will think of the guy as sexually abnormal. After all, guys are supposed to be sexually-driven to find love and have sex with another person, even if they are in a situation where that is not feasible.

Besides, with all the sexual openness about orientation etc., sex with yourself (aka solo sex, masturbation) still has a very bad name, something done only by people who are somehow screwed up or socially challenged because for some odd reason they lack the requisite social skills necessary to find and then fall in love with a partner which then leads to real sex.

In counseling partners, sex therapists talk about something called “simmering” as a potential path to sexual happiness. Simmering involves maintaining a degree of sexual arousal along with your partner (who, with some luck, is also in the same state of mind and body) but simply staying there for long periods of time without ever getting to a point where semen is ejaculated nor any bodily fluids exchanged. Maintaining the sexual burner at the low-medium range for a significant period of time is not something that a lot of guys grow up knowing how to do—it’s a learned behavior.

Think of a teenager out on a date at a drive-in movie with a pretty female. Many actual movies have captured variations on this same theme—the old first base, second base, third base, home run idea whereby both the guy and the girl are trying to maintain an arousal level that is highly pleasurable to themselves and each other but does not reach an orgasm stage where everything is quickly over. Besides, even if the guy “hit a home run” so to speak under these conditions, guys also know that afterward many females may have regrets over what they let happen and whether or not this was in any way a forced situation. So then simmering, and only getting to third base, so to speak, is still fun but with far fewer risks of various sorts.

Now think about the characters in the story, and realize that a guy doesn’t necessarily need to have found a sexual partner in order to simmer. Think first about Randall and Dylan. Both Randall and Dylan like to engage in solo simmering a lot, and by that meaning getting to the point where they maintain a degree of sexual arousal that is quite pleasurable, but also can be maintained for hours if not most of a day without getting to the point where a guy’s only choice is to get off ASAP. This is what the sexual therapists mean by simmering as well, if only in a slightly different context.

Somehow, both Randall and Dylan had developed some skills in solo simmering long before they entered college. At some point, both of them discovered a version of what I would call assisted simmering, meaning that they discovered that this was much easier to do with the aid of certain snug-fitting items of clothing. The sex therapists might conclude somehow that this is a clothing fetish of some sort, and in some way abnormal or somehow wrong, but the sex therapists on this subject generally do not understand this and how it works for guys and see everything in the context of the partner.

Random male college roommates are normally going to pair guys with unequal understanding of this type of simmering, and given that this is all quite pleasant to do, the guy with the superior skills is not going to want to abandon what he enjoys doing just because he is stuck living with a roommate in a dorm room.

So, Dylan managed to teach Josh stuff that Josh now enjoys doing very much, and Randall has taught Shawn a few things as well. For example, remember the great fun Dylan and Josh had ordering a bunch of swim briefs for each other with the idea of picking suits for the other that would clearly send the other into a really fun place to be. And Josh has been grateful to Dylan for what he was able to learn about himself.

But keep in mind that Randall also enjoyed taking Shawn through a learning phase that Randall was already well aware of, and Randall looks forward to giving Shawn more information. It was fun for Randall to get to see Shawn buy his first Speedo and then to watch Shawn struggle to get himself into it for the very first time.

Of course there is a lot more to the things Randall has been doing that Shawn is only vaguely aware of yet, and how Randall chooses to reveal some more of this to Shawn will be interesting to see. Randall now realizes that being the watcher is a situation whereby another guy is horny but struggling to keep his mind and body from ejaculating can be as much fun for the watcher as for the guy being watched, and further, whatever is happening to the guy being watched can be “catching” for the watcher.

Is this all somehow gay? Why does the answer to this question even matter if both parties are consenting adults? I suppose one way of looking at this is that this is a weird version of partner sex without the risks associated with partner sex. Randall and Shawn are friends but not sexual partners or lovers in a gay context. Same for Dylan and Josh. The two pairs of roommates enjoy each others’ company albeit in a private way, but that is where it all ends.

Complicated stuff I am telling you, all of it.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXVII All strapped in
 

Everything is calm again. A few days have passed since Shawn and Randall had their respective encounters in their new Speedos® and what remains for both of them is the sweet memory of the wonderful sensations trying on the new suits gave to each of them. How all of this might or might not relate to each of them with respect to complicated sexual orientation issues remains an unanswered question.

But for now, these issues can be put into the background. For now at least the assortment of questions need not be answered. What Shawn and Randall ended up doing in the privacy of the little dorm room is not something that needs to be explained to or shared with anyone else. No one was harmed: no one could get pregnant. It was really pleasant sexually-induced fun without any of the classical problems and issues that guys there age often have to cope with.

Shawn and Randall bought more gear during the shopping trip, gear that is still lying unopened even in the little dresser inside the dorm room closet. Randall is keenly aware of how a lot of this gear works for him, and somehow he thinks it would be fun to help Shawn along a bit in part to see if Shawn is similarly affected as Randall is. Shawn has already revealed that his ability to stay calm inside a new Speedo was very limited, but he did manage to wear one and take a shower in the men’s shower area without embarrassing himself there. Randall is still struggling why seeing Shawn struggle inside the Speedo then ejaculate got Randall so horny as well, but let me leave that question unanswered. Today Randall wants to see exactly how Shawn reacts to being inside one of those P-TEX athletic supporters they both bought.

Randall knows that one of the curious “features” of an old school athletic supporter is that the pouch contains your genitals, but your butt is, well, butt-naked. Randall is “hooked“ on the look and feel of the strap, the snug pouch, the leg bands etc., but he doesn’t like the naked-butt part. He wishes there was some sort of covering there, maybe just another elastic band of some sort.

Still, Randall has worked up a solution of sorts, and that involves wearing a pair of tighty whitey underwear UNDER the strap. First, the tighty whiteys go on and then the strap.

Of course, Randall has always “enjoyed” wearing tighty whiteys a little on the snug side, well maybe a lot on the snug side. On any “normal” class day, Randall would be wearing his snug tighty whiteys under his equally snug skinny jeans, but this is certainly all new to Shawn even though Randall’s choice of undergarments is starting to make more sense to Shawn.

How snug is snug? Well, Randall has a nominal 32-inch waist, fairly trim but fairly common for college freshmen. Tighty-whitey size wise, this would but him still maybe into a men’s SM, which is normally considered to be a 28-30 inch waist. OK, then MED would be a 32-34 although these sizes and naves vary from country to country. In Japan, for example, a LRG might be a 30-32 inches, XLRG would be 34-36” and a SM would be maybe only 24-26 inches, way too small for most adult American males.

Randall some time ago decided to try downsizing into boy’s sizes. Boy’s sizes work a little differently in the US . A Boy’s LRG is sometimes called 16-18 which is roughly the same as a men’s small with about a 28 inch waist size. These would fit a guy wearing a men’s SM but only a bit snugger. Randall has several pair of tighty whiteys size 16-18. Originally, boy’s sizes were supposed to represent the AGE of the average boy. For example, size 16-18 would be worn by a boy 16-18 years old. This idea never worked very well.

But before he entered college Randall discovered that he would just be able to fit himself into a Boys size 12-14, roughly equivalent to a 24-26 inch waist size. The elastic waistband will be at its near limits of stretch, but is just big enough. Elsewhere the stretch cotton tugs and pulls in various places, leaving essentially zero room for any growth or expansion.

The first time Randall tried this some years ago was that his initial reaction was one of discomfort in the groin area. But all of a sudden, the situation changed as his body started to interpret the discomfort more a series of agonizingly sweet sensations, just a little erotic but certainly not uncontrollably so. Randall was suddenly “hooked” on undersized tighty whiteys and started to wear them regularly.

So Randall explains to Shawn about the naked-butt problem, but that he has a simple solution that works. The solution, of course, is to wear a pair of tighty whiteys UNDER the strap.

But Shawn says. “Too bad I don’t even own a pair of tighty whiteys.”

Randall replies “No problem. I just opened a new package with 6 pair in it, and I will give you a pair.

Of course, the package that Randall just opened is 6 of the Boys size 12-14, not a normal men’s size SM or MED. Randall tosses a brand-new pair from the package over to Shawn.

Randall knows that for someone like Shawn, the idea of wearing a pair of tighty whitey under a new strap is a good one, in part because if Shawn has another “accident” the semen should mostly be contained within the easy-to-launder tighty whitey, not in the strap pouch. Besides, Randall secretly wants to find out if Shawn’s reaction to wearing the really snug tighty whiteys is the same that Randall had when Randall tried when Randall tried doing this for the very first time—apparent discomfort initially, followed almost immediately by sensations oddly both sweet and wonderful as the briefs tug and pull on Shawn’s body in interesting ways.

Shawn says “I am into the briefs you gave me, but the waistband barely fit my waist, and this seems uncomfortable.

Randall says “Hang tight. You need to put your new P-TEX strap on over the briefs I just gave you.”

Randall is also in his tighty whitey briefs, albeit a pair that had been worn before and washed, so they did not fit quite as snug as the ones Shawn had just gotten himself into.

The P-TEX straps Shawn and Randall are interesting in that they are an old school bare-butt design, but the waist band and leg straps are both made of shiny new-school elastic with the P-TEX logo. Randall slips on his strap, and so does Shawn.

Shawn says “Wow, this is somehow starting to feel quite good! Amazing!”

Randall says “I’m feeling pretty good over here as well”

But of course Shawn and Randall also bought compression gear designed to be worn OVER what both of them are currently wearing. So far, despite the snugness, no accidents have occurred and both guys are coping all right with the situation each is in. So far at least, so far…

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXVIII Still OK, yet
 

A recent news article reported that young people are on average waiting longer to form relationships that involve living together with a partner, presumably a partner that involves partner sex regardless of gender or whether or not marriage has taken place. The article noted that young adults often are just too busy with schooling and early careers to have the necessary time to get deeply involved with a partner as a partner relationship involves dealing with issues that take a lot of time and energy, emotional and physical.

What makes this all so interesting is that everyone knows that just because a young person is very busy starting out in life as a young adult (like Shawn and Randall, for example) that does not mean that the flow of sexual hormones (testosterone for both males and females, interestingly) suddenly comes to a halt. All of this still happens, and somehow must be dealt with.

In the case of Shawn and Randall, two young adult males, this means that off and on at least, they are both going to feel horny and start thinking about getting off. Both guys think of themselves as ordinary straight males who have a lot of things going on as young adults and are certainly not ready to form a successful bond with a female partner at this stage in either of their lives.

Still, something has to give. Probably most guys their age somehow manage to ejaculate no less frequently than two or three days, if that. How this happens for each of them is the interesting part. Consider for a moment that this predicament that Shawn and Randall both face at this point in their lives is going on in countless male freshman dorm rooms practically everywhere and each guy finds a unique personal way to solve the problem which is kept secret, or maybe not so secret at least in the case of Shawn and Randall.

This is not something guys would normally engage in talking about with other guys their age at all, and dormitories are not any different in that regard. The old “rule” learned at age 11 or 12 was that there was nothing inherently “wrong” with masturbating and that a guy would not injure himself in any way by doing it, but you must do it in private and never reveal what you are up to with anyone including your best friends male or female, and further, if word ever got out you would be teased or bullied by guys that you once thought of as even close friends who might claim you were gay. Then if females your age found out they would believe you to be weird or gay too.

These unwritten but well-known rules about solo sex still apply pretty much the same way all through high school and as students enter their freshman year of college living in a college dorm double there may be even less privacy than a guy had when he was living at home.

Still, as young adults, maybe these old rules about keeping secret anything that involves masturbation are not as rigid as they once were. It depends on the roommate I guess. If the roommate is one of these “raging heterosexuals” who has sex with a female 2 or 3 times a week, at least the dating hours will provide the other guy some privacy to, you know, jerk off.

But neither Randall nor Shawn is a raging heterosexual like the one I described. Neither of them has a steady girlfriend, and even casual dating takes time and energy away from studies.

So something really interesting has happened to these two young men. Randall has SHARED some of his “best” masturbation techniques with Shawn. Shawn has not only been learning, but he is now having fun as well. What is going on is, at least for now, a “secret” between Randall and Shawn and it may never be known by anyone else.

And boy are the two of them enjoying themselves right now. Shawn now is beginning to understand why Randall always keeps stocked with pairs of tighty whiteys, and the slick-feeling strap pulled over the top of them feels really, really good. Shawn is getting hard, and he knows it. So is Randall.

Shawn glances at himself in the dorm room mirror and he likes what he sees. The strap is starting to bulge outward in a most interesting way.

But then Randall says to Shawn. “This is only part of it. You know we bought that compression gear. The whole idea is to pull on your compression tee over your chest, and then put the compression shorts on over your tighty whiteys and your strap.”

Shawn and Randall dig out the compression shirts they both bought, Shawn's a short-sleeved in Navy blue, and Randall’s long-sleeved in silvery gray. These both involve a bit of struggle to get into, and the struggle momentarily distracts them from the sensations each of them had been feeling in the groin area. Once in, they both take another look at their bodies in the dorm room mirror. Shawn has never seen himself clad like this, and he likes what he sees.

Randall tells Shawn that the final step for now is to slide into the compression shorts he bought, also in Navy Blue. These will fit snug not only in Shawn’s groin area, already under intense pressure from the undies and the strap but also put pressure on his thighs and buttocks. Meanwhile Randall bought compression running tights that go all the way down to his calves. Shawn has never before worn compression shorts and certainly not with these other garments underneath. The running tights are something Randall has sometimes wondered about and perhaps longed to try wearing, but he has never had a pair to try on.

Both Shawn and Randall are now fully clad in their new gear, and both are coping as best they can with the situation.

Still, for two college freshman, both filled with male hormones, things cannot remain stable forever, and most certainly something will have to give.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIX What happened next was…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXIX What happened next was…

I hope everyone can visualize the exact situation they are both in right now. Both Randall and Shawn are wearing pairs of significantly undersized tighty whiteys, the ones Shawn is wearing were supplied by Randall from a just-opened new package he had in his dorm-room dresser drawer. Shawn is just a bit concerned about the fit, which seems almost uncomfortably snug and tight and he is wondering how Randall manages to wear them on a daily basis.

Shawn and Randall have both pulled on the P-TEX straps they found at the big box sporting goods store at the mall.

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The straps represent a second “layer” over some of the most sensitive areas of the male body along with the wide elastic waistband and elastic leg straps. The first trick in doing this is getting each one’s male body parts all in the correct position.

The third element or layer so all of this is the compression gear—the long-sleeved compression tee Randall is wearing and the navy blue short-sleeved version Shawn bought. Shawn has a color-matched pair of compression shorts and Randall a longer pair of running tights that are long enough to entirely cover Randall’s calf muscles.

This is a third layer for both of them, and keep in mind that with each layer, the fit and feel only gets snugger and seemingly tighter.

Randall also has a pair of compression shorts that he had purchased earlier and he decides to put these on OVER The running tights, for a most interesting fourth layer.

So, here is what is happening to both of them, psychologically. At some point, the sensations from the tighty whiteys that Shawn thought at first were somewhat uncomfortable morphed into some sensations that Shawn’s brain suddenly and oddly sensed instead interesting. Once this happened Shawn almost immediately started feeling that unmistakable and interesting sensation of the tightening of his penis as it was beginning to fill with blood, and that was just from the tighty whiteys. From his own experiences, Randall pretty much knew this was likely to happen to Shawn, but Randall did not know exactly what the reaction might be. Randall really “enjoys” his role as the “teacher” for Shawn in this regard.

If a guy doing what Shawn and Randall are doing senses that interesting tension sensation as his penis begins to fill with blood, one interesting idea this is to pull everything down giving the penis a bit of a “break” so to speak. Or, at least that’s what guys usually believe will happen. But if a guy does this, the penis almost invariably responds to this new “freedom” by getting a little bigger still—the penis senses the newfound freedom as an “opportunity” for more growth.

Then, after two or three minutes of “freedom”, the guy decides he wants to get back into the various clothing items, but given that the guy has grown, this only becomes even more difficult to do. Randall knows this: Shawn is still trying to figure out if “taking a break” is a good idea or not, but Shawn eventually concludes that he “needs” a break by getting out of everything—if only for a moment or two.

Randall is thinking to himself that this might not be the wisest strategy, but that Shawn needs to learn and understand how this works for himself. So Shawn pulls everything down and takes a break.

Having been naked in the groin area for a couple minutes, Shawn now decides to get himself back in. Shawn had some difficulty getting himself into the tighty whiteys the first time, but now he is really struggling in his attempt to find a position for his now quite long-and-now quite hard penis that works. He ends up in sort of a sideways position.

However, jock straps basically don’t fit if a guy’s penis is when the penis is sideways, and Shawn is now trying to figure out how to fit a now oversized penis into what now seems to be a substantially undersized strap pouch. Clearly, strap pouches simply aren’t designed to accommodate a full male erection the size that Shawn suddenly has.

Randall has been watching Shawn cope with the dilemma he is in with some interest of his own, and what Randall is seeing is making a psychological impact on Randall. I suspect that what Randall is seeing would have a similar impact on most guys, though most guys would never want to admit that—seeing another guy make an attempt to deal with an obvious erection is psychologically interesting and leads to a “response” by the viewer, in this case, the viewer being Randall.

So Shawn finally gets back into the strap and tries to pull the compression shorts back on. What Shawn doesn’t realize that Randall in part by simply watching Shawn obviously struggle getting his oversized penis back into in his gear, himself is on the very edge of ejaculating as well.

Shawn pulls the compression gear to his waist and almost immediately begins to feel that strange but endlessly present pulsating every few seconds with in his groin area. He looks down, and sees that already the front of his compression shorts are covered with a creamy white semen, having somehow made its way through both the tighty whiteys and even the pouch of the new strap.

Randall sees what has happened to Shawn, and Randall immediately starts into a series of repetitive involuntary contractions as well, pushing lots semen out through FOUR layers of cover. Randall and Shawn somehow have had near simultaneous ejaculations.

For both Randall and Shawn, these ejaculatory “moments in time” are filled with wonderfully delicious sensations coming from all sorts of different places. The sensations are so great that both Shawn and Randall now can’t wait to recover and then try to do it all over again.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXX What next?
 

Every guy probably already knows exactly what am about to describe, but I will push forward anyway. After a guy gets aroused and then ejaculates in powerful spasms of involuntary multiple muscle contractions, a complex array of different emotions suddenly takes over. This happens not only in partner sex, but also in sex that does not (in this case, directly) involve a partner, either orgasms that happen while exploring your body in private, or in the case of Randall and Shawn, in the presence of another person.

I’ve long thought that this sudden shift in how a guy feels is one of the most interesting parts about male sexuality. For guys who learned the subtle techniques of masturbation under the covers at night, guys generally feel sluggish and even sleepy after masturbating to orgasm, which in itself is interesting because guys doing this in a normal fashion under the covers generally are wide awake just before the orgasm happens.

When “sleeping” with a sexual partner, part of the “problem” is in figuring out a way so that where you are on this path is at least broadly consistent with that of the partner you are sleeping with. Working out the details of all of this with your partner is no small task and, though I am not a marriage counselor, I suspect that a lot of marriages have rather regularly fallen apart in instances where both partners are unable to work out a satisfactory solution to what amounts to a complicated problem involving the emotional ties along with the physical issues. At the core is the idea of both partners being “sexually compatible.”

Randall and Shawn are not sexual partners if being a sexual partner is defined as involving physical contact with each other (perhaps along with the classic “exchanging of bodily fluids”) but they certainly managed somehow to have near simultaneous orgasms via the interesting techniques outlined in the previous chapters. Both Randal and Shawn could have each been in their own beds a few feet apart late at night, both touching and fondling their own sexual orgasms to the point of orgasm, and both could have gone off at nearly the same time with both certainly understanding what had just happened to the other. This probably goes on regularly in most of the double rooms in the men’s dormitory. But as it turns out both Randal and Shawn were wide awake and not in bed when the nearly simultaneous orgasms occurred, with each of them seeing exactly what was happening to the other.

Do either of them have a psychosexual “problem” as a consequence of the fact that they “enjoyed” the moment? A clothing “fetish” of some sort? There must be something “wrong” with what they just did. Maybe they are both gay but they simply haven’t “admitted” it to themselves yet or to each other. These are big questions, complicated questions, tough questions.

Or, maybe they both just discovered something that is really fun but does not really mean anything whatsoever from a larger perspective.

So, Randall and Shawn are both at the post-ejaculation stage of feeling rather “sluggish” right now, and that is putting it mildly. This is where the really goofy part comes in. They both feel tired, as if they feel a nap coming on. But the other goofy part is that suddenly not only have they suddenly lost interest in touching their own sexual organs, they also feel like they need to discard all of the snug-fitting garments—the very stuff that they both thought was so much fun to be in only moments ago moments before the orgasm.

So, the snug tighty whitey are quickly discarded in each of their laundry bags, and out comes the loose- fitting cotton boxers and sweatpants. Somehow, all of a sudden NOT wearing anything snug and tight seems to be the perfect thing to do.

In male-female partner sex, guys go through a very similar stage post-ejaculation to what Randall and Shawn are now experiencing, while many women seem to wind down at a much slower pace. The guy post ejaculation rolls over in bed, not wanting anything even close to his sexual organs any more, and quickly falls asleep. Many women do not appreciate this mode of post orgasm sexuality in men and try desperately to get guys to change their behaviors in this regard. This is another one of those goofy but fascinating things that women do not understand about how men are wired sexually.

For Randall and Shawn, post ejaculation, neither will be interested in sexual feelings for awhile. This calm period in that regard could last for only a few hours, overnight, or even 2 or 3 days. That depends.

Are there other ideas for Randall and Shawn to pursue, once they both “recover” from all of this funky post-ejaculatory sluggishness? Maybe, just maybe!

To be continued…
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part XXXI A Speedo® Story
 

Speedo® is a brand name—a registered trademark for a company as used both in the US and internationally. It is easy to find documents explaining the history. The Speedo® (as in swim brief) was the result of efforts to develop swimwear for competitive male swimmers that would allow them to move faster through the water, perhaps about as fast as swimming naked, while still providing a cover for the male body parts. As I understand the story, Speedo® developed a brief made of materials suitable for swimming that followed the basic design idea that Jockey® had for simpler, briefer, men’s underwear. Jockey® claims to have invented the first brief-style underwear for men, though Jockey shorts (briefs) had been around for many years before Speedos® as swim briefs came out.

Some companies have a complicated relationship with their own trademarks. They dare not let their trademark fall into too common usage to describe similar products or they can lose their trademark. Instead of calling a box of soft paper handkerchiefs a box of “facial tissues”, instead it would be referred to as a box of Kleenex®. But Kleenex is just a single company’s brand name for facial tissues. If everyone else is making what people call Kleenex, the value of the brand name was lost.

And Xerox®. At one time not that long ago, making a photocopy of printed material was called Xeroxing a copy, regardless of the brand of machine being used. Xerox® even become a verb., as in “could you Xerox a copy of this for me”.

Even Kodak®. Some time ago Kodak-branded cameras and film were so popular that people referred to taking any camera as a Kodak, and picture taking was “Taking a Kodak”. That one never stuck around and the use was lost as other camera brands increased in popularity.

Meanwhile, as the popularity of swim briefs made by Speedo® increased, people started to refer to any brief style swimwear for men as a Speedo no matter who made it, and there soon became serious competitors in selling that style, as in briefs by Tyr®, Arena® Dolphin® and others that were all styled like a Speedo® but not made by Speedo® the company.

But, it is also well known that Speedo-style swimming briefs have gone in and out of fashion over the years, as has the fashion as made by companies other than Speedo®. So to survive the company had to develop a product line that included much more in the way of clothing with a sports theme than just the swimming brief—as in Speedo-branded shorts, board shorts, tee shirts and other Speedo-branded clothing for the upper body, etc. But no one would refer to a Speedo-branded pair of board shorts as a Speedo®. Generically used, a Speedo is a somewhat skimpy swimming brief regardless of who made it. Speedo® attempts to legally protect its trademark in part because if the term becomes too widely used to describe any brief-style swimwear for men, they could lose the trademark.

Every male teenager post-puberty has an interesting connection to the whole idea of wearing a swim brief, regardless of the specific brand. I suspect that this situation perhaps began way back when Speedo® introduced the first product. Granted, the brief did cover the male body parts that needed to be covered, but the whole idea of covering the male body parts with only a minimum amount of cloth, quite frankly, scared a lot of guys.

Any male knows that certain body parts, day or night, often do not remain the same size all the time, but go through very natural cycles getting larger and then smaller both day and night. And arousal can happen in unexpected places and times. The idea of wearing a garment that is brief enough to clearly show the size of a guy’s genitals in outline moment-by-moment scares a lot of guys to the point where they say “I would never wear one of those”.

Not only that, many females seem not only upset but also even angry about seeing even the outline of male body parts in such a garment. Besides, a guy wearing a swim brief could easily be teased and bullied. Further, there is the gay connection with all of this—that swim briefs are worn only by gay guys are interested in “showing off” what they have, at least in outline, to other gay guys.

While much of this is really scary for a bunch of different reasons, young males at the same time are drawn to swim briefs. I suppose that there are guys who learned to swim wearing a brief that see all of this as no big deal at all post puberty, but the more commonplace situation is the guy who has never worn a swim brief and discovers that this is a requirement if he is going to be on a high school swim team. What happens if I suddenly start to grow, even by a little.

There is also this little matter of fit and feel. The best briefs for competitive swimming fit, well, quite snug, and are made of fabric that is quite slick and smooth. By this time young guys are probably well aware of how sensitive their penises are not only to touch, but also to anything that fits snug, slick and smooth. And a guy starts to at least contemplate the idea that perhaps a snug and slick swimming brief might be an ideal garment for jerking off. If so, the guy starts to long for the possibility of owning at least a single swim brief if only for this purpose, in private.

Think now about Randall and Shawn. Randall obviously went through this part of growing up and into young adulthood much earlier than Shawn did. Bluntly put, Randall thought up a way to get a hold of a swimming brief shortly after puberty, and he used as an aid to jerking off from the time it arrived and he made first contact, so to speak. As a young adult, this has morphed into daily wear of swimming briefs as underwear under skinny jeans.

Obviously, Shawn had also been thinking about how he might look and feel in a swim brief from a very early age as well, though he never figured out how to get a hold of one to try until he met up with his dorm room mate, Randall, who was obviously wearing these a lot. Then the trip out to the Mall sporting goods store with Randall, where Shawn finally got to purchase a Speedo® as Randall picked out a new one for himself.

Once the guys got back to the dorm room, the end result was, well, predictable, and maybe similar to what would happen for any two male buddies who were in a similar situation. Given where the dorm showers are located, Shawn now had an “excuse” to own a swim brief, something he had longed for back to his early teen years. The rest of it, well you know! Even Speedo® has to know that some of its product line in briefs has uses other than for competitive swimming. After all, a sale of a product is a sale.

Finis

With this chapter, I conclude my story, at least until I dream up some more adventures. I realized I have raised a lot of questions and issues, while answering only a few of them. I hope that my readers had as much fun reading my story as I had in writing it, and I would be especially pleased if at least some of you felt compelled to try out some of the ideas I have suggested for yourself. You will not really know how you will react to a particular situation unless you try it for yourself. As I write this I am wearing just a simple old-school strap along with a slightly undersized black asics wrestling singlet. The weather has turned very warm for the first time this spring, and I am really enjoying myself in this combination. This might not be a long story writing break for me, but for now I need to take a little time off to kick back and enjoy myself. And as a final reminder, always enjoy your Speedos® no matter what the particular brand name of the ones you own!

Sebbie

What to wear?
 

It was a good thread by Sebbie and I really enjoyed it. As what to wear, I'll wear my favorite snug denim playtime overalls with sexy bright colored leotard and tights underneath to the doctor's office during the cold winter months. They feel so warm, snug and soft. My doctor is a female and both her and the nurse like my snug winter attire. My visit is usually for a yearly physical examination. Of course I'll bring a change of clothes, loose fitting underwear and trousers for a quick change of clothes after the physical examination. She will always have me completely undress for these physical exams. I'll have to wait a while before being called in by the nurse and am very aroused from the warm, snug and secure feeling in my winter outfit, knowing, They will soon be all off, while being totally naked for the doctor. As what to wear, those warm snug overalls with leotard and tights are the best type clothes to wear for my upcoming medical plight. Once called into the exam room, the doctor goes over my medical records, while I'm still dressed, then when leaving the room, she tell the lovely nurse to have me all undressed and gowned for my physical exam. Those snug overalls and leotards are giving me quite an erection, when the nurse would close the large privacy curtain and asking how many layers I'm wearing under those cute snug overalls. I know what to wear to the doctors savoring the warm snug feeling while still in my winter outfit and helping to keep my medical anxieties and fears in check. The nurse then gives a nice smile, saying "it's time, everything has to come off now", then helps me strip it all off. It's a long slow, yet somewhat enjoyable process, helping me to undress, as she unfastens the overall snaps, then unzipping the side leg zippers, and slowly pulls them down and off my blue colored leotard and tights clad decent shaped body. Suddenly the lady doctor returns, seeing me still in leotard and tights that well outline my full erection. The doctor would say " don't feel embarrassed, having an erection, as we'll have all those tight sexy winter clothes off you". Soon, I was completely naked and very erect, when both the doctor and nurse began doing my physical exam, the whole works, blood tests, being weighed nude and then the dreaded DRE. Finally my physical exam was completed and receiving a good bill of health from the doctor. I missed putting my snug winter outfit back on, but was able to get dressed quickly in the baggy underwear and loose clothes, as they had to see one more patient for the day. Like I've said, wearing those snug warm denim kiddie overalls, long sleeve button up flannel shirt with leotard and tights underneath to the doctors and being helped taking them all off, keeps medical fears and anxiety in check during my physical examination.

continuing
 

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On arousal cycles "What to Wear" Updates
 

On arousal cycles

I go through periods of time when I do not feel horny at all, but other periods of time when my mind seems to be focused on the sensations in my groin area. I guess other guys have to deal with these same issues, that sometimes a guy feels that he is focused on his sexual organs, but other times not so much if at all.

If what I am learning from videos on the net, these cyles occur naturally, and part of this has to do with how long it has been since a guy had his last orgasm, perhaps with a partner, but quite often and maybe more often, alone.

As I have grown older, I have also discovered that it takes me a lot longer to “recuperate” from an orgasm, and as I got into my 70s, we are talking days, not hours or even minutes as some of the young guys seem to be able to accomplish. Another thing I have learned is that young guys frequently like to engage in much the same “edging” techniques I enjoy so much, that is, forcing themselves to get really aroused and hard, but then suddenly stopping cold, to pick up doing the same thing the next day. A young guy who can do this for a few days is considered good, but why not try for a week, or maybe even two weeks of bringing yourself up to the very edge of having an orgasm, then stopping for another day. The orgasm a guy eventually has will keep getting more and more powerful the more days you can go, but refraining from going into orgasmic convulsions keeps getting to be more and more of a challenge. Still, I recommend that every guy try edging as it is hugely fun to do, even if you fail at the early stages.

I had an orgasm on Sunday night and it is Thursday today. Monday I did not feel like playing with myself at all. Tuesday I felt a little better but I had some other things I was doing and did not seem to be able to focus myself as I knew I needed to. By Wednesday evening I was feeling pretty good again. I took out my trusty old vibrator and started massaging the underside of my penis with it. I was starting to feel pretty good again and once again I started to grow and ooze precum drops. But then I stopped and got into my vacuum penis pump. The penis pump seems to be more fun if I am already a bit aroused and the vibrator serves that purpose quite nicely. So I applied the penis pump and then pulled it off.

Then the trick is to apply some gel soap or other lube and just start messing around with yourself using hand and fingers. The idea is to take yourself to a higher level than the penis pump left you but then stop before you can’t stop voluntarily. Then, at least for me, I pull on a swim brief, position my still semi erect penis “up” and crawl into bed. Usually I fall right to sleep. If I wake up I may check on my condition down there, but last night I slept soundly through the night and awoke at 6:30 AM. I checked on my prenis as soon as I awakened, and it was still pointed up, and if anything, a bit harder than it was when I went to bed. Clearly, it had a fine night.

But I awaken and I am still feeling horny. I seem to want to spend the day semi aroused in something snug and tight but I have other work to do outdoors. I pull on a favorite pair of undersized tighty whiteys, but over that I find a really old pair of compression shorts, ones I bought maybe 25 years ago. They never were roomy and they still feel really snug and tight. Over that I simply pull some sweat pants so I can do my outdoor work and not distract my neighbors either.

The compression gear will likely keep me feeling rather horny all day long as it is doing right now. Tonight I will be able to pick up with the same techniques I employed last night or something very similar, again stopping moments before I go over the edge. As you can probably tell, I am feeling quite good down there as I write this. I write these stories better assuming I can work from actual events in my life. These same options are open to every guy.

Enjoy!

A New Day
 

I’d ordered these leather-look short shorts last December, but other than to try them on, I had never actually worn them for any length of time. Last night, I was feeling pretty good both physically and psychologically and decided that this was the night to try wearing them as bed wear. If you can imagine, thin faux leather, not a brief but a short short that fits really snug and low in the back, with a distinct pouch for the penis made of the same material.

Turns out these do feel pretty good and I had to periodically check on how I am doing during the night.

I woke up this morning still feeling pretty focused (if you know what I mean but I am sure you do). I decided on removing the shorts it would be fun to clean up the last remnants of my pubic hair. I like how I look not buried in a sea of curly grass. I have a little manscaping razor. I don’t know if you have observed this, but it is far easier to do a quality job of pubic hair shaving if you have at least a semi-erection going on. Coming out of wearing the faux leather shorts all night long, that was not a problem.

So I am now as clean as a baby’s butt down there and I decide to do my usual morning things completely in the nude with the idea of pulling on an old 2x(ist) thong I really like that has a T-shaped back and tugs in all the right places between my glutes. The neat thing about this thong is that it pushes everything I had just been playing with front and forward. So, after I finish brushing my teeth I put on the thong and it feels really good too, plus I like how I am looking in the mirror—a little hard but not THAT hard. Perfect!

I am not going to go the rest of the day clad only in the thong. I have this old pair of purple compression shorts I had purchased years ago when Undergear was still in business. They are called BOA shorts, which translates into “Built On Athletics” and still fit like a purple second skin.

Now the thong is pushing me out in the pouch even as the shorts are pressing down in the same area. This is not only psychologically interesting but feels really good too. When I get myself into this situation both physically and psychologically almost invariably I start to ooze. The cotton pouch of the thong poses no barrier to small wet spots seeping right through to the outside of the purple shorts. Not too noticeable, but I certainly know what is going on. This is fun to watch, both mentally and physically. There is some truly neat stuff going on, and I am enjoying it immensely.

On top, I pulled on a worn old, loose-fitting lime green A-shirt which interestingly, somehow fits nicely with the tight purple compression shorts. I’m feeling great!

The leather-look shorts felt erotic last night. The shaving this morning was erotic. The really snug thong was erotic. The purple shorts are erotic. It’s a great day to be alive. I’m looking forward to my daily workout, with that thong T-back crawling up my butt on every stroke of my stationary rowing machine and every turn of my stationary bike.

Why do I do so much exercise? The answer, I think, is clear. But only if you know what you are looking for.

Happy oozing!

PS I had forgotten how much sheer fun that old 2x(ist) thong with the T-back is to wear. It crawls way up between my glutes and applies steady pressure throughout the area. I have been oozing nearly nonstop ever since I got into it this morning. Just great fun!

Thoughts on life as a single guy
 

Thoughts on life as a single guy

Every guy likes to enjoy himself in a host of different ways, both sexual and otherwise. It is part of who we are as human beings. I have long thought about the role that relationships play in a guy’s life. Some guys seem to exist mainly because they enjoy being with other people. This is not an issue of sexual orientation as such. A lot of guys who are partnered with females still enjoy having time to simply hang out with other guys—male friends—in nonsexual ways. This continuing interest drives some females—not all—bonkers.

Women generally grow up to believe that the female must be the sole source of sexual pleasure for a guy, and that if this is not the case, then at minimum, she picked the wrong guy to be with or perhaps she is somehow doing something “wrong”. At some point for her, having sex with her guy may become a burden not a source of pleasure in the relationship. And the relationship begins to crumble.

For guys, however, the situation can be even more complicated. Growing up to be a young adult, every guy learned dozens of ways to enjoy himself often without anyone else being around. By the time a guy becomes a young adult and is about to marry, he has built up a long list of techniques that he enjoys for jerking off. This list is pretty much “off limits” to the new wife, who believes that she will now be the the path by which guy will ever again be able to enjoy his own body.

What kinds of things are on this list? If you read through all of what I have written, you have been introduced to a host of different techniques that I regularly employ for self-pleasuring. I have added a few things over the years, but a basic problem remains. I have this large collection of swim briefs, jock straps, compression gear etc that I really “enjoy” wearing. If I get into a relationship, surely the sexual partner at some point will start to think that this stuff interferes with the partner part of the sexual relationship. Other guys seem to be concerned that if they are not in a relationship that they will not be sexually happy. But I keep thinking that the only real way for me to be sexually unhappy is to be stuck in a relationship doing only the things my partner thinks are OK and is an important part of. I have never found a satisfactory positive answer as to why I should be sexually happier in a relationship than not in a relationship.

That may sound crazy to some, but at some point and with practice a guy gets so good at “self abuse” that a relationship with a sexual partner becomes unimportant. I have developed for my readers long essays on the specifics of how to do that. For a lot of guys, even in adulthood, the specific techniques one uses in self-pleasuring is as closely a guarded secret as is possible. I suppose the Internet and video porn sites have opened to window a bit on how guys masturbate and exactly what happens. These sites generally have no solo-sex section. Presumably the straight section shows videos of guys having sex with a female partner, and the gay (male) section should show guys having sex with a male partner, usually oral or anal or both.

How two partners engage in sex is not really that interesting to see. We all pretty much know how that is done. But the really interesting videos are the ones that show the techniques guys employ while masturbating. The videos provide a window on this area of being male that for most guys is kept as a huge and dark secret.

The male masturbation videos with only a guy in them are all in the “gay” section. I suppose the reason is that it is assumed that gay guys are interested in seeing other guys masturbate. But why should this only be of interest to a guy who thinks he is gay? Straight guys masturbate too and are interesting in delving into the answers to the question guys never dare ask as teenagers. Do other guys my age like doing this as much as I do and if so, have they learned some methods I have not yet uncovered?

Once a guy enters a sexual relationship, the list of things the guy enjoys doing with, to and by himself is still there, and the ideas on the list are still as much fun as they always were. How to proceed? Will the partner-sex activities be so enjoyable that the list will somehow recede, psychologically, and gradually no longer be important to the guy? Can some of the fun things on the list be incorporated in some way into the relationship sex? And how will the partner feel about that. Does the partner enter the relationship with her or his own list, and, if so, can the lists be somehow shared and merged into one?

These are important (critical) questions that must get resolved in any relationship that involves regular sex with a partner. But even relationships may not last forever. Guys divorce, quite frequently. A sexual partner may die, leaving a guy alone once again and without a regular sexual partner,

But the list is still there, and with luck, once a guy is alone again he can fall back on doing some of the same things he enjoyed by himself long before he had a sexual partner. Fun things! Things that make life as we know it for guys once again whole. Maybe this is a better strategy than trying to quickly start a new relationship. That is worth pondering.

As single guy living alone my entire adult life I can say that I have enjoyed myself and my life tremendously. I have watched as my peers struggled with relationship issues and constantly been happy with respect to not having to deal with that. If my friends think my life has somehow been sexually unsatisfying that is their problem not mine. They are making assumptions that are simply not true. I probably do have a larger collection than most guys have that is labeled “garments I ‘enjoy’ wearing” but each of those is there for a purpose. What I do by and with myself works for me, and that is really all that matters.

What to Wear...
 

What to wear….

I’m retired now, living single as I always have. Over the years I have built a large collection of clothing items that I enjoy wearing. There are underwear in every imaginable shape and size, swim briefs in all sorts of cuts and sizes, thongs both those designed to be worn as underwear and as swimwear. Then there are the Lycra items, the tees, the running tights, the compression shorts, the jammers. Not to mention a huge collection of straps some with cups and some without. And my collection of jeans from semi skinny to supper skinny with a running tight-like fit would boggle the mind.

The year of Covid has meant that mostly I have stayed indoors at my house. With no one around this has been an excellent chance to enjoy wearing some of the items I have accumulated over the years. I have been on a rigorous exercise program for 40 years or more, involving weightlifting, stationary rowing and bike riding, and I have an excellent TV setup that allows me to keep this up on a daily basis without ever getting bored with the half hour jaunts on the rowing machines (two of them) while wearing a different set of gear every day. And many of the items in my collections mesh well with the things I am doing exercise wise.

As a young kid I became very fond of wearing tighty whiteys in part I think because I saw other boys my age all wearing them back then even though my mom tended to favor me wearing the slightly longer boxer briefs. As soon as I was able to make my own underwear purchases I switched over to the briefs, and started picking up a few swim briefs as well like I also saw the other guys wearing and was fascinated by. And it was not long after I decided I needed to own a strap even though as something of a non-athlete I was not participating in any sport that required one. The one I bought was really very undersized but so far as I was concerned there was no point in owning a strap that did not fit really snug and tight.

Today, even in the collection of tighty whiteys I own, there is a large variety of sizes and even styles. Over the years I discovered that a tighty whitey worked really well to give my butt a little extra padding when working out on the rowing machine or stationary bike. But then there is the question of sizing. Loose, snug, or really snug? Tighty whiteys come in various shapes and sizes from full cut to not so full cut and from XXL Adult to small sizes designed for young teen boys but maybe will fit an adult seeking a snug fit.

The weird part for me is that each day I get up thinking about what I am going to wear as underwear in going about my active exercise routing for the day, starting with the undergarment that goes on first. I find that some mornings I wake up preferring a relatively full-sized tighty whitey with a looser fit, but other days I pull out an undersized garment in a “youth” size. I have not quite determined why this varies day-by-day but somehow this morning I want very much to be wearing the undersized one.

On other days I long for a strap over the tighty whiteys, sometimes with a cup and sometimes not, but somehow not today. I have no real explanation for this either except to say that what I want to be wearing varies day by day including whether or not I have a strap on.

And my “Tesla” running tights along with a long-sleeved compression tee goes on over. And finally today over the running tights I decided my pair of vintage white “Bike” brand football pants were perfect over the black running tights. I can go the entire day this way. It’s cool here today but supposedly turning warmer by noon. I may swap the vintage Bike football pants for maybe a still snugger blue jammer over the running tights or maybe not. I will see how I am feeling around noon. For now the combo I have on will work fine.

So far as my jeans go for getting out and around, something similar happens there. I have jeans that are merely skimpy but several pair that fit what I would call really skin-tight. In essence the cloth appears to be denim but the fit is very similar to a running tight because they have Lycra in them. Same deal. Some days I wear something merely skinny, but other days I want the tightest fit possible.

At one point in time I wondered if I was the only guy in the world who had these “hang-ups” but I have gradually learned that there are others out there who chose various items of clothing based on how they are feeling on any given day. Among swim brief wearers there are swim briefs that vary from relatively big and loose-fitting all the way down to those that fit really snug and tight, and I suspect that choices there may vary as well on a daily basis. Some days a guy might wear a brief that is rather large and loose-fitting while other days really snug and tight rules. And I am thinking that the daily choice here is driven by some of the same stuff that causes me to want to wear a specific size and cut of a tighty whitey on any given day.

To be sure, any garment a guy wears that is a covering in the groin area is going to affect how a guy feels “down there” The resulting effects can be subtle and perhaps even inconsequential or not subtle and even demanding a guy’s attention on a continuing basis. Generally I find that if I am working on solving a problem that has nothing to do with how I am feeling in my groin area moment by moment, I tend to wear loose-fitting briefs as my undergarment choice during the day. However, if I am trying to make time pass quickly during exercise, there is nothing quite like a tight-and-snug undergarment to speed everything up and make what I am doing really enjoyable in other ways.

A lot of exercise equipment nowadays seems to be directed at using computer programs designed to capture the attention of the person working out with trainers and travelogue-style video. I prefer a good TV show that has nothing to do with watching a trainer or with viewing scenery on a bike ride. In making time pass the regular TV I watch works better than that.

But I would also argue that a continuing exercise program really works the best if you are wearing the correct undergarments and outergarments, in particular, one that keeps drawing attention to your body in such a way that you cannot help but feel horny while you are exercising. A lot of people start exercise programs like mine and soon quit after getting “bored”. It is very difficult to feel bored with any exercise routine if you are also feeling really good and horny down there. I think a lot of people miss that one entirely, or don’t realize exactly how they can take advantage of all of this.

If I had a partner for sex maybe I would feel differently about this. Or maybe not, as the first thing I would want to do is explain to the partner the lucid details of all why all of this works so well for me and what is really going on with my body and inside my head during a workout.

What I have just told you is some way fun stuff to try. Maybe some of you knew it already.

How much tension can a guy tolerate?
 

How much tension can a guy tolerate?

Once a guy reaches puberty, one of the first problems he faces is the possibility of getting an erection in a situation that seems unconnected to the idea of being in a sexual relationship of one sort or another. An event like this seems to come on at nearly random occasions and sometimes when a guy is trying to be thinking about something else. This is weird. Really weird. And, of course the worst-case scenario is for the erection to head straight into a full-blown ejaculation. And double or quadruple that if something like this happens when there are others around. This is supposed to be a private thing, happening in private and certainly without anyone else staring at what exactly is going on.

I suspect that nearly every guy as an adult has images of situations that did not go as planned in this regard when the guy was in school or even as a young adult. The male body is quite active in this regard and does not let any guy off the hook without having gotten into a few scary incidents of this sort—incidents that somehow get firmly burned into the guys head for the rest of his life. I realize that while a lot of guys tend to go over these incidents on a regular basis, this is not something most guys would ever be comfortable with talking about to any other person male or female, under any circumstances.

These incidents are part of the psyche of nearly every male but get buried deep in the mind of who a guy really is. Still, in a strange sort of way, reliving these episodes can be not only interesting but may even play a key element in making a guy once again “feel horny”. But then, guys who regularly engage in partner sex keep a virtual memory bank of things they got to do that were particularly enjoyable with a sexual partner as well. And many guys no doubt like to replay the videotape in their brains involving one or more partner-focused sexual encounters that were particularly interesting and arousing. Whether the psychological videotape involves a current sexual partner or some past encounter with a different person is only known to the guy. Still, reliving past experiences of this sort, whether alone or with a partner, is an important part of who a guy really is from a sexual perspective.

As for me, I really like feeling horny. It is a critical part of who I am as a person and as a human being. It is a part of life that may seem all but trivial even though it is very important to me. Maybe oddly from the perspective of some guys, I am so fond of feeling horny that this part frequently overwhelms the whole idea of proceeding to a full-blown orgasm. I love the simmering part, so to speak. I am so overwhelmed by this that I admit that I haven’t quite figured out the guys who seem to enjoy proceeding to a full-blown ejaculation as quickly as possible whether they are alone or with a partner. To me, ejaculation is a great release of tension that is incredible fun but only for a fleeting moment or two, followed by, well, nothing. Instead I want to spend an entire afternoon or a whole night feeling good down there about my body and who I am as a guy.

For most guys, a key part of growing up is getting confronted by clothing items that they have not worn before, and items that the guy thinks deep down fit in such a way as to be a sexual turn-on unrelated to being in a sexual situation with another person. Often this might involve an article of clothing that fits a little too snug or much too snug in the groin area. For a young teen, maybe a pair of jeans that somehow got pushed to the back of a closet and haven’t been worn for a couple years and now they fit really snug. Or a pair of brief underwear that got pushed back into a dresser drawer and has lain there for a couple years. What was merely snug before is really tight-fitting now.

I do not know how widespread this is, but if I did this then other guys probably did it too. Some guys (maybe many or even most guys) gradually develop a “collection” of clothing items that they use as an aid to masturbation. These are often items that fit properly two years ago but are way undersized now. The ultra-snug fit is where the fun is. And the guy can feel perfectly free to masturbate to ejaculation in each item because the item gets returned to a safe place in the back of the drawer or closet and only comes out when the guy is alone and wants to do it again. Of course, gradually the starchy semen stains build up over time, but the stains themselves easily become part of the subsequent-turn on.

Growing up I had this thing for undersized jeans and swimwear that fit me right but a few years earlier, stuff that would have been discarded had my parents known the items were still there. When my parents left me alone for any length of time, I would dig out one of the items and have a freewheeling masturbation session followed by a powerful ejaculation. By the time my parents returned the soggy item was back in a safe place again. Weird huh? Or maybe not so weird or uncommon!

Guys all but universally enjoy feeling horny. Take jeans, for example. Why are there jeans with a so-called regular fit but then skinny jeans, ultra skinny jeans and even super skinny jeans? Well guys may “prefer” a certain cut. But deep down the whole idea is probably rooted in the notion that while a new pair of skinny jeans with a snugger fit than what a guy had been “used” to wearing might make a guy feel horny, then the even snugger fits will work even better in this regard. How snug a fit depends on how far a guy wants tp press his luck so to speak in not getting a visible erection while wearing the jeans or get himself into a situation where an unwanted and embarrassing ejaculation occurs. But some guys are looking to press luck so to speak by wearing skinnier jeans that they think their male buds could tolerate.

There is a new Jockey underwear commercial out that is really interesting. In it the wife shows a guy a new pair of silver Lycra blend jammer style underwear and the guy says that is my new “go to” underwear.(Even “normal” guys like the “snug fit”) Then she shows him a male thong. And he says something to the effect that he would never wear underwear that skimpy and the fit must be like wearing dental floss. I gather that the ad is designed to get guys interested in owning both the Lycra-infosed jammers, AND for the daring, maybe even a thong to see whether or not the fit is like wearing dental floss or has something else interesting going for it. Clearly the woman wants to see him wearing the thong.

So, teenagers are often confronted with situation where participation in a sport requires them to wear a strap often with a cup, and many guys are wary about that as to what putting something like that on is going to result in an immediate and embarrassing hard-on. At some level they are scared, and maybe even scared stiff. But a critical part of this is learning how your male peers are “coping” when confronted with the same “problem”. A strap might be a fine thing to wear for masturbation in private, but can a guy be expected to participate in a sport while wearing one? Good question.

The same with the classic swim team swim brief. I suspect most guys would love to take a swim brief home, put it on in private, and watch in the mirror as to what happens to his body in it. Getting into and wearing one in the presence of peers, maybe at first the other male swimmers but at some point females as well, is a completely different matter entirely. The latter issue is the big problem.

A similar issue applies to other kinds of snug-fitting athletic wear. Even swim jammers but especially wrestling singlets, the latter being the bane of many student wrestlers for (what could easily be) obvious reasons.

Ahhh, the fun of being a guy….

Jus’ strapped ‘n cupped
 

Jus’ strapped ‘n cupped

I have often talked about how much fun a snug-fitting jock strap is to wear, and that the fun can easily be doubled or tripled of a guy combines that with a hard cup of just the right shape and size. This is one of those real “treats” about just being a guy that no guy, whatever his age or athletic ability should ever miss out on. Furthermore, it is one of those things a guy can do alone without the “help” of a sexual partner. If you are at all like me you may find yourself quickly getting “hooked” on adding this to your list of things you really enjoy doing with, to and by yourself.

A core problem for guys who want to pursue this as an activity is that the old-school straps are becoming harder and harder to find. It used to be you could pick up a decent one for a few dollars at any Walmart or other discount store, but now you only find them on line. Finding one with a pouch that holds a cup can be another problem. It used to be that the hard cups were all quite small and flat—then came the era of the big “banana” cups with banana being a trade name for a strap and cup sold by a particular company that somehow thought that the older cups were too small and too snug. The problem is that while the banana cups may work well to protect from sports injuries and make a guy look a whole lot bigger than he really is, they are not nearly as much fun for doing the activities I am encouraging guys to do. It is no fun at all to simply flop around inside a giant cup that may be roomy enough to easily contain a full erection. Snug and tight is a lot better.

I have lots of old-school straps and a collection of the small flat cups that were designed in the olden days as well. These are still available on line but you will have to do some digging and the straps are no longer cheap. The comparative rarity of the old designs now have raised prices for those still available. For a really good cup, I have also found that the cups marketed as Youth size fit snugger than the so-called adult size cup, even in the old school shapes.

So, here is what goes on. And this is also an explanation as to why young athletes have long been wary of participating in sports that required a strap and cup. The old-school cups were designed to fit flat rubbing directly against a guy’s groin area and not move around to provide the needed “protection” from injury during the sports activity. Guys all knew that in any situation where the cup was stuck firmly against such sensitive body parts that there was no way to simply ignore the fact that a guy was wearing the cup. There would be a constant tension or pressure from the presence of the hard cup on some of the most sensitive of body areas, and the body would “respond” to let the guy know the exact situation he was facing.

In a team sport this quickly leads to at least some guys wondering if the other guys are dealing with the same issue and if so, how were they “coping” with it. An interesting puzzle for sure.

So, for a guy this may start out simply feeling a bit uncomfortable down there. But penises are anything but inanimate objects, and is a penis is nearly surrounded by a hard but immovable object, and something has to give. The penis quickly communicates to the guy that there are certain aspects of the situation it kinda sorta maybe even likes. What starts out as being uncomfortable suddenly morphs into being interesting and blood flows into the penis making the situation even worse (or maybe better). A “feedback” loop gets set up in which the guy can no longer simply ignore what is going on down there. In a weird way this is rather fun, especially if the guy is trying to focus him efforts on the sport that called for him wearing the strap and cup. Being sexually turned on at the same time is a distraction despite being fun.

Given the circumstances, I suspect that most guys in this situation would start to ooze drops of precum, and that precum will collect inside as a familiar sticky glob inside the strap pouch. And mentally, the guy feels, well, quite horny. Guys will generally be embarrassed about revealing any of this for an assortment of reasons.

But if this is weird fun for young males engaging in a sport requiring a strap and cup, doing the same thing can be equally fun for adult males of any age using straps and cups maybe as regular wear without being involved in a team sport. My readers know I have written a lot about wearing a strap and cup in combination over a snug-fitting thong, and maybe even as nighttime wear. While I have written a lot on the subject I haven’t been wearing straps and cups that much in recent years.

Still, wearing a cup is a special fun in any activity in which a guy has to move in his groin area, and my stationary rowing and biking is a good example of that sort of thing. Why not strap and cup myself in prep for my usual daily exercise, and then pull on my favorite pair of running tights. What a great look and feel, and I am really looking forward to my morning exercises as the old-school cup presses against my body in some really interesting places. Why not do this? Why not?

The combination of the strap, cup and really snug running tights is very much a treat this morning, a treat that ups the sensations quite a bit. I know I am going to enjoy my exercise very much this morning. My cup has already been “talking” to me this morning letting me know how “happy” things are down there.

But, that is only one possibility. If I were wearing a swim brief I would seek out a snug cup that would fit right inside the pouch of the brief—one that would make me look bigger down there without revealing that it was really there. Jammer swimwear would work well too.

Another possibility is a wrestling singlet. From what I have read there is no real consensus among wrestlers as to what if anything should be worn under a singlet. Most photos I see appear as if the guy wears nothing or maybe just street underwear. It seems to me a strap would be logical and maybe even a cup. I guess the rules in wrestling have large penalties if a wrestler attempts a wrestling hold that might injure the genitalia, but something like this could easily occur accidentally and if I were a wrestler I would want to have some protection down there, maybe just an old-school strap and cup!

Update:
 

Update:

I made it through my rowing and riding workout wearing the strap and cup this morning inside my skin tight Tesla running tights. That was very enjoyable and I felt horny through the entire workout. That is a “mean” thing for a guy to do to his own body. But in this case it is mean in a very positive and enjoyable way! All the best to those of you who want to try something similar.